Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=LtKyle2;50825303]I hope this doesn't come off as one of those typical "omfg I just had sex!!" posts. Any advice on how to spice things up for next time?[/QUOTE] You don't need to "spice things up" after having sex once. Just take time to try different things and figure out what you each enjoy.

yeah doggystyle is super fucking sweet

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50825495]Doggy style is super fun, you could try that. Dont jump into BDSM or anything for round two though[/QUOTE] Mhmhm I'll be sure to ask her on doggy. Honestly I think I'm more of a reverse missionary/cowgirl kind of guy. I can't get enough of when she is on top. BDSM would never work even if I was into it since we're both submissive types. :v:

[QUOTE=LtKyle2;50825813]Mhmhm I'll be sure to ask her on doggy. Honestly I think I'm more of a [B]reverse[/B] missionary/[B]cowgirl[/B] kind of guy. I can't get enough of when she is on top. BDSM would never work even if I was into it since we're both submissive types. :v:[/QUOTE] the widowmaker

[QUOTE=Cyberuben;50822085]Not trying to start shit but just wait until one of you gets another partner / "friend" / fwb. It'll be awkward sooner than you can say it[/QUOTE] I can understand that and to be honest she said that she wouldn't want me to bring anyone back to the house and I agreed. It just rude in my opinion. But I suppose I am just going to enjoy being single for a while and enjoy the benefit not living with my mum. Lets me work on my YouTube videos, streaming and just have some general downtime. Plus when I told my mate he said he was looking to move back to South West London (we are both roughly South East) because he feels isolated from his friends (I feel the same, they are all in SW more or less) and asked if I would be interested in the early new year to find a flat/house share together. It would be nice to live with someone who is a friend as opposed to a girlfriend/ex haha. Sorry that's off topic.

[QUOTE=LtKyle2;50825813]BDSM would never work even if I was into it since we're both submissive types. :v:[/QUOTE] you say that now just wait, in six months she'll be behind you in a latex suit shoving a baseball bat into your butthole

I dumped my ex a while ago because I found her kind of boring and although I wasn't unhappy, I wasn't [I]happy[/I] either. I dumped her because I really felt like she wasn't the path I should be going down. She loved me and I just kinda... liked her. I thought I loved her for a while, and then that feeling passed. It felt like I was being dishonest saying that I loved her when she clearly loved me more. and now, in a decently large way, I regret it and I don't know why damn this sucks

well that tinder escapade came to a quick end. same day we start talking she stopped replying. bit of a shame, it's a rarity I find someone here that likes my hair :v: I sent the last message and if this thread taught me anything it's not to send any more if I stopped getting replies.

[QUOTE=dcalde78;50835801]well that tinder escapade came to a quick end. same day we start talking she stopped replying. bit of a shame, it's a rarity I find someone here that likes my hair :v: I sent the last message and if this thread taught me anything it's not to send any more if I stopped getting replies.[/QUOTE] Pro tip for tinder, plan to meet sooner than later. No chick wants to sit and talk with some guy for 4 years before they meet when theres a million other guys on there who are far more interesting and attractive than you who want to meet immediately.

I figured talking for a day or 2, nothing ridiculous. I didn't even get a chance to suggest meeting up.

the worst thing about being in a relationship is that whenever someone's super close to me or in my space, muscle memory tries to take over and i have to make sure i don't accidentally grab someone's hand or try to kiss whoever's near my face

pff just do it bro

i remember my last breakup she just texted me and said "lets break up" and i replied "ok" immediately "still friends?" "if we can still be friends it would be great" then we stopped talking or texting after that for about a year and half

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50838033]the worst thing about being in a relationship is that whenever someone's super close to me or in my space, muscle memory tries to take over and i have to make sure i don't accidentally grab someone's hand or try to kiss whoever's near my face[/QUOTE] When I'm walking with other people, I tend to have this crazy urge to hold hands with them. When I was walking with my TA while he was interviewing me for my research assistant position, I had to jam my hands as far as possible into my pockets to keep myself from grabbing his hand.

[QUOTE=phygon;50829452]I dumped my ex a while ago because I found her kind of boring and although I wasn't unhappy, I wasn't [I]happy[/I] either. I dumped her because I really felt like she wasn't the path I should be going down. She loved me and I just kinda... liked her. I thought I loved her for a while, and then that feeling passed. It felt like I was being dishonest saying that I loved her when she clearly loved me more. and now, in a decently large way, I regret it and I don't know why damn this sucks[/QUOTE] Damn this is the same exact way I felt when I broke up with my ex months ago. When i said the words "I love you" I never knew if I actually meant it. To this day I'm still unsure whether I made the right choice.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50838198]When I'm walking with other people, I tend to have this crazy urge to hold hands with them. When I was walking with my TA while he was interviewing me for my research assistant position, I had to jam my hands as far as possible into my pockets to keep myself from grabbing his hand.[/QUOTE] i was walking next to my dad earlier in home depot and our knuckles brushed and i had to fight my hands to make sure they didn't move my muscles are betraying me, my girlfriend does that a lot and i'm just used to it

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50838198]When I'm walking with other people, I tend to have this crazy urge to hold hands with them. When I was walking with my TA while he was interviewing me for my research assistant position, I had to jam my hands as far as possible into my pockets to keep myself from grabbing his hand.[/QUOTE] I do this a lot and I'm not even currently in a relationship. It's just an urge... Holding hands is cool.

