Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49446105]I make my girlfriend orgasmall twjce everytime we do sexual relations,does anyone else do the same? I just love making her feel good, the only reason I stop is because she gets sore. And then we cuddle and sleep and that just the best, I sleep the best when she'saw laying on my chest. I want to get a place together but at the same time I don't know if I'm ready, I still feel so immature.[/QUOTE] I've set a precedent to give out twice what I receive. And don't move in with your gf straight away. Thats something you need to sit down and discuss over a week or two and put a lot of thought into it. Rushing into living together is a seriously easy way to ruin a relationship [editline]3rd January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Darknife;49447715]I'm still trying to discover the most effective position. Laying on the bed always cranks my neck too much. I guess her on the bed, me squatting on the floor is most effective... Actually, now that I think of it I much prefer 69 position. What do you do?[/QUOTE] face riding is the easiest.

[QUOTE=Darknife;49447715]I'm still trying to discover the most effective position. Laying on the bed always cranks my neck too much. I guess her on the bed, me squatting on the floor is most effective... Actually, now that I think of it I much prefer 69 position. What do you do?[/QUOTE] get her to sit on my face seriously though it's easily the best position. all she has to do is sit on her knees over you and you get to lie down, it's comfy, access is easy and you can add in fingerwork as well if you want to. plus if it gets too much for her then she can just basically collapse on you.

[QUOTE=Darknife;49447715]I'm still trying to discover the most effective position. Laying on the bed always cranks my neck too much. I guess her on the bed, me squatting on the floor is most effective... Actually, now that I think of it I much prefer 69 position. What do you do?[/QUOTE] For me it always has been just her sitting or lying on her back on the bed and me lying flat on my stomach. Pretty ordinary. My tongue and jaw muscles are way more likely to get tired than my neck so I dunno what it is.

[QUOTE=Darknife;49447715]I'm still trying to discover the most effective position. Laying on the bed always cranks my neck too much. I guess her on the bed, me squatting on the floor is most effective... Actually, now that I think of it I much prefer 69 position. What do you do?[/QUOTE] i christen my dads car at some deserted industrial park and hope the car driving past isn't a copper who wants to join in

[QUOTE=Doozle;49446907]My girlfriend used to be SSRIs and had this problem. She'd been taking the medication for as lo g as I'd been with her, but then it became a problem. So we'd been having great sex for a while and then she'd be unable to climax. It's tough for both and frustrating. I felt rubbish for not being able to make her orgasm, she felt rubbish about her body and because of how I felt about myself. It's easier once you both know the cause of it. Eventually she came off her medication and we were able to have really good sex again[/QUOTE] Yeah SSRI's causes me more anxiety than she does without SSRI's so she's gone from taking 1 a day to 1 every second day and it's improving.

[QUOTE=isreal?;49451564]Yeah SSRI's causes me more anxiety than she does without SSRI's so she's gone from taking 1 a day to 1 every second day and it's improving.[/QUOTE] How does that affect the medications effects? (besides sex)

[QUOTE=Darknife;49451582]How does that affect the medications effects? (besides sex)[/QUOTE] Less medication in the body overall. Less of an affect on the brain. The withdrawal effects are very harsh and could lead to death so caution must be taken. If you stop all medication intake than you can faint, die or get disoriented so you must ween yourself off of it. According to a doctor..

i've been thinking and talking with a lot of people and i'm kinda coming to the conclusion that I don't think it's just the breakup that's been causing me to feel so shitty and my reaction probably isn't 100% healthy i'm starting to think I might be sinking back into a bit of a bout of depression, been feeling it since about november onwards and this has just kinda pushed me over the edge I'm sorry I shit up the thread loads with all my horseshit but I'm going to look into maybe seeing some sort of therapist kinda deal cause I've been feeling beyond worthless lately about every aspect of my life I wanted to thank you guys for letting me vent a ton while all this happened and telling me I was stupid when I needed to hear it and offering me advice I rarely took thank you guys

[QUOTE=Dick Slamfist;49451667]i've been thinking and talking with a lot of people and i'm kinda coming to the conclusion that I don't think it's just the breakup that's been causing me to feel so shitty and my reaction probably isn't 100% healthy i'm starting to think I might be sinking back into a bit of a bout of depression, been feeling it since about november onwards and this has just kinda pushed me over the edge I'm sorry I shit up the thread loads with all my horseshit but I'm going to look into maybe seeing some sort of therapist kinda deal cause I've been feeling beyond worthless lately about every aspect of my life I wanted to thank you guys for letting me vent a ton while all this happened and telling me I was stupid when I needed to hear it and offering me advice I rarely took thank you guys[/QUOTE] When I broke up, I found that I had spent most of my spare time with my girlfriend. So I started going to the gym every day to keep myself busy, I learned how to play hockey and did many other physically active co-ed activities until I found somebody new. I was depressed not just because of the loss of my GF, but because I was bored and all I could think about was her. My recommendation is to get high on life.

