Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

What I would say is that everyone gets those feelings of "I wonder what would have happened with X if I had done Y" but the fact is, it's in the past now, and you made the choices that seemed right to you at the time. Don't dwell on the past my dude, just look to the future and how you can stop yourself from feeling that way again

Hey pals, I've been feeling fairly odd recently. I've been companion sick. I really have been wanting to find a person to start to settle down with, but the dating scene has been stale where I live. I have found no one who is even remotely interested in me, my hobbies, and what I offer. I've tried messaging exes just so I can have someone to chat to, but no one has been wanting to help support. When I was 14I flirted a lot with in high school. We met online through an obscure social network and instantly connected. We were online lovebirds, always "lel hacking" each other, posting cute notes and constantly flirting or sexting. The week I was prepared to meet her, she got shipped back to her home city by her mother. We tried to keep in touch, but it just faded over time. Circa 2012, just got out of high school. We started chatting again, back to the same antics. Though things apparently took a dark turn, where she just was not interested. Straight up told me she was using me for emotional support. I over-reacted and straight up told her to fuck off and never chat again. Of course that never happened, a couple months later we regain friendship and she's been an overall bro for me. Helping me through break-ups, helping me vent, and being a general friend. That really only happened on command though because of that distance gap and she was in a committed relationship. I decided to chat with her about the new WoW expansion and stuff coming up recently. Shits cool, but I've been getting this depression lately being companion sick. I've been striving for some kind of intimate attention, so I bit the bullet and just told her "I miss flirting with you". I was expecting to be stabbed in the heart, I thought I did the stupidest thing bringing up something that we did eight years ago. I thought she had moved on. Apparently not, she's been dying to see me. It's only been something I've recently noticed because she started liking a lot of my posts and photos on Facebook. She has been too shy to send an IM. I basically poured my heart out to her, and she accepted my advance. I apparently am now flying out in the middle of August to finally meet her. One half of me is like "HOLY SHIT THIS IS FUCKING AWESOME", the other half is making me think that this might be immature for me to spend $800 right before starting college. Not sure how I should feel about it. I'm thinking I might commit because time is of the essence in something like this. If the interest is strong now, grab it by the horns and ride the wave. I really hope I'm not making a mistake.

yeah no offense but you jumped on it way too quickly, you're lonely and depressed and you jumped on the first person who responded to you favorably. you haven't even started college? you honestly should not be "committing" to something like this just because you feel lonely and depressed. there are much cheaper ways to deal with your depression that will allow you to find healthy relationships around you instead of far away. maybe try seeing a therapist? a huge misconception that i see in people who suffer from depression is that all they need is love to fix their issues, but that's not true in the slightest. most of the time getting into a relationship as a method to fix loneliness just leads to failed relationships. you're just going to be dumping your loneliness and depression on another person, expecting them to hold the burden so you don't have to think about it you're not getting depression from being companion sick, you're getting "companion sick" because you have depression homie

None taken, that's why I wanted to post about it. It was a heat of the moment thing that kept me daydreaming for the 24 hour period. I agree that this possibly might not be a permanent fix, but it's the chance that I can finally meet my childhood sweetheart (that sounds silly when it was all online). Relationship or friendship, I want to connect with her. The reason I want to do this is the job security I have right now. A $800 sink would not be too big of a deal, it would only offset my first two weeks of school (working more hours) which it is back to school season so computer repairs are high, aka more money in my pocket. I want to have a formal date with her, get to know her again before I decide if I want to commit a further relationship. At this moment we're just chatting and getting comfortable with each other before I purchase plane tickets. The most I have committed to plans is booking off a weekend. As for the therapist, yeah I guess that would be a good idea. Striving for an intimate relationship long distance with her is just a set-up for failure and it would be good to learn how to manage my depression and sexual urges if I don't have her/things don't work.

We didnt end up eating the sammiches, but did end up having super hot camper sex the night before. Anyway the proposal went well. I no longer have a girlfriend, but got a fiance.

[QUOTE=Birdman101;50769310]We didnt end up eating the sammiches, but did end up having super hot camper sex the night before. Anyway the proposal went well. I no longer have a girlfriend, but got a fiance.[/QUOTE] congrats man, must be super exciting for you both!

