Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

we don't have any real life friends so we resort to strangers on the internet for consolation Seriously though, when my first ex left me it was under pretty shitty circumstances for me, and being fucking clueless about what to do I was resorting to any means I could to get some help so I could start to move on.

[QUOTE=plunger435;49469768]Are the majority of break ups on Facepunch bad or something? All I hear are horror stories.[/QUOTE] Worst I ever had was my ex, who worked at the same place I did, spread bullshit rumors about me and shit talked me to all the other women there to try and ward them off from me. Basically told other women that I was pro-rape, but at the same time gave me good reviews in bed (woman was insane, never understood her intent). Talked shit about me to people when I was literally right next to them, and even tried to make out with my best friend while I was using the computer with him and talked shit about me right to him. She gave up when none of this provoked a reaction from me and I started dating another girl there that was way out of my league, despite all the bullshit she spread about me. Breaking contact and ignoring your ex will do wonders for you. [editline]6th January 2016[/editline] She also tried to shake me off a 12ft ladder one time but thats besides the point.

Before receiving a blowjob, give your girlfriend some mints. It's absolutely worth it. Now I keep a pack of frishermen's friends next to my bed.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49469807] She also tried to shake me off a 12ft ladder one time but thats besides the point.[/QUOTE] Holy shit dude ive had some doozy breakups but nothing on that level christ

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49469807]Worst I ever had was my ex, who worked at the same place I did, spread bullshit rumors about me and shit talked me to all the other women there to try and ward them off from me. Basically told other women that I was pro-rape, but at the same time gave me good reviews in bed (woman was insane, never understood her intent). Talked shit about me to people when I was literally right next to them, and even tried to make out with my best friend while I was using the computer with him and talked shit about me right to him. She gave up when none of this provoked a reaction from me and I started dating another girl there that was way out of my league, despite all the bullshit she spread about me. Breaking contact and ignoring your ex will do wonders for you. [editline]6th January 2016[/editline] She also tried to shake me off a 12ft ladder one time but thats besides the point.[/QUOTE] sounds like you dealt with it really well i can only imagine how well you dealt with the ladder thing "ugh she's trying to rattle me again isn't she" he begrudgingly says as he performs a triple backflip off the ladder and lands on his feet, but not before texting a friend "fking gf man" while in mid-air

[QUOTE=plunger435;49469768]Are the majority of break ups on Facepunch bad or something? All I hear are horror stories.[/QUOTE] The worst I've had is my ex making passive-aggressive posts online and posting about her casual sex adventures on her Tumblr in hopes I'd unblock her and see them. Several months after the relationship I was feeling down and I unblocked her. I saw her posts and from then on I decided to keep her blocked indefinitely.

[QUOTE=plunger435;49469768]Are the majority of break ups on Facepunch bad or something? All I hear are horror stories.[/QUOTE] To be fair, the breakup didn't seem that bad. We talked it out, we weren't fighting or arguing, we both agreed that there's no hate between us, and that's what I thought until a week ago. The ex before that was a LDR for two years and that was quite a bad breakup, caused me to feeling utter shit and not being able to work, ruining my last few months of my 2nd year of university (meaning I now am missing credits I still need to make up for). The last breakup is just shit because we have so many friends in common so there is no way I will not run into her at any time, but I don't see why she has to act like a bitch and most of our common friends agree with me. Not all breakups are horror stories, and to be honest, it could be worse than what I have right now, I just had to get it off my chest really. Talked to others about it too now and all pretty much say the same as you guys do, let it go, ignore her, so that's what I'm going to do. Stopped following her on social media. feel like blocking and removing is a bit too much.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;49470952]sounds like you dealt with it really well i can only imagine how well you dealt with the ladder thing "ugh she's trying to rattle me again isn't she" he begrudgingly says as he performs a triple backflip off the ladder and lands on his feet, but not before texting a friend "fking gf man" while in mid-air[/QUOTE] I actually only did a double back flip, haven't managed the triple yet. I haven't gotten much practice in as of late because she quit trying to shove me off ladders.

[QUOTE=junker154;49470678]Before receiving a blowjob, give your girlfriend some mints. It's absolutely worth it. Now I keep a pack of frishermen's friends next to my bed.[/QUOTE] I've heard that if she sucks on an ice cube just before giving you head, it's quite a nice sensation. Can't confirm for my self though...

