Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Lemmingston;49520817]Viagra still can make sex last longer, not exactly good for your health if you're perfectly fine without it, but it's not extraordinarily bad, it's just like taking any drug. Don't overdo it. I've done it before, I wouldn't recommend it, your girl gets tired out and you're left with a boner and you can't go outside for ages until it goes away. Taking it while high could fix his problem, although create a few more, i'd be genuinely curious to know what happens[/QUOTE] You can pretty much "last longer" through masturbation and sex. I used to cum almost instantly when I was younger and last time I was able to keep up with my ex's orgasms. Sometimes cumming twice in each go. Assuming you don't have a dysfunction, if you keep "practicing" you'll last longer sooner or later. There are a lot of exercises you can do to enhance your performance. So if you haven't tried that, why would you go directly for the chemical nuke? If you've tried everything and it didn't work, talk to a specialist before making bad decisions.

[QUOTE=Ultralast;48117348]So for once in my life, I was honest. I sat down with her and told her everything, all the gritty details, my faults and demons, and the work I still have ahead of me. I was worried more than anything that this would scare her away, but instead she grabbed my hand, smiled, and said, "Your past doesn't matter. What matters is how we treat one another moving forward." I didn't hesitate to kiss her and tell her how amazing she is. I'm so lucky that I've found someone who can accept me for who I am. We made it official on Monday and I have nothing but trust and hope for this woman. Positivity and honesty are wonderful things.[/QUOTE] I've been in this relationship for 6 months now. This is the first relationship in over 5 years in which I have remained faithful, honest, and committed. It's been hard work, the temptation is overwhelming at times but the thought of my wonderful girlfriend always keeps me at bay. I'd like to say that I'm fully recovered from my addiction, but until those lingering thoughts are going for good I can't say that it's so. At times I think of girls I've slept with casually - friends, some of which I am still in contact with as I do care about them, in my own way. There's this girl; she's always been there. Even when I was off doing whatever I wanted, she stuck around. Was there with open arms to hear my thoughts, feel my pain, and provide my release. I never understood why, someone like me didn't deserve someone so loyal and selfless. Unlike my girlfriend, she'd bend over backwards to make me happy instead of putting her foot down when she should have. Years ago she married her boyfriend, then a marine, for the extra income the military provides. While he was on deployment I'd see her regularly and we kept our relationship a secret. Even after he came back, she'd still sneak away from time to time, reminding me that regardless of our circumstances, she was mine. It was terrible, feeling like that. Knowing that this woman loved me unconditionally, more than her own husband, willing to risk everything just to spend a few moments with me, him unknowingly supporting an unfaithful spouse. After I initiated my current relationship I made it a point that we couldn't see each other. Talk, sure, but I needed to stay at a distance. I wasn't too confident with my own self control. So we talk now and again, reminisce on old times, share our news. She called me today while I was at work, and told me she was pregnant. I felt a small stab of fear, then reminded myself it had been well over 7 months since we'd done anything and the child wasn't mine.... but as it turns out, it's not her husband's, either. This hit me harder than it should, and I don't know why. I'm happy in my relationship, but I feel like the one person who I could always count on to be there, always, is finally moving on. I wished her the best, reminded her I'm always here to do what I can, and hung up. It's strange how things work, how nothing is really forever, and now I'm doubting more than I should. I think it's time to head home for a glass of scotch and some silent introspection. I'm not asking for advice, but I had nowhere else to really share this information, so here I am. Thanks Facepunch, for being the ear that always listens.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;49523674]mom please[/QUOTE] dope is for dopes

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49523811]dope is for dopes[/QUOTE] rules are for fools

