Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

Just boink them while they tickle their pickle, it almost always works because they know how to get off but you being inside helps and feels amazing It can be pretty difficult sometimes to do it just with penis in and out

[QUOTE=nox;49504432]I lost my virginity, couldn't orgasm. Discovered I get no pleasure from sex.[/QUOTE] how can you try something once and make such a extreme decision

For those few thread browsers who are asexual, have you had sex? If yes, what does it feel like (ie. do you get physical pleasure or literally zero pleasure)? Is it more that you don't feel compulsed to have sex, or you don't enjoy sex itself? Or, is it different from person to person? I'm curious if it's similar to [URL="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_anhedonia"]sexual anhedonia[/URL] or more just a compulsion thing.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;49515724]Get used to basic missionary not cutting it. For guys its simply, penis + [I]anything that causes a stroking sensation[/I] = happy ending For girls, often times its so much more. Gotta take that into account.[/QUOTE] I'm nervous about doing other positions because I'm scared I won't be able to find where to go and ruin the moment and then deflate. What do women like other than that? Unless you're talking about stuff other than basic sex when you say that, which I know of (kiss various parts of her body, sensual movements, etc)

[QUOTE=Hezzy;49515874]how can you try something once and make such a extreme decision[/QUOTE] Judging by my past sexual experience I can quite surely say that I suffer from some degree of genophobia. This definitely means that I should not work on getting it fixed :downs:

why do you keep mentioning how you're worried you won't know where to put it in? I don't know if I'm misunderstanding you, but this is the 2nd or 3rd time you've mentioned worrying about not knowing where to put your dick. I don't get how changing from missionary to doggy or cowgirl is confusing enough for you to worry about where to stick your dong. I'm getting the funniest mental image of you freezing up and sweating really heavily whilst looking frantically for the vagina, before just sticking it in her ear or something PS: on a more serious note, you really need to work on your lack of self-confidence. let's say you did end up getting confused where to pork her, it'd just end up being a funny moment. there's nothing better in life than collapsing on the bed with your SO whilst you both have a laughing fit cause of something silly you did during sex

[QUOTE=loopoo;49516254] I'm getting the funniest mental image of you freezing up and sweating really heavily whilst looking frantically for the vagina, before just sticking it in her ear or something[/QUOTE] That's what happens. /s I'm nervous because the last time I did it with another girl (which was my first time) I spent a few seconds shoving my semi hard dick against random places that weren't her vagina. She was lying flat on her stomach so i didnt know how to do it from there. And by the time I got it in it was too late. But when we did missionary later in the night I got it in fast and had proper sex, if only for a minute. So that's where my fears stem. Now that I'm talking about it, if seems like a silly thing to say. I'm only scared about that, and being able to be aggressive but not instantly ejaculate.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;49515744]I think it's hard for her to cum at all, because I both ate her ate her out and used my hands, then she used her own hands and after twenty minutes she still didn't cum. Only more reasons to get better I geuss[/QUOTE] is she on anti-depressants? They make it near impossible to cum. And if you just loss your V card 2 days ago, don't expect to be a master with your hands/tongue. That shit takes tons of practice and it varies from girl to girl, not every girl likes to be eaten out the same way, if at all.

