Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women"
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[QUOTE=PelPix123;50501663]a lot of the time when i try to mention my boyfriend they just see it as a challenge
even a lot of nice guys just frame him as an asshole who i'd be better off without so they can justify making it a challenge[/QUOTE]
Well wasn't your boyfriend threatening to kill you if you leave him?
So wouldn't you really be better off without him?
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50501680]Geez, where do you meet these people?[/QUOTE]
If the chat logs my friend shows me are indicitive of anything, guys like that will come out of the woodwork in seemingly endless droves.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50502767]Is it like an internet thing or are these people super common face-to-face, too?[/QUOTE]
I dunno about her face to face experiences, what she shows me is internet only.
Though I wouldn't be surprised if some of these guys acted the same way outside of the internet.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50501680]Geez, where do you meet these people?[/QUOTE]
It's a biological system built into humans, as the strongest come out on top for the best transfer of genetic material. Though most people don't even understand that it even happens when they do it.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50503008]I don't know if being an ass to women is genetic[/QUOTE]
Yeah that whole 'I can't help being an ass to you/your BF, we're programmed to mate!' is a bullshit argument. We're all in control of our actions, even if there are a few dumb survival instincts we haven't got rid of yet (looking at you, stress).
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Anyway, I came here looking for some advice. I had a one-night stand last night, and I'm feeling pretty glum about it today. I don't usually go for that kind of thing so I'm pretty inexperienced with the whole practice. I liked the girl, and we got on really well, so it's not like I regret anything. It's just that I don't think we'll do anything again, and I guess I'm just having a hard time dealing with spending the night with someone and then pretty much never seeing them again. I don't imagine this is a new or unique perspective, I'm sure a lot of people feel this way afterwards, but the whole thing just felt kind of pointless, and now I find myself feeling really drained emotionally.
I guess what I'm wondering is, are one-night stands always this draining?
I ended up just spending the journey home wondering if I should try contact her again, if she would even want that, if I even want that, if I'm just being clingy and trying anything more would spoil what was a perfectly good night - the whole thing was just exhausting.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50503008]I don't know if being an ass to women is genetic[/QUOTE]
Did you not read the end part? You can't counter what you do not know, which given the education in some places will happen.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50504190]That sounds like an easy cop-out answer "Well you don't know you're doing it!"
Like how do you even argue against that? I would first need proof it's happening in the first place, which I see none. I have no reason to believe it exists.[/QUOTE]
Hmmm well I've changed my mind, assholes are just assholes.
my girlfriend just sent me a screenshot of something and apparently didn't notice that she had a tinder notification in the corner
[QUOTE=Enola;50492831]No no I don't mean about condoms. I mean like once my dick is covered in pre-cum I can barely feel a thing. Either I have anaesthetic discharge or something is playing my mind. I really need help on this issue, I've had sex 4 times my whole life and today was the only time I ejaculated (with a fucking aggressive blowjob and then a self finish (on her so it was still rad)). But I'd like to be you know, fully into it. I only seem to get a throbbing rager when its in my pants or if im alone.[/QUOTE]
Sorry this is a little late, but it is probably from conditioning yourself from watching porn and masturbating. I used to have the same problem and eventually I was having erectile dysfunction cause I just couldn't get an erection unless I was browsing through tons of different porn. Also nerves have a big part to deal with it.
Guys so this chick and I fuck in this rented apartment that has thin walls and stuff. Muffling the moans with pillow is not comfortable and she wants to moan freely. Is it true that shower doesn't let any sound out? Do you have any tips?
[QUOTE=ecapsbuS;50506586]Guys so this chick and I fuck in this rented apartment that has thin walls and stuff. Muffling the moans with pillow is not comfortable and she wants to moan freely. Is it true that shower doesn't let any sound out? Do you have any tips?[/QUOTE]
Showers tend to have thicker walls cause of all the ceraming/plastic on the actual shower and what not but probably not thick enough to completely stifle moans. Plus shower sex honestly sucks.
[QUOTE=ecapsbuS;50506586]Guys so this chick and I fuck in this rented apartment that has thin walls and stuff. Muffling the moans with pillow is not comfortable and she wants to moan freely. Is it true that shower doesn't let any sound out? Do you have any tips?[/QUOTE]
My experience is that bathrooms make everything echo and even louder, I mean, try just talking loud in the bathroom and you can usually already hear it.
