Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Riller;50001089]Don't bone exes. Isn't that one of the standard-replies of this thread?[/QUOTE] Fully aware that I shouldn't. Sex drive has been at an all-time high this past week and self-control is a bit of a struggle.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50001119]Fully aware that I shouldn't. Sex drive has been at an all-time high this past week and self-control is a bit of a struggle.[/QUOTE] Masturbate like mad all night? That usually works for me if I know I'm into a high-risk "want-to-bone-cannot-bone" situation. Even if the mind is willing, the flesh will be spongy and bruised.

[QUOTE=Riller;50001172]Masturbate like mad all night? That usually works for me if I know I'm into a high-risk "want-to-bone-cannot-bone" situation. Even if the mind is willing, the flesh will be spongy and bruised.[/QUOTE] Done and done. If the US has a battery shortage in the next week, I'll be the reason why. I've mostly settled for flirting with the guy in my class who has a girlfriend and trying to make him as frustrated with his being in a relationship as I am.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50001192]I've mostly settled for flirting with the guy in my class who has a girlfriend and trying to make him as frustrated with his being in a relationship as I am.[/QUOTE] He doesn't know you're flirting. We never do. You could literally go up to him and say "I want your hard weiner deep in my taco!" and he'll be like "...But sausage doesn't go well with mexican food, silly!". We are that stupid.

[QUOTE=Riller;50001256]He doesn't know you're flirting. We never do. You could literally go up to him and say "I want your hard weiner deep in my taco!" and he'll be like "...But sausage doesn't go well with mexican food, silly!". We are that stupid.[/QUOTE] I know how dense guys are - I make my intentions pretty clear. Judging by how ashamed he was to introduce me to his girlfriend on Monday, I think he knows (and I'm just getting started!).

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50001389]I know how dense guys are - I make my intentions pretty clear. Judging by how ashamed he was to introduce me to his girlfriend on Monday, I think he knows (and I'm just getting started!).[/QUOTE] I've gotta admit the fact that you seem to be okay with openly attempting to destabilise this guy's relationship is not the best light I've seen you in...unless I'm misinterpreting but it's not exactly the coolest thing to do. I mean I could be wrong but that's how the last few posts have come across

At what point do things become exclusive when dating for you guys? Do you start as soon as you start talking to someone? After the first date? Second date? The reason I ask is because I've been seeing someone but wouldn't mind a casual encounter with another person before I jump into anything with the first girl.

Personally, when I have my mind set on making X my future partner, exclusivity starts. It begins when the intention is to be exclusive with them, basically. If you don't intend to be serious about them, the only reason to be in a relationship is so that you can cheat, other than that, I'd be exclusive from the getgo. I wouldn't want someshit like that to come up down the line and fuck up the relationship if I'm serious about it is all. "Wait, wasn't that shortly after we started seeing each other?" is never gonna go well

That sounds fair. I feel like I'm kind of on the fence as to whether I want this to go anywhere or not, and she seems to be going full force. I should probably take a stance before anything else.

[QUOTE=killerteacup;50001406]I've gotta admit the fact that you seem to be okay with openly attempting to destabilise this guy's relationship is not the best light I've seen you in...unless I'm misinterpreting but it's not exactly the coolest thing to do. I mean I could be wrong but that's how the last few posts have come across[/QUOTE] I definitely don't expect him to leave his relationship and I don't have any intention of breaking them up or encouraging him to leave her. I don't think there's any harm in flirting/expressing interest. Flirting is hardly "destabilizing" a relationship - he's an adult, he's capable of dealing with temptation, and he can make his own decisions. [editline]24th March 2016[/editline] And if I felt like I was making him uncomfortable, I would stop. I don't really see how openly flirting with someone who I know is in a relationship makes me a bad person.

