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Yet another probably stupid question, what is the motivation for actually getting help? Not really depression, that one's easy to explain. But other personality disorders and problems, why should you get help?
Not sure what you mean by motivation, but its really a personal decision. Probably the most common is simply because the person percieves the [U]disorder[/U] as something [U]negative[/U] and something to be fixed. Often it can even get in the way of every-day life. The only disorder I have is something relating to depression, but I'm not suicidal simply because suicide would go against my ENTIRE personal philosophy, a philosophy that has been ingrained within me for years. Because of this I usually try to get over it without external help, and besides I would be self conscious if I talked to someone about it. If I were suicidal, however, I would definitely seek out help as I know that is an extreme point where my judgement is definitely being adversely affected, and in normal circumstances I wouldn't ever think of pursuing suicide.
[QUOTE=Devodiere;32838665]Yet another probably stupid question, what is the motivation for actually getting help? Not really depression, that one's easy to explain. But other personality disorders and problems, why should you get help?[/QUOTE]Because help can't hurt
[QUOTE=Devodiere;32838665]Yet another probably stupid question, what is the motivation for actually getting help? Not really depression, that one's easy to explain. But other personality disorders and problems, why should you get help?[/QUOTE] My reasoning for going initially was that if my arm was broken I'd go to a doctor who fixes arms, if my lungs had a problem I'd go to a doctor who fixes lungs, so it only makes sense that if my brain isn't working properly I should go to a doctor that fixes those Hardest part is opening up and being honest with them, something I've yet to fully be able to do
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32851543]My reasoning for going initially was that if my arm was broken I'd go to a doctor who fixes arms, if my lungs had a problem I'd go to a doctor who fixes lungs, so it only makes sense that if my brain isn't working properly I should go to a doctor that fixes those Hardest part is opening up and being honest with them, something I've yet to fully be able to do[/QUOTE] Or you could go to the hospital.
[QUOTE=ultra_bright;32851572]Or you could go to the hospital.[/QUOTE] If you go to a hospital and you're not an immediate threat to yourself or others they're going to kick you out for wasting their time, and refer you elsewhere It's a hospital
Not really the same. For a real and debilitating issue then sure but for something that's a bit off, just not working how it's supposed to but still working, harder to justify that it needs fixing.
[QUOTE=sp00ks;32831456]I know you're just trying to help, but you can't know this. Maybe things will just get worse and worse.[/QUOTE] Actually, as long as you're as old as I think you are (16-18), there's a lot of life ahead of you, and there are many more opportunities out there. Granted, it COULD get worse and worse, but only if you DECIDE it's going to be that way. As long as you put yourself out there and DO things, the best is definitely still to come. Go out. Do something important or fun. Travel to Jamaica, volunteer for community service. Get a change of scenery, and I can guarantee that your quality of life will improve.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32852730]If you go to a hospital and you're not an immediate threat to yourself or others they're going to kick you out for wasting their time, and refer you elsewhere It's a hospital[/QUOTE] Was talking about the broken arm/lung part. That would suck.
I hate the way I look. I want to make a change, maybe drop weight. But, I find myself with no motivation to get to where I want to be and what I want to look like. I want to change for the better, but I feel like I can't... What do I do?
[QUOTE=Mr. Smartass;32854205]Actually, as long as you're as old as I think you are (16-18), there's a lot of life ahead of you, and there are many more opportunities out there. Granted, it COULD get worse and worse, but only if you DECIDE it's going to be that way. As long as you put yourself out there and DO things, the best is definitely still to come. Go out. Do something important or fun. Travel to Jamaica, volunteer for community service. Get a change of scenery, and I can guarantee that your quality of life will improve.[/QUOTE] Again, you can't know that.
[QUOTE=sp00ks;32857521]Again, you can't know that.[/QUOTE] Nothing in life is ever guaranteed but with that attitude I think you might not have much ahead of you.
[QUOTE=Bink;32855727]I hate the way I look. I want to make a change, maybe drop weight. But, I find myself with no motivation to get to where I want to be and what I want to look like. I want to change for the better, but I feel like I can't... What do I do?[/QUOTE] The trick isn't to set some distant goal that'll be hard to accomplish, that'll just discourage you. Set smaller obtainable goals. Instead of "I want to drop 50 pounds", set your first goal as something like "I want to go for an hour walk every evening". Then once you get into that habit, set another small goal like "I want to run a mile a couple times a week". Before you know it you'll have an entire workout routine without having to make any huge changes. It's impossible to change how you look overnight and that leads to a lot of people giving up. So instead, change small things that you [i]can[/i] change overnight.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32859148]The trick isn't to set some distant goal that'll be hard to accomplish, that'll just discourage you. Set smaller obtainable goals. Instead of "I want to drop 50 pounds", set your first goal as something like "I want to go for an hour walk every evening". Then once you get into that habit, set another small goal like "I want to run a mile a couple times a week". Before you know it you'll have an entire workout routine without having to make any huge changes. It's impossible to change how you look overnight and that leads to a lot of people giving up. So instead, change small things that you [i]can[/i] change overnight.[/QUOTE] Liposuction.
