Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50457051]I just had a girl on tinder tell me she just broke up with her bf and is looking to hook up. This is only like the 8th person to match with me and I have never hooked up with a relative stranger, much less even met anybody from tinder. How do I tell if this is legit?[/QUOTE] just go for it

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50457051]I just had a girl on tinder tell me she just broke up with her bf and is looking to hook up. This is only like the 8th person to match with me and I have never hooked up with a relative stranger, much less even met anybody from tinder. How do I tell if this is legit?[/QUOTE] It can definitely be legit, but just think about if you're ok or want to have a one night stand. I made the mistake of going "well fuck yea" and then it was just weird and awkward and never done it again.

So this is just a general question for anyone who wants to answer because it would help me out. Is it better to go into a relationship wanting a relationship or better to be unsure about whether or not you want a relationship. With knowing you want a relationship, I'm currently finding that I'm taking things too fast. The problem is with being unsure however is that you're kind of doomed to fail if you don't care all that much. These are the two drastically different opinions that the myself and the girl I'm dating right now have. I just don't know how to go about gaining someone's trust when I'm impatient myself and they're being difficult to communicate with.

Well I mean, there's definitely a connection between the two of us. We're into all of the same stuff. It's just that she has difficulty ever really showing initiative because she's unsure about everything.

Talk to her about it. Say what you feel, communication is key.

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;50459389]It can definitely be legit, but just think about if you're ok or want to have a one night stand. I made the mistake of going "well fuck yea" and then it was just weird and awkward and never done it again.[/QUOTE] Hmmm she stopped messaging me after a while last night. I told her I'm up for it and I haven't heard back all day today. Maybe she changed her mind or hit up somebody else.

I have talked to her and she told me she didn't know if she was ready to be committed yet. So do I wait until she starts committing or do I tell her to commit or leave me and give like the "you make a decision or I will" sort of deal? It's not healthy for me to be teetering on a relationship with someone.

The feeling you get when you see the girl you " clicked" with going home with a random dude after a night out. So i met this girl at a club a couple of weeks ago, we talk and basically "clicked" with eachother so yesterday i was planing on asking her out but i did not wan't to do it thru a text or anything like that. She told she was going out with her friends so i said that i'm also was going out and we could meet. I was so happy because i wanted to ask her out so i can get to know her more but she were no where to be found and she did not respond when i asked where she is. Later that night, i go out of the bar me and my friends were at and decided we should end the night and as soon as i turn i see her walk by with this random dude , she seems me and gives me this long look and continued on. Oh well, shit happens.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;50460689]The feeling you get when you see the girl you " clicked" with going home with a random dude after a night out. So i met this girl at a club a couple of weeks ago, we talk and basically "clicked" with eachother so yesterday i was planing on asking her out but i did not wan't to do it thru a text or anything like that. She told she was going out with her friends so i said that i'm also was going out and we could meet. I was so happy because i wanted to ask her out so i can get to know her more but she were no where to be found and she did not respond when i asked where she is. Later that night, i go out of the bar me and my friends were at and decided we should end the night and as soon as i turn i see her walk by with this random dude , she seems me and gives me this long look and continued on. Oh well, shit happens.[/QUOTE] Know the feel man, it really fucking sucks.

Turns out the girl I'm sorta seeing/post sex hanging out with is really fickle as fuck, and may have a boyfriend who she cheated on with me. i want off mr bones wild ride

Well I think I'll just ask her again probably on Tuesday. She had a busy week this week and it might just be that she has had to much to manage so her decisions are kind of blinded by that. Im the kind of person to want closure on things so like I'll see what she says when she's not totally stressed out.

Well yeah. Maybe it's better to forget about it then and try my best to make a relationship without actually ever asking her. I mean, she agreed to being my girlfriend so I might as well just try to take things at a pace where I don't need to ask her and she feels comfortable. I'm just worried that she'll lose interest if we go at her pace.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50460015]Dont have a relationship for the sake of having one, only get in one if you actually connect with the person[/QUOTE] This is a super solid piece of advice, not even in this context. I wish my younger self would've taken this advice.

I really came out of a long term relationship and honestly I feel really good. Got a great job, live by myself now. I tried to make it work but she was to broken honestly and nothing worked, making only both of us unhappy. Now she needs to get her stuff out of my flat. Actually I'm quite confident and looking forward to the future. Not one bit of regret or sorrow.

I think that it's time to write about the problems I've been struggling with for a while now. Ever since I broke up with the girl from my student association, more than half a year ago, I keep thinking that I only liked her because she gave me attention, there's nothing that I can pinpoint about her that I actually liked, and that's basically the same everyone around me is saying. I'm not exactly feeling lonely now, but I really wish I had someone by my side, just to talk to, be with, sleep with. Having a girlfriend for me has never been about sex, of course it's a nice plus and not having it will get me frustrated after a while, but I noticed that I'm looking for more than hookups. It happened a few weeks back but I didn't feel like doing it again. The main problem I have with meeting girls is that I'm not really a smooth talker, or maybe my friends are right, I don't have the balls to kiss a girl in a bar. A few weeks back I had a great time talking to this girl, we had been talking for two hours while both her friends and my friends were staring at us waiting for something to happen, but it didn't. I've been told countless times, just put one of your hands on her face or on her side, look in her eyes, pull her a bit towards you and kiss her. The problem is, I can never get myself to do that to someone. Alcohol or not. I blame it to be the main problem of me meeting girls. I get opportunity enough, but I'm not a smooth talker, I'm not a dancer, so if a girl takes the time to talk to me and actually shows interest in me, I should act on it. I want to act on it, but I can't get myself to do that. I really wish I could figure out how to get myself past that point, but it seems like such a silly problem that everyone I talk to just says "just do it, grow a pair". Anyone here who could help me figure out why I can't do it?

