Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

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Back in that dating scene, went on a first date today and already have a second planned, ayy.

I need help, how do you meet people in a new city? Every time I've moved somewhere I've at least been going to community college/university/primary school.

[QUOTE=Levelog;51007268]I need help, how do you meet people in a new city? Every time I've moved somewhere I've at least been going to community college/university/primary school.[/QUOTE] Join a club or go to a concert, you'll usually met some friendly people there. Met a whole bunch of people when I went to a concert two weeks ago

I finally figured out what was wrong with me Thank god I can start interacting with people on a personal/intimate level again Strangely enough it wasn't affecting me that badly as far as my emotional wellbeing went... I was basically so disconnected that the fact that I was disconnected didn't even bother me. Also, I'm talking with my ex-gf again.... well, maybe more than talking. We're considering attempting to rekindle what we had going. I told her that I'm going through personal stuff, about the concerns I had over [I]her[/I], and was completely honest about everything (including the fact that it very well might not work out and to plan accordingly). She's willing to try it out again, even knowing that I warned her that I'm dealing with personal stuff and might break it off. That's kinda neat.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51022951]Everytime my girlfriend says "we should go to this restaurant" In my mind I hear "You should spend 40 dollars on food"[/QUOTE] You could make dinner at home and save $25-$34. But as long as she is taking you out on dates as well and paying for them it's all good.

[QUOTE=Levelog;51007268]I need help, how do you meet people in a new city? Every time I've moved somewhere I've at least been going to community college/university/primary school.[/QUOTE] shiet if you ever get an aswer to that I'll want to hear it, son.

So, I quit my job. Today is my last day. It wasn't an angry quit, I'm just finally ready to make the transition into real estate. My girl and I have been obsessively preparing for this for the past year, but it's unclear when I'll see reliable income start rolling in. Could be months before I see a living wage coming out of this. Now, we saved up well, and we're not in any imminent danger of going broke, but I still find it a little bit irritating when my girl comes home from Bath and Body Works with [I]six fucking bottles[/I] of expenses body lotion. That's, like, $130 of goddamn lotion! One of those bottles lasts the better part of a year, too, so why the hell she needs [I]six[/I] of them is a mystery I'd like solved! We share our finances, so this hits both of us. She's still working, but she isn't making enough for us to break even on our expenses until my income starts rolling in again. We are not solvent right now, and that ain't the kind of purchase that you make when you're not fuggin solvent. Cripes! She's been fully on board with me on this for the past year, and I shouldered all the expenses for the three months she was in grooming school, so she knows the drill. Lil bit frustrating, that!

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;51024185]So I quit my job; today is my last day. It wasn't an angry quit, I'm just finally ready to make the transition into real estate. We've been obsessively preparing for this for the past year, but it's unclear when I'll see reliable income start rolling in. Could just be months before I see a living wage coming out of this. Now, I saved up well, and we're not in any imminent danger of going broke, but I still find it a little bit irritating when my girl comes home from Bath and Body Works with [I]six fucking bottles[/I] of expenses body lotion. That's, like, $130 of goddamn lotion! One of those bottles lasts the better part of a year, too, so why the hell she needs [I]six[/I] of them is a mystery I'd like solved! We share our finances, so this hits both of us. She's still working, but she isn't making enough for us to break even on our expenses until my income starts rolling in again. We are not solvent right now, and that ain't the kind of purchase that you make when you're not fuggin solvent. Cripes! She's been fully on board with me on this over the past year, and I shouldered all the expenses for the three months she was in grooming school, so she knows the drill. Lil bit frustrating, that![/QUOTE] Congrats on going into business for yourself, good luck.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;51024185]So, I quit my job. Today is my last day. It wasn't an angry quit, I'm just finally ready to make the transition into real estate. My girl and I have been obsessively preparing for this for the past year, but it's unclear when I'll see reliable income start rolling in. Could be months before I see a living wage coming out of this. Now, we saved up well, and we're not in any imminent danger of going broke, but I still find it a little bit irritating when my girl comes home from Bath and Body Works with [I]six fucking bottles[/I] of expenses body lotion. That's, like, $130 of goddamn lotion! One of those bottles lasts the better part of a year, too, so why the hell she needs [I]six[/I] of them is a mystery I'd like solved! We share our finances, so this hits both of us. She's still working, but she isn't making enough for us to break even on our expenses until my income starts rolling in again. We are not solvent right now, and that ain't the kind of purchase that you make when you're not fuggin solvent. Cripes! She's been fully on board with me on this for the past year, and I shouldered all the expenses for the three months she was in grooming school, so she knows the drill. Lil bit frustrating, that![/QUOTE] BDA stories are the best stories. I hope the new job works out for you man! Think of the lotion as an investment like liquid gold. Liquid gold that you smear all over yourself. I don't think this analogy works.

Haha, thanks! If we run out of money, I can just eat our many, many hygiene products.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;51024405]Haha, thanks! If we run out of money, I can just eat our many, many hygiene products.[/QUOTE] You will have a moist supple tongue for years

Girlfriend's just dumped me, over the phone so feeling even more like trash. Feeling I should just get back into the game, but I don't know how or if I can.

[QUOTE=Tools;51024532]Girlfriend's just dumped me, over the phone so feeling even more like trash. Feeling I should just get back into the game, but I don't know how or if I can.[/QUOTE] Give it some time bud, there's no rush.

Just enjoy single life for a minute.

Honestly I'd suggest at least 6 months.

[QUOTE=psychojake;51025961]Honestly I'd suggest at least 6 months.[/QUOTE] No need in putting a time limit on yourself. Whenever you feel like it, put yourself back out there my man.

