Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50541233]Is she peeing right after you guys finish?[/QUOTE] Yes. Both of us. And she also drinks lots and lots of water. She eats lots of vegetables, fruits/fruit juices too. In this particular case, she just loaded up on cranberry juice and has been drinking that stuff non stop for the past couple of days. And she doesn't eat sugar (bacteria love to feed on sugar). So I think she's been doing everything right.

i mean you should probably see a doctor at this point, that's not something we can fix

So I've been seeing this girl for a month or so. So Thursday she were at my house and slept over and everything was fine, she was happy and I was happy. So yesterday i had an after work with work and we ended up going out to a local night club. After that we went to buy something to eat and suddenly I see her with her friends but then she goes to the toilet and this guy follows her and they both get in and stay there for like 15 mins. Then they went out I said hi and left not so happy. I mean, I definitely know that she liked me a lot because she wanted to date and do stuff with me and it was great but seeing what I saw just makes me feel like shit. A hangover and that shit is not a good combination. Also this is not the first time thing like this happens to me so I feel cursed or something.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50541211]So my girlfriend keeps getting serious UTI's after regular sex with me and I don't know what else to do. And this also happened with 2 previous exes, which I discarded since they had really bad hygiene habits. But now I'm starting to think it's me, but we're both very clean. Maybe I'm carrying some kind of weird bacteria. I have no idea. [B]- First we tried anal.[/B] I inserted my penis without a condom, washed up and used a condom for vaginal sex right after. But no problems since then. [B]I also inserted a finger there [/B]but I was extra careful not to touch with that hand not even near her vagina. (however we're paranoid about me putting my finger there without noticing). However we took a shower after sex. - I didn't use a condom a few times. Not during the whole sex. [B]I would do it without condom for a minute or 2 and then put the condom on.[/B] Anything we're doing wrong? Is someone here experiencing the same?[/QUOTE] You're not really avoiding this happening. I'd suggest going to a doctor but if you tell the doctor what you told us, they'll inform you what you already know, that water doesn't remove all bacteria nor does it kill them. You might have an STI but it's unlikely, it's not something that goes unnoticed when you're sexually active. I'm surprised you yourself haven't got any urinary tract infections yet though.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50541211]Text[/QUOTE] Start using condoms with some common sense. Use them during anal. Just throw it away once you want to have vaginal sex afterwards. Use them when you have vaginal sex. Don't go bareback just to put on a condom a few minutes later. Make sure she's using a soap that's good for the vajayjay, and try taking a shower after each time.

[QUOTE=Navarchus;50543749]You're not really avoiding this happening. I'd suggest going to a doctor but if you tell the doctor what you told us, they'll inform you what you already know, that water doesn't remove all bacteria nor does it kill them. You might have an STI but it's unlikely, it's not something that goes unnoticed when you're sexually active. I'm surprised you yourself haven't got any urinary tract infections yet though.[/QUOTE] Just to clarify, I had anal sex isolated from vaginal. When I say that I did it without a condom for a couple of minutes, I was just refering to vaginal sex. I am aware that anal bacteria is 100% guaranteed to cause infection. And we only tried anal once, so that doesn't really explain the previous episodes.

Last couple of days, I've been thinking about my old crush a ridiculous amount. It's sort of annoying, really. I am absolutely happy with my girlfriend, we're much more compatible than crush and I would have ever been, but she just sorta keeps popping up when I let my brain idle. 's not like I wanna forget her or thinking about her is bad either; we had great times together and all. Just feels weird that she takes up more space in my brain these couple days than my girlfriend does. Oh well.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50545012]-UTI problems-[/QUOTE] I have a friend who has had a lot of consistent problems with UTI's after sex; it could just be something that she's prone to. Really sucks I know but the only way you'll find out more, why it keeps happening and how to reduce it is by visiting a doctor.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50545012]Just to clarify, I had anal sex isolated from vaginal. When I say that I did it without a condom for a couple of minutes, I was just refering to vaginal sex. I am aware that anal bacteria is 100% guaranteed to cause infection. And we only tried anal once, so that doesn't really explain the previous episodes.[/QUOTE] Just get get checked, dude. You might have an STD. Some of those suckers can really hide out. Chlamydia, for example, go sneak by relatively unnoticed for months, only flaring up semi-regularly. Years, even, in women. My girl had it for at least two years and didn't notice, because the symptoms were the same as the side effects of her birth control at the time. We didn't realize anything was up until I developed what I thought was just a UTI and went in for a checkup. Chlamydia for the both of us. Easy to treat, though. Just takes a round of antibiotics to clear up. Know that in women, long term untreated Chlamydia can lead to fallopian scarring, making it much more difficult to conceive.

