Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

Second times tho :ok:

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50928181]why are you so eager to lose the virginity on meaningless random sex anyway?[/QUOTE] Cause I'm 21 and it hasn't happened yet. I mean, I've never been kissed. I can't seem to find a girl so this seemed like a good idea. "seemed".

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50928181]why are you so eager to lose the virginity on meaningless random sex anyway?[/QUOTE] Because sex is great and people who are hormonal as shit really want to have it? As a human being, I'd think everyone would understand this

[QUOTE=phygon;50928253]Because sex is great and people who are hormonal as shit really want to have it? As a human being, I'd think everyone would understand this[/QUOTE] Sex on its own is boring without that special someone Sure it's great, but it's not Great

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;50928277][B]Sex on its own is boring without that special someone[/B] Sure it's great, but it's not Great[/QUOTE] not the first few times, at least in my experience Sure, after the thrill of it just happening at all goes away then hooking up is less fun, but for the first three or so times? Even if there's no connection at all it's fun (so long as you're with someone who won't be a dick about you being inexperienced)

[QUOTE=phygon;50928253]Because sex is great and people who are hormonal as shit really want to have it? As a human being, I'd think everyone would understand this[/QUOTE] It doesn't sound like this is about being horny It sounds more like feeling like you have to, in this case. Personally I wish I could still boast virginity with certainty. I know it's not as valuable to everybody but from the posts it sounds like Danny may be rushing into a potential mistake possibly out of feeling like being a virgin is a problem [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] Like if I'm wrong let me know but I'm getting the vibe he feels it is a necessity

[QUOTE=phygon;50928285]not the first few times, at least in my experience Sure, after the thrill of it just happening at all goes away then hooking up is less fun, but for the first three or so times? Even if there's no connection at all it's fun (so long as you're with someone who won't be a dick about you being inexperienced)[/QUOTE] Just remember your singular poor experience doesn't automatically mean everyone elses will be the same

I don't even comprehend how you have fun with having sex for the first time with people you aren't into I can understand one thing leading to another with an awesome person but that's not exactly what we're talking about This is a random big girl on Craigslist, not a girl next door at a party or friends friend that wanted to hang out for a bit after and ended up in bed [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] I dunno, instead of debate about the value of virginity, we should probably advise him. I can't think of much more to say, but I'm not doing him any favors derailing the question with this opinion [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] be safe and be sure

I wouldn't obsess over your virginity as well though. No one's going to give a shit if you lost it over craigslist either.

[QUOTE=dannyketch;50928053]Bored and lonely, I put up a craigslist ad in Casual Encounters. I'm 21 and a virgin. I put that in the description. Lots of spam bots and finally a woman responds, she is not a spambot, she is a 32 year old BBW and she wants to have sex with me. Help FP. What do.[/QUOTE] You'll feel worse about yourself after the deed is done than you did before. Your penis has a way of making bad ideas seem good, but once you've finished up, reality sets back in and you'll feel deeply ashamed of yourself. You'll realize in pretty short order that the few minutes of awkward and unsatisfying sex doesn't justify the feeling of humiliation you are sure to have literally the second you have climaxed. Sex is lovely when it's with somebody you care about, but sex with an older overweight stranger is only going to make you feel gross about yourself. Do yourself a favor and masterbate before committing to anything. Once you're no longer horny, you should be able to recognize it for a bad idea. I'm not saying you need to wait for your soul mate to have sex, but it will be a more positive experience for you if you are at least friendly and familiar with the person.

[QUOTE=dannyketch;50928150]Well, the whole idea was to find someone to lose my virginity too. Now that I'm this close I'm just....I dunno. I don't know what to do.[/QUOTE] Ah, well if its like that then okay i guess it would make sense but like what everyone else is saying i don't think it is worth it, at all. But a while ago there was a Reddit AMA of some escort company that was specialized for people who want to lose virginity, why not google around for that? As for losing virginity, i think i forgot what it was like but all i remember was that it was pretty tense for me and not all that great, the greatness happens after you had sex like 5 to 10 times and you start to be more comfortable and start to try out different positions

[QUOTE=phygon;50928285][I][B]not the first few times[/B][/I], at least in my experience Sure, after the thrill of it just happening at all goes away then hooking up is less fun, but for the first three or so times? Even if there's no connection at all it's fun (so long as you're with someone who won't be a dick about you being inexperienced)[/QUOTE] "The first few times" and "fun" can't really be in the same sentence without an "aren't" between them The first few times are awkward because you've never been naked with someone else, you know what to do but don't know how and you're nervous as heck (god knows I was and being nervous doesnt help erections) It's fun once you have experience because you're a lot more confident [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] Also with a stranger you dont really know what goes and what doesnt, perhaps you arent into the same things