[QUOTE=Ultralast;49523762]I've been in this relationship for 6 months now. This is the first relationship in over 5 years in which I have remained faithful, honest, and committed. It's been hard work, the temptation is overwhelming at times but the thought of my wonderful girlfriend always keeps me at bay. I'd like to say that I'm fully recovered from my addiction, but until those lingering thoughts are going for good I can't say that it's so. At times I think of girls I've slept with casually - friends, some of which I am still in contact with as I do care about them, in my own way. There's this girl; she's always been there. Even when I was off doing whatever I wanted, she stuck around. Was there with open arms to hear my thoughts, feel my pain, and provide my release. I never understood why, someone like me didn't deserve someone so loyal and selfless. Unlike my girlfriend, she'd bend over backwards to make me happy instead of putting her foot down when she should have. Years ago she married her boyfriend, then a marine, for the extra income the military provides. While he was on deployment I'd see her regularly and we kept our relationship a secret. Even after he came back, she'd still sneak away from time to time, reminding me that regardless of our circumstances, she was mine. It was terrible, feeling like that. Knowing that this woman loved me unconditionally, more than her own husband, willing to risk everything just to spend a few moments with me, him unknowingly supporting an unfaithful spouse. After I initiated my current relationship I made it a point that we couldn't see each other. Talk, sure, but I needed to stay at a distance. I wasn't too confident with my own self control. So we talk now and again, reminisce on old times, share our news. She called me today while I was at work, and told me she was pregnant. I felt a small stab of fear, then reminded myself it had been well over 7 months since we'd done anything and the child wasn't mine.... but as it turns out, it's not her husband's, either. This hit me harder than it should, and I don't know why. I'm happy in my relationship, but I feel like the one person who I could always count on to be there, always, is finally moving on. I wished her the best, reminded her I'm always here to do what I can, and hung up. It's strange how things work, how nothing is really forever, and now I'm doubting more than I should. I think it's time to head home for a glass of scotch and some silent introspection. I'm not asking for advice, but I had nowhere else to really share this information, so here I am. Thanks Facepunch, for being the ear that always listens.[/QUOTE] Damn you are one gigantic asshole. I feel sorry for that guy, that fucking sucks.

[QUOTE=Ultralast;49523762]I've been in this relationship for 6 months now. This is the first relationship in over 5 years in which I have remained faithful, honest, and committed. It's been hard work, the temptation is overwhelming at times but the thought of my wonderful girlfriend always keeps me at bay. I'd like to say that I'm fully recovered from my addiction, but until those lingering thoughts are going for good I can't say that it's so. At times I think of girls I've slept with casually - friends, some of which I am still in contact with as I do care about them, in my own way. There's this girl; she's always been there. Even when I was off doing whatever I wanted, she stuck around. Was there with open arms to hear my thoughts, feel my pain, and provide my release. I never understood why, someone like me didn't deserve someone so loyal and selfless. Unlike my girlfriend, she'd bend over backwards to make me happy instead of putting her foot down when she should have. Years ago she married her boyfriend, then a marine, for the extra income the military provides. While he was on deployment I'd see her regularly and we kept our relationship a secret. Even after he came back, she'd still sneak away from time to time, reminding me that regardless of our circumstances, she was mine. It was terrible, feeling like that. Knowing that this woman loved me unconditionally, more than her own husband, willing to risk everything just to spend a few moments with me, him unknowingly supporting an unfaithful spouse. After I initiated my current relationship I made it a point that we couldn't see each other. Talk, sure, but I needed to stay at a distance. I wasn't too confident with my own self control. So we talk now and again, reminisce on old times, share our news. She called me today while I was at work, and told me she was pregnant. I felt a small stab of fear, then reminded myself it had been well over 7 months since we'd done anything and the child wasn't mine.... but as it turns out, it's not her husband's, either. This hit me harder than it should, and I don't know why. I'm happy in my relationship, but I feel like the one person who I could always count on to be there, always, is finally moving on. I wished her the best, reminded her I'm always here to do what I can, and hung up. It's strange how things work, how nothing is really forever, and now I'm doubting more than I should. I think it's time to head home for a glass of scotch and some silent introspection. I'm not asking for advice, but I had nowhere else to really share this information, so here I am. Thanks Facepunch, for being the ear that always listens.[/QUOTE] That woman deserves to be burnt alive by an angry mob holy fuck

[QUOTE=Lemmingston;49523861]Damn you are one gigantic asshole. I feel sorry for that guy, that fucking sucks.[/QUOTE] I feel sorry for him too. Despite how poorly he's treated her, he's a good man, and I don't know if she plans on breaking the news to him anytime soon. I don't know if you understand how utterly deplorable and depressing sexual addiction is - it drives you to do terrible, terrible things, to ignore your conscience. As much as I'd love to undo what I've done, all I can do now is live with it, and hope for the best for both of them.