Doesn't chlamydia stay forever?

[QUOTE=SurfLapras;50534388]So has anyone else dated someone that they would only ever see because they're dating them? Like, I had a falling out with someone recently and we hadn't established any mutual friends and so would it be better to just never talk to them again? I feel like the feelings I have of wanting to see them again is probably just because I miss them a few days after breaking up with them and I'm just wondering if I'd be better off never seeing them again since they didn't really contribute anything to my life.[/QUOTE] In this mans opinion, it's best to break contact with your exes except under special circumstances. It's just going to cause unnecessary hardships down the line, especially if you had strong feelings for one another. It's possible to remain friends with an ex, but if you 2 have no mutual friends, don't go to the same hangout, don't have the same routine, don't work at the same place ect. theres really no reason too. Honestly you're kinda lucky to be in a situation where you would rarely see your ex at all and you should take advantage of it.

Regarding STD/STIs, regardless of your sexual history/partners/medical history, you should be getting checked regularly anyway. Once a year seems to be the medical consensus. Keeps you safe and healthy.

Will get myself checked out then just in case. I always used condoms except one time with my ex. Never had a UTI myself but I'll go get checked too. Will also go for an appointment with my girlfriend so that we can get a doctor's opinion. Thanks.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50552203]Will get myself checked out then just in case. I always used condoms except one time with my ex. Never had a UTI myself but I'll go get checked too. Will also go for an appointment with my girlfriend so that we can get a doctor's opinion. Thanks.[/QUOTE] Once is enough to catch an STD or getting someone pregnant

[QUOTE=Pascall;50551584]Regarding STD/STIs, regardless of your sexual history/partners/medical history, you should be getting checked regularly anyway. Once a year seems to be the medical consensus. Keeps you safe and healthy.[/QUOTE] thankfully with the amount of sex i`m having i don`t have to ever worry about catching an std(unless some junkie stabs me with aids-ridden syringe) or god forbid fathering a child. always look on the bright side of things, right?

[QUOTE=Advisor;50562972]thankfully with the amount of sex i`m having i don`t have to ever worry about catching an std(unless some junkie stabs me with aids-ridden syringe) or god forbid fathering a child. always look on the bright side of things, right?[/QUOTE] I'd go get your junk looked at regularly, sexually active or otherwise. At least once you hit adulthood. Just because why not!! Gotta get checked up at the doctors and shit.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50563372]I'd go get your junk looked at regularly, sexually active or otherwise. At least once you hit adulthood. Just because why not!! Gotta get checked up at the doctors and shit.[/QUOTE] Most action you'll get all year!

Well obviously if you have the money for it, I mean lol.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50563545]Cause it costs $$$$[/QUOTE] If ya ain't got the money for STD tests and condoms, then ya ain't got the money to be fuckin people man. Stay at home and use your hand till you can find a decent job.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50564712]Been with the same person for 5 1/2 years, a little late for me to get paranoid about STDs![/QUOTE] Now this is a buzz kill but some people do cheat.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50565386]Not with good communication, understanding, and perseverance to adversity. I'm not going to get an STD test out of paranoia of my girlfriend cheating, that's just silly. That'd be a sign of a whole lotta trust issues.[/QUOTE] Not implying it's happening to you, just saying that it is a possibility. Also take my things in regards to girlfriends with a grain of salt the last one I had was so abusive I got stockholm syndrome.

Hey guys, I haven't really posted on this thread in a long long time. I think I fucked up.. Basically I've been best friends with this girl for the past 12 years (since around 7th grade) and I've had a crush on her going on and off for a lot of that time. Thing is, about a month and a half ago she said she loved me and we dated for a month. Things were going really smoothly and I don't really think they could have gone better. Thing is, last week I was on vacation at my parents' house and she was at hers' and we weren't really talking that much during that time, which didn't really faze me, but somehow got to her. I mean we were talking some 10 times a day, but nothing special. And one of the nights she just sends me a text saying something along the lines of "I'm starting to feel like you don't really care for me. This isn't really going well..." This provoked a rather messy set of texts in which I was trying to explain I didn't really feel like something was wrong and her saying she had no patience for "this shit" right now and that we might aswell talk some other time. And I'm like sure. The next day I asked her if we could talk and she just said "What's the point?" which kinda left me without much to say. I had 3 college projects + work to take care of and I really didn't have the time for this drama, so I waited until I had some time so we could talk in peace without me having my head somewhere else. Well this is where I fucked up, apparently waiting 6 days for things to settle is way too much (which I know it is) and when I called her to talk she basically just laid it on me about how this isn't good for her at all and I was being selfish and my priorities are all wrong and that I didn't care enough. I explained to her exactly that it's not that I don't consider her important, it's just I couldn't spare the time in those specific days due to deadlines and stress, plus the fact that things would have gone south if I didn't have my head straight when we talked. All she kept saying was that it wasn't worth it and that we should probably go back to being friends.. I don't really know what to do. I really like her but maybe she's right, we're not really ready for a relationship and honestly the perks aren't really being worth it. I don't even think things can go back to how they used to be between us right now. She holds a grudge like no-one else and it's a real pain. She won't forgive anyone for something they've done 2 years ago without them specifically being sorry and even then she makes sure to remind of it every now and then. Also we have some (pretty expensive) tickets for a festival in two weeks and I'm not sure she still wants to come. Ugh

