Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=ZenX2;50700273]My GF and I are long-distance for the summer do you guys have any tips or things to do with your long-distance SO We've been doing Facetime and playing games together so far and I'm gonna visit her in a month[/QUOTE] SKYPE SEX!

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;50699857][b]Why do you have to answer to your ex about who you're sleeping with now?[/b] When you say "started talking" do you mean "got back together"? Because that's the only way I can see it being any of her business, or even mattering to her[/QUOTE] Exactly, this is what I thought. & No sorry, I meant we started texting/messaging/snapchatting each other again

She thinks I'm mad at her for not having feelings for me, when I have feelings for her. What the hell? I'm definitely not mad and I definitely do not have feelings for her and just want to be friends, I just want to go back to the way things were. I'm kind of insulted that she thinks I'm the kind of guy who would be upset over something like that even if I did like her romantically. I really don't want something as petty as this to ruin the amazing friendship and connection we both have. I really wanted to just accept that we did what we did and move on but it's like she's not letting us. What can I do?

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50702778]She thinks I'm mad at her for not having feelings for me, when I have feelings for her. What the hell? I'm definitely not mad and I definitely do not have feelings for her and just want to be friends, I just want to go back to the way things were. I'm kind of insulted that she thinks I'm the kind of guy who would be upset over something like that even if I did like her romantically. I really don't want something as petty as this to ruin the amazing friendship and connection we both have. I really wanted to just accept that we did what we did and move on but it's like she's not letting us. What can I do?[/QUOTE] Then tell her you don't have feelings for her? She sounds pretty childish imo.

We both said that we like each other the morning after we cuddled, and we were both obviously just still in that emotional high I guess. But after time passed I knew to accept that most of what we said was just fluff, but it feels like she still thinks I like her. So it's a little one sided. She can be childish at times even though we are really good friends. She just got out of high school and I'm 2 years older so I can sort of understand, but I really don't want to make things worse between us by bringing this up again, because I know she doesn't wanna talk about it, but I really feel judged here. I think I'll talk to her / text about it next time I get s chance

[QUOTE=DELL;50702266]SKYPE SEX![/QUOTE] I've thought about it but she has some sex-anxiety so I'm worried the idea would make her uncomfortable but I think I'll bring it up. That and/or sexting

Update: we are no longer friends!

Sorry you guys aren't friends anymore, but from your posts she seemed pretty unstable, could be a blessing in disguise.

Guys I have kind of an odd question but I need to know. So you know how, for example, in Tinder or something, you kinda judge people by their looks as to how they act or what their personality is like? In your case, how accurate your judgments have been? Do you think it's possible to tell about person's personality just by neutral mugshots and gauge how well you two would vibe? What is your opinion?

[QUOTE=NixNax123;50704221]Update: we are no longer friends![/QUOTE] You dodged a bullet dood. This girls been stringing you along for months. Wash your hands of her and be done with it.

[QUOTE=stosebalec;50705818]Guys I have kind of an odd question but I need to know. So you know how, for example, in Tinder or something, you kinda judge people by their looks as to how they act or what their personality is like? In your case, how accurate your judgments have been? Do you think it's possible to tell about person's personality just by neutral mugshots and gauge how well you two would vibe? What is your opinion?[/QUOTE] Personally I have no experience of Tinder or anything of the sort and I kinda dislike the whole idea with it. I don't think you can judge someones personality through Tinder, although some pointers could potentionally be given, like if they are vain, likes to work out, doesn't like to work out, or meth addict. If you find someone attractive just go for it I say, then if/when you meet you obviously get a fuller picture. Worst case scenario, they're not your type.

Tinder is primarily used for hookups. Personality typically doesn't matter too much. Use OKCupid if you're actually seeking relationships.

[QUOTE=Pascall;50708682]Tinder is primarily used for hookups. Personality typically doesn't matter too much. Use OKCupid if you're actually seeking relationships.[/QUOTE] I've only gone on dates and been in a couple of long-term relationships. How do Tinder hookups even work? Are you supposed to take them out first? Is there an actual date involved or do you just go back to somebody's place? I feel like I have to buy them dinner and stuff I might as well just go to the Asian "massage" place down the street and save the hassle.

Depends on the person lol. I mean if they wanna go out somewhere, most people prefer bars and stuff.