[QUOTE=sp00ks;32831456]I know you're just trying to help, but you can't know this. Maybe things will just get worse and worse.[/QUOTE] Tell us what's up man [editline]19th October 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=ultra_bright;32859164]Liposuction.[/QUOTE] Requires massive changes to your lifestyle, unless you are morbidly obese I'd say that liposuction would be harder than developing healthier habits.
[QUOTE=ultra_bright;32857567]Nothing in life is ever guaranteed but with that attitude I think you might not have much ahead of you.[/QUOTE] I'm glad we agree.
[QUOTE=sp00ks;32857521]Again, you can't know that.[/QUOTE] Well if you continue with that attitude, there won't be anything ahead of you. But if you get over yourself and actually DO something, I know for a fact that your quality of life will improve. Honestly, what harm could come from going out and searching for FUN things to do? I mean seriously now.
When I feel depressed it's usually at school for about 2 hours or so, then I'm all happy again in an hour. And it's not like just a feeling of being down, it's like I'm going to kill myself crying really hard kind of down. What's wrong with me?
[QUOTE=ultra_bright;32869543]When I feel depressed it's usually at school for about 2 hours or so, then I'm all happy again in an hour. And it's not like just a feeling of being down, it's like I'm going to kill myself crying really hard kind of down. What's wrong with me?[/QUOTE] According to my psychiatrist, it isn't uncommon for depression to come in waves. Identifying the event that's causing it, if there is one, and getting yourself out of that situation is the best bet. Do you know if something external is making you feel crappy, or if it just kind of happens?
Need help, preferably fast, have a friend who sounds really depressed "I just got tired of life", fatigue, Insomnia, unwillingness to get outta bed, thoughts of suicide, mind altering drugs. Any idea on how to jerk her outta it? Or convince her to see a psychiatrist/therapist/doctor? [editline]21st October 2011[/editline] Like, she wants to commit suicide in the next few weeks or so
[QUOTE=The Aussie;32888269]Need help, preferably fast, have a friend who sounds really depressed "I just got tired of life", fatigue, Insomnia, unwillingness to get outta bed, thoughts of suicide, mind altering drugs. Any idea on how to jerk her outta it? Or convince her to see a psychiatrist/therapist/doctor? [editline]21st October 2011[/editline] Like, she wants to commit suicide in the next few weeks or so[/QUOTE] Be there for her, if she sees that she has friends who care she'll have a reason to talk to a therapist about it. Unfortunately you can't force someone to get help on a hunch (unless you actually catch her in the act of harming herself she can't be forced to get help) so it's a decision she'll need to make herself.
[IMG]http://i289.photobucket.com/albums/ll224/2ring2/1252133794096.jpg[/IMG] happening for the second time, feel like dying maybe you think this is kinda dumb... but im not made of steel
[QUOTE=The Aussie;32888269]Need help, preferably fast, have a friend who sounds really depressed "I just got tired of life", fatigue, Insomnia, unwillingness to get outta bed, thoughts of suicide, mind altering drugs. Any idea on how to jerk her outta it? Or convince her to see a psychiatrist/therapist/doctor? [editline]21st October 2011[/editline] Like, she wants to commit suicide in the next few weeks or so[/QUOTE] Can't really "jerk" out of it. Or jerk someone out of it. She needs a doctor, but until then just be there for her.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32870438]According to my psychiatrist, it isn't uncommon for depression to come in waves. Identifying the event that's causing it, if there is one, and getting yourself out of that situation is the best bet. Do you know if something external is making you feel crappy, or if it just kind of happens?[/QUOTE] Seeing someone being happy.
[QUOTE=ultra_bright;32900743]Seeing someone being happy.[/QUOTE] Have you talked to anyone about it? (As in, a professional)
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32900794]Have you talked to anyone about it? (As in, a professional)[/QUOTE] no...
[QUOTE=Wux;32898549] happening for the second time, feel like dying maybe you think this is kinda dumb... but im not made of steel[/QUOTE] Why not go out there and try to find a girl that shares your interests? They're people too, and approaching them isn't as hard as your mind makes it.
[QUOTE=Wux;32898549]happening for the second time, feel like dying maybe you think this is kinda dumb... but im not made of steel[/QUOTE] Feels nothing like death. Death gives you peace. But go out there and find a woman who is worthy of you.
I dunno, i just keep talking to her, i haven't seen her face to face in two years, due to circumstances beyond my control.
Sup Facepunch. I'm probably gonna get trolled and flamed like fuck for this, but I'm sure there are some people that can help me, and won't be dicks about it. Anyway, I'm pretty sure I have depression, one of my counselors said I do and showed me the "7 stages of depression" Or something along the lines of that. I don't want to bore you all with a massive wall of text of the entire story, but basically one of my extremely close family members died. I haven't gone to school for months, I've been one or two days every couple of weeks, but that's about it. I can barely get out of bed some days, I can't sleep at all (Even with sleeping tablets) and I can't ever stay happy or upbeat. Sometimes if something funny happens, I'll laugh but then I'll just go straight back to being upset. I honestly don't see myself having that much of a future, especially after this absence from school. Anyway.. If anyone can tell me what I should do to be less depressed I suppose, that would be great. Thanks.
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