So I'm chatting with this chick on OkCupid and it seems to actually be going well and she actually seems to want to respond to me and stuff and is somewhat enthusiastic about it (in the sense that she doesn't act like she wants to be ~mysterious~ or anything). I'd really like to go on a date with her. Right now chatting is cool and all but when should I start thinking about asking her out for a cup of coffee or something? I'm the kind of guy who'd always prefer meeting people in person as soon as possible so it's really hard for me to think of a good point for actually asking someone out.

[QUOTE=StrawberryClock;50839808]So I'm chatting with this chick on OkCupid and it seems to actually be going well and she actually seems to want to respond to me and stuff and is somewhat enthusiastic about it (in the sense that she doesn't act like she wants to be ~mysterious~ or anything). I'd really like to go on a date with her. Right now chatting is cool and all but when should I start thinking about asking her out for a cup of coffee or something? I'm the kind of guy who'd always prefer meeting people in person as soon as possible so it's really hard for me to think of a good point for actually asking someone out.[/QUOTE] It's best to meet someone before getting into in-depth conversation about each other online. If you want to know more about her, ask her out somewhere where you both can relax and learn more about one another.

[QUOTE=ZombieWaffle;50839830]It's best to meet someone before getting into in-depth conversation about each other online. If you want to know more about her, ask her out somewhere where you both can relax and learn more about one another.[/QUOTE] Well it's my second day chatting with her (though we've talked a fair amount and she's very quick to respond to me). Is it appropriate to ask her out? And how do I do it appropriately without looking like I'm trying too hard? I just don't know the exact words I should use.

[QUOTE=StrawberryClock;50839850]Well it's my second day chatting with her (though we've talked a fair amount and she's very quick to respond to me). Is it appropriate to ask her out? And how do I do it appropriately without looking like I'm trying too hard? I just don't know the exact words I should use.[/QUOTE] dood just ask her out, quit stressing and overthinking it. All you literally have to do is say "Hey, wanna grab a bite to eat some time?". It's that simple, just do it before she realizes how boring talking to some dood on the internet is.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50839901]dood just ask her out, quit stressing and overthinking it. All you literally have to do is say "Hey, wanna grab a bite to eat some time?". It's that simple, just do it before she realizes how boring talking to some dood on the internet is.[/QUOTE] I know, I know. I don't want to overthink it but seeing [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/cDxPjui.png[/IMG] makes me pause when thinking of asking her out. [editline]6th August 2016[/editline] Well, I just went for it right this second. Let's see how it pans out.

If you see some stupid questiom comparison bullshit on okcupid and it makes you hesitate, then youre overthinking it. 9/10 people change their answers anyway to make their % go up with people they like. Just fucking ask her dood holy shit

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50840329]If you see some stupid questiom comparison bullshit on okcupid and it makes you hesitate, then youre overthinking it. 9/10 people change their answers anyway to make their % go up with people they like. Just fucking ask her dood holy shit[/QUOTE] I did ask, she hasn't answered yet. I'm not holding my breath but it's okay.

[QUOTE=phygon;50829452]I dumped my ex a while ago because I found her kind of boring and although I wasn't unhappy, I wasn't [I]happy[/I] either. I dumped her because I really felt like she wasn't the path I should be going down. She loved me and I just kinda... liked her. I thought I loved her for a while, and then that feeling passed. It felt like I was being dishonest saying that I loved her when she clearly loved me more. and now, in a decently large way, I regret it and I don't know why damn this sucks[/QUOTE] This is like, word for word almost, how I felt about my ex I posted about a while ago (minus the regret). You'll get over it and recognize you made the right decision. It sucks at first because you miss all the good parts of the relationship and the affection and attention you had, but as long as you're relatively self sufficient I think you'll find yourself much happier after a bit, I know I am. [editline]7th August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=StrawberryClock;50839956]I know, I know. I don't want to overthink it but seeing :snip: makes me pause when thinking of asking her out. [editline]6th August 2016[/editline] Well, I just went for it right this second. Let's see how it pans out.[/QUOTE] I mean, the entire reason people go on that website is to meet people, presumably in person at some point. I think the point of that question is that some people are a bit more apprehensive/shy than others when it comes to online dating, it's not a signal that she just wants to email you once a week for the next few years.