Spent some time with a girl I hadn't seen for 2 years today. She was pretty much the catalyst to my first serious relationship (friend of a friend), but I had a crush on her before my ex found me and manipulated me into a relationship. She told me upfront she had a boyfriend when we agreed to get some lunch, and I assumed we would just eat and leave. But we both were just talking forever tonight, after food we went to the park and walked a while together. We ended up talking about really personal stuff, like reflecting on both of our relationships and how we were / are in the exact situation. "Oh my god, finally someone who gets it" etc from both of us. We went back to her car and just sat and talked about it for a while. She is basically in a rocky relationship (broken up and getting back together even though she gets hurt, etc) and I gave her advice. Stuff you guys told me. It was actually really heartfelt and I knew she wasn't okay in a relationship like that where the guy was cheating on her and she kept coming back. I could tell she was genuinely listening to EVERYTHING I had to tell her. We talked about really, REALLY personal stuff, stuff neither of us had ever talked to anyone about before. I felt so free to be myself around her in that dark car, just talking. And now I caught feelings for her again. I have no idea what she's gonna do after tonight with her current relationship, but I'm so confused about if what I'm feeling is okay or not. We are both so similar and I feel genuinely happy with her, like I have with nobody else, and I'm not even exaggerating. "After one night with her you fucking love her, nixnax? You codependent son of a bitch." No, I don't love her, I just... It's so hard to explain. I'm mad at myself for wanting her. Because she has a boyfriend (whether she's gonna end that or not is irrelevant; I'm not going to try if she stays with him, that would make me a douche). I just have no idea what to feel. And I know, "There are bound to be other woman just like her, nixnax. Stop getting so attached to every girl you meet and just wait for the one you're sure of." Well, I just have this feeling about her. I don't know. Maybe I should just stop feeling things. This is so frustrating...

Sounds like she noticed you have a connection with each other, too. Just relax and see where things go. Nobody here is going to call you codependent just for having a crush on someone (I hope). Even if it ultimately doesn't go anywhere, there's nothing wrong with having a little excitement in your life and something to look forward to.

[I]You codependent son of a bitch.[/I] loljk Nah man I get where you're coming from with that. You two have chemistry, and you both realize it. Can't control chemistry. You either have it or you don't. The couple of girls I briefly saw before my current GF were nice, they were funny, could tell I could probably have some good fun with them, but we just didn't have any connection. Just wasn't... [I]feeling[/I] it. But then you find someone that suddenly conversations that last hours just come naturally, you want to tell them all these things because you realize that they're listening, they [I]want[/I] to hear all these things and they want to tell [I]you[/I] so much too. Stick with it man, relax, enjoy the view, see where it all goes.

does anyone here have experience with IUDs? my girlfriend is currently on Depo but the side effects are getting too much for her and she's thinking of switching to something non-hormonal

So what's the point of saying I love you if neither of us have set it ever, in years?

[QUOTE=Bert the Turtle;49482265]does anyone here have experience with IUDs? my girlfriend is currently on Depo but the side effects are getting too much for her and she's thinking of switching to something non-hormonal[/QUOTE] I have one (Paragard, the non-hormonal one). I was on Depo previously as well and the hormones made me incredibly paranoid. The first few months were absolute hell for me and I spent my first two periods with it immobile on my couch for several days at a time. After about 5 months everything evened out and currently everything is pretty much exactly how it used to be pre-IUD in terms of flow/menstrual cramps. Considering that the Paragard lasts about 12 years, I think the initial pain was worth it in the long run. [editline]8th January 2016[/editline] Also, the pain of having a piece of metal shoved through your cervix is enough to make you grateful for not having to worry about pushing a baby through there.

[QUOTE=Maksie99;49482494]So what's the point of saying I love you if neither of us have set it ever, in years?[/QUOTE] Do you love him/her/it? Then I presume reminding him/her/it of that fact is as much point as you'd ever need to say that.

[QUOTE=Bert the Turtle;49482265]does anyone here have experience with IUDs? my girlfriend is currently on Depo but the side effects are getting too much for her and she's thinking of switching to something non-hormonal[/QUOTE] My ex had one. For the first few weeks it was painful and she had really irregular periods but it evened itself out eventually and she really enjoyed having it.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49483127]the pain of having a piece of metal shoved through your cervix [/QUOTE] that's pretty metal [QUOTE=Riller;49484412]Do you love him/her/it? Then I presume reminding him/her/it of that fact is as much point as you'd ever need to say that.[/QUOTE] my view here is that if my life wouldn't be the same without them then I will tell them I love them. fuck when my first girlfriend moved in I told her that every night. if I have a gf that I love, she's going to fucking well know it goddamit

[QUOTE=Bert the Turtle;49482265]does anyone here have experience with IUDs? my girlfriend is currently on Depo but the side effects are getting too much for her and she's thinking of switching to something non-hormonal[/QUOTE] my exGF had one, can't remember the name but it was the circular one that hooks onto the front end of her cervix, or something. First 3 months of it were hell for her because of the hormone output, her periods were severely irregular and she got really bad cramps and mood swings. She was also on other medication so who knows if that was messing with it. I also had skin scraped off the end of my dick on more than one occasion because of it. So yea.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49486611] I also had skin scraped off the end of my dick on more than one occasion because of it. So yea.[/QUOTE] oh no

