Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

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probably not but we would

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49990847]Is birth control in addition to condoms too much overkill?[/QUOTE] What do you mean? You want to retain a slight chance of impregnating her to keep you on edge? IIRC BC can have some slightly negative impact on health (more likely to gain weight I think?) in which case it might be sensible to limit yourself to just a condom.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49983472]my gf's mum is a hardcore christian. we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed together at her place.[/QUOTE] oh my,must suck quite a bit.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49991062]We already use both. It took her a while to find a pill that didnt have ridiculous side effects for her. You make a good point though, no sense in adding more risk.[/QUOTE] I'm not gonna say you shouldn't protect yourself, but birth control should be enough (unless you're in an open relationship or something). Why the hassle with the condoms is what I'm saying. If you want to be basically totally sure and not have to think about any of that, she could get an IUD.

Just personally speaking, if I went to the trouble of getting a piece of copper shoved into my uterus, I'd rather actually take full advantage of it and enjoy sex without condoms. Otherwise there's not much point in having it. [editline]23rd March 2016[/editline] So one of my friends has suddenly gotten back on hugging terms with me upon finding out I'm now single (and really wants to go rock climbing with me sometime), another has started trying to woo me with chocolate and has hung out with me one-on-one more, a third keeps texting me trying to flirt and saying things like "this is me trying to be cute and charming" (which is getting really fucking annoying), and a fourth has been acting generally disapproving whenever I mention my love life and the dates I've been going on. Not interested in any of them but it's kinda nice going from getting ghosted twice and feeling unwanted to being the one breaking hearts.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49990847]Is birth control in addition to condoms too much overkill?[/QUOTE] Depends, do you/your GF have an STI that you don't want to share? If not, then it sort of is overkill. It doesn't hurt to be extra cautious but birth control is like 99.999% effective if you take it properly, so why use condoms?

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49991336]Just personally speaking, if I went to the trouble of getting a piece of copper shoved into my uterus, I'd rather actually take full advantage of it and enjoy sex without condoms. Otherwise there's not much point in having it. [/QUOTE] I was suggesting using an IUD exclusively, of course. In the long run it's cheaper than birth control, and unless you want to have kids you can basically leave it up there (with birth control you might consider stopping and starting again, which raises the risk of thrombosis in the start-up period iirc, though it isn't [I]that[/I] relevant for young people). Seems underrated really, but I understand if some girls might feel it's a bit too invasive. If you ever end up doing unprotected sex, you can even use it to stop a potential pregnancy up to five days after (applies only to copper IUDs, though), with a higher success rate (basically a 100%) than "the day after"-pill. Not very convenient of course, but it solves the problem of being protected the next time as well.

[QUOTE=_Axel;49990908]What do you mean? You want to retain a slight chance of impregnating her to keep you on edge? IIRC BC can have some slightly negative impact on health (more likely to gain weight I think?) in which case it might be sensible to limit yourself to just a condom.[/QUOTE] Health effects are dependent on the birth control. Some will make a girls sex drive disappear while others will heighten it, and some will make a girl go up a few cup sizes and make other girls gain a few inches on their waistline. Some even stop periods or make them extremely light. Do your research n shit yo.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49991754]Health effects are dependent on the birth control. Some will make a girls sex drive disappear while others will heighten it, and some will make a girl go up a few cup sizes and make other girls gain a few inches on their waistline. Some even stop periods or make them extremely light. Do your research n shit yo.[/QUOTE] You might end up with larger breasts, altered sex drive, but I think you're overestimating the effects here, and my guess is that it's mainly down to the girl if this happens or not, not the product (Are you purely talking modern combined or both combined and gestagen-only?). Headaches and so on are probably more important when changing product (if the symptoms persist long enough). Are you purely talking modern combined or both combined and gestagen-only? [editline]23rd March 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49991785]I have girl friends who experience that same thing, everyone trying to pounce on them as soon as they're single. Its gotta be flattering getting all the attention! And regarding my previous post, we are both clean. The only reason we use a condom and birth control is because neither of us want her to get the IUD and we both get nervous about babies[/QUOTE] Not that I'm gonna tell you otherwise, but why don't you want an IUD? Also, Healthcare Triage did a pretty good bit on them: [url]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ruHcmTITY[/url]

