Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women"
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it really isn't that hard to undo a bra one handed though it has to be said. but doing it up, that's something else entirely. it's a good trick if the girl isn't expecting it though
[QUOTE=Yahnich;50302327]ive won free drinks by betting girls i could undo their bra through their shirt and sweater, they really overestimate how hard it is[/QUOTE]
they've been around some shakyhanded kids
My libido is noticeably lower than say, a year or two ago, and that honestly worries me. I even started a "no porn May" to see if that'd help.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50306405]Finals week kills my libido, are you under any sort of situational stress lately?[/QUOTE]
Well, yeah, exams :v:
I'm fairly sure I'm overthinking it, but y'know, the insecurity is just there whatever I do.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50306405]Finals week kills my libido, are you under any sort of situational stress lately?[/QUOTE]
seriously?
after long and boring hours of study and exams I sexually identify as an attack helicopter
cop caught me and my gf fooling around in my car, apparently he saw something "bobbing at dick level" (not a direct quote)
He checked our IDs and then laughed and told us to leave but she was mortified and started crying. We didn't get in trouble but I think that's basically off the table forever now. Damn.
[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50307837]cop caught me and my gf fooling around in my car, apparently he saw something "bobbing at dick level" (not a direct quote)
He checked our IDs and then laughed and told us to leave but she was mortified and started crying. We didn't get in trouble but I think that's basically off the table forever now. Damn.[/QUOTE]
Hah, i had some guy walking over to us and i quickly mentioned it and she pretended to look for something near my shoes. Pretty sure that guy knew since he had this funny look on his face
I was just laughing, I thought it was hilarious
[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50308041]I was just laughing, I thought it was hilarious[/QUOTE]
I just realized i must have been making faces while she was at it and while the guy was walking towards us :pudge:
Well then, I've decided to start looking for a date again because my last gf was 2 years ago (22 at the time, a lot of shit has happened) and I have NO idea where to start
I met her at a fishing club event where my dad took me for some good eatin', and I ended up tipsy-chatting up the barmaid, and starting a 3 month relationship that ended the same way it started
Way too fast
Any tips on how not to be a fool who rushes in?
8 months of being on Tinder, Match, OK Cupid and POF only resulting in 3 dates that didn't go anywhere and a large number of people fading is a bit disheartening. Has anyone else gone through this long spell of not being able to get any dating 'traction'?
I think I'm just going to ignore my girlfriend. Ghost her. It fills me with this weird twisted stress and guilt, but it doesn't feel right. We've barely started communicating again, but the only thing she's really done is ask me to send her some money. I did send her some, but now I'm like I can't sustain this. I don't make much and there are things I need and want on my side of the world. Plus, how much is gonna be enough till she gets back on her feet? I can't keep on sending her large fractions of my paycheck which may not even be enough to help her.
The stress, anxiety, and guilt I feel when I think about her eats me up, like I just wanna crawl into a ball and die. I think the reason why is cause she is my first girlfriend and moving on is still gonna leave her as a sour experience in my life. Like leaving her leaves no resolution.
[QUOTE=chocolatedrop;50315555]I think I'm just going to ignore my girlfriend. Ghost her. It fills me with this weird twisted stress and guilt, but it doesn't feel right. We've barely started communicating again, but the only thing she's really done is ask me to send her some money. I did send her some, but now I'm like I can't sustain this. I don't make much and there are things I need and want on my side of the world. Plus, how much is gonna be enough till she gets back on her feet? I can't keep on sending her large fractions of my paycheck which may not even be enough to help her.
The stress, anxiety, and guilt I feel when I think about her eats me up, like I just wanna crawl into a ball and die. I think the reason why is cause she is my first girlfriend and moving on is still gonna leave her as a sour experience in my life. Like leaving her leaves no resolution.[/QUOTE]
Uh, she sounds more like an escort than a girlfriend, if you're regularly paying her in exchange for her companionship.
i just realized i don't know how to tie a tie
oh jesus i have a spring formal in less than 24 hours
[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50317678]i just realized i don't know how to tie a tie
oh jesus i have a spring formal in less than 24 hours[/QUOTE]
If only there was some sort of network that would allow you to look up information on subjects like this.
there are a lot of knots as it turns out
but i did it, crisis averted
If it makes you feel any better, I learned the Windsor knot during a 5 minute ride to a formal dance when I was 15 using only WikiHow.