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. To me it sounds like she's silently demanding that you contact her as often as SHE wants, like expecting you to psychically know when and how often she wants to make contact. She's testing you on things you don't know you're being tested on, and it's a pretty manipulative way to go about ANY kind of relationship. It would be one thing if she wanted to talk to you about something [i]really important[/i] and you were actively neglecting her, but what it sounds like is that she just holds this arbitrary "contact quota" that people in a relationship have to periodically meet. A more reasonable person would just contact YOU when they want to talk, not wait for you to do it unprompted and get upset when you don't. A more reasonable person would also make some effort to understand when you're tied up or stressed out in a busy time. She's holding you to an arbitrary, unrealistic standard that only exists in her head until you do something that she considers wrong.

[QUOTE=ZpankR;50567049]Hey guys, I haven't really posted on this thread in a long long time. I think I fucked up.. Basically I've been best friends with this girl for the past 12 years (since around 7th grade) and I've had a crush on her going on and off for a lot of that time. Thing is, about a month and a half ago she said she loved me and we dated for a month. Things were going really smoothly and I don't really think they could have gone better. Thing is, last week I was on vacation at my parents' house and she was at hers' and we weren't really talking that much during that time, which didn't really faze me, but somehow got to her. I mean we were talking some 10 times a day, but nothing special. And one of the nights she just sends me a text saying something along the lines of "I'm starting to feel like you don't really care for me. This isn't really going well..." This provoked a rather messy set of texts in which I was trying to explain I didn't really feel like something was wrong and her saying she had no patience for "this shit" right now and that we might aswell talk some other time. And I'm like sure. The next day I asked her if we could talk and she just said "What's the point?" which kinda left me without much to say. I had 3 college projects + work to take care of and I really didn't have the time for this drama, so I waited until I had some time so we could talk in peace without me having my head somewhere else. Well this is where I fucked up, apparently waiting 6 days for things to settle is way too much (which I know it is) and when I called her to talk she basically just laid it on me about how this isn't good for her at all and I was being selfish and my priorities are all wrong and that I didn't care enough. I explained to her exactly that it's not that I don't consider her important, it's just I couldn't spare the time in those specific days due to deadlines and stress, plus the fact that things would have gone south if I didn't have my head straight when we talked. All she kept saying was that it wasn't worth it and that we should probably go back to being friends.. I don't really know what to do. I really like her but maybe she's right, we're not really ready for a relationship and honestly the perks aren't really being worth it. I don't even think things can go back to how they used to be between us right now. She holds a grudge like no-one else and it's a real pain. She won't forgive anyone for something they've done 2 years ago without them specifically being sorry and even then she makes sure to remind of it every now and then. Also we have some (pretty expensive) tickets for a festival in two weeks and I'm not sure she still wants to come. Ugh[/QUOTE] Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet bud. A person like that selfishly demanding that they take precedence over far more important things (like work and college) is not a person you want to be dating. She's basically running your relationship the way she wants to run it. She's forcing you to conform to her schedule and expects you to pick it up and stick with it by using telepathy. If she wants to talk with you but refuses to initiate conversation then thats her own fuckin' problem, not yours. Yea it sucks that you've liked her for a while and known her for a while but she still sounds like a shitty person and someone who would be a pain in the ass to date. Get out and stay out of her.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50568547]It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. To me it sounds like she's silently demanding that you contact her as often as SHE wants, like expecting you to psychically know when and how often she wants to make contact. She's testing you on things you don't know you're being tested on, and it's a pretty manipulative way to go about ANY kind of relationship. It would be one thing if she wanted to talk to you about something [i]really important[/i] and you were actively neglecting her, but what it sounds like is that she just holds this arbitrary "contact quota" that people in a relationship have to periodically meet. A more reasonable person would just contact YOU when they want to talk, not wait for you to do it unprompted and get upset when you don't. A more reasonable person would also make some effort to understand when you're tied up or stressed out in a busy time. She's holding you to an arbitrary, unrealistic standard that only exists in her head until you do something that she considers wrong.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50568777]Shes clingy and insecure. There are definetely some underlying problems there.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50568782]Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet bud. A person like that selfishly demanding that they take precedence over far more important things (like work and college) is not a person you want to be dating. She's basically running your relationship the way she wants to run it. She's forcing you to conform to her schedule and expects you to pick it up and stick with it by using telepathy. If she wants to talk with you but refuses to initiate conversation then thats her own fuckin' problem, not yours. Yea it sucks that you've liked her for a while and known her for a while but she still sounds like a shitty person and someone who would be a pain in the ass to date. Get out and stay out of her.[/QUOTE] I think you guys are right. She's a great friend but she's terribly insecure and I don't think I'll ever fit her idea of a perfect relationship. How do we even go back to being friends again? It's gonna make things really awkward

