Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

Fucking thank you bda holy hell

Lets talk about shit instead [editline]1st September 2016[/editline] Its beena long time since a good solid poop discussion

[QUOTE=killerteacup;50980174]Lets talk about shit instead [editline]1st September 2016[/editline] Its beena long time since a good solid poop discussion[/QUOTE] I hope you arent discriminating against liquid poop that triggers me

[QUOTE=metallics;50980205]I hope you arent discriminating against liquid poop that triggers me[/QUOTE] R u a poop rights activist

[QUOTE=killerteacup;50980174]Lets talk about shit instead [editline]1st September 2016[/editline] Its beena long time since a good solid poop discussion[/QUOTE] After eating pizza i had explosive poop and it didn't look very nice in the toilet nor the sounds coming from it [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] Also mods, never change the thread title please

I relly gotta eat more celery more often. The last few months my poops have been just soft enough to make a little mess on the way out, and thick enough to stick to all my arsehair. .Because i have a really hairy asscrack, it taked almost a damn quarter roll of the cheap one ply garbage they buy at work to get reasonably clean. There has to be a better way to do this.

Shave all the hair from your nether regions, you won't regret it. Unless you fuck up and get razor burn.

Last time I shaved my asshair my underpants kept getting stuck in my asscrack This was during a three-day student security job at uni Not a good time

What's your guys opinions on roommate dating? I just found out this girl I've been into for years has been getting charged $400 a month to stay at her parents, and it's about to be upped by $150. I was gonna work to be a good friend to her and then ask her out in a few months when I've got my license and a healthier body and some income... But now I'm thinking of doing the same but offering to split rent for an apartment before revealing my feelings, and working my way from there. Thoughts? Edit: This is probably a better post for the advice thread

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50980840]What's your guys opinions on roommate dating? I just found out this girl I've been into for years has been getting charged $400 a month to stay at her parents, and it's about to be upped by $150. I was gonna work to be a good friend to her and then ask her out in a few months when I've got my license and a healthier body and some income... But now I'm thinking of doing the same but offering to split rent for an apartment before revealing my feelings, and working my way from there. Thoughts? Edit: This is probably a better post for the advice thread[/QUOTE] Tell her before asking her to move in. Problem is that if she doesn't feel the same way or y'all break up, it ruins the plans of you both living together

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50980840]What's your guys opinions on roommate dating? I just found out this girl I've been into for years has been getting charged $400 a month to stay at her parents, and it's about to be upped by $150. I was gonna work to be a good friend to her and then ask her out in a few months when I've got my license and a healthier body and some income... But now I'm thinking of doing the same but offering to split rent for an apartment before revealing my feelings, and working my way from there. Thoughts? Edit: This is probably a better post for the advice thread[/QUOTE] dating someone who's already your roommate? bad idea if things get sour making someone your roommate just so you can date them? pretty manipulative and also a bad idea because of the above

There's credit to that but I guess in my daydreaming I thought maybe the experiences might help ease it in or something.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;50980867]dating someone who's already your roommate? bad idea if things get sour making someone your roommate just so you can date them? pretty manipulative and also a bad idea because of the above[/QUOTE] I disagree with the last part; the way he worded it was sketchy, but it sounds like they've been friends for a few years so I think him doing the girl a favour is a fair gesture.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;50980867]dating someone who's already your roommate? bad idea if things get sour making someone your roommate just so you can date them? pretty manipulative and also a bad idea because of the above[/QUOTE] I guess I didn't really think how manipulative it sounded. Wasn't intentionally thinking about making an "implication" situation. I was just thinking it'd help her out sooner than later and maybe build up some more trust.

don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that thought crossing your mind. but it's not hard to see why it might be a bit insidious

That is a terrible idea. Inviting her live with you as a friend, and then ambushing her with a confession of your love once she's in? You've just put her in a horrible position. If she wants to say no, she has to choose between living in a terribly uncomfortable situation, or leaving her new home. Even if she is interested her, putting her into that position is a shitty thing to do. I would resent the hell out of you for doing that to me. Wanting to ask her out is fine, and asking her out is fine, but you had either do it before or without asking her to move in with you, or not at all.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;50980885]don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that thought crossing your mind. but it's not hard to see why it might be a bit insidious[/QUOTE] No I totally get what you mean, it just didn't cross my mind. It's a bad idea. I wouldn't be surprised if it looked like that if I did this. I do a lot of daydreaming so I pictured it for a bit and thought maybe we'd eventually hit it off in the middle of it. I guess I'll write that one off as a bad idea, really wouldn't want her to think I was using the situation to get her to agree using fear of being kicked out. Hopefully her home problems won't be too bad if I wait it out.

