Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

Hey guys I'm back. Last girl didn't work out. Got a new girl now. Things seem steady. Last girl randomly started ignoring me. I think she got back with her ex. New girl is great. But I think I keep ending up talking to girls with ex issues. Decided to make my wants more known. I've been seeing this new girl for about three months now and I want to make us official. So I decided to be straightforward with her and tell her plainly that its what I want to do. Frankly I want to know if our relationship is going to go anywhere. Im okay waiting until she's ready but I dont want to invest my time into a relationship if she decides it's not something she wants. In response, she told me that she isn't going anywhere. Will update if this all goes sour.

[QUOTE=plunger435;51405730]No idea how you could trust someone who starts dating you while still in a relationship with someone else.[/QUOTE] she could absolutely be doing it to you, which is the problem

[QUOTE=taipan;51400675]Did she received tell start taking birth control(or changed brands)? Because that can seriously fuck up your libido, mood and personality.[/QUOTE] For the first time in years I'm off birth control and I'm only realising now how much it usually suppresses my libido cos I literally want to fuck everything I see right now. My boyfriend is just like "this is what it's always like for men though" and for the first time in forever I can really sympathise. Can't wait for my prescription.

[QUOTE=meek;51409297]For the first time in years I'm off birth control and I'm only realising now how much it usually suppresses my libido cos I literally want to fuck everything I see right now. My boyfriend is just like "this is what it's always like for men though" and for the first time in forever I can really sympathise. Can't wait for my prescription.[/QUOTE] I really wish they made a reliable and convenient form of male birth control. I hate the side effects that my girlfriend has to suffer through in order to remain protected. We've tried every kind of female birth control now, and even the most tolerable one (the pill) has some marked downsides. Condoms just aren't reliable enough, and she says the extra friction is uncomfortable enough to make the pill worth it. I'm totally just getting a vasectomy after our second kid so we don't have to worry about it anymore.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51409664]We do pill and condom. Overkill, but I don't need no babies[/QUOTE] same here

I need to vent. I initially wrote out a large wall detailing a recent event in my life, but the context doesn't really add much to my current predicament, so I'll keep it short. Essentially, I got way too drunk with my best friend, and things got far too sexual. I did a thing I wouldn't have done sober, and potentially even more. This isn't the first time something like this has happened. Any time we've drank together, she's made uncomfortable sexual advances toward me. I've just always been sober enough to properly turn them down. This time, I have no recollection of what happened, and thus lacked that capacity. I was VERY drunk, probably bordering alcohol poisoning judging by how I felt the next day. The only thing I remember from the night is looking up from where I was laying to see her sucking my dick. That's it. That's enough to know that things got out of control and that she'd taken advantage of me. At first, I didn't really care much. Now that some time has passed and the ordeal has fully sunk in, my chest is subject to a constant strain any time I think about what happened. About what might have happened, too. It's strenuous to say the least I figure I'll probably talk to her about it, but honestly, a part of me just wants to drop her from my life entirely. She's been this way for as long as I've known her, and considering I'd seen some of the red flags throughout our friendship, I really should have known better than to trust her with something like this. Not that I blame myself (although I do wish I had listened to my instincts earlier) Ech I just don't know how to think about this

my ex girlfriend now has an implant but when we were together, she wasn't on the pill and I didn't use any rubbers :v: in hindsight it was fucking stupid, but she never wanted kids, so I took advantage of that to get me some unprotected sex since with my first girlfriend I used rubbers the entire time, and when she started on the pill, she left me.

My gf has a IUD, so I can just [I]come[/I] and go as I please. It's pretty great

So maybe this is not the best place to ask and there's already a few unanswered posts, but I figure people who are knowledgeable about relationships know enough about psychology to share some insight about this. Basically my GF and her family reserved tickets for a show here in Paris a few months ago, and it's supposed to take place next Friday. Thing is, ever since they booked those she's had an increasingly intense gut feeling that something bad will happen there, and it's stressing her to the point she's got fatigue and eczema on the back of her hands. Now personally I don't believe in premonitions, but I can see where she's coming from. A year ago at around the same period terrorist attacks were taking place here, one of which was at a concert to add insult to injury, so it's most likely related to that. Anyone knows how to approach that? I mean, my take on it is that she may as well not go since whatever happens there she won't enjoy herself if she's scared for her life (and shit, I'm not really comfortable with her going there now that she's shared her concerns with me), but the issue is that her family will go regardless. She's talked about her mother about it but it hasn't really gone anywhere, her folks aren't as open with their emotions as mine are (which is one of the only obstacles when it comes to our relationship, she often has a hard time talking about her feelings), so I don't really know what to do to help her.

