Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=-Ben_Wolfe-;50352789]What makes you believe she is cheating?[/QUOTE] I noticed her ex's name popping up on her phone that she hasn't really talked to in a couple of years. I asked what it was about and she said it was him asking something fairly innocent (don't remember now). It kept happening though for a couple of weeks and I pressed the issue a little more. I pulled a dick move and snooped her phone and I guess she deleted the text string or something. So I looked at her best friend's texts and she said that he admitted still loving her and that she was going to try and meet him soon about it. But for all I know, she could be going to tell him to back off. She's kind of a confrontational person and it would suit her personality, so I don't want to call her out now. So I guess I'll just wait around and see what happens for a while...

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;50352830]I noticed her ex's name popping up on her phone that she hasn't really talked to in a couple of years. I asked what it was about and she said it was him asking something fairly innocent (don't remember now). It kept happening though for a couple of weeks and I pressed the issue a little more. I pulled a dick move and snooped her phone and I guess she deleted the text string or something. So I looked at her best friend's texts and she said that he admitted still loving her and that she was going to try and meet him soon about it. But for all I know, she could be going to tell him to back off. She's kind of a confrontational person and it would suit her personality, so I don't want to call her out now. So I guess I'll just wait around and see what happens for a while...[/QUOTE] I mean, did the tone of her texts to her friend imply she was going to confront him and tell him to fuck off? Not to mention, if she was going to tell him to fuck off, she probably wouldn't have deleted her texts.. Sorry but she's probably cheating.

i mean that's jumping to conclusions although i think you have a right to be suspicious I do think you should confront her about it though probably

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;50352830]I noticed her ex's name popping up on her phone that she hasn't really talked to in a couple of years. I asked what it was about and she said it was him asking something fairly innocent (don't remember now). It kept happening though for a couple of weeks and I pressed the issue a little more. I pulled a dick move and snooped her phone and I guess she deleted the text string or something. So I looked at her best friend's texts and she said that he admitted still loving her and that she was going to try and meet him soon about it. But for all I know, she could be going to tell him to back off. She's kind of a confrontational person and it would suit her personality, so I don't want to call her out now. So I guess I'll just wait around and see what happens for a while...[/QUOTE] Confront her about it.

the myfitnesspal app does not list sex as an exercise fukken nerds

Going on a date in a few hours, been a while lol...Little bit nervous, been talking with her online for a month or so, saw her yesterday for the first time.

keep us updated

[QUOTE=T_T crai2;50355203]the myfitnesspal app does not list sex as an exercise fukken nerds[/QUOTE] Might as well try bangfit. Guys I've been having some problems dating a girl I recently met and I have no idea what to do now and what to think of it. For my studies I had to join a project group 4 weeks ago. The project was full time for 3 weeks + a week vacation. Even though a lot of friends I made asked me if i wanted to join their groups, I told them I wanted to meet and work with some new people. After the kickoff I recognized a guy I talked to in the hallways and decided to join him and everyone from his last project group (3 girls to be exact). One of them was a pretty cute Russian girl. During the course of the project we talked a lot and we get along really well. After finishing the work at school we would regularly go and eat somewhere, the first time with our fellow group members but later just the two of us. She told me she wanted to discover some nice places in Holland while she was over here so I asked if she wanted to go to this amazing zoo with me for a whole day and she gladly said yes. Even though a whole day was too long (I learned my lesson), we still really enjoyed it and we still hung out together after school throughout the whole project. Sadly, there were a lot of communication problems between me and one of the other two girls, which made the atmosphere not that great and there were a lot of frustrations before the project was due. Luckily the russian girl doesn't blame me for anything, she's actually been a great negotiator. She asked me out to celebrate if we finished our project last week Saturday, but sadly we had to go for a redo. I asked her yesterday if she still wanted to hang out today and she said yes. We went for some coffee and a bite to eat and we got along really well just as always. The problem is that even though I start to actually fancy her, she still really behaves towards me like I'm just a friend who she really enjoys to spend time with. And I don't mind that, I would love to be friends but my feelings for her are growing. We walked through the park for an hour and even though we had fun and we laughed, there was 0 romance or any kind of 'spark'. I regularly give compliments, I grab her sometimes or playfully just bounce into her or tease her, but I wasn't able to get anything out of her on her part. So I decided to test my luck when we said goodbye, she gave me a hug like she always does but this time I give her a small kiss on her forehead. She regularly tells me I'm a sweet guy and that she likes me, so I expected her to at least say something nice. But sadly, I noticed she wasn't really fond of it and was a little shocked, and awkwardly said 'oohh ur a real playa aren't ya'. I laughed it off and she smiled when she walked away but I felt kinda stupid for believing that she might actually fancy me too. Does she really only wants to be friends? Does a girl really think that a guy takes her out and regularly pays for everything just to be friendly? Am I going too fast and do I have to give her some space and time? Or shall I just give up the idea that it'll be more than just a good friend? I asked a good mate of mine what he thought, and he suggested to actually talk to her about the fact that I like her more than normal but that it wouldn't be a problem if she doesn't feel the same way. But when should I ask this? Should I give her some space and ask her on a date in a week or two? Or wait for her to do the next move? Either way, thanks for reading.

