Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;50805911][B]So I just got myself a new girlfriend! An Asian girl at that which I've always kinda wanted.[/B] Unfortunately I'm feeling incredibly guilty because the first night we sleep together I dream about being back with my ex. Fuck, I thought I was over her. I feel terrible that I may not actually be over her after all, and this new girl is really getting attached to me and was actually a virgin when we met...[/QUOTE] This part sounds like you're talking about a new car lmao

Yeah that's a little weird.

Yea just picked up a 1995 model female Negro, always wanted one of those.

How's that weird? He found himself a person who happens to have specific traits he enjoys more

This cute girl that I hooked up with at Anime Expo is coming over for a week and a half in nine days I'm so hyped [editline]31st July 2016[/editline] I hope I didn't make a bad decision, if things get weird that's a long time for her to be here.... But I think everything is probably going to be fine.

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;50807552]How's that weird? He found himself a person who happens to have specific traits he enjoys more[/QUOTE] Because it's weird to go "just got an Asian girlfriend, been looking for one for a while". [editline]1st August 2016[/editline] "Just got a girlfriend with really big tits, always wanted to date a girl with big tits". Pretty weird man.

that's actually better than saying she's asian in my opinion

I still don't see why it seems so wierd to you I'd love to find a girl with red hair, doesn't mean I just see them as prizes to gain

Nothing wrong with having preferences. It's just that his phrasing was hilariously bad.

have you heard about all those great girlfriends you can get down at secondhandgirlfriendsales.com there are some real keepers in there [editline]1st August 2016[/editline] next thing you know rare collectable emotional partners found as prizes in chip packets

How's it a bad thing to be open about always dreaming of dating someone with specific traits you always wanted? Oh it's because "what matters is the inside"? Why aren't you guys dating any obese chicks then? I personally like blondes with blue eyes, (hurrr typical). I fantasize about dating one too. How is that bad? It's because it's "racist"? I don't get it. Also my gf is brunette and has brown eyes. She looks exotic as fuck and she's beautiful to me, I love her to death and would never cheat on her. But I still like blondes too anyway. If I ever dated a blonde I would be happy about it and wouldn't feel bad about expressing it. And I believe most of you here would be happy too if they got partner with the traits they always wanted. At least he's honest about what he feels. And I don't think he needs to feel bad about something he feels based on your relative moral views on dating. Now come stone me to death too because my wee wee is racist.

what no they don't. not inherently. what a weird generalization lol. I've got no problem with people having preferences, the way the dude phrased it was just weird. you guys are making a big stink of nothing.

I apologize for the excessive sarcasm back there (and this post is NOT directed to anyone, not a reply to anyone in specific) but all I wanted to say is that physical traits are as valid as any traits for any choice in partner. Happiness and fulfillment are very different from person to person. And I think that if we're going to have a thread based on supporting people and making them feel welcome, we shouldn't jump to picking judgmentally on what they consider important in a partner. Value is a relative notion. We all learn in school that you gotta see the value of people on the inside, and that's all very beautiful and true, but doesn't necessarily mean people have to only chose partners and friends based on the "being" and reject any physical traits, even if it's a racial just because we're ashamed of feeling that way - racist. It's very interesting how society's politics also contribute a lot to how we repress our feelings. We usually feel guilty for feeling attracted to "just sex" or to specific "races", or any other characteristics that people consider superficial, and repress those feelings because they are considered wrong. For example, we sometimes feel jealousy when some other dude flirts with our girlfriend. And it causes a lot of discomfort for some people because we don't want to feel that because we associate jealousy to a bad thing. We listen to folk tales, read books and watch movies about people ruining their lives and other's over jealousy. So we push it back. "No, no. I can't feel this. It's wrong". And it bottles up. The thing is. You can and should let yourself feel that. Because feelings are feelings and they aren't, generally, going to take over your life. In a short summary. You feel "bad" things. But you just don't do bad things. If I'm not mistaken that's one of the principles of Mindfulness. Same principle goes here. "hey I got a nice blonde girl with a great pair of tits!". Sounds kinda weird. Sure. But it's ok. Most of us usually feel the same about someone at some point. I'm sure whoever's studying psychology can explain this better than I barely can.

I was just pointing out something that was supposed to be a laugh. I'd suppose a more "normal" way of wording it could have been; "So I'm in a relationship with this girl I've had a crush on for a while. And she's Asian, which I'm really into" Now I'm not in any way saying there's a right or wrong way of saying things, but I just found the way he said it hilarious. That's all, not trying to pick on anyone or throw accusations of being objectifying or anything. Just giggles, dudes and dudettes

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50811660]Its an inference. People dont get chubby for no reason. Double negative, oops.[/QUOTE] people also get chubby for health issues beyond their control like issues with their thyroid or illnesses that require them to be sedentary or bed-ridden or mental illnesses like depression, anxiety, and eating disorder, not to mention a genetic predisposition or lack of resources to help people figure out how to eat right or exercise appropriately. to say they typically have "negative traits" is really oversimplifying what could be a variety of underlying issues and they could be very nice people with great personalities. that's not to say people can't have a preference but i'd really avoid generalizing like that cuz there's no reason why you would ever need to do that...

