The Depression Chat - Symptoms, Assistance, Medicines and More.
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[QUOTE=Zeke129;32518981]He's trying to make light but not doing that great I guess.[/quote]
It was a legitimate question. I live in a place where prostitution is legal and regulated, so maybe there is a difference in perception there.
When faced with being kicked out of college and your apartment, quite a few people would rather sell their sexual services than spend ten years of their life being a fry cook at McDonalds.
[editline]28th September 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32518981]
How much do you owe your landlord? It's a shitty idea but you could get a cash advance on your Visa to cover rent and just pay off the minimum balance until you get back on your feet. Absolutely don't make a habit of it, but spending a bit of extra money later in interest is better than becoming homeless. You seem fairly responsible with your money, but just found yourself in a bad situation, so you could probably manage debt okay.[/QUOTE]
But if a few hundred dollars is the difference between surviving and being forced to go back home, there is clearly some bigger problem, and it's certainly not how much money he is spending.
Have you looked into any kind of government concession, or religious support, or finding benefactors, or additional sources of income? If prostitution is not your thing, maybe you could try to find a niche in which you could sell other services online.
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[QUOTE=Beezleboss;32519096]Well not really a plan, but I sometimes think of all the different ways I could; or how it would be if I was gone.[/QUOTE]
That's normal.
Perhaps not several times a day, but thoughts like that is something most people experience more or less.
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[QUOTE=Beezleboss;32519142]Okay thank you.
Out of the blue post here: Most of the time I feel like I want to be "dead" but I still want to be alive and watch the world go round. It sounds weird on paper but I don't know how to describe it any other way, does anyone know what I mean?[/QUOTE]
Sounds like you just don't want to be in the life you're in right now. Have you talked to a professional about what you're feeling?
[QUOTE=Beezleboss;32519142]Okay thank you.
Out of the blue post here: Most of the time I feel like I want to be "dead" but I still want to be alive and watch the world go round. It sounds weird on paper but I don't know how to describe it any other way, does anyone know what I mean?[/QUOTE]
Like you don't want to responsible for anything, or you don't want your present social ties, or like Zeke said, you don't want your [I]particular[/I] life?
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[QUOTE=Beezleboss;32519401]No, I haven't.
I don't know, I think it just might be not wanting to be burdened by emotion, I love my life but sometimes it just gets to be too much to bear.[/QUOTE]
How long have you had that feeling?
That's pretty normal, to be honest.
To me it sounds like you need to make some minor changes in your life for you to feel better.
I don't know if you do any of these things, but if you don't, this will be a good start:
Start exercising. It won't have to be something big, but go for a long walk every other day or so. Enjoy it.
Have a regular sleeping schedule. Go to bed around the same time each day and get up the same time. Don't stay up longer just because it's weekend. It's actually quite unhealthy to change your sleeping pattern like that. But if you need to rest, like seriously need to, then do it. But avoid taking naps in the afternoon because that'll interfere with your sleep in the night.
Eat healthy. No, I don't mean cut out all fast-food and "you're not allowed to eat sweets", but try to eat balanced as much as you want to/can. Eat fruit if you crave sugar at random times.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;32519524]To me it sounds like you need to make some minor changes in your life for you to feel better.
I don't know if you do any of these things, but if you don't, this will be a good start:
Start exercising. It won't have to be something big, but go for a long walk every other day or so. Enjoy it.
Have a regular sleeping schedule. Go to bed around the same time each day and get up the same time. Don't stay up longer just because it's weekend. It's actually quite unhealthy to change your sleeping pattern like that. But if you need to rest, like seriously need to, then do it. But avoid taking naps in the afternoon because that'll interfere with your sleep in the night.
Eat healthy. No, I don't mean cut out all fast-food and "you're not allowed to eat sweets", but try to eat balanced as much as you want to/can. Eat fruit if you crave sugar at random times.[/QUOTE]
Exercise, sleeping right and eating better are really effective in minimizing sadness and helping to feel better, that's great advice there.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;32512520]Nope. They never give me anything and never have given me anything, even is a desperate situation like this.[/QUOTE]
Move to Norway.
You'd get something called "trygd" which gives you 2000 dollars a month or something so that you can afford to "live" while getting you back on your feet or if you need to find a job and cant live at home.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32518981]He's trying to make light but not doing that I great I guess.
How much do you owe your landlord? It's a shitty idea but you could get a cash advance on your Visa to cover rent and just pay off the minimum balance until you get back on your feet. Absolutely don't make a habit of it, but spending a bit of extra money later in interest is better than becoming homeless. You seem fairly responsible with your money, but just found yourself in a bad situation, so you could probably manage debt okay.
[editline]28th September 2011[/editline]
Is it a passing thought or are you going over and over in your head with a plan?[/QUOTE]
I cant get a cash advance, because I wont be able to pay off my visa, even by the end of the month.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;32522538]I cant get a cash advance, because I wont be able to pay off my visa, even by the end of the month.[/QUOTE]
Have you considered begging?
Just straight up "hello stranger this is my story I need money because", because listening to your story here, I'd probably give you money if I actually had any, and I'm a bastard without a heart.
I was talking to a homeless guy a few months back, and apparently he makes $50-$500 AUD a day by begging on public transport.
I don't know what other options there are.
Mabe that could work.
I'd give you money too if it weren't for the fact that my account at this very moment says -100 DKK ($20), so if you're willing to "sink to the level of" beginning you should go for it.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;32522538]I cant get a cash advance, because I wont be able to pay off my visa, even by the end of the month.[/QUOTE]
Would you rather be homeless or take a hit to your credit rating?
It should be a last resort but if your only choice is between losing your apartment or missing a credit card payment, miss the credit card payment.