[QUOTE=Dick Slamfist;49451667]i've been thinking and talking with a lot of people and i'm kinda coming to the conclusion that I don't think it's just the breakup that's been causing me to feel so shitty and my reaction probably isn't 100% healthy i'm starting to think I might be sinking back into a bit of a bout of depression, been feeling it since about november onwards and this has just kinda pushed me over the edge I'm sorry I shit up the thread loads with all my horseshit but I'm going to look into maybe seeing some sort of therapist kinda deal cause I've been feeling beyond worthless lately about every aspect of my life I wanted to thank you guys for letting me vent a ton while all this happened and telling me I was stupid when I needed to hear it and offering me advice I rarely took thank you guys[/QUOTE] I agree with isreal?. I'm not a psychologist, and you may have clinical depression which is a much bigger issue. However, I have spoken to lots of people close to me and have gone through similar bouts of depression myself. What I have learned is that it seems to be a lack of excitement for the future that is a big cause of depression. Let me explain. If you go into a relationship without a strong sense of self-identity and self-esteem, it's very easy to latch on to that other person for those feelings. They become how you spend your free-time (as isreal? mentioned), they become how you feel good about yourself, they essentially become part of your identity. I don't mean that in the romantic other-half sort of sense, but rather in a very unhealthy co-dependent toxic relationship sense. And then once you and that person break up, that source of your self-esteem, confidence, happiness, excitement is gone. Plus you have this hole in your heart. The problem is a lack of self-identity, self-esteem and a mission which brings me back to my original point. It's not trivial to get from where you are to where I'm talking about but if you feel like some of this resonates with you, knowing a end-goal can be empowering as you work on yourself. My advice is as follows: Definitely go see a therapist. That will never hurt. It is always good to share your thoughts and feelings with a neutral third party. Plus, if you are actually clinically depressed they'll be able to sense it and vice versa. Do what [B]isreal?[/B] mentioned and keep yourself busy. You need habits, you need routine, you need things to entertain yourself, activities to keep your mind off of the dark thoughts and the spiral that is depressed thinking, activities that allow you to measure and improve which is how self-esteem develops. In the long-term, you need a big goal... a mission. This can be anything, it's incredibly personal. However, it's crucial because it provides meaning to your day-to-day life. And trust me, day-to-day life isn't fucking roses. It's good AND it sucks a lot of the time. That's just how shit goes. Even if you are balling out and got a great life, you will still have a shitty fucking time every now and then if you are actually thinking about things. Having an overarching goal for the week/month/year/decade/your life allows you to focus on the bigger picture and push through the challenging and shitty parts...(which is a whole 'nother post.) Just like a sports player keeps going through grueling practice because he knows that is how you get to the glory at the end of a victorious game. Those are my thoughts, hope they help.

[QUOTE=Dick Slamfist;49451667]i've been thinking and talking with a lot of people and i'm kinda coming to the conclusion that I don't think it's just the breakup that's been causing me to feel so shitty and my reaction probably isn't 100% healthy i'm starting to think I might be sinking back into a bit of a bout of depression, been feeling it since about november onwards and this has just kinda pushed me over the edge I'm sorry I shit up the thread loads with all my horseshit but I'm going to look into maybe seeing some sort of therapist kinda deal cause I've been feeling beyond worthless lately about every aspect of my life I wanted to thank you guys for letting me vent a ton while all this happened and telling me I was stupid when I needed to hear it and offering me advice I rarely took thank you guys[/QUOTE] yea don't self diagnose yourself with mental issues ever. Go see a psychologist and get a professional opinion.