Why not just ask her out now, dude?

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;50980889]That is a terrible idea. Inviting her live with you as a friend, and then ambushing her with a confession of your love once she's in? You've just put her in a horrible position. If she wants to say no, she has to choose between living in a terribly uncomfortable situation, or leaving her new home. Even if she is interested her, putting her into that position is a shitty thing to do. I would resent the hell out of you for doing that to me. Wanting to ask her out is fine, and asking her out is fine, but you had either do it before or without asking her to move in with you, or not at all.[/QUOTE] In my defense I wasn't going to just drop it on her the minute she walked in the door with her bags or anything. I was gonna give it some time, especially hoping maybe something would come up from her end so I wouldn't have to, but... You're right. It's a side of this I hadn't even considered. [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Big Dumb American;50980899]Why not just ask her out now, dude?[/QUOTE] I have nothing to offer her at all. I'm overweight, don't have my own place or a license. I don't feel like I should try dating anyone at the moment. Especially not someone this important to me. I'd like to be careful with this one. My goal is to have my shit together by January, then I'll see about it.

That's an even worse idea haha. Letting her get settled in, and then dumping your guts out when it's too late for her to easily leave if she needs to. Like, I get it man, it's just daydreaming and you don't mean anything insidious by it, but you have to realize what an uncomfortable situation that would make. Just asking her out now isn't going to wreck anything, but I'd you did it under those conditions she would probably be livid with you. [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50980904]I'm overweight, don't have my own place or a license. I don't feel like I should try dating anyone at the moment. Especially not someone this important to me. I'd like to be careful with this one. My goal is to have my shit together by January, then I'll see about it.[/QUOTE] Unless somebody else asks her out before then. You can't just expect that she's going to wait around for you to be ready.

She might already know I like her. I have no idea. I think I might have asked her out back in the day... I remember it was the last day of that school year, I was nervous I might never see her again. I asked about seeing her out of school and she told me something like "That's really sweet, but my mom believes in courting" I didn't know what it meant at the time. I could've sworn she said "chording" back then. I said something like "That's fine" and left. Saw her next school year, so it was all good. Sometime last year I finally found a way to contact her again, probably hadn't seen her since my prom (she had no social media accounts and her steam has been offline for 1500+ days) and in May she asked me to go to Kings Island. I'm trying to go. It was set for this Saturday until this mom rent business happened. Now I'm not sure. The problem is she asked multiple people because she needed a ride so while I had originally felt like this might be somewhat of a show of interest (how often does a chick ask to go to an amusement park with you, yknow?) now I'm not so sure. I'm glad I didn't date her back then, I was still a major shithead those years. I would've undoubtedly fucked it up. Besides wanting to be careful about this, since I've been gone so long it's not a good idea to confess feelings before I've even seen her again. [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Big Dumb American;50980924]Unless somebody else asks her out before then. You can't just expect that she's going to wait around for you to be ready.[/QUOTE] Believe me I'm worried about this too. It's a gamble. [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] I mean I can totally ask her to hang out but telling her I like her like that I'm not sure it'd work out.

really the best way to go on about these things is to NOT build it up. the more casual your mindset is towards relationships, the easier it is to approach them. first girlfriend i've ever had was during the year where i stopped caring about getting a girlfriend it's hard to put your mind in that place, though. thinking "you shouldn't worry about [thing]" often makes you worry even more about [thing]. hopefully, whatever comes out of your situation helps you reach that place naturally

You're living in your own head. You're daydreaming, waiting for the stars to align, hoping for the "perfect moment" to romantically profess your true feelings -- or, even better, that you won't even have to because everything will just work out on its own. Real life doesn't happen like that. Ask her out while you can, without a wild profession of your feelings, and just hope for the best. The longer you nurse this, the more regrets you will have, and the more pain you will feel, if things don't work out the way you want them to.