For the first time ever I'm in need of some advice of my own. I have started to have problems shooting after sex and during BJs. I have no problems getting it up and the drive is still there, it's just super hard to shoot. The last woman I was with gave me a nice BJ and got insecure and angry because she thought it was because of her, I tried to tell her but she just interrupted me and shit so eventually I got angry and left. It was a casual thing so I don't care about her specifically but I want to be able to shoot again. Any tips or ideas?
Also, I have no STD's.
[QUOTE=maeZtro;50318563]For the first time ever I'm in need of some advice of my own. I have started to have problems shooting after sex and during BJs. I have no problems getting it up and the drive is still there, it's just super hard to shoot. The last woman I was with gave me a nice BJ and got insecure and angry because she thought it was because of her, I tried to tell her but she just interrupted me and shit so eventually I got angry and left. It was a casual thing so I don't care about her specifically but I want to be able to shoot again. Any tips or ideas?
Also, I have no STD's.[/QUOTE]
this is actually pretty common for guys, maybe watch more porn and try to weaken your endurance? It could also be nerves, after the 2nd or 3rd time with the same person it might get easier? good luck.
[QUOTE=NOOBTASTIC;50319196]this is actually pretty common for guys, maybe watch more porn and try to weaken your endurance? It could also be nerves, after the 2nd or 3rd time with the same person it might get easier? good luck.[/QUOTE]
Watching more porn will just increase endurance if anything. Quit watching porn and quit jerking off, plus yeah it's also likely nerves most of all. Just enjoy it and if you don't finish it doesn't really matter. Your dick isn't broken so just have fun and try again next time.
[QUOTE=srobins;50319368]Just enjoy it and if you don't finish it doesn't really matter.[/QUOTE]
That's great if he was worried about himself but his problem comes from when women think it's their fault. He doesn't want to upset or hurt the self confidence of whoever he's having sex with. My GF thinks if I don't finish it's her fault, and her crying in the bathroom afterwards isn't something I can say 'doesn't matter'.
If you want to be more reliable when it comes to finishing, take a break from sexual activity (masturbate less - in particular view less porn - and don't have sex for a month or two). Cuddle and do lots of foreplay. The only thing that reliably helped me was taking a few weeks where my SO and I just cuddled instead of having sex and so far so good. I'd say it's mostly nerves though in the sense that you'll be worried about it next time and not finish (again).
2 days ago I talked with a friend about how you so often just don't have the balls to ask her out.
Now there is this girl working at our sports faculty and I've been seeing her at the entrance for about a year now and she is, frankly, the most beautiful girl I've ever seen.
Her hair is.. phenomenal. When I see her smile it's like everything gets brighter. And she is smiling a LOT! She's intelligent and much more witty than me.
I haven't talked to her more than 3 or four sentences altough she smiled at me a couple of times.
Today I asked her for a coffee.
She said yes.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;50319595]That's great if he was worried about himself but his problem comes from when women think it's their fault. He doesn't want to upset or hurt the self confidence of whoever he's having sex with. My GF thinks if I don't finish it's her fault, and her crying in the bathroom afterwards isn't something I can say 'doesn't matter'.
If you want to be more reliable when it comes to finishing, take a break from sexual activity (masturbate less - in particular view less porn - and don't have sex for a month or two). Cuddle and do lots of foreplay. The only thing that reliably helped me was taking a few weeks where my SO and I just cuddled instead of having sex and so far so good. I'd say it's mostly nerves though in the sense that you'll be worried about it next time and not finish (again).[/QUOTE]
You're being a bit aggressive considering he literally said he wants to shoot again and didn't care about the woman's ridiculous reaction.. Especially considering the 2nd half of your post just reiterated exactly the same advice as I just posted.
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And the fact that it's mostly nerves is exactly why you should recognize that it doesn't matter. I'm sorry your girlfriend takes it so personally but whether you cum or not really is not important or worth stressing over.. Guy is probably just psyching himself up. Just enjoy your banging and appreciate the fact you're getting laid, pretty soon you'll be complaining that you "shoot" too fast hahaha.
The last
Okay lets start that over
The last three times
Ah bugger it I'll start over truthfully
The only 3 times I've had sex I haven't ejaculated either. But notably the last 2 times, I've had more enjoyment focusing on pleasuring her than I have for example ejaculating into a tissue by myself. Nutting isn't really a big part of it that I think about, I'd love it to happen but I'd be alright with maybe the next few times having sex and not managing myself to climax. I just decide I'm done when I've ran out of energy to be honest.
I'm not sure how that helps or contributes to the discussion but I just wanted to share
Got back from Canada after spending a week with chickie. Spent a lot of money, had a lot of food that was better than all American food I've ever had, found out I REALLY like cherry brandy, and spent a lot of time in bed.