Aww shit I'm a dummy. I dorked up getting this Reese's gift mug set from walmart, they didn't have em when I went to get em. So I said I'd order them online after christmas. [I]they're out. gone. can't find em.[/I] Amazon has them, for more than double the price. It would get here in 2 days, but only if I used [I]her[/I] account, which has prime, and then she'd know the price difference and probably chop my balls off for being so stupid and paying $26 for a pair of reese's coffee mugs when they were $10 at walmart. Aaaagghh what do I do.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;49462014]Aww shit I'm a dummy. I dorked up getting this Reese's gift mug set from walmart, they didn't have em when I went to get em. So I said I'd order them online after christmas. [I]they're out. gone. can't find em.[/I] Amazon has them, for more than double the price. It would get here in 2 days, but only if I used [I]her[/I] account, which has prime, and then she'd know the price difference and probably chop my balls off for being so stupid and paying $26 for a pair of reese's coffee mugs when they were $10 at walmart. Aaaagghh what do I do.[/QUOTE] What would be so bad with ordering them on your account? Get a prime trial or something

My ex has been quitw ignorant the past few weeks, only replying to some of the things I said to her, she sends me a snapchat every other day, but never engages a conversation. Last night I went out with friends and since she is in the same student association I knew she was going to be there. While there I just said hi and she seemed to completely ignore me. All night long she would just approach my friends I was with, talk to them, dance with them, but not look at me a single time or even say anything. Later she started kissing a guy she used to only have bad words for right in front of me for about 4 hours straight. Every time they walked away they'd return shortly after in my view. Now, this guy is known for being a fuckboy and having a lot of one night stands, ny ex knows this damn well from all her friends, judged her friends for it, and now yesterday he went home with her. When I was together with her I took her vcard one night but she didn't seem to be open for more after that. So adding this all up, it's the complete opposite of how I know her and what we agreed on when we both went our own ways, and I and a few others have a strong feeling she did it on purpose

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;49467017]My ex has been quitw ignorant the past few weeks, only replying to some of the things I said to her, she sends me a snapchat every other day, but never engages a conversation. Last night I went out with friends and since she is in the same student association I knew she was going to be there. While there I just said hi and she seemed to completely ignore me. All night long she would just approach my friends I was with, talk to them, dance with them, but not look at me a single time or even say anything. Later she started kissing a guy she used to only have bad words for right in front of me for about 4 hours straight. Every time they walked away they'd return shortly after in my view. Now, this guy is known for being a fuckboy and having a lot of one night stands, ny ex knows this damn well from all her friends, judged her friends for it, and now yesterday he went home with her. When I was together with her I took her vcard one night but she didn't seem to be open for more after that. So adding this all up, it's the complete opposite of how I know her and what we agreed on when we both went our own ways, and I and a few others have a strong feeling she did it on purpose[/QUOTE] Stop caring about what your ex does. If you think shes doing it on purpose youre acting just the way she wants you too.

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;49467017]My ex has been quitw ignorant the past few weeks, only replying to some of the things I said to her, she sends me a snapchat every other day, but never engages a conversation. Last night I went out with friends and since she is in the same student association I knew she was going to be there. While there I just said hi and she seemed to completely ignore me. All night long she would just approach my friends I was with, talk to them, dance with them, but not look at me a single time or even say anything. Later she started kissing a guy she used to only have bad words for right in front of me for about 4 hours straight. Every time they walked away they'd return shortly after in my view. Now, this guy is known for being a fuckboy and having a lot of one night stands, ny ex knows this damn well from all her friends, judged her friends for it, and now yesterday he went home with her. When I was together with her I took her vcard one night but she didn't seem to be open for more after that. So adding this all up, it's the complete opposite of how I know her and what we agreed on when we both went our own ways, and I and a few others have a strong feeling she did it on purpose[/QUOTE] She is your ex girlfriend not your current girlfriend my god

[QUOTE=killerteacup;49467544]She is your ex girlfriend not your current girlfriend my god[/QUOTE] The problem is not that she is kissing someone, it's the fact she is doing it right in front of me and if I move she moves just so she knows I can see her. I'm not the only person seeing it and people asked her what she was doing and the only response she'd give was "I'm drunk". I'm over the fact she's not my girlfriend anymore and she can kiss whoever she like but getting my friends' attention while I'm standing right besides them and then ignoring me completely is just a bitch move

