Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;50932833]don't get me wrong, i don't think people should rush into sex, and my answer to the craigslist guy is a big, bright red "no" but at the same time, i'm not a fan of building up sex to be this thing that [I]has[/I] to be special and magical and done with the "right" person[/QUOTE] It should at least be something better than "first responder fat chick on Craigslist" It doesn't need to be something holy but cmon [editline]23rd August 2016[/editline] Fat chicks are fine btw but on Craigslist they're dime a dozen and typically risky

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50922352]I saw this on my Facebook, and it made me laugh so I thought I'd share. [t]http://i.imgur.com/FeGR68F.png[/t] Should make you guys feel good that you aren't this person[/QUOTE] I used to be this guy. I grew out of it and laughed at posts like this. Then I dated a girl who had a guy like this after them and that's when it started to sink in just how pathetic it was. This girl had gone through a very hard patch when he was her only friend and he would constantly hang it over her head and treat her like she was now obligated to be his girlfriend because he was "there for her". So I met a girl today for a second date after our first went really well. We planned on going for a walk until seeing a movie late in the evening. It was raining way too hard to do anything outside so when I went to pick her up we just decided to stay in. We watched The Sandlot on DVD and then stayed in all night having sex instead of going to the movies. I don't often talk like this but I think it's appropriate. Shit was cash. Shit was cash af

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50932889]It should at least be something better than "first responder fat chick on Craigslist" It doesn't need to be something holy but cmon [editline]23rd August 2016[/editline] Fat chicks are fine btw but on Craigslist they're dime a dozen and typically risky[/QUOTE] Seriously. At least with picking a girl up at a bar or party you have a chance to feel the situation out. I mean, you spend some time talking, joking around, and getting to know each other (even if it's on a shallow level). Even if it's just casual one time sex, you at least have the chance to make a connection with her first, and have every opportunity to back out if you get danger vibes. You walk in blind to a fat older woman who responded to a craigslist ad for sex? No fucking telling what you're getting yourself into.

BDA this is a super weird question but did you ever finish writing about your dad? I don't remember how but I stumbled upon that thread a few months ago and really enjoyed it but I don't recall you ever finishing it.

I can put my input in to this, being someone who specifically lost his virginity to someone on Craigslist. Don't. It was the stupidest mistake I had probably made. I had no danger out of it, it was a fun night overall but I learned that sex ended up being a sentimental thing for me. Any other casual sex partner I had either being fwb or early in the relationship ended up being a boring time. My school taught little of sexual relationships, and the highschool mentality wanted me to get laid. So I did when I turned 18. I enjoy sex when it is with someone who I am committed to.

So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 8 months now. But I've already having thoughts that we should break up. Idk, she is a nice girl but she has a lot of shit on her plate and I just feel like I'm taking up a whole much of her time when she should really focus on herself. But also I kinda use her too to be a distraction for my own self-improvement and I'm torn between focusing on my personal shit vs her. I'm just really confused I've never broken up with someone but idk if I should do it or not. There's really nothing wrong with the relationship other than that.

[QUOTE=dcalde78;50924767]that's a shitter. I hope things get better for you bro[/QUOTE] I don't feel as bad as I thought I would, because I know this isn't my fault. She texted me 'I fell down' but I didn't respond, because I thought she literally tripped and fell down. Turns out she passed out because of her sickness, and she got so mad at me that I didn't help her that she broke up with me It's strange because I could really see myself marrying this girl and spending our lives together. But now that it's over I don't feel anything, mostly just emptiness. Maybe later I'll feel sad. For now I just have a hangover because I went drinking two nights ago, because of the breakup. I don't know if that made it better or worse

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;50932983]BDA this is a super weird question but did you ever finish writing about your dad? I don't remember how but I stumbled upon that thread a few months ago and really enjoyed it but I don't recall you ever finishing it.[/QUOTE] I finished transcribing everything he wrote, and decided against adding my own chapters to it at the end. It was exactly what it needed to be, and adding anything else would just be self-serving. I didn't want to spoil it!

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50934221]That is a petty reason for a breakup, what the hell[/QUOTE] Some people are just that petty. If she didn't break up with him for that it sounds like it was bound to be a different petty reason later on.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50934221]That is a petty reason for a breakup, what the hell[/QUOTE] Might not have been quite as spontaneous as it seems, though. Could be that she had felt that way for a while, and for whatever reason this exchange just pushed her to pull the trigger.