I have no idea how to deal with moving on. Everytime I think I've finally gotten my ex outta my head I find myself just crushed reminded she's still out there lovin' someone else. It's making me really angry, honestly. I've been on a bunch of dates with other girls since then but no real connections and I think that's part of what's frustrating me. I wish I knew how to get over better.

[QUOTE=Dick Slamfist;50462162]I have no idea how to deal with moving on. Everytime I think I've finally gotten my ex outta my head I find myself just crushed reminded she's still out there lovin' someone else. It's making me really angry, honestly. I've been on a bunch of dates with other girls since then but no real connections and I think that's part of what's frustrating me. I wish I knew how to get over better.[/QUOTE] Accept it and let yourself feel all that nastyness then onward you go.

So I think I figured out why she's having such a hard time communicating and honestly I'm glad I kind of put two and two together after the things she has told me in the past. I'm hoping we can get past this and hopefully I can get her to start feeling better and communicating better.

-nvm, wrong thread

[QUOTE=Antimuffin;50463926]-nvm, wrong thread[/QUOTE] Wrong thread?

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;50463950]Wrong thread?[/QUOTE] Ah, sorry. Mixed the tabs.

My gfs sister is funny "I dont want a boyfriend mum, i just want to listen to trap music and play habbo"

Slept with a girl I've known since November last month and she admitted she's liked me since all the way back then :v: Spoken every day since this time last month and met up a couple of times to hang out (was busy cos of my exams) She wants me to come down during summer and I can stay at hers but some dumb part of me keeps thinking shes not interested :ohno: Why did she have to tell me just before uni broke up for summer :cry: I just needed to vent this :weeb:

what in the fuck is even wrong with you do you want her to hire a plane to spell "i like you so much i let you fuck me and i've wanted you to do it since november, come stay with me at my place over the summer and fuck me a whole lot more" in the sky

[QUOTE=Treznor;50450902]So I just asked this girl out on a date. She said yes![/QUOTE] Turns out she probably lied/changed her mind. It's been about two days and she hasn't answered me on FB, even though she is online all the time and posting shit on instagram/snapchat. I'll give it some more time, but looks dark so far. Fml this is the last thing I needed atm.

[QUOTE=Complifusedv2;50468839]Slept with a girl I've known since November last month and she admitted she's liked me since all the way back then :v: Spoken every day since this time last month and met up a couple of times to hang out (was busy cos of my exams) She wants me to come down during summer and I can stay at hers but some dumb part of me keeps thinking shes not interested :ohno: Why did she have to tell me just before uni broke up for summer :cry: I just needed to vent this :weeb:[/QUOTE] Dood you've shoved your dick in her. how can you be having issues with her being interested?

[QUOTE=Complifusedv2;50468839]Slept with a girl I've known since November last month and she admitted she's liked me since all the way back then :v: Spoken every day since this time last month and met up a couple of times to hang out (was busy cos of my exams) She wants me to come down during summer and I can stay at hers but some dumb part of me keeps thinking shes not interested :ohno: Why did she have to tell me just before uni broke up for summer :cry: I just needed to vent this :weeb:[/QUOTE] Like I get the mentality that like, just sex doesn't equate to a deeper interest. But she's inviting you over for the summer fucking do it man.

[QUOTE=Complifusedv2;50468839]Slept with a girl I've known since November last month and she admitted she's liked me since all the way back then :v: Spoken every day since this time last month and met up a couple of times to hang out (was busy cos of my exams) She wants me to come down during summer and I can stay at hers but some dumb part of me keeps thinking shes not interested :ohno: Why did she have to tell me just before uni broke up for summer :cry: I just needed to vent this :weeb:[/QUOTE] if she wasn't interested she wouldn't invite you over for the summer.

So I need some opinions on what I do here. Me and this girl. Friends for five years, but not close friends. Didn't see each other for the last three years while she was at Uni. She's come back and in the last month and a bit we've been hanging out with friends every week. We went to a gig together the other day (just us two) and I've noticed I'm into her. We like chatting and hanging out but on her part that could just be as friends. I've had lots of female friends who have been creeped/annoyed when close male friends have asked them out. But my natural reaction when I like somebody is to flirt and ask them for a drink. But how/what point do you approach a friend and ask them on a date without jeopardizing a friendship you like? I think she's a flirty person so there's no getting a read there anyway. Has anybody ever asked out a friend? How did it go and what was the after effects?

[QUOTE=Dan2593;50478867]So I need some opinions on what I do here. Me and this girl. Friends for five years, but not close friends. Didn't see each other for the last three years while she was at Uni. She's come back and in the last month and a bit we've been hanging out with friends every week. We went to a gig together the other day (just us two) and I've noticed I'm into her. We like chatting and hanging out but on her part that could just be as friends. I've had lots of female friends who have been creeped/annoyed when close male friends have asked them out. But my natural reaction when I like somebody is to flirt and ask them for a drink. But how/what point do you approach a friend and ask them on a date without jeopardizing a friendship you like? I think she's a flirty person so there's no getting a read there anyway. Has anybody ever asked out a friend? How did it go and what was the after effects?[/QUOTE] You really just gotta do it. I did once and was rejected and like I wasn't really that into her in the first place so it was more of like a "hey, you're pretty cool and we get along well so would you want to go on a date and see what happens" sort of thing but she said no because of stuff that had happened in the past and it was just like whatever. It didn't happen and I've pretty much forgotten about the whole thing and so has she I'm sure. Worst thing that could happen is it's awkward for a bit. I don't think anyone worth being your friend would not be your friend after you ask them out on a date and they say no.