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49991754]Health effects are dependent on the birth control. Some will make a girls sex drive disappear while others will heighten it, and some will make a girl go up a few cup sizes and make other girls gain a few inches on their waistline. Some even stop periods or make them extremely light. Do your research n shit yo.[/QUOTE] I was on the depo shot for about a year and permanently went up two cup sizes but didn't gain weight anywhere else. It was fucking awesome. [QUOTE=GoDong-DK;49991809]Not that I'm gonna tell you otherwise, but why don't you want an IUD? Also, Healthcare Triage did a pretty good bit on them: [url]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ruHcmTITY[/url][/QUOTE] I have a copper IUD and the amount of pain involved in insertion as well as the first 3-4 months of having it for me were very hard to endure. I wouldn't blame someone for wanting to avoid that. I used to go running every morning and for the first 3-4 months I couldn't even do that without feeling like I was going to throw up from nausea. I also spent my first 2 periods with it lying on the couch crying because it hurt too much to do anything. I was lucky that it stopped bothering me after a few months, because from a lot of forum posts I've read, that pain never goes away for many women. I have heard of a lot of women who had to get theirs removed after years of continuous pain because of them. Furthermore, IIRC the failure rate of IUDs is still 2%, about the same as perfect use for condoms - the difference is that a pregnancy with an IUD can be a lot more devastating. There are also a lot more risks of permanently damaging your uterus with an IUD.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49991877]I was on the depo shot for about a year and permanently went up two cup sizes but didn't gain weight anywhere else. It was fucking awesome. I have a copper IUD and the amount of pain involved in insertion as well as the first 3-4 months of having it for me were very hard to endure. I wouldn't blame someone for wanting to avoid that. I used to go running every morning and for the first 3-4 months I couldn't even do that without feeling like I was going to throw up from nausea. I also spent my first 2 periods with it lying on the couch crying because it hurt too much to do anything. I was lucky that it stopped bothering me after a few months, because from a lot of forum posts I've read, that pain never goes away for many women. I have heard of a lot of women who had to get theirs removed after years of continuous pain because of them. Furthermore, IIRC the failure rate of IUDs is still 2%, about the same as perfect use for condoms - the difference is that a pregnancy with an IUD can be a lot more devastating. There are also a lot more risks of permanently damaging your uterus with an IUD.[/QUOTE] Did you contact your doctor? As far as I know, you're not supposed to have any pain beyond the period after insertion. I understand that it went away and you're now okay, but that you walked around with that for four months I don't understand (when there are other contraceptive options available). Sucks that it happened to you. Failure rate is lower than condoms (according to most statistics I've seen), and in use there are fewer points of failure.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;49992366]Did you contact your doctor? As far as I know, you're not supposed to have any pain beyond the period after insertion. I understand that it went away and you're now okay, but that you walked around with that for four months I don't understand (when there are other contraceptive options available). Sucks that it happened to you. Failure rate is lower than condoms (according to most statistics I've seen), and in use there are fewer points of failure.[/QUOTE] Regarding failure rate, I stand corrected. Either way, there is still a small chance of conception - that risk is always going to be there regardless of method. They tell you from the start that you can expect up to a few months of cramping after getting the IUD. Almost all women have a couple months of pain afterward. The pain was much milder for me after the first two months, but having to give up running for a few months more than that was pretty frustrating for me.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49992442]Regarding failure rate, I stand corrected. Either way, there is still a small chance of conception - that risk is always going to be there regardless of method. They tell you from the start that you can expect up to a few months of cramping after getting the IUD. Almost all women have a couple months of pain afterward. The pain was much milder for me after the first two months, but having to give up running for a few months more than that was pretty frustrating for me.[/QUOTE] Well that sucks a lot. That warning doesn't really come through on the internet searches I'm making, some quantifiable data would be pretty nice. Disabling cramps definitely seem like a "go see your doctor issue" to me.

I've got a date on Friday - first in a LONG time, and the first from Tinder. Going to a pub for a drink. Should be cool.

I function so much better on dates when I've had a bit to drink. I become this charming charismatic god of conversation

so uh. anyone here ever dated a girl with a rape fetish, or have any advice on that?

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49993562]so uh. anyone here ever dated a girl with a rape fetish, or have any advice on that?[/QUOTE] Safe word. Get a safe word. Ask to what degree. Does she just want to be dominated, or does she want to do a full-on roleplay scenario.

[QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;49993748]Safe word. Get a safe word. Ask to what degree. Does she just want to be dominated, or does she want to do a full-on roleplay scenario.[/QUOTE] I've pretty much got that mapped out already, I was more asking on advice on how to be more aggressive I guess. Should have been more specific, sorry. I tend to be a very gentle and generous guy in bed so I have kinda had a hard time adjusting.