[QUOTE=Birdman101;50769310]I no longer have a girlfriend[/QUOTE] aw, shit [quote]but got a fiancé[/quote] Oh shit!

the sandwiches were gone and they had nothing else to do

[QUOTE=isreal?;49439041]The best three things that help me get through breakups are as follows: Marijuana Gym membership School/class[/QUOTE] Finding someone else fast is always good. People would say this kind of person is "on the rebound." You're not gonna find love when getting into a quick relationship after breaking up, but it puts some nice space between the previous relationship. Sort of a fresh start. Also, someone else mentioned talking to friends about your feelings. That's def useful. They say girls get over their ex's fast because they cry, talk to their friends a lot, and get all their emotions out. While guys try to play it cool, which makes the bad feelings linger much longer. Have fun~

So I had what you may call a "small argument" with my girlfriend over me not liking the way she shares some of my photos we take when together on her facebook because of me feeling uncomfortable with them. Let me explain where my reserves about it come from first. She has a lot of facebook friends. Some of them she doesn't know in person but added because they belong to some facebook groups she follows. I have no problem with her sharing photos of me when normal, or photos of both of us. The problem is that we sometimes take photos of each other making silly faces or silly poses and I usually expect those to stay between us two or just to be posted on my profile with my permission. So what pretty much happened is that we spent 2 weeks here at my place and it was great. We both love to joke around and take pictures of each other and this one time we were in bed, she went to the bathroom and I quickly put on a pair of silly glasses, a cowboy hat and a fake revolver and just stood there in my underpants waiting for her. When she opened the door she burst out laughing and she told me to hold on, taking her camera from her bag and took a bunch of pictures of me. I'm totally ok with that. Me and my friends usually post each other on facebook in weird poses in each other's profiles but only for our friends that actually know us to see. However hours after she gets home, I turn on my facebook and notice she posted those photos in her main public photo album and there were already some likes and some comments from people I had no idea who they were on those photos. I panicked and got a bit mad, and told her to take them down immediately because I didn't feel comfortable AT ALL sharing them with people I don't know. She told me "but you and your friends post silly pictures of yourselves all the time on your walls" and I'm like "yeah, but we do that with permission from each other and are well aware of who can and cannot see them". She took em down and I explained her as calmly and as rationally as I could that I didn't feel comfortable with that at all, and it wasn't because of me feeling ashamed of her, it was because I felt ashamed of being exposed to people I don't know. (and she doesn't know either). She said she understood and took em down, but I felt that it all made her feel incredibly silly and that I may have given her the false impression that I'm, somehow, ashamed of herself or ashamed to assume the relationship in public. It's not that at all. I sometimes do cringe at some of her attempts at being funny on my wall though, but I never tell her that. I feel that we have different senses of humor in certain things but I also feel like she tries to hard to please me and to be as cool as the other friends of mine. She tries to hard sometimes and misses the point. I sometimes feel that she's "too much in love" with me (as silly as it may sound" and it sometimes scares me. (not that I'm planning on jumping out the boat, she's an amazing woman). but that's completely different from my original point in this post and the only thing she does on facebook that inexplicably disturbs me. Am I being unfair? Any of you went through the same?

So I just got the number of a cute waitress who took an interest in the shirt I was wearing, and it turns out she's a big anime fan. So we struck up a covno, and I got her digits. I've never done something like that before, and I have no prior experience with flirting or dating. What do now?

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50778214]So I had what you may call a "small argument" with my girlfriend over me not liking the way she shares some of my photos we take when together on her facebook because of me feeling uncomfortable with them. Let me explain where my reserves about it come from first. She has a lot of facebook friends. Some of them she doesn't know in person but added because they belong to some facebook groups she follows. I have no problem with her sharing photos of me when normal, or photos of both of us. The problem is that we sometimes take photos of each other making silly faces or silly poses and I usually expect those to stay between us two or just to be posted on my profile with my permission. So what pretty much happened is that we spent 2 weeks here at my place and it was great. We both love to joke around and take pictures of each other and this one time we were in bed, she went to the bathroom and I quickly put on a pair of silly glasses, a cowboy hat and a fake revolver and just stood there in my underpants waiting for her. When she opened the door she burst out laughing and she told me to hold on, taking her camera from her bag and took a bunch of pictures of me. I'm totally ok with that. Me and my friends usually post each other on facebook in weird poses in each other's profiles but only for our friends that actually know us to see. However hours after she gets home, I turn on my facebook and notice she posted those photos in her main public photo album and there were already some likes and some comments from people I had no idea who they were on those photos. I panicked and got a bit mad, and told her to take them down immediately because I didn't feel comfortable AT ALL sharing them with people I don't know. She told me "but you and your friends post silly pictures of yourselves all the time on your walls" and I'm like "yeah, but we do that with permission from each other and are well aware of who can and cannot see them". She took em down and I explained her as calmly and as rationally as I could that I didn't feel comfortable with that at all, and it wasn't because of me feeling ashamed of her, it was because I felt ashamed of being exposed to people I don't know. (and she doesn't know either). She said she understood and took em down, but I felt that it all made her feel incredibly silly and that I may have given her the false impression that I'm, somehow, ashamed of herself or ashamed to assume the relationship in public. It's not that at all. I sometimes do cringe at some of her attempts at being funny on my wall though, but I never tell her that. I feel that we have different senses of humor in certain things but I also feel like she tries to hard to please me and to be as cool as the other friends of mine. She tries to hard sometimes and misses the point. I sometimes feel that she's "too much in love" with me (as silly as it may sound" and it sometimes scares me. (not that I'm planning on jumping out the boat, she's an amazing woman). but that's completely different from my original point in this post and the only thing she does on facebook that inexplicably disturbs me. Am I being unfair? Any of you went through the same?[/QUOTE] I can see both sides of this - some people prefer to be more private about their lives (including me) but on the other hand it feels like you may have over-reacted a shade. It doesn't seem like you communicated this desire to her effectively at any point prior to this and I guess that's the main issue.