What's your minimum payment on your card anyway? As long as you can cover that you'll be set for one more month until you get back on your feet. Just don't carry the debt too long.
[QUOTE=Str4fe;32538271][img]http://media.riemurasia.net/hylatyt/282272335.jpg[/img]
Wow.[/QUOTE]
That's not how feeling suicidal works
If someone is able to even consider going out and doing all of those things I guarantee they are not suicidal or depressed
There's a reason 4chan isn't an expert in anything
I have not been really suicidal myself. depressed, yes, but not suicidal.
But i think if i were to do a suicide i'd atleast do a backflip.
If any of you have, how have you talked to your parent(s) about depression (assuming you're a minor)?
I never have, thus far, and so I've never spoken to a doctor or similar about it. Nor have I spoken to anyone in real life at all about it.
I just feel like it'd be awkward, even more depressing, or put a strain on our relationship if I were to try to tell someone about it.
One time (and the only time) I got to the point that I started crying hysterically in front of my mother, and she insisted I tell her what was wrong, but I couldn't bring myself to say anything to her. She ended up forgetting about it after a day and never mentioning it to me.
And does medication even actually help? I haven't done any in-depth research into depression, but I haven't seen any specific studies proving a neurological link. I guess that is because the brain is extremely complex, but you would think there would be some proven link between different people with depression. I just feel like medicine wouldn't do anything, and the side-effects would make even trying it not worth it. I do believe that I actually have a neurological disorder (if there actually is one) rather than something psychological that I can get through, as I can remember episodes of depression even as far back as my single-digit years. Perhaps that would make the medicine more effective, or maybe not, maybe its partially placebo effect and I already doubt its efficacy.
You should probably tell your mother, I highly doubt that she forgot. She's likely waiting for you to say something.
As for medication, it depends on the medication and the person. Sometimes it never works for a person, sometimes it works within a couple weeks. The only way to get an answer is go to a professional and see what they say.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;32531556]Mabe that could work.[/QUOTE]
Still having money trouble?
I made 292$ over the last couple of days. When it was sent to me paypal put it UNDER REVIEW whitch basically means I wont get it for 48 hours or more. I need to pay my landlord today. Im fucked because of a shitty service.
So show him that your payment was sent under review..?
[editline]1st October 2011[/editline]
I don't know how it's like in Canada but here the banks don't usually work on the weekend. A landlord shouldn't be ignorant of that fact.
[QUOTE=flamehead5;32566092]I made 292$ over the last couple of days. When it was sent to me paypal put it UNDER REVIEW whitch basically means I wont get it for 48 hours or more. I need to pay my landlord today. Im fucked because of a shitty service.[/QUOTE]
Just show him a printout of your paypal page.
I doubt landlords can even legally throw you out for missing a payment by a day
I need some help with a guy in my uni class thats got depression.
He vents out on some forum all day I think, he has the browser small enough so you can't see the url bar, I saw a glimsp of one of the many paragraphs he writes complaining about his life saying he was failing etc.
I tried helping him, sad down with for an hour and a half during class time to help him get his work done, all I got was aggression, didn't even say thanks.
He has a twin brother which seems alot more successfull than him, clean shaven, dresses nice. (He dropped in one day.), also the guys 4th time of doing this course (means he's been at the uni for 6 years)
He was even in the class with one of our tutors.
Anyway, his skills are lacking badly, he shows no signs of progression and isn't afraid of loudly complaining to people who try talking. (Get to that later.)
He comes to class reaking of BO, not the small tinge you can smell in the mornings with someone who's not put on spray, I mean he fucking STINKS, worst part is that he sits behind me on the row of computers in the corner, so I can smell it all day.
All he does is vent on the forum he's on, he doesn't do work.
When I tried talking to him, he said he recently quit his job so he could focus on uni work.
I asked, "Why did you do that, you need that to keep a roof under your head.", he shrugged it off then screamed at the tutor that he wasn't getting enough help with the work.
So, I gave up.
The tutor that he was once in the course with spoke to him the other day, trying to cheer him up saying;
Tutor: "If you feel that you're depressed, you can leave if you want, I'll mark you as you were here."
Him, angriliy; "Why!? So I can just be depressed there!?"
Tutor: "Well, I'm sorry. I've never had depression before, but you need to fight it and see a docotr"
Him, angrily "They're useless!"
Tutor: "What's there to be depressed about today? It's a gorgeous day outside!"
Him, angriliy. "I fucking hate the sun, it's, makes me feel uncomfortable and is useless!"
Tutor: "Well, tell me whats wrong so I can understand better."
Him, angriliy "There is several things, too much to explain."
Tutor: " We could go get a coffee and talk about it then?"
Him, angrily "I fucking hate coffee!"
Tutor tried talkign to him some more, but I went down for a smoke with another student because we could fuckign stand it anymore.
Also I think he's gay, he often will randomly come over to me and try to touch me and shit, leaning heavily over my portion of the row desk to see what I'm doing or whatever and is making me uncomfortable.
he also followed me to KFC to get lunch one day, we were with 2 other guys, they got indian and I walked off, to have him pretty much breathing down my kneck
He can't be helped if he doesn't want to me, plus the sublissive gestures is making me uncomfortable
The fuck do i do
what the fuck
tell him to fuck off
just completely snap at him like he feasted upon the entrails of your first son
Of course he's failing if he's only writing about how he fails instead of doing something about it, what a douche.
To all the FP bros on this chat thread, just want you all to know you're loved and I hope things turn out well for all of you.
[QUOTE=Blitzkreig;32583079]To all the FP bros on this chat thread, just want you all to know you're loved and I hope things turn out well for all of you.[/QUOTE]
Thank you. This really means a lot to me. My whole day is brightening up now.
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