[QUOTE=Levelog;50934293]Some people are just that petty. If she didn't break up with him for that it sounds like it was bound to be a different petty reason later on.[/QUOTE] If you end up with a bunch of reasons to break up with someone how is that petty? People don't generally just wake up and say, "I hate him now time to break up." That shit builds up over time.

moved back into university today, kinda sucks to be starting the ldr type thing again but we made it work before.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50936046]The reason he gave, it sounds like the entire thing could of been avoided with a 5 minute conversation about the misunderstanding.[/QUOTE] Which is still assuming it was only over a single issue. Which break ups never are.

[QUOTE=plunger435;50936676]Which is still assuming it was only over a single issue. Which break ups never are.[/QUOTE] No, but it could just have been a situation of being bored with the relationship and a single issue just being the end. [editline]23rd August 2016[/editline] I know I've been in the situation of "this fairly minor thing just isn't worth the effort to me" in relationships that reach the stage of just being comfortable and inconvenient to end.

[QUOTE=plunger435;50936676]Which is still assuming it was only over a single issue. Which break ups never are.[/QUOTE] Don't underestimate people

She likes me, how do I approach? Question from an assburger.

Hey guys, haven't been in GD in a very long time, I usually lurk around SH and post very infrequently. But now I work midnights and would like to occupy my time, hopefully I could give some decent advice. A little background, I've been on FP since 08, but had a disgruntled teenage friend post from my old account and get me banned, kids will be kids. Needless to say I grew up the same as probably most of the guys and gals on here, just an absolute nerd. I mean really, I still play Runescape the nerd is strong in me. But, somehow I was blessed with good genes, my mother being a former model and my dad.. Well I guess he was good looking enough to marry a model. Anyways, I've had much success with the ladies over the years starting back when I was 14. I'm 21 now, so there's been some 'experience' between then and now. I've also been lucky enough to be in 2 separate long term relationships, the longest being 4 years. So whether you would like advice on the ins and outs of a relationship, or just want help getting the courage to say 'hi' to that cute girl you've had a crush on, hopefully I can help! I'm by no means an expert, I don't claim to be. Hell, I may not even be qualified to post in this thread. But if I can help anyone in some way shape or form, it'd be my pleasure!

[QUOTE=Levelog;50936806]No, but it could just have been a situation of being bored with the relationship and a single issue just being the end. [editline]23rd August 2016[/editline] I know I've been in the situation of "this fairly minor thing just isn't worth the effort to me" in relationships that reach the stage of just being comfortable and inconvenient to end.[/QUOTE] I feel like I'm in the same situation with my gf. I'm kind of bored but it's because idk if I need the additional emotional support for her when I can barely emotionally support myself. Is that a bad reason to break up? I feel like a bad person for even thinking about it...

[QUOTE=Rammaster;50938101]I feel like I'm in the same situation with my gf. I'm kind of bored but it's because idk if I need the additional emotional support for her when I can barely emotionally support myself. Is that a bad reason to break up? I feel like a bad person for even thinking about it...[/QUOTE] That's really what you feel on that. All relationships go through slow patches, up to you to decide if this slow patch is permanent or just a phase that will pass. [editline]24th August 2016[/editline] In my opinion, that is. Slow patches in my experience are hard to judge right away and sometimes you have to feel them out.

A majority of you should count yourselves lucky. Most chicks where I live are either Single Forever Sluts or just too picky/I'm going to friend zone every guy till I find the right one. Most think they can make the most fucked up assumptions and claim "all guys are like that". The worst part is they don't say guys, they use SJW terms like "males". I've met some decent women, but they're either broken themselves or I don't really see them much. I've only ever been in one relationship that lasted for 6 months and she friendzoned me because of her "culture". She's Tongan. Now all of a sudden she wants to talk to me as if nothing happened. But still, plenty of fish in the sea. A sea of piranhas that is, I'm just trying to look for that one trophy, but in reality this ain't no fairy tale shit so...

[QUOTE=sheridanm;50938311]A majority of you should count yourselves lucky. Most chicks where I live are either Single Forever Sluts or just too picky/I'm going to friend zone every guy till I find the right one. [B]Most think they can make the most fucked up assumptions and claim "all guys are like that". [/B] The worst part is they don't say guys, they use SJW terms like "males". I've met some decent women, but they're either broken themselves or I don't really see them much. I've only ever been in one relationship that lasted for 6 months and she friendzoned me because of her "culture". She's Tongan. Now all of a sudden she wants to talk to me as if nothing happened. But still, plenty of fish in the sea. A sea of piranhas that is, I'm just trying to look for that one trophy, but in reality this ain't no fairy tale shit so...[/QUOTE] Please take a moment to appreciate the irony