I guess? ??? The way you were wording it though just makes it seem like that's the reason why people shouldn't date them or whatever. Just sounds weird to phrase it like that, especially when a lot of that stuff is out of their control.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50811660]Its an inference. People dont get chubby for no reason. Double negative, oops.[/QUOTE] Being overweight and being underweight are both symptoms of malnutrition. It's unfair to assume that overweight = more unhealthy when most young adults, regardless of weight, do not eat a balanced diet.

Why are you guys arguing, you all agree we were just joking about the phrasing

I have a no fat chicks policy because i am not attracted to fat chicks. Has nothing to do with inferred personality traits or any shit like that. I once knew a dood who only went after heavy girls, mostly heavy white ones. So we dubbed him Capt Ahab. He would find out their weight after he porked them and keep track of total weight of fat chicks hed boned that month. Last time i talked to him back in May he was up to almost 3 tons.

What a post.

it's weird how every time you post you seem like more of a dick

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50812697]it's weird how every time you post you seem like more of a dick[/QUOTE] Am I a dick for not being attracted to certain types of people, or a dick for having a friend who kept a tonnage count of the fat chicks he dicked?

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50812747]You can be attractive at any weight, as long as you know your how to dress your own body. I know a heavier girl that has her own sense of fashion and she's just beautiful for it.[/QUOTE] Yea no thats blatantly untrue. Not to say that fat girls/guys can't be pretty or handsome, but that doesn't mean they're attractive. Everyone has their own set preference that can't really be changed. Some doods only want to fuck black women and some girls only want fat guys. You can't force someone to change what they prefer, thats not how the world works. In my mind, you can put makeup on a cow and stick it in a pretty dress but it's still a cow. You can't do anything to an overweight girl that would make me be attracted too her, except have her lose the excessive weight. You can't force someone to be attracted to someone they're not attracted to. Thats the bottom line.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50812747]You can be attractive at any weight, as long as you know your how to dress your own body. [/QUOTE] Maybe if you don't have standards or are lying to yourself

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50813242]Okay well not [I]any[/I] weight if you guys are imagining I mean someone who qualifies for the most overweight person in America award.[/QUOTE] I'd say anybody that could no longer be classified as "chubby", no matter how they dress or present themselves, could not be reasonably called attractive. Especially if they're starting to develop/are deep into developing that fat roll.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50813202][I]Oooookayy...[/I] No one is trying to force anyone to do anything, typically people aren't as aggressive about their preferences as you.[/QUOTE] I don't mean to come off as aggressive, but I'm just sick of the whole "everyone is beautiful award so you should date a person who has no interest in taking care of their body" shit thats been going around past few years. Not everyone is beautiful and not everyone is attractive.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50813242]Okay well not [I]any[/I] weight if you guys are imagining I mean someone who qualifies for the most overweight person in America award. But there's nothing wrong with people who are overweight within reason. I guess my definition of "within reason" is "won't cause serious and obvious medical issues" and "can still actually go out and do physical things"[/QUOTE] Most people in America who are classified as overweight are overweight by less than 20 pounds, and that, for the most part, is not unattractive. But when you have someone who is 5'5 and weights 200+ pounds, thats where you kinda gotta draw the line. I've tried to date overweight women in the past and it just didn't work for me. [editline]2nd August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50813260]That's as arbitrary of my "overweight within reason," about what point would you say people leave the chub-zone?[/QUOTE] Personally I'd say when their gut starts to visibly droop down past their waist line to the point where they have to tuck it into their pants to keep it from showing. Eugh

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50813260]That's as arbitrary of my "overweight within reason," about what point would you say people leave the chub-zone?[/QUOTE] Red line The second one is still kinda pushing it but I've seen a few cute girls that heavy [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/12024286/VectorToons-Weight-059.png[/t]

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50813282]Little hard to judge with a cartoon, but only the very right picture would be leaving my "within reason"[/QUOTE] Like I said, we all have preferences. You can be attracted to women that are out of other peoples range of attractiveness, and thats OK. Everybody is different and attractiveness is completely subjective.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50813282]Little hard to judge with a cartoon, but only the very right picture would be leaving my "within reason"[/QUOTE] The one on the far right is very obese though