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;49467602]The problem is not that she is kissing someone, it's the fact she is doing it right in front of me and if I move she moves just so she knows I can see her. I'm not the only person seeing it and people asked her what she was doing and the only response she'd give was "I'm drunk". I'm over the fact she's not my girlfriend anymore and she can kiss whoever she like but getting my friends' attention while I'm standing right besides them and then ignoring me completely is just a bitch move[/QUOTE] yeah but also you were splitting hairs for half your post about how she wasn't replying regularly enough for your taste dude

well you seem fully aware that she's only doing it to get your attention so idk

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;49467602]The problem is not that she is kissing someone, it's the fact she is doing it right in front of me and if I move she moves just so she knows I can see her. I'm not the only person seeing it and people asked her what she was doing and the only response she'd give was "I'm drunk". I'm over the fact she's not my girlfriend anymore and she can kiss whoever she like but getting my friends' attention while I'm standing right besides them and then ignoring me completely is just a bitch move[/QUOTE] Its a bitch move alright, and she's doing it to be a bitch. If she's bothering you, its working. Best thing to do is literally get rid of her. She's trying to bug you, you seem to know this, and if you continue to let it bug you it'll hurt your [I]current[/I] relationship and then your ex wins [I]again.[/I] [editline]6th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Enola;49462692]What would be so bad with ordering them on your account? Get a prime trial or something[/QUOTE] you be genius. why the hell didn't I think of that.

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;49467602]The problem is not that she is kissing someone, it's the fact she is doing it right in front of me and if I move she moves just so she knows I can see her.[/QUOTE] She is just trying to make you jealous, and you are letting her win. The only thing you can do is just flat out ignore her. This is easy to say and hard to actually do but really, let your feelings for her go and maybe even start looking for another girl to get your thoughts on someone else. And btw, with ignoring her I don't mean acting like you ignore her and still peek. You will make it really difficult for yourself that way.

Yeah, she's either trying to make you jealous for god-knows-what reason; or trying to get you to start shit so she can get you to look bad or something like that.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;49467710] you be genius. why the hell didn't I think of that.[/QUOTE] careful with the prime trial though. they tend to charge you immediately after the trial period is up, so you gotta make sure you cancel it if you don't wanna pay like 100 bucks for the year

[QUOTE=Pascall;49468174]careful with the prime trial though. they tend to charge you immediately after the trial period is up, so you gotta make sure you cancel it if you don't wanna pay like 100 bucks for the year[/QUOTE] Well it don't matter anyway. Our accounts are linked through her prime. But she has a student prime so I don't get any of the benefits and it doesn't seem I can separate it myself. Wait, I'll get my sister to order it. SAAAAAAAAAM

[QUOTE=Riller;49468024]Yeah, she's either trying to make you jealous for god-knows-what reason; or trying to get you to start shit so she can get you to look bad or something like that.[/QUOTE] A lot of people that know both me and her agree with me that it is a bitch move and I should let her go. Already stopped following her on social media and shit, but I can't avoid her on tuesdays when our whole association is in the same bar

Establish dominance. Next time she pulls that trick, you go, sweep her guy off his feet, and make the fuck out with him; as sloppy and tonguey as absolutely possible. That'll teach her.

Holy crap my sister just up and paid for it for me. <3

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;49467602]The problem is not that she is kissing someone, it's the fact she is doing it right in front of me and if I move she moves just so she knows I can see her. I'm not the only person seeing it and people asked her what she was doing and the only response she'd give was "I'm drunk". I'm over the fact she's not my girlfriend anymore and she can kiss whoever she like but getting my friends' attention while I'm standing right besides them and then ignoring me completely is just a bitch move[/QUOTE] Yea and it's a bitch move and you're acting EXACTLY the way she wants you too. The only way it could go more perfectly for her is if you confronted her. This is assuming she was even doing it to piss you off or get your attention, and she wasn't just doing it because she actually wanted to. You making a post about this kinda proves that you do care that shes kissing someone other than you and you're probably not over her. You wouldn't get mad about one of your friends kissing someone else in front of you, so why do you care if she does it? When you break up with someone, you shouldn't put your ex into a special category where you give them special treatment. They should either just be like any other acquaintance or friend, or more preferably break contact all together. Obviously theres an exception to this if you guys have kids or something like that. I have no contact with any of my exes outside of our friend circles and I've never had issues. The only time I've ever gone out of my way to talk to an ex was to tell her I had some of her mail and wanted to know where to forward it.

My ex is also taking every chance to fling shit at me trying to (what i presume) triggering a reaction from me. Its been two years already, ive moved on and im with someone else and so is she. What is even the point. Nobody cares about her tantrums

Are the majority of break ups on Facepunch bad or something? All I hear are horror stories.