[QUOTE=sheridanm;50938311]A majority of you should count yourselves lucky. Most chicks where I live are either Single Forever Sluts or just too picky/I'm going to friend zone every guy till I find the right one. Most think they can make the most fucked up assumptions and claim "all guys are like that". The worst part is they don't say guys, they use SJW terms like "males". I've met some decent women, but they're either broken themselves or I don't really see them much. I've only ever been in one relationship that lasted for 6 months and she friendzoned me because of her "culture". She's Tongan. Now all of a sudden she wants to talk to me as if nothing happened. But still, plenty of fish in the sea. A sea of piranhas that is, I'm just trying to look for that one trophy, but in reality this ain't no fairy tale shit so...[/QUOTE] Honestly your inability to find someone essentially comes back to you, picky-ness and pessimism aren't exactly traits that leave you open to letting another individual into your life. Be more open, you may disagree with these so called "Forever Sluts", but unless you really take the time to know them, you shouldn't judge them for their lifestyle. I used to hate girls like that when I was in high school, but you start to realize not everyone can be society's image of perfect. A lot of those girls ended up being good friends of mine over time, you just have to give people a chance. As far as being friend zoned, which is an absolutely terrible term, as I said before maybe try not being so pessimistic and cynical. Women don't like a bad attitude, hell nobody likes a bad attitude.

[QUOTE=grr164;50938466]Honestly your inability to find someone essentially comes back to you, picky-ness and pessimism aren't exactly traits that leave you open to letting another individual into your life. Be more open, you may disagree with these so called "Forever Sluts", but unless you really take the time to know them, you shouldn't judge them for their lifestyle. I used to hate girls like that when I was in high school, but you start to realize not everyone can be society's image of perfect. A lot of those girls ended up being good friends of mine over time, you just have to give people a chance. As far as being friend zoned, which is an absolutely terrible term, as I said before maybe try not being so pessimistic and cynical. Women don't like a bad attitude, hell nobody likes a bad attitude.[/QUOTE] Good advice. I'll keep that in mind.

[QUOTE=sheridanm;50938311]misogynistic rant[/QUOTE] If you keep getting "friend zoned", maybe you should look at your own behavior instead of blaming it on women as a whole. If you talk anything like this in real life, I hope the problem is obvious to you. Maybe you'd be more approachable if you didn't throw a tantrum every time a girl "friend zoned" you. If you're going out and meeting people, you need to focus on the moment and on whatever is currently happening, not waiting for an opportunity to get in her pants. The reason why relationships are sought after is because of the human connection involved, but it sounds like you have no interest in connecting with the girls you meet as people. As for your complaints about women who want to stay single, welcome to your mid 20s (or, based on your rant, maybe I should say welcome to the 8th grade). "Emerging adulthood" is a developmental stage that has become part of our culture. Many young adults prefer to spend most of their 20s focusing on their work or education and trying out new things before making a commitment.

-snip- I just don't even...

Bitchiness aside, I gave you advice. This "Single Forever Slut" thinks you need to drop the slut shaming and entitlement if you want women to respect you.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;50938515]Being mean[/QUOTE] Easy there killer. I get that it is a terrible view for him to have, but just because someone is misguided doesn't mean they deserve berating. He's in an advice thread, he just needs to be steered in the right direction. Nobody's going to listen to advice given to them in an angry manner. You catch more bees with honey etc etc.

[QUOTE=sheridanm;50938311]A majority of you should count yourselves lucky. Most chicks where I live are either Single Forever Sluts or just too picky/I'm going to friend zone every guy till I find the right one. Most think they can make the most fucked up assumptions and claim "all guys are like that". The worst part is they don't say guys, they use SJW terms like "males". I've met some decent women, but they're either broken themselves or I don't really see them much. I've only ever been in one relationship that lasted for 6 months and she friendzoned me because of her "culture". She's Tongan. Now all of a sudden she wants to talk to me as if nothing happened. But still, plenty of fish in the sea. A sea of piranhas that is, I'm just trying to look for that one trophy, but in reality this ain't no fairy tale shit so...[/QUOTE] Stop obsessively hunting down a relationship, you probably come across incredibly desperate

[QUOTE=grr164;50938622]Easy there killer. I get that it is a terrible view for him to have, but just because someone is misguided doesn't mean they deserve berating. He's in an advice thread, he just needs to be steered in the right direction. Nobody's going to listen to advice given to them in an angry manner. You catch more bees with honey etc etc.[/QUOTE] Not gonna lie I think anyone who refers to another human being as a trophy needs berating.

I was going to reply explaining why I said all of those things, but now I don't feel like it. Just feels off putting with all this negativity.