[QUOTE=dcalde78;51407733]if the battery is old, the recent cold weather will have killed it off :eng101:[/QUOTE] Car is from 2007 (though the battery most likely is only a few years old) so I suppose that makes more sense. I only used it 5 days ago, could always be the alternator that isn't charging it properly as well. Charging the battery and reinstalling it tonight. It is also the first time I ever cleaned the battery connections and took a battery out of a car which I am kind of proud of since I researched and did it all by myself (I am not a car person). To make this more relevant to the thread, the FWB I was meant to see told me she is on the rag since yesterday, so I suppose it isn't all bad timing. Also, Saturday I went on a date with a girl I've known for a while. We get on really well, we have really good banter and we have similar interests. We went to see Dr Strange and after the we walk in the staff tell us that they can't take card payments or print tickets due to some IT issues. The conversation then went as follows: Staff: Soooo...what we have been doing since we can't print any tickets is...we let everyone who pre-booked go and if there are any seats left...you can just go in. Us: Woah! So we can just watch it for free?! (Silly question since he already said that in a way) Staff: Yup, there isn't anything we can do and we're still getting paid so we've been doing it all evening. Us: Nice! Thanks a bunch! As the pre-booked ticket holders finished going in I got some popcorn and drinks. Then this gem happened: Me: So that's it, how much do I owe you? (I think they still could take cash payments) *Staff member slowly slides the large popcorn and large drinks towards me* Staff: Don't worry about it... Us: :joy::joy::joy: So not only did we get to watch Dr Strange for free, we also got the snacks for free as well! I felt really smug because earlier my date asked if we should book tickets and I told her not to worry about pre-booking :smug:

[QUOTE=blerb;51410349]I need to vent. I initially wrote out a large wall detailing a recent event in my life, but the context doesn't really add much to my current predicament, so I'll keep it short. Essentially, I got way too drunk with my best friend, and things got far too sexual. I did a thing I wouldn't have done sober, and potentially even more. This isn't the first time something like this has happened. Any time we've drank together, she's made uncomfortable sexual advances toward me. I've just always been sober enough to properly turn them down. This time, I have no recollection of what happened, and thus lacked that capacity. I was VERY drunk, probably bordering alcohol poisoning judging by how I felt the next day. The only thing I remember from the night is looking up from where I was laying to see her sucking my dick. That's it. That's enough to know that things got out of control and that she'd taken advantage of me. At first, I didn't really care much. Now that some time has passed and the ordeal has fully sunk in, my chest is subject to a constant strain any time I think about what happened. About what might have happened, too. It's strenuous to say the least I figure I'll probably talk to her about it, but honestly, a part of me just wants to drop her from my life entirely. She's been this way for as long as I've known her, and considering I'd seen some of the red flags throughout our friendship, I really should have known better than to trust her with something like this. Not that I blame myself (although I do wish I had listened to my instincts earlier) Ech I just don't know how to think about this[/QUOTE] Get as far away from her as possible. It sounds like she straight out raped you. It's pretty fucked up, if you won't take legal action then just get her out of your life.

[QUOTE=healthpoint;51410559]My gf has a IUD, so I can just [I]come[/I] and go as I please. It's pretty great[/QUOTE] We definitely enjoyed the convenience of it, but she didn't like the side effects. Since it was "always on," it prevented her from menstruating regularly, and she frequently had pretty bad discharge. With the pill, it has "off days" so that she can have her period. She said having her period just helps her feel normal, and makes her comfortable about staying on top of her reproductive health since a lot of issues can be detected based on menstruation. I'm definitely nervous about her being on the pill (it feels like we have a pregnancy scare every month), but it's the only thing she's comfortable with. So, not much to do. Again, I just wish there were an effective form of male birth control.

I just asked a girl out for dinner on Friday. Lets hope for the best! Any tips? :v:

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51413353]I just asked a girl out for dinner on Friday. Lets hope for the best! Any tips? :v:[/QUOTE] 15% is usually the standard.

As in she can pay 15%?

no that was a joke about server tips typically being 15% of the bill (i don't know how sweden works) personally i'd feel weird having her pay for anything since traditionally it seems like the guy pays. i wouldn't necessarily say she CAN'T pay for things, but go assuming you'll pay for all of it, and if she offers, she can pay (although if she offered i'd still say i'd pay for it)

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51415421]I personally hope the recent female empowerment movement will lead to women paying the bill more Like, I never want to go out to eat because I know I'll have to pay for it. Girlfriend said "you should take me out this nice restaurant" and really implied I would be paying for it, so I've found a lot of ways to be too busy to do that[/QUOTE] Man I can't remember the last time I went out on anything past the first date and paid for the entire thing..