[QUOTE=BoxinShrimp;50778473]So I just got the number of a cute waitress who took an interest in the shirt I was wearing, and it turns out she's a big anime fan. So we struck up a covno, and I got her digits. I've never done something like that before, and I have no prior experience with flirting or dating. What do now?[/QUOTE] You got her number, you gotta chat her up. What's the worse that could happen, a stranger that you might not meet ever again saying no to your date arrangement?

[QUOTE=BoxinShrimp;50778473]So I just got the number of a cute waitress who took an interest in the shirt I was wearing, and it turns out she's a big anime fan. So we struck up a covno, and I got her digits. I've never done something like that before, and I have no prior experience with flirting or dating. What do now?[/QUOTE] they say there are rules about calling or texting or whatever but ignore those, who cares text her and ask if she wants to get coffee some time (and don't do it at the diner she works at unless that's the only option) you don't need to dress up or anything, it's casual. dress the same way you'd dress if you were meeting friends somewhere.

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;50778564]You got her number, you gotta chat her up. What's the worse that could happen, a stranger that you might not meet ever again saying no to your date arrangement?[/QUOTE] Is there a period of time I should wait before talking to her? I don't want to look desperate or anything like that [QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50778677]they say there are rules about calling or texting or whatever but ignore those, who cares text her and ask if she wants to get coffee some time (and don't do it at the diner she works at unless that's the only option) you don't need to dress up or anything, it's casual. dress the same way you'd dress if you were meeting friends somewhere.[/QUOTE] Ah. Okay, thanks.

[QUOTE=BoxinShrimp;50778682]Is there a period of time I should wait before talking to her? I don't want to look desperate or anything like that[/QUOTE] Unless you sound really weird and off you won't come off as desperate, she could think she left her mark on you Just don't wait too long, that's insulting

I'm having a lot of trouble meeting someone and getting into a relationship. I tried dating sites and even places like /soc/ on 4chan (I know) and I've been careful to make sure that the person I'm speaking to is the real deal, but often times I just can't seem to get anyone's interest in me. I also try to start conversations somehow, read the persons biography and then try to speak to them about it and relate in some way. I have been told by my friends that I have a good personality and I'm good looking (wouldn't say amazing) and all that, but so far all the girls I have met either already have boyfriends or don't like me enough. Man, I'm 22 and I still haven't managed to form a relationship. I honestly feel pathetic. Edit: And yeah I did try meeting people outside but kind of the same deal.

are you in school? what's a typical weekday look like for you? typical weekend?

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50780517]are you in school? what's a typical weekday look like for you? typical weekend?[/QUOTE] I'm in college right now but there aren't many people who I'm attracted to there. I'm doing acting and typical weekdays are me either in college, doing extra hours at my part time job (waiter), practicing my acting by myself or just lying in bed with my laptop, resting. Weekends are the same thing minus the college part. I can't go to pubs or clubs since I work on evenings until late night, and even then I'm using my money for rent, food and transport. I mostly 'go out' when I hear that my friends are going somewhere - if it's not during my shifts.

