The Depression Chat - Symptoms, Assistance, Medicines and More.
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[QUOTE=hexag0n;32904780]Sup Facepunch.
I'm probably gonna get trolled and flamed like fuck for this, but I'm sure there are some people that can help me, and won't be dicks about it.
Anyway, I'm pretty sure I have depression, one of my counselors said I do and showed me the "7 stages of depression" Or something along the lines of that.
I don't want to bore you all with a massive wall of text of the entire story, but basically one of my extremely close family members died.
I haven't gone to school for months, I've been one or two days every couple of weeks, but that's about it.
I can barely get out of bed some days, I can't sleep at all (Even with sleeping tablets) and I can't ever stay happy or upbeat. Sometimes if something funny happens, I'll laugh but then I'll just go straight back to being upset.
I honestly don't see myself having that much of a future, especially after this absence from school.
Anyway.. If anyone can tell me what I should do to be less depressed I suppose, that would be great.
Thanks.[/QUOTE]
Music, all the time.
And watch some funny shows with your friends. That should help.
[QUOTE=ultra_bright;32900804]no...[/QUOTE]
You should talk with a therapist. They're well-trained, and are able to help you get referred to a shrink if they can't help you themselves. (They usually can)
They're bound by standard doctor-patient confidentiality laws as well.
[editline]22nd October 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=hexag0n;32904780]
Anyway.. If anyone can tell me what I should do to be less depressed I suppose, that would be great.
Thanks.[/QUOTE]
Do you think you have the motivation to book an appointment with a therapist? It definitely sounds like depression to me.
I know I sound like a broken record but talking to someone is great, I was wary of it at first but I promise it's nowhere near as big of a step as you think it'll be. They don't grill you for your entire backstory on the first session, you can take it as slow as you like.
[QUOTE]Do you think you have the motivation to book an appointment with a therapist? It definitely sounds like depression to me.
I know I sound like a broken record but talking to someone is great, I was wary of it at first but I promise it's nowhere near as big of a step as you think it'll be. They don't grill you for your entire backstory on the first session, you can take it as slow as you like.[/QUOTE]
I've been to see two of them. They didn't help much at all.
[QUOTE=pixskull;32916652]You definitely do have a future, man. Is your school aware of your problems?[/QUOTE]
Thanks, and yeah they know.
[QUOTE=hexag0n;32916444]I've been to see two of them. They didn't help much at all.[/QUOTE]
How many sessions with each, and what all did you tell them?
*grumbles*
So I think I'm on the verge of breaking up with my partner (not exactly willingly though).
Our last conversation ended like this:
[1:13:41 AM] them: Hun
[1:13:44 AM] me: yesh?
[1:13:49 AM] them: You're acting odd
[1:14:48 AM] them: [My Name]
[1:14:56 AM] them: l love you
[1:15:01 AM] me: I love you, too, [Their Name]
[1:16:04 AM] them: I'm sorry, but I'll talk to you tomorrow hun. I feel like I'm doing something wrong
[1:16:26 AM] me: nooooo
[1:16:28 AM] me: You aren't.
But they were offline pretty much as I said the final couple lines, and they didn't respond to my texts.
And the reason why I was acting odd was because I was feeling depressed, and I didn't want to say anything about it. The whole thing is akin to a self-fulfilling prophecy, or a positive-feedback loop.
That quote by Lord Tennyson, "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." or however it goes, isn't true, at least in my mind. Its more like, "Better to have never loved at all than to have loved and lost."
dear fp
I was over my depression but its coming back. It's reminded me why I should never really trust anyone with my heart; no one out there is good for me, it seems.
heres hoping you all get through your troubles, for i wouldnt wish this pain on anyone ever
cheers
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32917601]How many sessions with each, and what all did you tell them?[/QUOTE]
A few, and I told them pretty much everything.
I ultimately realized that one of my main reasons of productivity lack was an enormous amount of built up frustration.
After looking into a few techniques revolved around meditation and binaural beats, I almost immediately started programming afterwards and fully finished a relatively small C++ program, it felt rather wonderful.
I would like to once again recommend trying out some of my binaural beat tracks to anyone in this thread. These compositions have actually been tested and improved over time by me:
for anyone unfamiliar with binaural beats, here is a short background copied from a readme file: [url]http://pastebin.com/MZDv3H9H[/url]
download and install a very small program called [URL="http://uazu.net/sbagen/"]SBaGen[/URL]
Download either or both of the extremely small files below:
this track was designed to place you in a very deep state of sleep and generally rejuvenate/recharge you:
[url]http://www.mediafire.com/file/i00mvt8zeucd5g8/regeneration.sbg[/url]
this track was designed to place you in an optimal state for consistently working on something, solving a problem, or generally being productive:
[url]http://www.mediafire.com/file/6vcdlwjj8486h51/problem_solving.sbg[/url]
Once you have the files, simply double click on them. A Dos box will appear, and automatically close after a relatively short while, leaving a .wav file for you to play.
please note that headphones are rather mandatory for this.
I tried binaural beats and they didn't do anything.
wow all my problems are solved because of these binerial beats. thank you very much.
[QUOTE=pie_is_good;32926209]wow all my problems are solved because of these binerial beats. thank you very much.[/QUOTE]
I appreciate your sarcasm, but I am merely trying to help in a way which I tested myself.
[QUOTE=hexag0n;32919278]A few, and I told them pretty much everything.[/QUOTE]
I think it took me five times before I actually started to care about what they said
I wasn't really listening before that
[QUOTE=Zeke129;32931034]I think it took me five times before I actually started to care about what they said
I wasn't really listening before that[/QUOTE]
Eh I dunno man, don't even think I'm worth their time to be honest, they've got more important people to be seeing.