[QUOTE=ZpankR;50569934]How do we even go back to being friends again?[/QUOTE] You don't

honestly that's still the scariest thing about relationships to me like my girlfriend is my best friend and if we end up breaking up somewhere down the road it's gonna really, really suck

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;50543160]So I've been seeing this girl for a month or so. So Thursday she were at my house and slept over and everything was fine, she was happy and I was happy. So yesterday i had an after work with work and we ended up going out to a local night club. After that we went to buy something to eat and suddenly I see her with her friends but then she goes to the toilet and this guy follows her and they both get in and stay there for like 15 mins. Then they went out I said hi and left not so happy. I mean, I definitely know that she liked me a lot because she wanted to date and do stuff with me and it was great but seeing what I saw just makes me feel like shit. A hangover and that shit is not a good combination. Also this is not the first time thing like this happens to me so I feel cursed or something.[/QUOTE] One month seeing her And you've already gone through this? Stop seeing her. Period. Last sentence: look up gambler's fallacy.

[QUOTE=ZpankR;50567049]Hey guys, I haven't really posted on this thread in a long long time. I think I fucked up.. Basically I've been best friends with this girl for the past 12 years (since around 7th grade) and I've had a crush on her going on and off for a lot of that time. Thing is, about a month and a half ago she said she loved me and we dated for a month. Things were going really smoothly and I don't really think they could have gone better. Thing is, last week I was on vacation at my parents' house and she was at hers' and we weren't really talking that much during that time, which didn't really faze me, but somehow got to her. I mean we were talking some 10 times a day, but nothing special. And one of the nights she just sends me a text saying something along the lines of "I'm starting to feel like you don't really care for me. This isn't really going well..." This provoked a rather messy set of texts in which I was trying to explain I didn't really feel like something was wrong and her saying she had no patience for "this shit" right now and that we might aswell talk some other time. And I'm like sure. The next day I asked her if we could talk and she just said "What's the point?" which kinda left me without much to say. I had 3 college projects + work to take care of and I really didn't have the time for this drama, so I waited until I had some time so we could talk in peace without me having my head somewhere else. Well this is where I fucked up, apparently waiting 6 days for things to settle is way too much (which I know it is) and when I called her to talk she basically just laid it on me about how this isn't good for her at all and I was being selfish and my priorities are all wrong and that I didn't care enough. I explained to her exactly that it's not that I don't consider her important, it's just I couldn't spare the time in those specific days due to deadlines and stress, plus the fact that things would have gone south if I didn't have my head straight when we talked. All she kept saying was that it wasn't worth it and that we should probably go back to being friends.. I don't really know what to do. I really like her but maybe she's right, we're not really ready for a relationship and honestly the perks aren't really being worth it. I don't even think things can go back to how they used to be between us right now. She holds a grudge like no-one else and it's a real pain. She won't forgive anyone for something they've done 2 years ago without them specifically being sorry and even then she makes sure to remind of it every now and then. Also we have some (pretty expensive) tickets for a festival in two weeks and I'm not sure she still wants to come. Ugh[/QUOTE] That woman is toxic. And insecure as fuck. That's why she needs constant attention and validation. Almost as if you're entirely responsible for her well being. So she's putting all the responsibility of the relationship on you. Also the fact that she said she loved youright away proves that she just wants to hold you. That behavior will bring nothing more for you other than drain your self esteem and patience. I'm gonna risk projecting my past experience with my ex on your story, but I've been through the same thing not so long ago. Even though she is your long date friend, forget about her. You have done nothing wrong.

This is kind of an odd question but I need to know. Has anyone licked legs of a woman and felt the shaved sharp hair tips with their tongues? I need to know because I realized that it turns me on immensely and I don't know if it can be felt on every woman's leg. Do you need to be really hairy naturally for that to happen or would it be felt even with little amount of hair follicle sockets?