[QUOTE=GlebGuy;50780591]I'm in college right now but there aren't many people who I'm attracted to there. I'm doing acting and typical weekdays are me either in college, doing extra hours at my part time job (waiter), practicing my acting by myself or just lying in bed with my laptop, resting. Weekends are the same thing minus the college part. I can't go to pubs or clubs since I work on evenings until late night, and even then I'm using my money for rent, food and transport. I mostly 'go out' when I hear that my friends are going somewhere - if it's not during my shifts.[/QUOTE] if she lets you rub the pussy through her pants it's over, that's when you go in. [editline]26th July 2016[/editline] wait im replying to the wrong person but solid advice overall.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;50778214]So I had what you may call a "small argument" with my girlfriend over me not liking the way she shares some of my photos we take when together on her facebook because of me feeling uncomfortable with them. Let me explain where my reserves about it come from first. She has a lot of facebook friends. Some of them she doesn't know in person but added because they belong to some facebook groups she follows. I have no problem with her sharing photos of me when normal, or photos of both of us. The problem is that we sometimes take photos of each other making silly faces or silly poses and I usually expect those to stay between us two or just to be posted on my profile with my permission. So what pretty much happened is that we spent 2 weeks here at my place and it was great. We both love to joke around and take pictures of each other and this one time we were in bed, she went to the bathroom and I quickly put on a pair of silly glasses, a cowboy hat and a fake revolver and just stood there in my underpants waiting for her. When she opened the door she burst out laughing and she told me to hold on, taking her camera from her bag and took a bunch of pictures of me. I'm totally ok with that. Me and my friends usually post each other on facebook in weird poses in each other's profiles but only for our friends that actually know us to see. However hours after she gets home, I turn on my facebook and notice she posted those photos in her main public photo album and there were already some likes and some comments from people I had no idea who they were on those photos. I panicked and got a bit mad, and told her to take them down immediately because I didn't feel comfortable AT ALL sharing them with people I don't know. She told me "but you and your friends post silly pictures of yourselves all the time on your walls" and I'm like "yeah, but we do that with permission from each other and are well aware of who can and cannot see them". She took em down and I explained her as calmly and as rationally as I could that I didn't feel comfortable with that at all, and it wasn't because of me feeling ashamed of her, it was because I felt ashamed of being exposed to people I don't know. (and she doesn't know either). She said she understood and took em down, but I felt that it all made her feel incredibly silly and that I may have given her the false impression that I'm, somehow, ashamed of herself or ashamed to assume the relationship in public. It's not that at all. I sometimes do cringe at some of her attempts at being funny on my wall though, but I never tell her that. I feel that we have different senses of humor in certain things but I also feel like she tries to hard to please me and to be as cool as the other friends of mine. She tries to hard sometimes and misses the point. I sometimes feel that she's "too much in love" with me (as silly as it may sound" and it sometimes scares me. (not that I'm planning on jumping out the boat, she's an amazing woman). but that's completely different from my original point in this post and the only thing she does on facebook that inexplicably disturbs me. Am I being unfair? Any of you went through the same?[/QUOTE] You over-reacted for sure, but I wouldn't say it was unfair.

[QUOTE=mzathemind;50780907]if she lets you rub the pussy through her pants it's over, that's when you go in. [editline]26th July 2016[/editline] wait im replying to the wrong person but solid advice overall.[/QUOTE] what post was that possibly a response to

I'm stuck in a rut. No amount of sex with a fuck buddy or prostitutes/strippers seems to fill the void. Feeling so empty right now and wish there was someone I could be romantically afflicted with to call my own but no one seems to turn up wherever I look.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50784339]You're trying to fill a void, but you're putting in wrongly-shaped peices. No one feels empty over just lack of sex, theres something else you're upset about.[/QUOTE] Read again bud, I'm saying I desire some real romance, and that sex just doesn't cut it.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50784614]You're putting a pretty big emphasis on relationships, too big.[/QUOTE] I don't know what else I need from my life man, I got a decent job, very good friends, I enjoy keeping up with my hobbies and working on them. There just feels like I've got a missing piece. Even more scary than being alone is the thought of finding someone but still not being satisfied.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50784659]Why are you afraid of being alone?[/QUOTE] Hmm maybe made an error saying that, not so much afraid, it's a huuuuge mixed bag of feelings to be honest. Mainly bored, empty (if that describes it right), longing to just share some times with someone. It's really hard to put into words

I hate the part of me that gets nervous whenever I don't hear from my girlfriend for a few hours, even when I know she's somewhere where she's having fun and probably shouldn't be texting me anyway. Like I know right now she's completely safe and she's hanging out with her friends and only her friends for her best friend's birthday party, but a little part in the back of my mind is just going "i hope she's okay i hope she's okay i hope she's okay" and i'm trying really hard to not text her or bug her

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50804368]I hate the part of me that gets nervous whenever I don't hear from my girlfriend for a few hours, even when I know she's somewhere where she's having fun and probably shouldn't be texting me anyway. Like I know right now she's completely safe and she's hanging out with her friends and only her friends for her best friend's birthday party, but a little part in the back of my mind is just going "i hope she's okay i hope she's okay i hope she's okay" and i'm trying really hard to not text her or bug her[/QUOTE] Are you two far away?

So I just got myself a new girlfriend! An Asian girl at that which I've always kinda wanted. Unfortunately I'm feeling incredibly guilty because the first night we sleep together I dream about being back with my ex. Fuck, I thought I was over her. I feel terrible that I may not actually be over her after all, and this new girl is really getting attached to me and was actually a virgin when we met...

And what's really the problem of not being over your ex?