I tend to act really ballsy/overly confident when I flirt with guys, and then as soon as they acknowledge me all the spaghetti falls out of my pockets. Whenever I see attractive guys walking around on campus I will make eye contact with them and hold it until they break or they pass me. Most of them will look away immediately. Made aggressive eye contact with this guy for 10 seconds straight today while we walked past each other, then gave him a big smile and saw him look completely baffled afterward. [editline]24th March 2016[/editline] The more I talk about my habits scouting out guys, the more I feel like a tigress hunting her prey

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50001575]I definitely don't expect him to leave his relationship and I don't have any intention of breaking them up or encouraging him to leave her. I don't think there's any harm in flirting/expressing interest. Flirting is hardly "destabilizing" a relationship - he's an adult, he's capable of dealing with temptation, and he can make his own decisions. [editline]24th March 2016[/editline] And if I felt like I was making him uncomfortable, I would stop. I don't really see how openly flirting with someone who I know is in a relationship makes me a bad person.[/QUOTE] I don't think you're a bad person - pretty sure we've both been posting in this thread for at least 5 years, probably longer, so I know very well that you aren't. That said, you say that the flirting is harmless and that you don't expect him to leave his relationship, but on the other hand you also say that you're just getting started, and that he's already ashamed of introducing his girlfriend to you. To me that's completely contradictory. There is nothing wrong with flirting with someone in a relationship in passing, but if your intention is to do it as a continuous thing with the same dude, then there's a line where you sort of have to admit that you have intentions with this guy and that you're becoming a live option for him if shit doesn't go down with his girlfriend. You can say all you like that you would never openly encourage him to leave his girlfriend, and you have no intentions to destabilise them but if he's already ashamed of introducing you to his girlfriend then you can be pretty sure that's because she wouldn't be okay with it if she knew what was happening. You said that you'd stop if it made him uncomfortable - pretty sure that's not what you have to worry about here. Would you stop if it made her uncomfortable? Because either way that's going to hurt their relationship. [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50001192]Done and done. If the US has a battery shortage in the next week, I'll be the reason why. I've mostly settled for flirting with the guy in my class who has a girlfriend and trying to make him as frustrated with his being in a relationship as I am.[/QUOTE] What part of this quote do you think represents your intentions as not harmful to their relationship?

[QUOTE=killerteacup;50002125]What part of this quote do you think represents your intentions as not harmful to their relationship?[/QUOTE] I was joking. [editline]25th March 2016[/editline] And in reality I would feel really bad if he left his girlfriend because of me, if he were theoretically to ask me about this I would probably tell him exactly that. Their interactions together seemed odd to me to say the least and I doubt it was because of me, given that I had hardly talked to him at that point. [editline]25th March 2016[/editline] I just like this guy and I like knowing he likes me even if he doesn't act on it. I mean, I had a crush on him well before my ex and I broke up, but I sure as hell didn't do anything about it - I never would have cheated on him. I guess it's nice having at least one guy I'm attracted to give a shit about me after everything that's happened in the past month.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50002217]I was joking. [editline]25th March 2016[/editline] And in reality I would feel really bad if he left his girlfriend because of me, if he were theoretically to ask me about this I would probably tell him exactly that. Their interactions together seemed odd to me to say the least and I doubt it was because of me, given that I had hardly talked to him at that point. [editline]25th March 2016[/editline] I just like this guy and I like knowing he likes me even if he doesn't act on it. I mean, I had a crush on him well before my ex and I broke up, but I sure as hell didn't do anything about it - I never would have cheated on him. I guess it's nice having at least one guy I'm attracted to give a shit about me after everything that's happened in the past month.[/QUOTE] Well considering you've had a shitty month I get why it would be nice - and if its honestly just harmless then I don't see anything wrong with it but I'm sure you can see why the posts raised red flags for me. It's sort of not good if he's actually legit afraid to introduce you to his gf. I'm just saying because I've been in his position and despite having two girls keen on you at once which sounds like heaven on the surface its a tough one to be in. So long as both of you know its harmless and nothing will come of it then its fine

[QUOTE=Zondac;50001074]Grab her and just do it. "When you ask me, it makes me not want to" means "Take me" after my experience. My experience is really kinky though. Seriously though, when I ask my girl she almost always says no, but if I just do it, she may resist a little bit at first but when it's happening it's hard to not get aroused. Some times I even mock her and do a little "But fine, if you don't want to" and pull out, but then she tends to just cling to me and pull me back in. Try it out, I suppose![/QUOTE] If I try to, she says No and it seems like a pretty firm No to me.