[QUOTE=dannyketch;50928053]Bored and lonely, I put up a craigslist ad in Casual Encounters. I'm 21 and a virgin. I put that in the description. Lots of spam bots and finally a woman responds, she is not a spambot, she is a 32 year old BBW and she wants to have sex with me. Help FP. What do.[/QUOTE] This sounds horrible, why would you put yourself through this? You're just going to awkwardly fumble around with some overweight stranger and probably won't even enjoy it momentarily. My first time was with a seriously gorgeous girl I was in love with, and even that sucked ass. Why bother? I assume you're doing this just to feel validated for not being a virgin, but the entire reason that losing your virginity is a symbolic accomplishment is because it's something you go out and achieve and are proud of. Are you going to feel proud of hooking up with a big girl on Craigslist? Because if not, you're just engaging in an uncomfortable biological act for something you could just as easily lie or forget about. If you feel sexually unaccomplished then arranging a CL hookup isn't going to fix that, you're still going to be just as unable to pick up women back in the real world. Don't worry so much about being 21 and a virgin dude, it really does not matter. If you're really sick of it, improve yourself and go woo a beautiful girl you'll actually enjoy having sex with.

My favorite part of having sex with someone you have a connection with is staring into their eyes, it is such a warm and rewarding feeling.

[QUOTE=DrVivi;50929590]My favorite part of having sex with someone you have a connection with is staring into their eyes, it is such a warm and rewarding feeling.[/QUOTE] Unless you're like me and you have a lazy eye. Then you wonder if they're totally looking at it. And the person you have a connection with has left you. Two things that really put off the whole eye contact thing.

[QUOTE=metallics;50928312]Just remember your singular poor experience doesn't automatically mean everyone elses will be the same[/QUOTE] That's why I said in my experience I can only speak for what I've experienced Wait though, if this is because you feel like you [I]have[/I] to lose it and not just because you're being a horndog then no don't do it [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=DrVivi;50929590]My favorite part of having sex with someone you have a connection with is staring into their eyes, it is such a warm and rewarding feeling.[/QUOTE] It's the best thing ever next to cuddling tbh

[QUOTE=phygon;50930340]That's why I said in my experience I can only speak for what I've experienced Wait though, if this is because you feel like you [I]have[/I] to lose it and not just because you're being a horndog then no don't do it [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] It's the best thing ever next to cuddling tbh[/QUOTE] No I'm just being a horn dog.

I'm of the opinion that sex is just a physical act. It's only as special as you make it. In the end it's just up to you whether you think you might regret it later on, I wouldn't. Edit: To correct myself I wouldn't do this specific craigslist situation in the first place, but if I thought it was a good idea I wouldn't regret it later.

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;50929312]"The first few times" and "fun" can't really be in the same sentence without an "aren't" between them The first few times are awkward [b]because you've never been naked with someone else[/b], you know what to do but don't know how and you're nervous as heck (god knows I was and being nervous doesnt help erections) It's fun once you have experience because you're a lot more confident [editline]22nd August 2016[/editline] Also with a stranger you dont really know what goes and what doesnt, perhaps you arent into the same things[/QUOTE] I dunno about you guys but I definitely got naked with my first gal many times, 3-4 times fully naked, and maybe 10 before that in various states of undress. I don't know why you would really rush into sex, we went fast, just 3 weeks from neither of us having done anything including kissing and cuddling to having sex but we definitely spent lots and lots of time naked and exploring before that including parts touching and rubbing. It really helped with nerves when stuff finally happened since we were already pretty super comfy with being naked so only the penetration was weird and a bit painful. Did everyone else go from dressed to naked sex in a flash like this? That just seems so bizarre.

[QUOTE=Guzbone;50931887]I dunno about you guys but I definitely got naked with my first gal many times, 3-4 times fully naked, and maybe 10 before that in various states of undress. I don't know why you would really rush into sex, we went fast, just 3 weeks from neither of us having done anything including kissing and cuddling to having sex but we definitely spent lots and lots of time naked and exploring before that including parts touching and rubbing. It really helped with nerves when stuff finally happened since we were already pretty super comfy with being naked so only the penetration was weird and a bit painful. Did everyone else go from dressed to naked sex in a flash like this? That just seems so bizarre.[/QUOTE] I meant that you don't really get naked with someone else sexually before And anyhow getting naked with anybody else is awkward too

Speaking of naked although not girlfriend related, I went to a nude beach for the first time when I was in Norway. I was a lot more relaxed than I thought I'd be, just complete comfort laying down and being in the water.

[QUOTE=Levelog;50931999]Speaking of naked although not girlfriend related, I went to a nude beach for the first time when I was in Norway. I was a lot more relaxed than I thought I'd be, just complete comfort laying down and being in the water.[/QUOTE] I've always wanted to do a nude beach. I figure the embarrassment would pass very quickly when you realized that, since everybody was naked, nobody really cared. You could just enjoy the sun and water, judgment free. Seems pretty liberating.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;50932354]I've always wanted to do a nude beach. I figure the embarrassment would pass very quickly when you realized that, since everybody was naked, nobody really cared. You could just enjoy the sun and water, judgment free. Seems pretty liberating.[/QUOTE] It was. The beach was a very rocky one so at first me and my 2 friends I was traveling with scurried down after stripping down but we quickly just relaxed and enjoyed it. It didn't matter, I mean some dude in his 70's had tied up his little sailboat to the shoreline and was sunbathing naked tons of wrinkles and all.

