Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=psychojake;49950642]Are you still with that "itty bitty weeb" girl, BDA?[/QUOTE] Ye, and she's as tiny and weebish as ever. Things have changed so much in the last two years! I'm getting ready to start a business, and she not only got a job that she's always wanted (pet stylist) but has excelled so much at it that she's gotten multiple raises and was promoted into a teaching position. Despite this being her first job, she's making just as much as I am as a computer technician with 10 years of work experience. She's working on getting certified as a Master Groomer, which would dramatically increase her earning potential. There's only one other in the state! It will probably take her a year or so to finish, but it will be totally worth it. Also, buying a house. Just waiting for the financing to come through, and we should be able to close in a week or two. Intentionally chose a property that's well below our means so that we could make our money go farther. Once my business is established, and we've got reliable money coming in from that, I want to start investing in rental income properties. And that's the BDA semi-annual recap.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49958187]What business do you plan on opening?[/QUOTE] Gotta wait 6 months to find out.

Real estate, basically! My long term business plan is probably terribly dull to listen to, but I'm very excited about it.

Glad to hear things are going well for you.

[QUOTE=bs8814;49944353]Hey guys. So I've been with my girlfriend for about 5 months and been close with her for about a year. So we get along great when she's feeling good. And our relationship is fantastic when its good. However sadly its not always great; now its not good more often than not. She is constantly in need of my attention and expects me to spend all my free time talking with her and hanging out with her; she even gets upset when I do work for Uni instead of talking to her. I could handle it for a good 4 months but in the last month its really starting to get too me because I wanna be able to get back to some of my hobbies and hang out with friends occasionally instead of always her. But she always gets annoyed or jealous at that. I haven't brought it up with her. Also she suffers from depression and usually once or twice a day she gets in a really depressed mood and is really snarky and just plain mean. I can understand that she's depressed but when she's actually rude too me or hurtful I can't just see it as a result of depression. She means so much too me but this is getting really hard to keep maintaining; and like I said when things are good its amazing. What should I do?[/QUOTE] I will never date a clingy girl ever again. This is giving me flashbacks man. [QUOTE=cyclocius;49946908]You're raking them in, christ.[/QUOTE] Women usually get more messages on dating sites, but good god are they usually bad messages.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;49958037]Intentionally chose a property that's well below our means so that we could make our money go farther. [/QUOTE] you are a wise man

[QUOTE=PrusseLusken;49960182]I always assumed it was mostly an anglosphere/US kind of tradition these days? here in scandinavia pretty much nobody does it anymore, and if they do, [B]it's usually with a bit of a cheery tone where you show up with a bottle of expensive liquor and ask about it[/B].[/QUOTE] Basically the same as here. It's a tradition, not a formality, andnot even a super common or serious one these days.

Even if it is a gesture regarding linking two families together, I always found it weird that nobody ever asks the bride-to-be's mom for blessings.

So, if she's smiling when I choke her, it's a good thing right?

You should probably check her pulse.

[QUOTE=Monkah;49953357]Trying to break up with someone for what's essentially the first time. Not sure how exactly to go about doing this. LDR (2hr drive) of roughly three months. Any advice?[/QUOTE] Well, that's over with. She didn't take it too well-- or very maturely, but whatever. On the brighter side, that's a ton of stress off my shoulders-- though honestly, I do feel a little bad about the whole thing. Oh well.

Alright y'all, it seems I've just landed my first date since splitting with my GF of almost 3 years just last month. How do I not fuck this up? This is basically my first real date, nothing fancy, just meeting up for coffee, but I've never actually straight up asked somebody out that I barely know. Met the girl at a backyard show and made small talk, was a little uncomfortable because of the setting but it went alright. Messaged her on Facebook and asked if she wanted to go out for coffee this week, not really sure what to do other than make conversation and maybe go to a park. I'm in a whole new world, I genuinely am not sure what I'm doing here hahaha.

So I have a little issue here. My GF who at first was kind of afraid of sex seems to have overcome her fear now. However, we've tried to do it several times now and every time it's hard to put it in and it hurts her so much that she asks me to stop 2cm in. I really don't know what we're doing wrong here, I'm not rushing things, we do lengthy preliminaries with cuni and clitoral fingering and she's wet as fuck, we even tried adding artificial lubricant but it still didn't work out. Is this normal? It makes her feel bad every time, to the point of crying, she really wants to do it and she feels like it's her fault that we can't have sex even though I try to show her it's not something she can control.

It could be something medically wrong with her. There's a rare condition called vaginismus that will cause this pain during intercourse. [url]https://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-symptoms/[/url] It's treatable, but she'll need to go to a gyno to check if that's it or not.