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51413353]I just asked a girl out for dinner on Friday. Lets hope for the best! Any tips? :v:[/QUOTE] Well she Said yes but she couldnt go out with me on Friday because she have Two shows on Friday and Saturday(acting) and that she promised that she would hang out with her girl friend on Friday night but she told me she would tell me if things change.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51415421]I personally hope the recent female empowerment movement will lead to women paying the bill more Like, I never want to go out to eat because I know I'll have to pay for it. Girlfriend said "you should take me out this nice restaurant" and really implied I would be paying for it, so I've found a lot of ways to be too busy to do that[/QUOTE] We just alternate, GF pays one time, I pay the other.

Got my first succ. But she asked if I "gotta blast" like Jimmy Neutron, I couldn't finish cause I was laughing a bunch.

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[QUOTE=healthpoint;51410559]My gf has a IUD, so I can just [I]come[/I] and go as I please. It's pretty great[/QUOTE] I considered getting one after my last pregnancy scare but there is no way I could. I'm already squeamish enough about going to the gyno and just reading about the process and painful experiences completely put me off it. Would be nice to have the convenience though, it is definitely not the same with condoms.

So I'm a relatively unattractive nerdy (and relatively sober) virgin who just dragged a very drunk, very attractive and very horny girl out of my room and I'm not going to lie, I feel like a fucking idiot.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51420032]Idk if she was too drunk to even remotely consent to anything, you did the right thing. Idk what you guys think, but the only way I'd do anything with a drink girl is if I knew before she was drunk that she wanted to smang and Bang it. I mean reasonably drunk, not "I don't know what I'm doing drunk".[/QUOTE] Nah, I hadn't met her before she was drunk. I made the right choice, and my flatmates and her friends were so close too. Afterwards myflatmate said "can't believe you did that". It's just frustrating as a guy on what feels like an eternal quest to get laid. [editline]24th November 2016[/editline] Just wanted to vent that feeling of 'argh!'

[QUOTE=Rossy167;51420066]Nah, I hadn't met her before she was drunk. I made the right choice, and my flatmates and her friends were so close too. Afterwards myflatmate said "can't believe you did that". It's just frustrating as a guy on what feels like an eternal quest to get laid. [editline]24th November 2016[/editline] Just wanted to vent that feeling of 'argh!'[/QUOTE] She may sober up and be grateful or something you never know

Don't sweat not having sex man, it'll happen when it does. [editline]24th November 2016[/editline] like one of my friend's dad didn't first do the deed until he was 28, so seriously you'll be fine. it's not a race

[QUOTE=silaz;51420088]She may sober up and be grateful or something you never know[/QUOTE] Nah, it's no biggie. I wanted to moan somewhere, done now. Tbh she probably won't remember.

[QUOTE=bdd458;51420161]Don't sweat not having sex man, it'll happen when it does. [editline]24th November 2016[/editline] like one of my friend's dad didn't first do the deed until he was 28, so seriously you'll be fine. it's not a race[/QUOTE] It's not that I've left it long that bothers me, it's that I want and I can't get.

[QUOTE=killerteacup;51415436]Man I can't remember the last time I went out on anything past the first date and paid for the entire thing..[/QUOTE] I understand the meaning and all, but my girlfriend has never payed for a meal out or anything. I don't know, it just feels better for me if i cover it myself.

I have a bit of a situation here. My friend, who is in a relationship with a girl, is having bad thoughts. Let's call this guy R and the girl he's in the relationship A They are in a relationship for half a year now. However recently they went into a fight and has since been ignoring one another, she says that she needs some time alone from him. She also says that she hooked up with someone else (I'm not sure if she's joking or serious) He is confused and is doubting if their relationship will go on. This guy has lots of lady friends and although he could just get another girl if their relationship doesn't work out, I think this particular girl is special to him, they already planned their future and stuff and R spent so many time and money for her. There's this other girl who he kinda likes as well (let's call her B) and she knows about the current situation. A and R are planning on going to the mall today (for some reason, after the fight and her saying she hooked up. She also still says "I love you" and all that) and B is also going to the mall for her birthday party and B plans to meet up with R and A in the mall and have B and R (and B's friend) do stuff together and make A feel kind of left out to make A feel jealous. If A does leave R, R will probably try to hit on B, if the jealousy stuff makes A want R back, well.. maybe R and A will go on with their relationship but I'm not sure about this. If the former happens I'm not sure how A and R will feel after that (especially A) and the latter is very unlikely to happen. I feel like I should do something, A and R are both my friends. But at the same time I feel like I should just let it happen because I might just be that guy with no business just butting in their problem, especially when I'm not close to A (like I used to) and I'm the only guy friend of his that knows about this (Though I think one other guy knows about this too, someone who's more qualified to shove himself in the trouble and help) A is not that whore-like girl who just hooks up with lots of other guys and stuff, she's a nice girl and R can be a gentleman during times. I'm so fucking confused about all this.