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49486611] I also had skin scraped off the end of my dick on more than one occasion because of it. So yea.[/QUOTE] pain

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49486775]IUDs just sound horrible for everyone involved[/QUOTE] Longterm they're worth it, cause you don't have to take a pill every morning and they last 5+ years, and if you want a kid down the line they can be removed easily. They just have a high "startup" costs to them I guess. For some women, they can completely remove their period so thats a big plus. [editline]8th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=NixNax123;49486801]pain[/QUOTE] The pain got worse and worse the more it happened, until I just broke up with her. Sex for me made me feel like I was sticking my dick in a bear trap.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49486863] The pain got worse and worse the more it happened, until I just broke up with her. Sex for me made me feel like I was sticking my dick in a bear trap.[/QUOTE] oh christ (I don't even post here and I just have to comment on some occasions like this)

that's not really a normal IUD function, though. the girl i've been seeing lately has an IUD and i've never had a problem [editline]8th January 2016[/editline] but that does sound terrible and i'm so sorry for your loss

[QUOTE=dcalde78;49485774]that's pretty metal my view here is that if my life wouldn't be the same without them then I will tell them I love them. fuck when my first girlfriend moved in I told her that every night. if I have a gf that I love, she's going to fucking well know it goddamit[/QUOTE] We've never exchanged it, and we've been together years no. I guess I had the "don't fix it if it ain't broke" idea. However.. I got wasted NYE, and I told (I think, again, I was wasted) a friend of his while his friend babysat me for a few minutes that I'm madly in love with my boyfriend. Boyfriend comes back, I ask him (I think) if I did this or that, would he still love me. He made this whimpering noise. And then I ran outside to throw up. And then I passed out. He hasn't brought up the "I love you" thing, so I don't know what to do. I don't even know if I said it or not.

[QUOTE=Dysentery;49487820]that's not really a normal IUD function, though. the girl i've been seeing lately has an IUD and i've never had a problem [editline]8th January 2016[/editline] but that does sound terrible and i'm so sorry for your loss[/QUOTE] Most guys won't have the problem but if you're overly well endowed like me then its sometimes an issue.

IUDs are absolutely great, in my opinion My girlfriend had a lot of spotting so that was kind of icky but comdomless sex in exchange for a tiny bit of blood was worth it Only thing is ejaculating always scared the hell out of me, felt like skydiving without a helmet

I feel like I have done something horrible. Two days ago my girlfriend and I were fooling around in my bed. We haven't been dating for long, but things have progressed really quickly, and I think we both have very strong feelings for each other. (Side note, we are both 17, so pretty young). We haven't had sex with each other, but have done everything but. Anyway, as we were fooling around, we both gradually got undressed, until we were both fully undressed. Eventually she started giving me a handjob, and after a while of that, she started rubbing my penis against the outside of her vagina. She kept doing this for a while, I guess until she got tired of being on top of me, so she went down onto her back and then pulled me down with her. She kept doing the same thing she was doing before, but eventually she moved her hands away, and so I kept doing it on my own. She told me to keep going, and I did, but one time I moved my hips back too far, so when they went back forward, my penis went partway into her vagina. She seemed to enjoy it, so I went a little farther, but she told me to stop, and I did immediately. And I thought it would be okay, but she began to cry. And I felt like a horrible, horrible person. I apologized profusely and explained that I never planned for that to happen, and told her I was so, so sorry, and she told me it was okay and that I mean the world to her. And after that we got dressed again and continued hanging out. And I brought it up two more times and told her how sorry I was, and each time she said I have nothing to be sorry about and that everything was okay. But at a random point later in the night she had tears in her eyes again, and I asked her if everything was okay, and she said it was, and I said that if there was anything she wanted to say that she could, and she said there was nothing. And I offered to drop her off at home and call it a day, and she very forwardly told me "no! Please, not yet. Its okay." I don't know what to think. I feel like I have committed a crime, and I can't stop thinking about it. I have no idea how I can truly reconcile with her. We had a conversation midway through the day (after that happened) and she told me that I am her favorite person in the world, and I mean everything to her. And that's just the thing - she still shows signs of affection, and she outwardly hasn't seemed upset since it happened, except the one time I looked over and saw she had tears in her eyes. What do I do? How badly have I fucked up? I don't think our relationship is over or anything, but I can't stop feeling horrible, and I am worried that she will now have feelings of resentment for what happened and toward me.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49486611]I also had skin scraped off the end of my dick on more than one occasion because of it. So yea.[/QUOTE] Unless the IUD was inserted improperly/was pushed out, the copper part of the IUD should be entirely inside the uterus. There's a string that hangs out of the cervix for removal and it's possible that's what scraped you - however, the string softens over time, and after having it for a while you shouldn't notice it during sex.

just hung out with a girl i really like for coffee for the first time ever, have no idea how to keep up stable contact without appearing super awkward/needy!