[QUOTE=Disseminate;49515950]For those few thread browsers who are asexual, have you had sex? If yes, what does it feel like (ie. do you get physical pleasure or literally zero pleasure)? Is it more that you don't feel compulsed to have sex, or you don't enjoy sex itself? Or, is it different from person to person? I'm curious if it's similar to [URL="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_anhedonia"]sexual anhedonia[/URL] or more just a compulsion thing.[/QUOTE] For myself, I've never had sex but I do masturbate pretty frequently. It varies from person to person, yes, but for me, it's not a matter of not getting sexual pleasure from sexual acts so much as it's a repulsion for the act itself because of past trauma and general distaste for vulnerability compiled on top of lack of sexual attraction. Asexuality is a spectrum so there are all types of asexuals. The only real thing in common is that they don't experience sexual attraction. There are plenty who still have sex for whatever reason. Sexual attraction is different from libido. Masturbation for me is great though. Fulfills all those urges I may or may not get and I don't need another person for it. Makes dating hard, but I'm in a pretty content relationship right now, so it's not entirely impossible. [editline]12th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=NixNax123;49516309]That's what happens. /s I'm nervous because the last time I did it with another girl (which was my first time) I spent a few seconds shoving my semi hard dick against random places that weren't her vagina. She was lying flat on her stomach so i didnt know how to do it from there. And by the time I got it in it was too late. But when we did missionary later in the night I got it in fast and had proper sex, if only for a minute. So that's where my fears stem. Now that I'm talking about it, if seems like a silly thing to say. I'm only scared about that, and being able to be aggressive but not instantly ejaculate.[/QUOTE] You could always ask the girl to help, too. Some girls will happily guide you in as best as they can. Might be awkward for like the half second it takes to ask, but a good partner won't make a big deal out of it.

My gf and I don't change positions as much as we'd like to, but she has a big ass and back issues, so this complicates things positionally.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49516309]That's what happens. /s I'm nervous because the last time I did it with another girl (which was my first time) I spent a few seconds shoving my semi hard dick against random places that weren't her vagina. She was lying flat on her stomach so i didnt know how to do it from there. And by the time I got it in it was too late. But when we did missionary later in the night I got it in fast and had proper sex, if only for a minute. So that's where my fears stem. Now that I'm talking about it, if seems like a silly thing to say. I'm only scared about that, and being able to be aggressive but not instantly ejaculate.[/QUOTE] 30 seconds of finger-recon should get the topography of the region all cartographed out and you should be good to go like a precision-guided bomb right to the face of some ISIS fuckers.

[QUOTE=loopoo;49516254] PS: on a more serious note, you really need to work on your lack of self-confidence. let's say you did end up getting confused where to pork her, it'd just end up being a funny moment. there's nothing better in life than collapsing on the bed with your SO whilst you both have a laughing fit cause of something silly you did during sex[/QUOTE] my self confidence is absolutely through the roof i assure you. thanks by the way guys, you all really helped me stop worrying about this. she's the kind of girl who will hopefully help / laugh any mistakes away. i think i intimidate myself when i act all dominating and manly in foreplay (which she absolutely loves) and then end up being a pussy in the actual event.

Uhhhhh So how we doing this snowy evening? Me? Well I got my gf to smoke weed and get high for the first time. That was great. But then we got to sex, and welll.....this has basically never really happened to me, but I went super soft, twice, and lost all momentum. It started out fine, but died off abruptly. I blame the cold room and the weed. But she thought I found her unattractive or something....and then when I tried to finish her off....well I did about as well as blind cerebral palsy patient. Which was another surprise as my last gf got off very nicely to me going down on her. Past couple times haven't been smooth sailing either, but we still got something out of them. Plus, I didn't believe weed would allow the time to suck at all. Expected a guaranteed satisfying time.But I guess the important thing is well, she reassured me it wasn't a [B]huge[/B] deal and she was pretty much over it by the time we started munching on food. So I guess either I found a really understanding and accepting girl, or I just got really lucky. I kinda feel like I actually need to take a sliver of Viagra next time just for safety.

[QUOTE=NO ONE;49517405] I kinda feel like I actually need to take a sliver of Viagra next time just for safety.[/QUOTE] or just dont smoke weed or depend on drugs to make you better in bed. Unless you're like 50 or something.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49517646]or just dont smoke weed or depend on drugs to make you better in bed. Unless you're like 50 or something.[/QUOTE] Always worked though. And nahh, in my 20s.

[QUOTE=Glitchman;49515812]Just boink them while they tickle their pickle, it almost always works because they know how to get off but you being inside helps and feels amazing It can be pretty difficult sometimes to do it just with penis in and out[/QUOTE] Yep +1 This and hitting g spot. Sometimes I hit it for days and sometimes it's nowhere to be seen, it's great when I do hit it though, girlfriend cums like 5 times then the orgasms start merging together into a constant state of pleasure. Missionary seems to be the best way for me on a bed. Rarely happens in other positions.

