Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;51127259]How do I comfort my girlfriend when she's in pain because of her period? She's having a really bad time but obviously there's nothing I can do to make her pain go away, and saying 'it'll be alright just hold on a few days' doesn't work either.[/QUOTE] My ex used some heat pad things

Heating pads, painkillers, chocolate, bananas... Uh. I dunno. Every girl's period affects them differently.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;51127259]How do I comfort my girlfriend when she's in pain because of her period? She's having a really bad time but obviously there's nothing I can do to make her pain go away, and saying 'it'll be alright just hold on a few days' doesn't work either.[/QUOTE] Pelvic massages worked well with one of my ex's

I just got over mine. Give her cuddles and back rubs and tummy rubs. Also what pascall said. I eat those on mine.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;51127259]How do I comfort my girlfriend when she's in pain because of her period? She's having a really bad time but obviously there's nothing I can do to make her pain go away, and saying 'it'll be alright just hold on a few days' doesn't work either.[/QUOTE] Magnesium reduces muscle tension/cramps. Cacao is rich in magnesium, which is the reason why dark chocolate is known to help with menstrual cramps.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;51127259]How do I comfort my girlfriend when she's in pain because of her period? She's having a really bad time but obviously there's nothing I can do to make her pain go away, and saying 'it'll be alright just hold on a few days' doesn't work either.[/QUOTE] weed

Just pat her sharply on the back and loudly exclaim, [I]"man, that sucks! I wish I could help!"[/I]

collect it all in a bucket and then measure it and multiply by twelve google that number and find out what country has that annual rainfall in inches she'll be so proud of how productive she is that she won't even hurt

I posted here a month ago and I wanted to thank those who responded; especially you Pascall. It was very informative. Now, I asked this girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime over the weekend and she surprisingly said yes. Unfortunately I fucked it up by not wording it as a date, so I don't know if she think's it's just a casual meetup or a date (most likely the former, but she seemed surprised when I asked so I have no idea). I'm sure that'll be cleared up next time I see her in person at work later on today. Second issue is that she's my colleague and likely soon to become my manager. Considering this I kind of feel this wasn't the best of ideas and I probably should have known better than to ask her out in the first place. I feel lost, part of me would like to date her but the other part is clearly telling me not to.

In the real world there are very few differences between a casual meetup and an actual feeler date when it's someone you know at least decently well. Don't sweat it.

Just wanted to say that I once again appreciate your guys help. For the first in a very long time, I have a date set for tomorrow with someone I find quite interesting. While all the common anxiety is still all there, I wouldn't have taken the chance without the good words I received.

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[QUOTE=Vi_;51133277] Not quoting [/QUOTE] Leave that relationship immediately. That's awful, mate. That's just terrible. I don't know if she has said she loves you, she might think she does but I firmly believe she doesn't. I entirely understand it hurts and I have been in a very similar situation, it's just best to let them be together. Prolonging this kind of thing eventually leads to the partner going even further and really testing the relationship. Please for your own mental health try to leave that relationship.

[QUOTE=Levelog;51129883]Don't sweat it.[/QUOTE] Doesn't seem like I'll need to. She cancelled and hasn't rescheduled a different time and date. There could be a lot of reasons, especially since she's generally very busy with work and all. I'm gonna let it go and not bring it up again with her. I think it's probably better it worked out this way.

[QUOTE=Navarchus;51133575]Leave that relationship immediately. That's awful, mate. That's just terrible. I don't know if she has said she loves you, she might think she does but I firmly believe she doesn't. I entirely understand it hurts and I have been in a very similar situation, it's just best to let them be together. Prolonging this kind of thing eventually leads to the partner going even further and really testing the relationship. Please for your own mental health try to leave that relationship.[/QUOTE] $10 if he does leave that his (not yet) ex and that guy get together for like a month and then she comes back to him and she's like "i made a mistake but i love you"

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51133808]$10 if he does leave that his (not yet) ex and that guy get together for like a month and then she comes back to him and she's like "i made a mistake but i love you"[/QUOTE] I-snip-

[QUOTE=Vi_;51135770]-snip-[/QUOTE] If you live with your parents they should support you through it. Sounds like you might be right. If he's said that to you and she hasn't put her foot down that is worrying

[QUOTE=Vi_;51135770]-snip per OP request[/QUOTE] I honestly think it's best for you to break up with her, especially if she says things like "she's the one for him" yet "you're her ~everything~" to me it sounds like she's unsure of what she wants for herself, and in her relationships. I know it's hard to break up with your first love, I've been through the first breakup before and it stings like a bitch no matter what end you're on, but I'm afraid that if you don't do something now then there's a high chance for a heartbreak in the future. I also agree with killerteacup, if her friend is talking shit about you and she's not giving him shit for it, that is pretty worrying.

[QUOTE=killerteacup;51135788]If you live with your parents they should support you through it. Sounds like you might be right in deciding to break up. If he's said that to you and she hasn't put her foot down that is worrying[/QUOTE] -snip

[QUOTE=Vi_;51135811]-snip again per OP's request[/QUOTE] There's a saying along the lines of "A relit cigarette never tastes the same, and that's all I'll preach on rekindling old flames." I say that despite her being your first love, it's probably better you don't put in your all because you'll only receive half in return at best I'm sure, and this will lead to a bigger heartbreak, there's no point in trying to create a future with someone who believes that there is none.