You could just ask her if she's interested in going on a real date. You're making it harder than it needs to be imo.

[QUOTE=thermobaric;50367356]Might as well try bangfit. Guys I've been having some problems dating a girl I recently met and I have no idea what to do now and what to think of it. For my studies I had to join a project group 4 weeks ago. The project was full time for 3 weeks + a week vacation. Even though a lot of friends I made asked me if i wanted to join their groups, I told them I wanted to meet and work with some new people. After the kickoff I recognized a guy I talked to in the hallways and decided to join him and everyone from his last project group (3 girls to be exact). One of them was a pretty cute Russian girl. During the course of the project we talked a lot and we get along really well. After finishing the work at school we would regularly go and eat somewhere, the first time with our fellow group members but later just the two of us. She told me she wanted to discover some nice places in Holland while she was over here so I asked if she wanted to go to this amazing zoo with me for a whole day and she gladly said yes. Even though a whole day was too long (I learned my lesson), we still really enjoyed it and we still hung out together after school throughout the whole project. Sadly, there were a lot of communication problems between me and one of the other two girls, which made the atmosphere not that great and there were a lot of frustrations before the project was due. Luckily the russian girl doesn't blame me for anything, she's actually been a great negotiator. She asked me out to celebrate if we finished our project last week Saturday, but sadly we had to go for a redo. I asked her yesterday if she still wanted to hang out today and she said yes. We went for some coffee and a bite to eat and we got along really well just as always. The problem is that even though I start to actually fancy her, she still really behaves towards me like I'm just a friend who she really enjoys to spend time with. And I don't mind that, I would love to be friends but my feelings for her are growing. We walked through the park for an hour and even though we had fun and we laughed, there was 0 romance or any kind of 'spark'. I regularly give compliments, I grab her sometimes or playfully just bounce into her or tease her, but I wasn't able to get anything out of her on her part. So I decided to test my luck when we said goodbye, she gave me a hug like she always does but this time I give her a small kiss on her forehead. She regularly tells me I'm a sweet guy and that she likes me, so I expected her to at least say something nice. But sadly, I noticed she wasn't really fond of it and was a little shocked, and awkwardly said 'oohh ur a real playa aren't ya'. I laughed it off and she smiled when she walked away but I felt kinda stupid for believing that she might actually fancy me too. Does she really only wants to be friends? Does a girl really think that a guy takes her out and regularly pays for everything just to be friendly? Am I going too fast and do I have to give her some space and time? Or shall I just give up the idea that it'll be more than just a good friend? I asked a good mate of mine what he thought, and he suggested to actually talk to her about the fact that I like her more than normal but that it wouldn't be a problem if she doesn't feel the same way. But when should I ask this? Should I give her some space and ask her on a date in a week or two? Or wait for her to do the next move? Either way, thanks for reading.[/QUOTE] Asking for advice on if a girl likes you and trying to analyze her body language and reactions to thing is a waste of time. You're wasting your time, and hers. Just be an adult and ask her. Be blunt and ask if she sees you 2 being anything more than friends. If she doesn't appreciate someone being blunt about that sort of thing then she's not worth messing with.

You guys are right. I'm overthinking it way too much. I've gave it a good thought and I'll just see if she still wants to hang out. If she does I'll just be honest and ask her what she thinks. thanks for the advice.

Might fall into same category as thermobaric here, but I'll give it a go anyways: Asking a girl out on a date via Facebook, yay or nay? I have no other means of asking her, as she goes to another school. I don't really get the feeling she is interested though, at least via chat. I asked a lady-friend about this and she said that she can come of as uninterested herself when it comes to chatting in general. Any tips? Haven't been on a date for a year. [editline]22nd May 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=thermobaric;50373232]You guys are right. I'm overthinking it way too much. I've gave it a good thought and I'll just see if she still wants to hang out. If she does I'll just be honest and ask her what she thinks. thanks for the advice.[/QUOTE] Tell us how it goes!