Get a safeword if saying "no" doesn't always mean no. Otherwise, she's explicitly saying no and you shouldn't be trying to do anything.

[QUOTE=SuperLoz;49993046]I've got a date on Friday - first in a LONG time, and the first from Tinder. Going to a pub for a drink. Should be cool.[/QUOTE] Update: After we arranged this, on Wednesday, I texted her today to see if it was still on. She replied that because I didn't text her Thursday she assumed I lost interest and thus agreed to work instead. Did I screw up by not texting Thursday? :S

[QUOTE=Pascall;50004274]Get a safeword if saying "no" doesn't always mean no. Otherwise, she's explicitly saying no and you shouldn't be trying to do anything.[/QUOTE] Go for words that are out of context. "Coconut" or any other random thing not related will work

[QUOTE=Doritos_Man;50004169]If I try to, she says No and it seems like a pretty firm No to me.[/QUOTE] Sounds like there's just no lead-up. Not to pretend I'm god-king of sexual experience but typically it's something that happens more naturally than just saying "hey.. wanna bang?" or awkwardly grabbing her hips in the kitchen. I'm not going to write a tutorial on foreplay or something but you should get the idea, it's something you build up to and that happens naturally. You're not going to convince someone that isn't turned on to magically become aroused at the very thought of sex, you need to work up to it. [editline]25th March 2016[/editline] Like, how has it worked for you in the past? What was the context? What happened? Do that again.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50004274]Get a safeword if saying "no" doesn't always mean no. Otherwise, she's explicitly saying no and you shouldn't be trying to do anything.[/QUOTE] -snip- I talked to her about it and she told me it's a slight ethical struggle for her because she was raised being told that Sex = Pregnancy and that you shouldn't do it unless you want a baby and religious reasons. So we're going to figure out how to make middle ground with it.

I've been feeling really great that, for the first time in my life, I finally have kind of a "sex life" to talk about. And every time for me has been better than the last, so far. Last night, [url=http://i.imgur.com/ngC7WKt.jpg]this[/url] happened to me (click if you want to see a picture of my bare back). It's pretty painful but at the same time feels kinda good. What a great topic for my 10,000th post

Good shit! On another topic, does anyone get what i mean when i say that i get the pleasure almost entirely from the intimacy of sex? Like recently ive been so tense and masturbating doesnt really help cause it lacks the emotional half of sex, cause my girlfriend is just kind of in a phase of not being very into having sex lately. Like i love her to death and when shes into it its fantastic, but i cant explain how much it sucks because i really would like to have sex but im not interested if its like passionless almost, you know? Im not interested in leaving, especially if it really just is a phase, but i dont know what to do about this. I feel powerless when it comes to trying to light a fire. Any pointers for a depressed brother? [editline]26th March 2016[/editline] Like ive legitimately got no complaints about our relationship except for this, over everyone ive been with ive never felt so comfortable with a woman but fuck man i dont know how to reach a middleground of keeping her comfortable and happy without driving myself insane from sexual and emotional anxiety. Shes said a milliob times that shes trying and i deeply appreciate it but its been going on for a while and i havemt had any sort of real intimate relief in a while.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50007918]I've been feeling really great that, for the first time in my life, I finally have kind of a "sex life" to talk about. And every time for me has been better than the last, so far. Last night, [URL="http://i.imgur.com/ngC7WKt.jpg"]this[/URL] happened to me (click if you want to see a picture of my bare back). It's pretty painful but at the same time feels kinda good. What a great topic for my 10,000th post[/QUOTE] I know your [I]pain[/I] [URL]http://imgur.com/Seuo8lY[/URL] Also never making a pun again.