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[QUOTE=Ray551;49994051]Ehh, I don't have many people I talk about relationship stuff in my life, so here we go Facepunch. I really like this girl I met in university a few years back, we became buddies and stuff and then I had to move to another city but we kept in contact. We met up every few months, spending a day together each time just taking walks, drinking coffee, chilling at some nice locations. Stuff like that. We get along great, we laugh a[I] lot[/I] together and stuff. The last time we saw each other we actually went to eat at a nice restaurant, cause she refused to just grab a snack somewhere or anything like that. I don't know if she sees these meetups as just hanging out or as actual dates... do they sound like dates to you guys? We're gonna meet up again early next month and I don't know if I should try to tell her somehow that I like her more than just as a friend or if I should just let it play out. There's a cherry blossom festival coming up that I am planning to ask her out to. Also, her birthday is coming up and I'm thinking of getting her a little present (we haven't shared any gifts before). Is a box of chocolate/pralines seen as a last resort kinda thing nowadays? [editline]24th March 2016[/editline] Wait, should I have posted this in love advice?[/QUOTE] Either thread works The way I see it, you have 2 options 1. make a move at some point on your next date 2. towards the end of the date, sit down and have a discussion about it. I would try the first one personally as the second one is just a mood killer, but thats just me. I don't know you 2, I don't know what you 2 normally talk about, and I don't know what your dates consist, but from an outside-looking-in perspective on what you've told us, it sounds like she may be into you.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49993995]I've pretty much got that mapped out already, I was more asking on advice on how to be more aggressive I guess. Should have been more specific, sorry. I tend to be a very gentle and generous guy in bed so I have kinda had a hard time adjusting.[/QUOTE] Not talking of personal experience, but from a lot of stories I hear, choking will get you a long way. Maybe a slap on the asscheek would do wonders too, and if she's into a rape scenario, tying her up and gagging her might just be the thing too. [editline]24th March 2016[/editline] Also, you gotta be comfortable with it. If you're not comfortable with dominating someone, much less pretending you're raping them, don't.

a girl lookin you in the eyes while you choke her is 👌👌👌👌👌👌 basically the best way to be more aggressive and dominant in bed is just to think "what do i want?" instead of always thinking and asking "what does she want?" cause unless you're into some fucked up shit, most of the time what you want will be a-ok with her. it's just the difference between asking and doing

So my relationship has been a bit iffy lately, and I'm not really sure what to do. I feel like our sex drives are on opposite ends of the spectrum and it's really putting a strain on it. I tried talking to her about it but if you aren't in the mood then there isn't really much you can do about it. Like this morning she told me that when I ask if she wants to do anything, it does the exact opposite and makes her not want to do it. Like what am I supposed to do then? Just wait around for her to be in the mood?

My dick's out of commission for the next two weeks. This sucks. At least one of the weeks is the GF's moonsickness anyway, but still...

[QUOTE=Dysentery;49997963]a girl lookin you in the eyes while you choke her is 👌👌👌👌👌👌 basically the best way to be more aggressive and dominant in bed is just to think "what do i want?" instead of always thinking and asking "what does she want?" cause unless you're into some fucked up shit, most of the time what you want will be a-ok with her. it's just the difference between asking and doing[/QUOTE] This so much. Not only is it insanely satisfying to actually be dominant and use your girl for what you want, but when she realizes how turned on the abusive shit makes her and she just completely submits to you is just $$$$. I've started choking her really hard when I'm about to cum and then I don't let go until I'm done (she's on the pill), and the one time I didn't do it cause I wasn't feeling like it she asked me if she did something wrong or something, and god it's just great to have such a relationship. She's gotten a ton more tailbuttplugs and one realistic-looking pin-tail for when she wants to be a pet when we're outside. It's still something we both find kinda embarrassing but we live in a fairly large city and mostly it just ends up looking like an alternate style so I'm alright with it. Also we got a paddle and a whip, which is nice cause slapping her some times ends up hurting my hand, which I realize is a really shitty thing for me to complain about but I'm S and she's M so I don't want to mix it D; We also got a friend to get into S&M a while ago when we invited him to a... party of sorts. That was fun too!

[QUOTE=Riller;50000985]My dick's out of commission for the next two weeks. This sucks. At least one of the weeks is the GF's moonsickness anyway, but still...[/QUOTE] I haven't had sex in a month. My ex is coming by tomorrow to drop off my other apartment key... God grant me strength not to throw myself at him.

[QUOTE=Doritos_Man;49998781]So my relationship has been a bit iffy lately, and I'm not really sure what to do. I feel like our sex drives are on opposite ends of the spectrum and it's really putting a strain on it. I tried talking to her about it but if you aren't in the mood then there isn't really much you can do about it. Like this morning she told me that when I ask if she wants to do anything, it does the exact opposite and makes her not want to do it. Like what am I supposed to do then? Just wait around for her to be in the mood?[/QUOTE] Grab her and just do it. "When you ask me, it makes me not want to" means "Take me" after my experience. My experience is really kinky though. Seriously though, when I ask my girl she almost always says no, but if I just do it, she may resist a little bit at first but when it's happening it's hard to not get aroused. Some times I even mock her and do a little "But fine, if you don't want to" and pull out, but then she tends to just cling to me and pull me back in. Try it out, I suppose!

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50001065]I haven't had sex in a month. My ex is coming by tomorrow to drop off my other apartment key... God grant me strength not to throw myself at him.[/QUOTE] Don't bone exes. Isn't that one of the standard-replies of this thread? [editline]25th March 2016[/editline] Also, I feel that not having had sex feels a lot less bad than not going to have sex. Because while I've gone for longer streaks without having sex before, they always had the option of maybe having sex tomorrow or something. But knowing that I can't bone or everything ever is ruined is absolutely awful. Guess I just gotta spend time gettin' real good at oral in the meantime.