in a bit of a pickle lads, may potentially be on the very edge of my relationship GF moved in with some 30 year old woman she met a year ago from dance classes, has been there for a month or so. Woman is fairly mothering, asks what times she'll be back in the flat and fairly anal about cleaning and all that. GF isn't particularly happy with this, but doesn't say anything to her to avoid confrontation. Relentlessy tells me she's fed up with it, I ask if she's brought it up or just mentioned a thing and she hasn't. This has ben going on for three or four weeks now. Last week her flatmate brought up that she needed to sign the flats' lease, and being backed into a corner GF messages her saying "yeah ok but unfortunately i can't handle living with you, you're too full on so i'm moving out hun". Saw screenshots of conversation, other woman is understandably upset after how pretty nasty of a thing to do was. GF was meant to be going on holiday with this person for a couple weeks this weekend as well. I've made it very clear that i'm not happy with what she did and how she could've avoided the damn thing, and that she's jeopardised her relationship with this woman and probably other people in her dance class. She's also ditched moving into a flat with some other guy a couple weeks back by doing a very similar thing, which also very closely got her excluded from her main friend group. she doesn't say much, got smashed, then the next day asks me to travel up to the city to grab a coffee (5 hour round trip) with nowhere to stay, to which I may have bluntly rejected, to which she replies a day after saying it was to "talk about us", so alarm bells are currently ringing. Has responded to one facebook message, delibrately not responding to others, and in almost every message is mentioning how hungover she is. my current dilemma is i'm totally unsure how to react to this. She's done a lot of stupid things in the last three or four months that's negatively affected her and keeps on complaining to me blaming it on other people, and combined with this stuff is starting to really make me doubt if she's who I thought she was. On another hand though, is this her calling for help and could attempt to fix whatever crap she's doing to herself now things have felt a bit distant lately so idk sorry for spam

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50838033]the worst thing about being in a relationship is that whenever someone's super close to me or in my space, muscle memory tries to take over and i have to make sure i don't accidentally grab someone's hand or try to kiss whoever's near my face[/QUOTE] Man I know right? I have frequently almost grabbed my mother's ass mid-greeting-hug. It gets worse when I'm drunk, too.

[QUOTE=Instant Mix;50845145]in a bit of a pickle lads, may potentially be on the very edge of my relationship GF moved in with some 30 year old woman she met a year ago from dance classes, has been there for a month or so. Woman is fairly mothering, asks what times she'll be back in the flat and fairly anal about cleaning and all that. GF isn't particularly happy with this, but doesn't say anything to her to avoid confrontation. Relentlessy tells me she's fed up with it, I ask if she's brought it up or just mentioned a thing and she hasn't. This has ben going on for three or four weeks now. Last week her flatmate brought up that she needed to sign the flats' lease, and being backed into a corner GF messages her saying "yeah ok but unfortunately i can't handle living with you, you're too full on so i'm moving out hun". Saw screenshots of conversation, other woman is understandably upset after how pretty nasty of a thing to do was. GF was meant to be going on holiday with this person for a couple weeks this weekend as well. I've made it very clear that i'm not happy with what she did and how she could've avoided the damn thing, and that she's jeopardised her relationship with this woman and probably other people in her dance class. She's also ditched moving into a flat with some other guy a couple weeks back by doing a very similar thing, which also very closely got her excluded from her main friend group. she doesn't say much, got smashed, then the next day asks me to travel up to the city to grab a coffee (5 hour round trip) with nowhere to stay, to which I may have bluntly rejected, to which she replies a day after saying it was to "talk about us", so alarm bells are currently ringing. Has responded to one facebook message, delibrately not responding to others, and in almost every message is mentioning how hungover she is. my current dilemma is i'm totally unsure how to react to this. She's done a lot of stupid things in the last three or four months that's negatively affected her and keeps on complaining to me blaming it on other people, and combined with this stuff is starting to really make me doubt if she's who I thought she was. On another hand though, is this her calling for help and could attempt to fix whatever crap she's doing to herself now things have felt a bit distant lately so idk sorry for spam[/QUOTE] If I were in your position, I would just tell her to talk over a phone call because you don't have the time or money to go and see her, even if thats the case. If shes just going to break up with you the second you arrive, thats kind of a wasted 5hr trip. Honestly your girlfriend sounds like selfish self-centered bitch who is absolutely toxic. If shes willing to jeopardize relationships and living situations because shes too lazy to talk with people about problems, then thats not a person you want to be with. Imagine how often shes bitched to other people about problems she's had with you but hasn't mentioned them too you.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;50845213]If I were in your position, I would just tell her to talk over a phone call because you don't have the time or money to go and see her, even if thats the case. If shes just going to break up with you the second you arrive, thats kind of a wasted 5hr trip. Honestly your girlfriend sounds like selfish self-centered bitch who is absolutely toxic. If shes willing to jeopardize relationships and living situations because shes too lazy to talk with people about problems, then thats not a person you want to be with. Imagine how often shes bitched to other people about problems she's had with you but hasn't mentioned them too you.[/QUOTE] pretty much this, but I can't imagine why a sane person would almost deliberately fuck up so many relations in such a short time. It really seems like she is having some personal issues you (Instant Mix) don't know about. Her constantly being hungover substantiates that. Call her and ask her what's going on in her head and why. If that doesn't solve anything, I would consider if it's worth trying to help her. Because if she isn't willing to solve her issues, it's a waste of effort.

So since the beginning of my current relationship I've been introduced to the world of chick flicks. It's been a mixed bag for me, haven't seen one I considered really good so far. I don't know if I've just seen average stuff, is there genuinely great stuff out there?