Well if there's no other way to ask her, there's probably no harm in trying, although if I were you I'd try to like invite her out to lunch or something just to talk and then if that goes well, ask her at the end or something in person is always better, even if you have to go out of your way to arrange it (imo)

[QUOTE=koppel;50363911]Going on a date in a few hours, been a while lol...Little bit nervous, been talking with her online for a month or so, saw her yesterday for the first time.[/QUOTE] Went well...Ate sushi and walked in a park later, she wants to see me today aswell so things are going good, but I'm kinda worried, because I think we come from different backgrounds....

[QUOTE=koppel;50375743]Went well...Ate sushi and walked in a park later, she wants to see me today aswell so things are going good, but I'm kinda worried, because I think we come from different backgrounds....[/QUOTE] Elaborate?

Any tips for getting inside easier during sex? I was having some issues getting in. It was kinda funny for both of us, as we were both struggling, but it was kinda messing up the flow. I'm wondering do I need to be using lube?

[QUOTE=Rich209;50376442]Any tips for getting inside easier during sex? I was having some issues getting in. It was kinda funny for both of us, as we were both struggling, but it was kinda messing up the flow. I'm wondering do I need to be using lube?[/QUOTE] Make sure she's adequately ready. Plenty of foreplay really helps. If all else fails, spit. If still no luck, go buy a bottle of lube. Don't use too much though, because if you really lather it on there you're not gonna get much friction and it's going to take forever to finish.

There's no such thing as too much lube

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;50352830]I noticed her ex's name popping up on her phone that she hasn't really talked to in a couple of years. I asked what it was about and she said it was him asking something fairly innocent (don't remember now). It kept happening though for a couple of weeks and I pressed the issue a little more. I pulled a dick move and snooped her phone and I guess she deleted the text string or something. So I looked at her best friend's texts and she said that he admitted still loving her and that she was going to try and meet him soon about it. But for all I know, she could be going to tell him to back off. She's kind of a confrontational person and it would suit her personality, so I don't want to call her out now. So I guess I'll just wait around and see what happens for a while...[/QUOTE] Any update on this? Did you talk to her?

So I think I found some nudes of my ex online. ( I don't even have nudes of my ex nor did put any online ) She wouldn't send me any as she "Didn't trust the internet" Now I'm not 100% sure that it's her, but should I tell her that someone might have screwed her over?

[QUOTE=Treznor;50376157]Elaborate?[/QUOTE] Well I do party quite often and I do smoke weed ...obviously I am willing to change, but she doesn't like that kind of stuff really...and she pulled the flat-earth-theory today haha :v:

Yesterday was pretty chaotic I went over to my girlfriends house, her mother and stepfather were home as well. When I came in her mother was cleaning the house and her dad was using the laptop while sitting shirtless on the couch. I walked in, waved, and said 'Hi, good afternoon!'. I made some very small talk with her mom, because she was busy and I really didn't feel like disturbing her. We then went upstairs and did our thing. A few hours later, my girlfriend goes downstairs to make us dinner, her parents get angry at her because I didn't sit down to have a conversation with them. She asks them if she needs to call me downstairs, and her mother said 'No, I'm already angry at this point I don't want to see him', this made my girlfriend very upset. I comfort her in her room and we agreed that next time I'd sit down with them and talk with them, but to avoid making them angrier, not to that that day. We go downstairs to eat dinner, and I talk a bit with her mom and she doesn't seem so angry anymore. Her stepdad doesn't say a word tho. Shortly after that I leave, and when I got home my girlfriend texted me saying that they were very angry. Her mom told my girlfriend that 'If you really liked him, you would've told him to go talk with us' and this made my girlfriend cry. Next time I'm there I'm definitely going to talk with them, because they keep comparing me to their neighbors kid, who talks with them a lot I guess. Sorry for the long post, but I'd like to know. Is this my fault, or are her mom and stepdad being unreasonable? Or is it both?

[QUOTE=koppel;50377596]Well I do party quite often and I do smoke weed ...obviously I am willing to change, but she doesn't like that kind of stuff really...and she pulled the flat-earth-theory today haha :v:[/QUOTE] Ahh I see. I'm not a weed-guy myself, so from my perspective I can see why she would have a problem with it. Flat-earth oh god get out of there No but seriously that is weird, very weird in 2016. But hey, if her positive qualities outweigh the negative, go for it. Up to you, of course.