[QUOTE=DrVivi;50506279]Sorry this is a little late, but it is probably from conditioning yourself from watching porn and masturbating. I used to have the same problem and eventually I was having erectile dysfunction cause I just couldn't get an erection unless I was browsing through tons of different porn. Also nerves have a big part to deal with it.[/QUOTE]
How'd you solve it?
[QUOTE=DELL;50502976]It's a biological system built into humans, as the strongest come out on top for the best transfer of genetic material. Though most people don't even understand that it even happens when they do it.[/QUOTE]
This is not how survival of the fittest works
[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50512559]Just quit watching porn. If you get the urge go do something else, take a walk, [b]cut yourself[/b], get a pull up bar, do some situps or push ups, have a smoke, whatever. Just do something to take your mind off of it.[/QUOTE]
probably more healthy to watch the porn at this point
Probably shouldn't recommend people cut themselves, dude.
[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50512559]Just quit watching porn. If you get the urge go do something else, take a walk, cut yourself, get a pull up bar, do some situps or push ups, have a smoke, whatever. Just do something to take your mind off of it.[/QUOTE]
Personally, if I want to stop doing something, I just contextualize it - what do I want more? And I keep repeatedly thinking about it that way to the point that it feels too guilty to keep doing it or I've justified doing it.
I think it's hard to stop doing something with you can't even understand why you should stop in the first place. You have to have a very compelling reason to stop and really ingrain that into yourself in an honest way. That's how I went from 210 to 170 pounds - I just kept saying, "Do I want this milkshake or do I want to improve my health a little more and not be so fat?" Sometimes, like as of right now, I've been cheating a lot more by going over my deficit and staying underneath the amount of calories I burn every day, but that's because I don't really care at the moment.
[QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;50506080]my girlfriend just sent me a screenshot of something and apparently didn't notice that she had a tinder notification in the corner[/QUOTE]
Ask her about it. If you're lucky it could be nothing. For all you know she might have made a joke profile as a slice of cheese or something.
It's best to just be open these kinds of things rather than let them sit in your head.
true that. I was messing around on tinder before when me and a friend were bored at college and I didn't mention it to my girlfriend at the time until someone I know found me on it and bought it up. It's possible she's done more or less the same thing and just forgotten to mention it.
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I've started occasionally talking to my ex girlfriend who I had a shitty break up with a year or so ago after she recently sent me texts saying how she was sorry for how she acted (the breakup was basically down to her not communicating with me)
obviously I'm hesitant to talk to her again but we get on stupidly well. the problem is after I told my friends & family about how we broke up none of them particularly like her or want me to talk to her again, they all think she's trouble and not good enough for me etc.
so I'm wondering, if I do end up carrying on talking to her, should I let my friends and family know despite how they might react or should I just not let what they think get in the way of us two potentially being close again?
Ye, talk to her about it. My girlfriend has a joke Tinder profile, too. Fake Grindr, as well. We don't fuck around with them much anymore, but we'll hop on every now and then for a laugh. Maybe it's not the case with yours, but it's always better to just sit down and talk about these things rather than letting what [I]could[/I] be a big misunderstanding fuck things up.
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[QUOTE=IAreLegend;50527159]true that. I was messing around on tinder before when me and a friend were bored at college and I didn't mention it to my girlfriend at the time until someone I know found me on it and bought it up. It's possible she's done more or less the same thing and just forgotten to mention it.
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I've started occasionally talking to my ex girlfriend who I had a shitty break up with a year or so ago after she recently sent me texts saying how she was sorry for how she acted (the breakup was basically down to her not communicating with me)
obviously I'm hesitant to talk to her again but we get on stupidly well. the problem is after I told my friends & family about how we broke up none of them particularly like her or want me to talk to her again, they all think she's trouble and not good enough for me etc.
so I'm wondering, if I do end up carrying on talking to her, should I let my friends and family know despite how they might react or should I just not let what they think get in the way of us two potentially being close again?[/QUOTE]
Yours is the only opinion that really matters. It's your life, it's your happiness, it's your girlfriend. Still though, I might be a bit cautious in moving too quickly with her if I were you. Things flopped once before because of a lack of communication, and just because she recognizes and is sorry about her role in that breakdown does not mean it won't happen again.
If you do decide to move forward, don't ignore red flags, and don't be afraid to call her out on them if you spot any. If she is angry with you, and refusing to tell you why, for example. You don't have to call her out in a mean or accusatory way, just open a dialog. If she's serious about trying to overcome whatever issues she may have with open and honest communication, then she will allow and understand this.
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Honestly, if you're having concerns about your partner and you don't know what to do, chances are pretty good that the right answer is, "talk to him/her about it," no matter what the problem is.