But now I feel a wave of depression in that I wont see her again for 3 months at least.
Thanks for the answers, I guess I'm going celibate for a while. I wonder how long it will last :v:
My GF is in Prague for the week so we've only been chatting through text, this evening she was talking about how much she enjoys me giving her oral, and at some point she mentioned that she liked the taste when I kiss her afterwards. It upset me because she doesn't even want to try to return the favor without a condom because she claimed she tried once on a guy and it was horrible, so I told her that maybe she would like my taste too. Cue her saying "you know I'll never want to try that" to which I responded that I still don't understand why. First she said that she was disgusted by cum and thus didn't want any in her mouth, but then I told her I never mentioned ejaculation and would never do that without her consent. She didn't want to give an answer which worried me considering what she told me about the time she did it with the other dude, so I asked her if that fucker did anything bad to her. She was reluctant to tell me at first, but it turns out this cunt couldn't get it up despite her attempts so he blamed her by basically telling her she was ugly and did an awful job. Apparently all of her exes are fucking assholes, between that asswipe and the other dickhead who cheated on her. It seems to have taken a toll on her.
So, given that we can't have sex for the time being given her condition, despite the fact we both really want to, it's kind of a one-way street with me pleasuring her orally and caressing her while she's reluctant to return the favor despite liking her own taste and having already done it to a fucking cunt who doesn't even deserve to be able to jerk off. I feel humiliated. I really want to tell her how I feel about this, to try and figure out a solution, but last time I told her I was frustrated sexually she broke into tears and was really upset. I feel I may come off as an asshole who demands a blowjob but I want her to imagine herself in my place. If she was the one giving oral regularly and I refused to even try to do the same she would probably be frustrated too.
This really sucks because apart from that I feel really nice with her, but I'm starting to have a hard time bearing with this issue.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50319612]If you not cumming makes her cry in the bathroom, there are deeper issues than you not finishing.
Self-confidence, self-esteem, and why in the world does she want someone to cum so bad issues.[/QUOTE]
It was fine the first time, and the second, and the 10th, but once you have sex hundreds of times with the same partner all with no finishing I'd think something's up too.
[QUOTE=_Axel;50322610]My GF is in Prague for the week so we've only been chatting through text, this evening she was talking about how much she enjoys me giving her oral, and at some point she mentioned that she liked the taste when I kiss her afterwards. It upset me because she doesn't even want to try to return the favor without a condom because she claimed she tried once on a guy and it was horrible, so I told her that maybe she would like my taste too. Cue her saying "you know I'll never want to try that" to which I responded that I still don't understand why. First she said that she was disgusted by cum and thus didn't want any in her mouth, but then I told her I never mentioned ejaculation and would never do that without her consent. She didn't want to give an answer which worried me considering what she told me about the time she did it with the other dude, so I asked her if that fucker did anything bad to her. She was reluctant to tell me at first, but it turns out this cunt couldn't get it up despite her attempts so he blamed her by basically telling her she was ugly and did an awful job. Apparently all of her exes are fucking assholes, between that asswipe and the other dickhead who cheated on her. It seems to have taken a toll on her.
So, given that we can't have sex for the time being given her condition, despite the fact we both really want to, it's kind of a one-way street with me pleasuring her orally and caressing her while she's reluctant to return the favor despite liking her own taste and having already done it to a fucking cunt who doesn't even deserve to be able to jerk off. I feel humiliated. I really want to tell her how I feel about this, to try and figure out a solution, but last time I told her I was frustrated sexually she broke into tears and was really upset. [B]I feel I may come off as an asshole who demands a blowjob[/B] but I want her to imagine herself in my place. If she was the one giving oral regularly and I refused to even try to do the same she would probably be frustrated too.
This really sucks because apart from that I feel really nice with her, but I'm starting to have a hard time bearing with this issue.[/QUOTE]
Like, I totally understand the stereotypical douche boyfriend image you're trying to avoid, but you are sooooooo far away from that dude, you need to understand that. Telling your girlfriend you're tired of getting literally no sexual gratification from your relationship doesn't make you an asshole at all. I understand that she had a bad experience with the other guy but I'm almost leaning toward the idea it's just a lame excuse not to give head. imo you should just ask her to at least give it a try, if only as a gesture to you and to the fact that she wants to make you happy as well. Maybe I'm the asshole here but it sounds a little selfish for her to sit around getting eaten out all day while your balls discover new shades of indigo dude.
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