[QUOTE=NO ONE;49517705]Always worked though. And nahh, in my 20s.[/QUOTE] Yeah youre in your twenties so why on earth are you considering viagra [editline]13th January 2016[/editline] You literally went soft once, you dont have erectile dysfunction and you were high at the time. Taking viagra is a hands down stupid fuckin idea in your situation

[QUOTE=killerteacup;49520790]Yeah youre in your twenties so why on earth are you considering viagra [editline]13th January 2016[/editline] You literally went soft once, you dont have erectile dysfunction and you were high at the time. Taking viagra is a hands down stupid fuckin idea in your situation[/QUOTE] Viagra still can make sex last longer, not exactly good for your health if you're perfectly fine without it, but it's not extraordinarily bad, it's just like taking any drug. Don't overdo it. I've done it before, I wouldn't recommend it, your girl gets tired out and you're left with a boner and you can't go outside for ages until it goes away. Taking it while high could fix his problem, although create a few more, i'd be genuinely curious to know what happens

[QUOTE=Riller;49517210]30 seconds of finger-recon should get the topography of the region all cartographed out and you should be good to go like a precision-guided bomb right to the face of some ISIS fuckers.[/QUOTE] 30 seconds? tshh. grab the tip of your peepee with your hand, use your thumb to test the area and once you find the spot, lead your dick into glory. repeat as needed/if flaccid. and rest asured, there is no way you'll accidentaly go into her pooper and cause her some massive pain unless you're actively going for it. [QUOTE][video=youtube;tRnAfHodtPc]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRnAfHodtPc[/video][/QUOTE] having her guide it is also part of the game, it shouldn't be an issue if you gently ask her for directions.

[QUOTE=Metaru;49520825]30 seconds? tshh. grab the tip of your peepee with your hand, use your thumb to test the area and once you find the spot, lead your dick into glory. repeat as needed/if flaccid. and rest asured, there is no way you'll accidentaly go into her pooper and cause her some massive pain unless you're actively going for it. having her guide it is also part of the game, it shouldn't be an issue if you gently ask her for directions.[/QUOTE] Well the other method works too if you're going for some rad hands-off-dick freestyle points, so there's that.

[QUOTE=Riller;49520945]Well the other method works too if you're going for some rad hands-off-dick freestyle points, so there's that.[/QUOTE] "kickflips into sex"

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So guys how the heck do you deal with your girlfriend if she loves to ruminate? Like every single time that she gets mad at you, of course you'll be giving her space if she so desires and will talk to her about it if she's cool with that. But the thing is, what if she just obsessively thinks about that one wrong thing you did until she finds more and more reasons to get mad at you, including past mistakes that would be brought up in her thoughts, and generally just negative things about your relationship? The thing about my girlfriend is, while she does this a lot, her way of thinking also involves everything being connected to each other. If you do one bad thing she'll pull out all the cards, she'll pull out your bad memories, negative things(that every relationship has) that generally lead to the "it won't work out" train of thought, and she'll make you out to be the worst guy in the world.

That kind of behavior is certainly destructive and if you don't feel comfortable talking to her about it I can only predict the worst outcome.

Tech interviews are cool because I had a Skype interview where I wore a Ralph Lauren pullover & didn't wear pants because yolo. If they asked me to show off my legs, I knew the interview would turn into a cam show. They called me a professional. The woman who interviewed me said she'll make room for me if the votes don't go my way on the team. Also got the team I'd be working (fingers crossed) with to laugh at my jokes. I'm so happy.