[QUOTE=Pascall;50524604]Probably shouldn't recommend people cut themselves, dude.[/QUOTE]
Clearly a joke
[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;50529699]My girlfriend thinks I'm not attracted to her, she's very displeased with her body and doesn't believe me when I say how beautiful I think she is, because I really do find her beautiful. It's making her feel weird and she thinks I'm just saying it to make her feel better.
Everything else is perfect and she's not just doing this for attention like the stereotypical girl, I just don't know how to make her believe me, I've tried talking to her about it but she just tenses up and avoids it so much.[/QUOTE]
Maybe you should try to compliment what makes her beautiful, instead of saying that she is beautiful. I'm not an expect, but maybe if you talk about the things that you think makes her beautiful, she might realise you're not just saying it to make her feel better but mean it.
[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50532100]Clearly a joke[/QUOTE]
Pretty terrible one, wasn't clear from here
[QUOTE=metallics;50532901]Pretty terrible one, wasn't clear from here[/QUOTE]
You gotta be pretty special if youd think I'd honestly recommend someone hurting themselves as an alternative to jackin it. Come on man
[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50534344]You gotta be pretty special if youd think I'd honestly recommend someone hurting themselves as an alternative to jackin it. Come on man[/QUOTE]
For what it's worth, I had a hearty chuckle when I read that.
So has anyone else dated someone that they would only ever see because they're dating them? Like, I had a falling out with someone recently and we hadn't established any mutual friends and so would it be better to just never talk to them again? I feel like the feelings I have of wanting to see them again is probably just because I miss them a few days after breaking up with them and I'm just wondering if I'd be better off never seeing them again since they didn't really contribute anything to my life.
So my girlfriend keeps getting serious UTI's after regular sex with me and I don't know what else to do. And this also happened with 2 previous exes, which I discarded since they had really bad hygiene habits. But now I'm starting to think it's me, but we're both very clean. Maybe I'm carrying some kind of weird bacteria. I have no idea.
So We've always had lots of sex as any healthy couple out there, but whenever we spend about a week doing it every day, during more than an hour and sometimes more than once a day (and I'm really talking about doing it till exhaustion) she gets a Urinary infection a day after we stop.
The first time I was spending a week at her place and she got sick really fast after I left. She got on anti-biotics, and got better within a day (she's very healthy and drinks lots of water).
After searching the web we found out that not peeing and washing up after sex could lead to it, so both of us started taking those things into consideration and it seemed to work after a while. Sex with no infections.
So far so good, until last week, when I went to spend a week at her place. We had sex every morning. And sometimes mornings and bed times. We usually last 30 mins to 1:30h or more.
I got home this monday and still no problem. Came tuesday she started infecting.
The only things I can remember were the following:
- First we tried anal. I inserted my penis without a condom, washed up and used a condom for vaginal sex right after. But no problems since then. I also inserted a finger there but I was extra careful not to touch with that hand not even near her vagina. (however we're paranoid about me putting my finger there without noticing). However we took a shower after sex.
- I didn't use a condom a few times. Not during the whole sex. I would do it without condom for a minute or 2 and then put the condom on.
- And finally on another occasion when she was blowing me she said I tasted a little acid in the morning. But I assume it's because of my diet since I've been eating more animal protein than I should and drinking a lot of sodas lately. Be that as it may, I washed up after she noticed it.
Apart from this I don't know the causes. I could test myself for STD's but I've always used a condom except once with my ex. But it's extremely unlikely I got something from her because at the time she was a firefighter and had to do regular STD and other related tests so she was clean.
I have read on the internet that friction may enable bacteria to form more easily in the most affected areas. And we do spend a lot of time doing it. However the fact that the infection only kicked in two days after I left is weird.
She's also been under a lot of stress and been feeling quite depressed from University and she said that it may have helped bring her immune system down a bit. But then, I still suspect it has something to do with me, because she hasn't experienced this with anyone else.
Anything we're doing wrong?
Is someone here experiencing the same?
I feel bad about this and I feel that I'm responsible because some of my previous partners used to have UTI's too, and now I'm connecting the dots. I've been very thorough about my intimate hygiene lately too because of this. But I feel there's something I'm missing. She's better now, and her diet's been really helpful. She's been drinking a lot of water and cranberry juice throughout the week and now she's ok.
I'm thinking about getting tested for STD's and visiting an urologist. I mean, I don't want her taking anti-biotics that frequently.
Is she peeing right after you guys finish?
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