[QUOTE=Ultralast;49523929]I feel sorry for him too. Despite how poorly he's treated her, he's a good man, and I don't know if she plans on breaking the news to him anytime soon. I don't know if you understand how utterly deplorable and depressing sexual addiction is - it drives you to do terrible, terrible things, to ignore your conscience. As much as I'd love to undo what I've done, all I can do now is live with it, and hope for the best for both of them.[/QUOTE] If nothing else, at least you're aware and sorry for being a gigantic walking talking human septic tank.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49523970]Are you Marvel's newest superhero, 1800s-Man?[/QUOTE] I wasn't being serious. I just think it takes a seriously evil person to do that to someone.

[QUOTE=OBOESHOES;49523982]I wasn't being serious. I just think it takes a seriously evil person to do that to someone.[/QUOTE] In her defense, he was pushy about the marriage. Insisted it was the right thing to do for him monetarily, not once regarding her feelings. She had a choice - leave him and move back in with family, or marry him, and be alone for a year. Her actions may have been poorly made, but she was young, and emotions get the best of us at times.

[QUOTE=Lemmingston;49523861]Damn you are one gigantic asshole. [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49523965]If nothing else, at least you're aware and sorry for being a gigantic walking talking human septic tank.[/QUOTE] Jesus Christ ease up a little, White Knights.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49524019]Come on, have some empathy.[/QUOTE] That's a bit difficult to do when you've been on the receiving end of that kind of behavior. Obviously I don't really know the actual situation but I still disapprove

[QUOTE=Ultralast;49524017]In her defense, he was pushy about the marriage. Insisted it was the right thing to do for him monetarily, not once regarding her feelings. She had a choice - leave him and move back in with family, or marry him, and be alone for a year. Her actions may have been poorly made, but she was young, and emotions get the best of us at times.[/QUOTE] There is no defense lmao. It's just you both made shit decisions. And thus you are now an asshole, just like her.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49524052]Jesus Christ ease up a little, White Knights.[/QUOTE] who am I white knighting for? I just called the dood a piece of shit, I'm not sticking up for anybody.

I don't think they're saying they approve of it but just that these people aren't the epitome of evil. I absolutely think that cheating and infidelity are essentially some of the worst emotionally damaging things you can do to a person and are certainly horrible, but describing the people as inherently evil is a little bit of a stretch unless of course it was with truly malicious intent (doesn't seem like it was)

[QUOTE=Lemmingston;49524116]There is no defense lmao. It's just you both made shit decisions. And thus you are now an asshole, just like her.[/QUOTE] I'm well aware. The only thing I have left is my future.

don't think i've ever shared or understood facepunch's seething hatred of cheating it's bad, sure, but i can't say i find it as unforgivable as some here do

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;49524211]don't think i've ever shared or understood facepunch's seething hatred of cheating it's bad, sure, but i can't say i find it as unforgivable as some here do[/QUOTE] You probably won't understand unless you actually have someone cheat on you. It's basically just betrayal; coming to find out that someone you love and are emotionally attached to has been lying to you about their feelings towards you and compromises your trust is emotionally devastating. I'm not going to be a immature dipshit and say that cheating is ~evil~ but it does suck and it's a pretty shitty thing to do to someone else.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49524133]who am I white knighting for? I just called the dood a piece of shit, I'm not sticking up for anybody.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Lemmingston;49524116]There is no defense lmao. It's just you both made shit decisions. And thus you are now an asshole, just like her.[/QUOTE] And you're what? 10 years old? The guy came here to vent with full awareness of what he has done. It's actually easier to empathize with his story than with yours and the other two dingleberrie's bitchy judgmental attitude. Beyond that point, calling him an asshole or worse is pointless and rude and goes way beside the point of what a good contribution to the thread is. But hey, keep at it. I hope it's giving you the satisfaction you needed for the day.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49524375]And you're what? 10 years old? The guy came here to vent with full awareness of what he has done. It's actually easier to empathize with his story than with yours and the other two dingleberrie's bitchy judgmental attitude. Beyond that point, calling him an asshole or worse is pointless and rude and goes way beside the point of what a good contribution to the thread is. But hey, keep at it. I hope it's giving you the satisfaction you needed for the day.[/QUOTE] Calls people white knights and then says they're the ones who are 10 years old. Oh man, that's pretty rich. I have little empathy for him because he did something terrible along with that woman, and by the way he posted he was sticking up for her, "in her defense", yeah- no. Other than that I hope he learnt from this, and doesn't ever do that again.