[QUOTE=Protocol7;49521725]That kind of behavior is certainly destructive and if you don't feel comfortable talking to her about it I can only predict the worst outcome.[/QUOTE] Everytime I talk to her about it, it just always backfires on me. I get called stuff like "toxic" and shit, and end up getting told that I deserved her behavior towards me. And the effect of the tumblr brand of feminism on her is very obvious when she argues, starting to hate that kind of feminism because of this. [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49521860]Sounds like she let's everything build up and then explodes like a volcano, spewing out issues. Communication will fix that![/QUOTE] Yeah. But the problem is when she's mad, she's literally not capable of talking to me PROPERLY without cussing at me and basically just talking shit. I can't convince her to change her mindset no matter how much sweet talking or setting up I do. Oh, and it's probably not building up, because after we fight, I try to see to it that we get to resolve things to some degree. The thing is, she BRINGS BACK even those resolved issues. You know, the "it might be gone now but it doesnt change the fact that you did it" kind of argument.

[QUOTE=Rainboo;49522149]Everytime I talk to her about it, it just always backfires on me. I get called stuff like "toxic" and shit, and end up getting told that I deserved her behavior towards me. And the effect of the tumblr brand of feminism on her is very obvious when she argues, starting to hate that kind of feminism because of this. Yeah. But the problem is when she's mad, she's literally not capable of talking to me PROPERLY without cussing at me and basically just talking shit. I can't convince her to change her mindset no matter how much sweet talking or setting up I do. Oh, and it's probably not building up, because after we fight, I try to see to it that we get to resolve things to some degree. The thing is, she BRINGS BACK even those resolved issues. You know, the "it might be gone now but it doesnt change the fact that you did it" kind of argument.[/QUOTE] You are in an abusive relationship.

[QUOTE=Rainboo;49522149]Everytime I talk to her about it, it just always backfires on me. I get called stuff like "toxic" and shit, and end up getting told that I deserved her behavior towards me. And the effect of the tumblr brand of feminism on her is very obvious when she argues, starting to hate that kind of feminism because of this. Yeah. But the problem is when she's mad, she's literally not capable of talking to me PROPERLY without cussing at me and basically just talking shit. I can't convince her to change her mindset no matter how much sweet talking or setting up I do. Oh, and it's probably not building up, because after we fight, I try to see to it that we get to resolve things to some degree. The thing is, she BRINGS BACK even those resolved issues. You know, the "it might be gone now but it doesnt change the fact that you did it" kind of argument.[/QUOTE] Bro, you need to bail. This is only going downhill because unless she suddenly sees the error of her ways then she's just going to continue it forever until you leave.

[QUOTE=Lemmingston;49520817]Viagra still can make sex last longer, not exactly good for your health if you're perfectly fine without it, but it's not extraordinarily bad, it's just like taking any drug. Don't overdo it. I've done it before, I wouldn't recommend it, your girl gets tired out and you're left with a boner and you can't go outside for ages until it goes away. Taking it while high could fix his problem, although create a few more, i'd be genuinely curious to know what happens[/QUOTE] Or just don't get high and have sex. Or at all. [editline]13th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Rainboo;49522149]Everytime I talk to her about it, it just always backfires on me. I get called stuff like "toxic" and shit, and end up getting told that I deserved her behavior towards me. And the effect of the tumblr brand of feminism on her is very obvious when she argues, starting to hate that kind of feminism because of this. Yeah. But the problem is when she's mad, she's literally not capable of talking to me PROPERLY without cussing at me and basically just talking shit. I can't convince her to change her mindset no matter how much sweet talking or setting up I do. Oh, and it's probably not building up, because after we fight, I try to see to it that we get to resolve things to some degree. The thing is, she BRINGS BACK even those resolved issues. You know, the "it might be gone now but it doesnt change the fact that you did it" kind of argument.[/QUOTE] Yea if you can't talk to her about how your relationship is broken then you need to call it quits. If she verbally abuses you because you made an effort to fix a serious problem, then she isn't the sort of person you need to date. Just tell her once that if she can't act like an adult and talk about your issues, then you need to consider splitting up.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49523338]Or just don't get high and have sex. Or at all.[/QUOTE] mom please