I get what you're saying but I don't think I am waiting for a perfect moment. I just think asking her out as a legitimate date over the phone when I haven't seen her in 4 years is a bad idea (especially now that she's grieved about this rent issue atm, I'd feel like I'm taking advantage) and I also believe I have some work to do on myself. I would think she'd assume I only rekindled this to ask her. I really don't think I did. I didn't start thinking about it again until this Kings Island prospect. I was reconnecting with good friends, she's not even the only one, just one of the top three. Might as well be the #1 by now with how my previous #1/#2 turned out. Technically this reconnection plan with Kings Island (or if it falls through a movie) is already asking out without a wild profession of my feelings, unless you meant I had to say I was "courting" her. [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] Thank you for the advice and reminder, though [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] It's hard to come to a conclusion because I've got people telling me to hold off and people telling me to jump in and both kinds have made sense.

Asking her out generally means she understands your intentions. Like, she should know you mean it as a date. What I mean by not "wildly professing your feelings" is that, when you ask her on your date, you don't spend several minutes telling her strongly you feel about her and how long you've waited to do this and blah blah blah. Couls be I've misjudged tour situation though. I don't mean any offense with this, honest, it's just a very common story.

[QUOTE=VenomousBeetle;50980879]I guess I didn't really think how manipulative it sounded. Wasn't intentionally thinking about making an "implication" situation. I was just thinking it'd help her out sooner than later and maybe build up some more trust.[/QUOTE] well that's sort of the problem, like your end game is to date the girl and so you've acknowledged the advantage of her moving in would be that it would build a trust relationship between you and her At the end of the day there's an ulterior motive there even if its not the primary motive so its not exactly a move that someone who she is likely to trust would make Legit just don't ever do it. Either ask her out and then go out with her and don't move in with her, or give up on her and then ask her to move in

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;50981084]Asking her out generally means she understands your intentions. Like, she should know you mean it as a date. What I mean by not "wildly professing your feelings" is that, when you ask her on your date, you don't spend several minutes telling her strongly you feel about her and how long you've waited to do this and blah blah blah. Couls be I've misjudged tour situation though. I don't mean any offense with this, honest, it's just a very common story.[/QUOTE] Yeah I gotcha. I guess I never thought about it like that? Does it work that way? I've never really had a time when I've asked a female friend to hang out where it turned into a relationship eventually like that, not without a verbal exchange about intentions. If it works that way I'm already on my way there I guess. [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=killerteacup;50981097]well that's sort of the problem, like your end game is to date the girl and so you've acknowledged the advantage of her moving in would be that it would build a trust relationship between you and her At the end of the day there's an ulterior motive there even if its not the primary motive so its not exactly a move that someone who she is likely to trust would make Legit just don't ever do it. Either ask her out and then go out with her and don't move in with her, or give up on her and then ask her to move in[/QUOTE] I've already decided not to do it. I'd like to help her situation, I hate that she's going through this, but if it's gonna lock me out of possibly developing a bond without looking shady down the line I dunno if I can do that. I'd hate for her to be pulled out of this pseudo extortion for money from her mom to being unintentionally extorted by me for a relationship. If I get her favor I need to have it genuinely. I'm glad I asked here before thinking of it any further because the sinister part of it didn't cross my mind. I should really get better at thinking of things like that. Not the first time someone's thought I was up to no good because I didn't think how something looks. I feel terrible when that does happen.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;50981172]Why would parents charge their child to live with them? I couldn't forgive my parents if they did that to me. They know I'm broke as fuck.[/QUOTE] I know plenty of parents who do, especially if their kid has a job. Only reason I'm not paying any rent right now is because my parents bought a fixer upper and I moved down here to them to help rebuild the porch and dock and such.

I've seen/heard similar shit but goddamn $500/month? I'm surprised if she can afford that. Edit: The whole reason I had the idea was because my dad said she should just get a friend to split rent in a real apartment with at that point when I mentioned it to him Edit: Tbh saying that again I really wouldn't be surprised if she and whoever she'd do that with would end up "together", which is what brought on the daydream. I think it makes sense that that could happen but you guys are right about it sounding kinda manipulative when laid out.

I wanna ask her if she's gonna be okay because she mentioned in a group chat something about possibly not being emotionally well enough to go to Kings Island, but I'm struggling with phrasing it in a way that sounds right. So far I've got "Hey, are you gonna be alright? What's going on over there sounds messed up. Do you think venting/talking about it would help?" Something about the phrasing doesn't sound right when I read it. [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] How do you guys usually offer support and to listen to someone's problems? [editline]31st August 2016[/editline] Or maybe I should just be like "So that rent thing sounds pretty messed up, what's up with that?"