Id be afraid to go to a nude beach because Id probably be sporting a fully erect unintentional woody and that seems like that would make it awkward.

I don't know what to do about this, and it looks like this is a good place for advice so here goes: Basically I can't stop thinking about this girl I used to hang out with in high school. She was a year ahead of me but we usually shared a class since we both had a "spare" block where we'd just sit in a room and catch up on work we haven't done yet. She graduated, we lost touch, we kinda came into contact with each other a few times after but I didn't have the guts to ask if we could keep in contact. I don't have her on Facebook anymore, I think I removed her by accident while clearing out my friends list of people I don't care for and I don't have her phone number. She isn't at all present in my life anymore. It all started when I was hanging out with some friends. The friend's house we were hanging out in had a dog, and I remembered she gave that dog some kind of fancy name, like a name a butler would have. I was trying to remember what it was, and eventually I just started thinking about her. Then, like 2 days later, I had a fucking dream about her. She was lying down on a bed with her legs hanging off the edge, and I was sitting there between her legs performing oral sex on her. Since then I haven't been able to get her off my mind for more than 15 minutes. I don't know if I should re-add her on Facebook asking to hang out sometime, if I should just wait until we meet in public again, or if I should just move on and admit it won't happen. [editline] [/editline] Holy shit why did I post this Oh well, it got quoted so even if I snip this it'll still be here

[QUOTE=-=NARH=-;50932492]I don't know what to do about this, and it looks like this is a good place for advice so here goes: Basically I can't stop thinking about this girl I used to hang out with in high school. She was a year ahead of me but we usually shared a class since we both had a "spare" block where we'd just sit in a room and catch up on work we haven't done yet. She graduated, we lost touch, we kinda came into contact with each other a few times after but I didn't have the guts to ask if we could keep in contact. I don't have her on Facebook anymore, I think I removed her by accident while clearing out my friends list of people I don't care for and I don't have her phone number. She isn't at all present in my life anymore. It all started when I was hanging out with some friends. The friend's house we were hanging out in had a dog, and I remembered she gave that dog some kind of fancy name, like a name a butler would have. I was trying to remember what it was, and eventually I just started thinking about her. Then, like 2 days later, I had a fucking dream about her. She was lying down on a bed with her legs hanging off the edge, and I was sitting there between her legs performing oral sex on her. Since then I haven't been able to get her off my mind for more than 15 minutes. I don't know if I should re-add her on Facebook asking to hang out sometime, if I should just wait until we meet in public again, [B]or if I should just move on and admit it won't happen.[/B][/QUOTE] This is the only way I can guarantee you it won't happen. If you guys talked at least occasionally in high school there's no reason you can't start talking again now.

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[QUOTE=-=NARH=-;50932492]I don't know what to do about this, and it looks like this is a good place for advice so here goes: Basically I can't stop thinking about this girl I used to hang out with in high school. She was a year ahead of me but we usually shared a class since we both had a "spare" block where we'd just sit in a room and catch up on work we haven't done yet. She graduated, we lost touch, we kinda came into contact with each other a few times after but I didn't have the guts to ask if we could keep in contact. I don't have her on Facebook anymore, I think I removed her by accident while clearing out my friends list of people I don't care for and I don't have her phone number. She isn't at all present in my life anymore. It all started when I was hanging out with some friends. The friend's house we were hanging out in had a dog, and I remembered she gave that dog some kind of fancy name, like a name a butler would have. I was trying to remember what it was, and eventually I just started thinking about her. Then, like 2 days later, I had a fucking dream about her. She was lying down on a bed with her legs hanging off the edge, and I was sitting there between her legs performing oral sex on her. Since then I haven't been able to get her off my mind for more than 15 minutes. I don't know if I should re-add her on Facebook asking to hang out sometime, if I should just wait until we meet in public again, or if I should just move on and admit it won't happen.[/QUOTE] If you've been running into her multiple times already I'd just wait till you run into her again and then reach out (it's more suave that way). If you don't think you'll run into her then ya add her on facebook, but I would try to message her in a way that sounds very nonchalant.

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50928181]why are you so eager to lose the virginity on meaningless random sex anyway?[/QUOTE] don't get me wrong, i don't think people should rush into sex, and my answer to the craigslist guy is a big, bright red "no" but at the same time, i'm not a fan of building up sex to be this thing that [I]has[/I] to be special and magical and done with the "right" person

[QUOTE=Birdman101;50932482]Id be afraid to go to a nude beach because Id probably be sporting a fully erect unintentional woody and that seems like that would make it awkward.[/QUOTE] The novelty of being around naked people wears off pretty quickly. I very briefly had a job as a host at a strip club, and after you've gotten acclimated to the situation, the nudity just doesn't seem like that big of a deal.