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my girlfriend and i finally moved into our respective apartments for school and we haven't had any time to bone in like three months since we've both been home for the summer neither of us will be able to walk tomorrow and there's a ringing in my ear but i don't even care

[QUOTE=metalhand;51058299]Serious Question: How do you do Reverse Cowgirl? My dick always slips out.[/QUOTE] dude i dont even

[QUOTE=metalhand;51058299]Serious Question: How do you do Reverse Cowgirl? My dick always slips out. Also sorry for the extremely direct question. It's been annoying me lately because me and my girlfriend have tried it a few times but it's never really good because of this[/QUOTE] Just have her grind more and less upward movement.

Well considering what i typed later in the thread. Trying my best to improve my social skills around people. Any of you guys have an ideas of making friends with girls. Dont mind having to be boyfriend-girlfriend. Mostly just trying to find people to talk to. Im in college at the moment.

Just talk to them like you would anyone? Girls are only different in the sense that sometimes they have to deal with a lot of people approaching them when they aren't necessarily receptive to being approached, i.e. with a laptop or book or headphones in. Otherwise just be like what's up? I like your shirt? Idk. Give them a genuine compliment and if they don't respond well then just say have a good day and head on your way. Otherwise, find some common ground. Like you would with anyone.

[QUOTE=Pascall;51060869]Just talk to them like you would anyone? Girls are only different in the sense that sometimes they have to deal with a lot of people approaching them when they aren't necessarily receptive to being approached, i.e. with a laptop or book or headphones in. Otherwise just be like what's up? I like your shirt? Idk. Give them a genuine compliment and if they don't respond well then just say have a good day and head on your way. Otherwise, find some common ground. Like you would with anyone.[/QUOTE] Its more of the fact i got taught like shit for social situations. I vaguely remember it was like during elementary school or something i had some bitch teacher who pretty much convinced me just talking to random people is strange and your are being a creep for doing so. Also my Narcissistic mother doesnt help in that situation either by convincing me every woman around me is a whore or what not. It wasn't until this summer and college i realized people just taught me wrong about being social. Trying my best to socialize but its hard.

Nah you're not bothering people until you purposely pester them when they're giving you signs that they don't want to talk to anyone. I've been bothered by guys on my campus who see me with my laptop in my lap, a textbook to the side of me, and my headphones in and they attempt to chat me up. Like I'm not opposed to talking to people but... Some days I don't.. want to. Or don't have time to. People have stuff to do. But if you see them just chilling, maybe just strolling along, or sitting and enjoying some time in between classes on a bench or something, there's nothing wrong with saying hi. Just have to be aware of when the conversation should end. [editline]16th September 2016[/editline] College campuses also offer a lot of extracurriculars. Getting involved in one or two of those is a good way to meet people.

[QUOTE=Deathtrooper2;51060837]Well considering what i typed later in the thread. Trying my best to improve my social skills around people. Any of you guys have an ideas of making friends with girls. Dont mind having to be boyfriend-girlfriend. Mostly just trying to find people to talk to. Im in college at the moment.[/QUOTE] Practice. College is wonderful with this. For practice just go up to people you know you probably won't see again and just make shit up, you don't even have to use your real name. Sometimes it's more comfortable to just start with stories and shit, ask them where they're from or what their major is. Once you get used to made up stories it becomes easier to just strike up conversation with people you want to know longer term with real things about yourself. This may seem like bullshit to many of you but IMO it really does help and it's fun. On my old campus there are dozens of people who think some crazy things about me, though I went to a big university. If you go to a small one this may not be a good course of action.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51061582]The further you get into your major, the closer you'll be to your classmates. My accounting classes, everyone kinda knows everyone for the most part, because we all have classes together and we all do our best to survive. If we need help, it is absolutely normal to ask some classmates to head to the library and figure it out in a group. Though this may be business-exclusive, since we get "networking" pounded into out head constantly. Which is, making friends in hopes you'll get something out of it.[/QUOTE] As an engineer I spent many a miserable evening in a huddle with other engineers battering away at equations

Oh and so all you guys can have a good laugh, yesterday I was at a bar sitting next to a woman and my first line was "So do you come here often?" It was a sincere question because it seemed like she knew the employees and since I just moved here, I wanted some recommendations on their brews. As soon as I realized what I just said I cringed.

I'm a senior and the only people I've really gotten to know are in my second language class. (I've actually made a lot of close friends in this class - 5 of us are starting a D&D group together on Sundays). The exception is when I see someone else I recognize from a previous class or when I run into a psych major in a non psych class. It's my understanding that grad school is a lot more tight-knit, though.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51061582]The further you get into your major, the closer you'll be to your classmates. My accounting classes, everyone kinda knows everyone for the most part, because we all have classes together and we all do our best to survive. If we need help, it is absolutely normal to ask some classmates to head to the library and figure it out in a group. Though this may be business-exclusive, since we get "networking" pounded into out head constantly. Which is, making friends in hopes you'll get something out of it.[/QUOTE] Doesn't have anything to do with being a business major. We IT majors are all close knit as well. I'm hoping once I leave community college that university will be close knit too. [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;51061833]I'm a senior and the only people I've really gotten to know are in my second language class. (I've actually made a lot of close friends in this class - 5 of us are starting a D&D group together on Sundays). The exception is when I see someone else I recognize from a previous class or when I run into a psych major in a non psych class. It's my understanding that grad school is a lot more tight-knit, though.[/QUOTE] One of our classmates actually organizes weekly D&D sessions for us. I'm not really into D&D though.