I hate that me and my girlfriend mostly have mutual friends. Means I can't really talk about sex with buddies 'cause they know it's most likely not some random bar chick, but their good friend I talked about ramming from behind for half an hour in the shower.

[QUOTE=Riller;50011476]I hate that me and my girlfriend mostly have mutual friends. Means I can't really talk about sex with buddies 'cause they know it's most likely not some random bar chick, but their good friend I talked about ramming from behind for half an hour in the shower.[/QUOTE] Just own it dude. I'm friends with a couple and I/they joke about them banging all the time

Jesus christ, my dick fell asleep. That was fucking awful. [editline]26th March 2016[/editline] As in I lost blood flow to my dick. It felt like biting.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50009300]Felt bummed that I couldn't get my girlfriend off last night. (She got too sore and told me to stopped). I apologized and then she told me it might be because she masturbated to me yesterday, so that's neat :v: It's nice knowing she does that too. It makes her look more human and awesome. [editline]26th March 2016[/editline] If she's on any sort of birth control, that can kill her sex drive. She may also be stressed out about something unrelated, I know I am not in the mood when I'm super stressed.[/QUOTE] could be bc but thats kind of critical to our sex anyhow.probably the second part, i just feel like garbage knowing that what i expect to be a normal level of intimacy is just way too much sometimes. again, i love her to death but ive been so emotionally drained since this started and i cant say anything anymore without feeling like im being a selfish piece of shit

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50007918]I've been feeling really great that, for the first time in my life, I finally have kind of a "sex life" to talk about. And every time for me has been better than the last, so far. Last night, [url=http://i.imgur.com/ngC7WKt.jpg]this[/url] happened to me (click if you want to see a picture of my bare back). It's pretty painful but at the same time feels kinda good.[/QUOTE] So... A kind of disturbing realization came over me about this incident. It's been a few days now and most of the scratches have gone away. A remaining few have turned into scabs. I found myself thinking "That's weird that a few of these turned into scabs, I didn't think she drew any blood at all." That picture was actually taken the night of, right before I went to bed, and I wasn't able to see any blood in the mirror. So, tonight I looked at the bed we did it in (also, incidentally, the bed she slept in). Pretty sure there's a small blood stain on it. It must have gotten there when she turned me over to be on top. So I guess I stayed in position long enough for the bleeding on my back to stop. I think I'm gonna go ahead and never tell her that she slept on my blood stain.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50025218]So... A kind of disturbing realization came over me about this incident. It's been a few days now and most of the scratches have gone away. A remaining few have turned into scabs. I found myself thinking "That's weird that a few of these turned into scabs, I didn't think she drew any blood at all." That picture was actually taken the night of, right before I went to bed, and I wasn't able to see any blood in the mirror. So, tonight I looked at the bed we did it in (also, incidentally, the bed she slept in). Pretty sure there's a small blood stain on it. It must have gotten there when she turned me over to be on top. So I guess I stayed in position long enough for the bleeding on my back to stop. I think I'm gonna go ahead and never tell her that she slept on my blood stain.[/QUOTE] My girl found out she wasn't quite done getting all the blood out of her system from her period one time, she then proceeded to be embarrassed over a very small amount of blood she got on my wang. ( It looked like I spilled 4-5 drops of strawberry kool aid on my underwear ) So yeah, good call on that. Most girls I've been with flip out when it comes to blood for some reason.

I've discovered that in my sleep I pick some spots on my back. My girlfriend has seen me do it and I'm totally out of it, but I always wake up in the morning with a little spot of blood on the sheets or pillow. Wherever I am, not good.