I met my first girlfriend through tinder, only pursued it because our lives had crossed paths briefly once before (had been in a class together at a CC, then ended up at the same uni) Ended up in a terrible codependent shitshow of a relationship because she was bipolar and unstable (and I have depression which was particularly bad at the time) and I got trapped in the "I want to help her" mindset which became the "oh god she has no friends and will probably kill herself if I don't give her unreasonable amounts of support" mindset All in all it was completely over after 2 months, but the constant intense stress and some particularly traumatic incidents left me a dissociated zombie for a few months. Now I'm in a relationship with one of my best friends and there is a world of difference

[QUOTE=Pascall;50708682]Tinder is primarily used for hookups. Personality typically doesn't matter too much. Use OKCupid if you're actually seeking relationships.[/QUOTE] plenty of fish is good too, has a more active userbase in my experience.

I am currently deployed overseas and I am returning to the states, my friend says she likes me and she wants to date, but I don't know the next step; any advice?

If you like her too, take her for a date when you get back and see if you have chemistry?

so my gf assured me that she'd have the house to herself most of the day yesterday and i figured we should definitely be there just to make sure no one tries to break into the house or anything wink wink anyway we were getting a bit hot and heavy and we were in a particularly vulnerable position when she heard the front door open, her dad had just got home from work i've never gotten dressed so quickly and so quietly. somehow we weren't caught, although i think i saw my life flash before my eyes i'm sure he knows what's going on but he didn't say anything, luckily and then she was frustrated and raring to go for the rest of the day and basically attacked me whenever we had a moment's privacy, which was hilarious and i really enjoyed i'm still way too scared to go back to her house though, or possibly look her dad in the eye

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50724629]so my gf assured me that she'd have the house to herself most of the day yesterday and i figured we should definitely be there just to make sure no one tries to break into the house or anything wink wink anyway we were getting a bit hot and heavy and we were in a particularly vulnerable position when she heard the front door open, her dad had just got home from work i've never gotten dressed so quickly and so quietly. somehow we weren't caught, although i think i saw my life flash before my eyes i'm sure he knows what's going on but he didn't say anything, luckily and then she was frustrated and raring to go for the rest of the day and basically attacked me whenever we had a moment's privacy, which was hilarious and i really enjoyed i'm still way too scared to go back to her house though, or possibly look her dad in the eye[/QUOTE] i had a few of these experiences years ago and shit can get scary but it definitely makes for a good story, especially if you just barely manage to get out of there if you have to leave or your partner does although at the time i was always the calm one and my girlfriend panicked bad the few times it happened

[QUOTE=psychojake;50723956]If you like her too, take her for a date when you get back and see if you have chemistry?[/QUOTE] I do, I kinda been out of the dating game so I get all flustered trying to talk to her normally when we get all flirty

I passed the honey moon stage with my girlfriend and I still love her so much as a person after being able to appreciate/understand her flaws and she does the same for me; feels good. Was kind of worried about how that would go for us

how long did that last?

Heading to college, anybody have any idea for getting a relationship?

You coming out of high school?

Girl I'm seeing has this thing of agreeing to meet up or hang out only to back out last minute with some excuse. Don't know how to feel about that.

[QUOTE=Mr. N;50735487]Girl I'm seeing has this thing of agreeing to meet up or hang out only to back out last minute with some excuse. Don't know how to feel about that.[/QUOTE] That shit is annoying as fuck and I usually drop people like that because it gets old fast.

[QUOTE=Deathtrooper2;50735213]Heading to college, anybody have any idea for getting a relationship?[/QUOTE] Join a few clubs for stuff youre into. See if you can meet someone through there. just be social in your classes and make friends and youll meet someone eventually.

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;50735515]That shit is annoying as fuck and I usually drop people like that because it gets old fast.[/QUOTE] And it's usually night stuff too so they are usually weak fucking excuses, don't know why she's even bothering. Got a party going tonight, if she bails again I'm just going to drop it because it does my fucking head in.

I've had it happen more times to me than I can remember. I couldn't even get people to come and watch my band play live, when I actually had a band. Even when it was free entry. I've given up on even trying to make plans with people because I'm sick of them cancelling on me at the last minute. I either do things by myself or don't go out. Sure it's lonely but it's a result of being disappointed so many times. Is it worse to be lonely or disappointed? I can't tell.