I'm sensing some sexual tension between you guys, you should all fuck already

[QUOTE=Lemmingston;49524429]Calls people white knights and then says they're the ones who are 10 years old. Oh man, that's pretty rich. I have little empathy for him because he did something terrible along with that woman, and by the way he posted he was sticking up for her, "in her defense", yeah- no. Other than that I hope he learnt from this, and doesn't ever do that again.[/QUOTE] Dude, flaming your way to prove a point isn't exactly the best way to win over an argument. If you're that frustrated, then get some hints from the thread title, go have sex, get a girlfriend, or just pay a hooker to give you a hug. It'll surely give you something interesting to post about.

I thank those who are being understanding, even supportive; but please, don't attack each other over my actions. Everyone here is entitled to their opinions, and I believe all of them to be accurate (to an extent). Yes, I have learned my lesson. Yes, I was deplorable and yes it eats at me day by day. But to sit and berate each other is just useless, and drags us away from what's truly important.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49524472]Dude, flaming your way to prove a point isn't exactly the best way to win over an argument. If you're that frustrated, then get some hints from the thread title, go have sex, get a girlfriend, or just pay a hooker to give you a hug. It'll surely give you something interesting to post about.[/QUOTE] Ah yes, someone disagrees with me, gotta be flaming right? The rest of your post is pretty cute I'll give you that. Bit ridiculous though after first complaining about flaming to start with.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49524229]coming to find out that someone you love and are emotionally attached to has been lying to you about their feelings towards you[/QUOTE] Except you don't know that they have. Do you really think cheaters set out to find unhappy relationships on purpose just so they can have someone to cheat on? People cheat because they don't know how to deal with a once good relationship falling apart, and make a mistake. Maybe because they feel lonely due to a distant (literally and figuratively) partner. Maybe they feel betrayed themselves due to something their partner did, don't believe themselves able to confront them yet feel justified in their cheating. Maybe they don't hold sexual contact to the same regard as their partner. I'm not trying to excuse it. Having a reason for cheating doesn't make it right, nor does it erase the responsibility. But holding such a black and white view of people who do it helps nobody.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49524533]Say what you want, but I enjoy this thread being more active with discussions[/QUOTE] I wish the negativity would tone down a bit, but I'm with you on that. I find all your opinions constructive and helpful in the reflection of our actions.

[QUOTE=Ultralast;49524508]I thank those who are being understanding, even supportive; but please, don't attack each other over my actions. Everyone here is entitled to their opinions, and I believe all of them to be accurate (to an extent). Yes, I have learned my lesson. Yes, I was deplorable and yes it eats at me day by day. But to sit and berate each other is just useless, and drags us away from what's truly important.[/QUOTE] I'm glad you understand, I sincerely hope you learnt from all that you went through to not make that decision again

Wow, no "you're a piece of shit". I'm proud, son.

Holy hell calm down guys. Yeah, it was a shit thing to do but he knows that, and he didnt come here just to here your opinion on how shit he is. Ultralast, good on you for being responsible about it and working towards beating your problem.

[QUOTE=Ultralast;49524542]I wish the negativity would tone down a bit, but I'm with you on that. I find all your opinions constructive and helpful in the reflection of our actions.[/QUOTE] have you ever considered looking for medical help? being aware of your condition as an addict is one step foward, but not the cure. if you're insecure about your self-control, might as well suffer from deprivation at some point with even worse consequences.