Fuck, I hope it's not anything serious like that... She really doesn't like doctors and it would probably make her uncomfortable to have to go and see a gyno. Then again I guess if that's what the problem is there isn't any alternative. [editline]20th March 2016[/editline] Checked the treatment tab and apparently it's only home exercises. At least she won't need to undergo surgery or take drugs.

So, had sex last night and came at the same time as my GF. Check that one off the list.

If yo' junk hurts durin' sex, go have it checked out you guys and ladyguys and guys' ladies and ladies' guys. Seriously. It really ain't that big of a deal, your doctor doesn't give a shit. Last I called my doctor, i was like "Hey, I need an appointment." "What seems to be the problem?" "Irritated skin on the penis." "Okay, wednsday at 8:30 is clear." Simple as that. Now I'm havin' my dick checked wednsday. It's gonna be awesome because it means I can go back to having good sex again instead of okay sex. That's the end-goal of having your junk checked. So don't put it off, or you're just putting off good sex, and that's awful.

So I have gone out with five people since last Saturday. The first one ghosted me. The second and third both turned out to be cool friends but not people I would date (or who want to date me). The fourth was attractive but is pretty pushy and seems annoyed at the fact that I'm not more talkative. The fifth one was the one I've been talking to on Steam all the time every day since Tuesday and was really interested in... We just got dinner and I felt absolutely 0 romantic attraction to him. The conversation was good but there is just nothing there. So frustrated.

oh i'm sure she's not paying

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49974321]Your wallet is going to hurt from all those dinner dates[/QUOTE] Two coffee dates, rock climbing (which was free for me because guest pass), drinks (which I didn't pay for), and dinner (which I didn't pay for).

Had an amazing last week. Went on vacation with my family and some of their friends. I developed a huge crush on one of the girls we shared our condo with, fast forward a couple of days and we were going on romantic walks on the beach and making out on the balcony. This is the first time in years I've met a girl that made me feel like a kid again, so I've been ecstatic since then. We've been talking nearly non-stop since the vacation ended. But last night we were talking and the topic of making our relationship official came up, and hoo boy this is not the result I imagined. She basically told me that with her current mental health situation that she isn't ready to rush into a relationship and potentially "mess things up." She then elaborated that she's pretty comfortable in the gray area we're in right now where we do romance-y stuff despite not being "officially in a relationship." I was pretty devastated to hear this but I may just be over-reacting because hormones. I'm not going to be a dick and try and pressure her to change her expectations from this, but at the same time I feel upset that she doesn't want to be committed. How should I handle this? Continue as we were, being romance-y and whatnot and hope she comes around or something else?

That's one way to look at it, maybe I should apply this confidence elsewhere, it would probably make me less anxious about this girl.

[QUOTE=srobins;49972635]Alright y'all, it seems I've just landed my first date since splitting with my GF of almost 3 years just last month. How do I not fuck this up? This is basically my first real date, nothing fancy, just meeting up for coffee, but I've never actually straight up asked somebody out that I barely know. Met the girl at a backyard show and made small talk, was a little uncomfortable because of the setting but it went alright. Messaged her on Facebook and asked if she wanted to go out for coffee this week, not really sure what to do other than make conversation and maybe go to a park. I'm in a whole new world, I genuinely am not sure what I'm doing here hahaha.[/QUOTE] you grab that coffee and you drink it, then make conversation with the human being in front of you (it's hard, i know, it's the coffee part that gets me)

[QUOTE=Riller;49947247]Girlfriend hinted towards possible anal in the future after previously being an absolute no towards it. I'm not even really interested in the buttsex, but still a lil' giddy over the change-of-heart.[/QUOTE] Me and my gf tried it like once, it feels different but not really "better". I think if you practice a bit it could be a fun for a bit of variation.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;49979726]you grab that coffee and you drink it, then make conversation with the human being in front of you (it's hard, i know, it's the coffee part that gets me)[/QUOTE] Wow.. I feel like a total idiot. I wrote up like, thirty minutes of solid material that revolved entirely around just throwing the silverware around the place!

my gf's mum is a hardcore christian. we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed together at her place.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49983472]my gf's mum is a hardcore christian. we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed together at her place.[/QUOTE] Invite her to your place then.

i dont think my gf would want me inviting her mum to my place

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49983598]i dont think my gf would want me inviting her mum to my place[/QUOTE] Pat.Lithium's gf's mom has gooot it goin' on! Pat.Lithium's gf, can't you see, you're just not the giirl for me? I know it might be wrong, but, I'm in love with Pat.Lithium's gf's mom.

[QUOTE=Riller;49984127]Pat.Lithium's gf's mom has gooot it goin' on! Pat.Lithium's gf, can't you see, you're just not the giirl for me? I know it might be wrong, but, I'm in love with Pat.Lithium's gf's mom.[/QUOTE] I get patricks mum has got it going on all the time from my friends. I didnt know my mum was hot until my friends told me one day now they wont stop telling me.