[QUOTE=Reyjr43;51135896]There's a saying along the lines of "A relit cigarette never tastes the same, and that's all I'll preach on rekindling old flames." I say that despite her being your first love, it's probably better you don't put in your all because you'll only receive half in return at best I'm sure, and this will lead to a bigger heartbreak, there's no point in trying to create a future with someone who believes that there is none.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Vi_;51135906]-snip per OP's request...again again.[/QUOTE] What kind of feelings are we speaking of? If she says she doesn't have feelings for you, then just end it. There's nothing to salvage here. If she is saying she doesn't have feelings for him, then she is just indecisive about what she wants. EDIT: Yes, I think you're working toward something and there won't be a result from it. I don't know this person, but this is just my outside view and what I'm understanding. Sorry buddy.

[QUOTE=Reyjr43;51135929]What kind of feelings are we speaking of? If she says she doesn't have feelings for you, then just end it. There's nothing to salvage here. If she is saying she doesn't have feelings for him, then she is just indecisive about what she wants. EDIT: Yes, I think you're working toward something and there won't be a result from it. I don't know this person, but this is just my outside view and what I'm understanding. Sorry buddy.[/QUOTE] snip

The fact that you say that she doesn't consider you her best friend is worrisome to me, sure the person you're dating doesn't have to be your best friend, and being different around your boyfriend/girlfriend is a pretty normal thing because well...you can be a lot closer/intimate with them physically, but the "I can't be me around you" thing makes me think she won't tell you everything that is important for you to know, even if it's something you should ABSOLUTELY know because she may be afraid of your reaction, she even mentions she thinks you're "too sensitive" but says it low key with the "It's not that you're too sensitive or anything!!" idea.

[QUOTE=Reyjr43;51135971]The fact that you say that she doesn't consider you her best friend is worrisome to me, sure the person you're dating doesn't have to be your best friend, and being different around your boyfriend/girlfriend is a pretty normal thing because well...you can be a lot closer/intimate with them physically, but the "I can't be me around you" thing makes me think she won't tell you everything that is important for you to know, even if it's something you should ABSOLUTELY know because she may be afraid of your reaction, she even mentions she thinks you're "too sensitive" but says it low key with the "It's not that you're too sensitive or anything!!" idea.[/QUOTE] -snip-

Being sensitive isn't necessarily a bad thing, I used to be very desensitized to things but as years went by I got more sensitive and I've noticed it's a good thing depending on how sensitive you are and what it's over, my current girlfriend thinks it's cute when I cry to cute things like the Overwatch shorts (damn things make me so emotional...) though if you're too sensitive to things and get really upset about little things, it can be problematic for the relationship (of course.) If you're meeting in person then ask everything that we've talked about, ask her if she sees a future with you, if not, why? How does she feel about you, does she want to further pursue a relationship or would she prefer it to just end? Ask her why she's afraid to talk to you about certain things, is she afraid of your reaction or is she afraid you're going to worry about it when you shouldn't worry about it? Why doesn't she feel like she can be herself around you?

[QUOTE=Reyjr43;51135985]Being sensitive isn't necessarily a bad thing, I used to be very desensitized to things but as years went by I got more sensitive and I've noticed it's a goo thing, my current girlfriend thinks it's cute when I cry to cute things like the Overwatch shorts (damn things make me so emotional...) If you're meeting in person then ask everything that we've talked about, ask her if she sees a future with you, if not, why? Ask her why she's afraid to talk to you about certain things, is she afraid of your reaction or is she afraid you're going to worry about it when you shouldn't worry about it? Why doesn't she feel like she can be herself around you?[/QUOTE] snip

[QUOTE=Vi_;51135975]-wont quote-[/QUOTE] Look I've been there. I've been the 'best friend'. Tried really hard to make her break up with her boyfriend but failed in the end. They're still together 2 years later. HOWEVER, what HE doesn't know is that she cheated on him at least twice, three times if you count the time I kissed her. What I'm saying is, she was a bad girlfriend and did bad things. Chance is that your girlfriend will do the same if you stay together. If you think you'll still be happy with her after all is settled then do what you heart says, because you'll do that anyway no matter what we say. But it's probably best if you break up. It'll hurt for a while, but you'll find someone new eventually.

Sounds like it could actually stem back to earlier portions of her life and be a deep rooting issue, so it's not something with you specifically. Ask yourself these questions (I wouldn't blast this on the internet if I were you, but think to yourself for a moment.) does she have a past of trust issues, or inabilities to confide in people? Any personal life problems that could make her afraid to open up, for fear of ridicule or something along those lines? It could be that she has known this best friend for long enough to open up to him, but as the poster above me said, it's probably just better to break up with her than continue on with her. She doesn't sound like she can rely on you and tell you things that you should know, whether it has to span deeper into her life or not. It sounds like it's a slippery slope right now, and I'd bail before I slide further down if I were you.

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