[QUOTE=Treznor;50377660]Ahh I see. I'm not a weed-guy myself, so from my perspective I can see why she would have a problem with it. Flat-earth oh god get out of there No but seriously that is weird, very weird in 2016. But hey, if her positive qualities outweigh the negative, go for it. Up to you, of course.[/QUOTE] I mean ofcourse it's not good to smoke every day, but I don't want to get into a relationship where a little joint every once in a while creates drama. And yea, I mean she's cute and all, positive and probably likes me, guess I just gotta see how it will go...

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;50377633]Yesterday was pretty chaotic I went over to my girlfriends house, her mother and stepfather were home as well. When I came in her mother was cleaning the house and her dad was using the laptop while sitting shirtless on the couch. I walked in, waved, and said 'Hi, good afternoon!'. I made some very small talk with her mom, because she was busy and I really didn't feel like disturbing her. We then went upstairs and did our thing. A few hours later, my girlfriend goes downstairs to make us dinner, her parents get angry at her because I didn't sit down to have a conversation with them. She asks them if she needs to call me downstairs, and her mother said 'No, I'm already angry at this point I don't want to see him', this made my girlfriend very upset. I comfort her in her room and we agreed that next time I'd sit down with them and talk with them, but to avoid making them angrier, not to that that day. We go downstairs to eat dinner, and I talk a bit with her mom and she doesn't seem so angry anymore. Her stepdad doesn't say a word tho. Shortly after that I leave, and when I got home my girlfriend texted me saying that they were very angry. Her mom told my girlfriend that 'If you really liked him, you would've told him to go talk with us' and this made my girlfriend cry. Next time I'm there I'm definitely going to talk with them, because they keep comparing me to their neighbors kid, who talks with them a lot I guess. Sorry for the long post, but I'd like to know. Is this my fault, or are her mom and stepdad being unreasonable? Or is it both?[/QUOTE] Holy shit, what the fuck. First of all, no need to apologize for long post, if it's needed then no problem. Now, what the hell. It's not your fault at all, for all her parents knew you could have been having a shitty day. They should respect your privacy and freedom, might sound a bit clique but it's true. That is no reason to get angry. There could be some trouble beneath that you don't know of, maybe between your girlfriend and her parents or something, I don't know. But no, you have done nothing wrong. But that is presuming you use to talk to them? Like this isn't something that happens every time? If so, I might understand why they reacted like they did. [editline]23rd May 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=koppel;50377683]I mean ofcourse it's not good to smoke every day, but I don't want to get into a relationship where a little joint every once in a while creates drama. And yea, I mean she's cute and all, positive and probably likes me, guess I just gotta see how it will go...[/QUOTE] Good thinking buddy. If you like her a lot you might want to talk it over with her in the future. Good luck!

[QUOTE=Treznor;50377693] Good thinking buddy. If you like her a lot you might want to talk it over with her in the future. Good luck![/QUOTE] Thanks and this is something I will bring up soon, because I don't want to create any false image about myself

[QUOTE=koppel;50377733]Thanks and this is something I will bring up soon, because I don't want to create any false image about myself[/QUOTE] That's the best way to go!

[QUOTE=Treznor;50377693]Holy shit, what the fuck. First of all, no need to apologize for long post, if it's needed then no problem. Now, what the hell. It's not your fault at all, for all her parents knew you could have been having a shitty day. They should respect your privacy and freedom, might sound a bit clique but it's true. That is no reason to get angry. There could be some trouble beneath that you don't know of, maybe between your girlfriend and her parents or something, I don't know. But no, you have done nothing wrong. But that is presuming you use to talk to them? Like this isn't something that happens every time? If so, I might understand why they reacted like they did.![/QUOTE] I've met them only once before this incident, so I don't know them all that well

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;50377825]I've met them only once before this incident, so I don't know them all that well[/QUOTE] Ohh! That might explain it. Well, you should just talk to them about what happened. Did you have a reason for not talking to them? Not that you need one, just might make it easier for them to understand. It's also pretty normal to be nervous when meeting the parents, even if it's the second time. Don't worry, if they act reasonably there shouldn't be a problem, at least not one you have caused.

[QUOTE=Timezbrick;50377566]So I think I found some nudes of my ex online. ( I don't even have nudes of my ex nor did put any online ) She wouldn't send me any as she "Didn't trust the internet" Now I'm not 100% sure that it's her, but should I tell her that someone might have screwed her over?[/QUOTE] Fuck yes you should tell her. Talk with her about this "nude" subject again and ask a couple of questions, like how long since she last sent any to anyone or if something happend to her phone/laptop to help her have a clue about who might have been.