[QUOTE=hexag0n;32939126]Eh I dunno man, don't even think I'm worth their time to be honest, they've got more important people to be seeing.[/QUOTE]You all pay them the same rate, I think that makes each of you equally worth their time.
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I feel so sad every time I see a couple holding hands, how can I know if I will ever find someone for me?
The odds are in your favor, that's how you know.
There are what? 5 billion people on this planet, and growing (hey man, if you like kids....)
But joke aside on pedophilia, the chances you meeting someone who you like, and will return that favor, is imminent. Even though it feels like you probably never will, you simply just will.
It's simple as that. Fuck if you feel that you won't find someone, you simply will.
Everyone at some point (unless you're comatose from birth till death)[Analogy, don't take that literally]
But maybe you should stop placing so much value in finding someone perfect for you right now if you are in a bad place.
Try to better yourself, "love yourself", get out of where you're at and all that, before you begin to amuse the thoughts of love.
Really looking for advice here, but not for myself, for a friend.
Recently gotten to know a girl, who I know has had a fucked up childhood, and is suffering from depression. She does take meds (she told me she did anyway) so I'm assuming she's seen/seeing someone about it.
What really saddens me is the fact that it is still apparent that it's affecting her. For example, we're hanging out the other day, and after a strange encounter with a drunk idiot, she started thinking about shit that happened in middle school.
I would love to help her, but I'm not really sure how I could. I try to talk to her, which does help her sometimes, but most of the time she doesn't wanna tell me, convinced that she's just "acting like a baby" and "others needs should come before her own". I feel useless every time this happens though.
Any advice Facepunch, on getting her to open up? Or just how I can be of help to her?
[QUOTE=dmillerw;32953181]Really looking for advice here, but not for myself, for a friend.
Recently gotten to know a girl, who I know has had a fucked up childhood, and is suffering from depression. She does take meds (she told me she did anyway) so I'm assuming she's seen/seeing someone about it.
What really saddens me is the fact that it is still apparent that it's affecting her. For example, we're hanging out the other day, and after a strange encounter with a drunk idiot, she started thinking about shit that happened in middle school.
I would love to help her, but I'm not really sure how I could. I try to talk to her, which does help her sometimes, but most of the time she doesn't wanna tell me, convinced that she's just "acting like a baby" and "others needs should come before her own". I feel useless every time this happens though.
Any advice Facepunch, on getting her to open up? Or just how I can be of help to her?[/QUOTE]
You should continue talking to her. She is rejecting only because she thinks you don't want to listen. All you have to do is to convince her otherwise. Talking helps.
[QUOTE=Limed00d;32954133]You should continue talking to her. She is rejecting only because she thinks you don't want to listen. All you have to do is to convince her otherwise. Talking helps.[/QUOTE]
Pretty sure she knows I care, and am willing to listen, but I'll keep at it. Thanks.
[QUOTE=hexag0n;32939126]Eh I dunno man, don't even think I'm worth their time to be honest, they've got more important people to be seeing.[/QUOTE]
if you feel you need to be there, you're worth their time
One of the main reasons I never have tried to take medication or go to a psychiatrist or anything is because of the expenses... I'd just be a further burden on my family, and we already are stretched thin. At times we don't even have running water, since for whatever reason the area where I live has expensive as fuck water.
[QUOTE=Collin665;32986543]One of the main reasons I never have tried to take medication or go to a psychiatrist or anything is because of the expenses... I'd just be a further burden on my family, and we already are stretched thin. At times we don't even have running water, since for whatever reason the area where I live has expensive as fuck water.[/QUOTE]
It's a real shame you have to pay. I can't fathom having to choose between eating and keeping the lights on, or my health. We'll all try to help as much as we can but we're not professionals.
Speaking of professionals, I'm talking to my shrink again for the first time in months tomorrow - maybe I'll actually have the balls to tell him everything this time. Should take a bit of my own advice heh.
I'm a bit reluctant mostly because I wouldn't be able to do it right. I'm only really anything some of the time and almost never when there are other people around. Not sure I'd be able to resist telling them some cock and bull story and faking everything when they started trying anything either so wouldn't be that productive, would it?
[QUOTE=Devodiere;32987171]I'm only really anything some of the time and almost never when there are other people around.[/QUOTE]
That sounded like nonsense at first but I read it a few more times and it sounded exactly like me
I don't just have depression but it still applies
Hello Facepunch,
I'm in a wormhole here. I believe I suffer from clinical depression. I'm not one of those people who just get extremely depressed and have thoughts over suicide because of a break up, it's over everything. I imagine if I don't go through life as planned I'll just commit suicide. I cry every night because I imagine how shitty my life is. I see couples holding hands and I instantly think about suicide. But I don't know how to start an approach to helping this.
I'm 17 and I've been taking Prozac since September of last year. I started out low with 10mg but now i'm taking 60mgs. seems to work but is this dose a little to high?
[QUOTE=Crpto2007;33018846]I'm 17 and I've been taking Prozac since September of last year. I started out low with 10mg but now i'm taking 60mgs. seems to work but is this dose a little to high?[/QUOTE]Wikipedia does say that 60-80mg is above-therapeutic level. Maybe talk to your doctor about that?
And also, how has it been, what's your experience like with it? I'm probably going back into therapy soon and I want to consider the option of taking antidepressants.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;32953181]Really looking for advice here, but not for myself, for a friend.
Recently gotten to know a girl, who I know has had a fucked up childhood, and is suffering from depression. She does take meds (she told me she did anyway) so I'm assuming she's seen/seeing someone about it.
What really saddens me is the fact that it is still apparent that it's affecting her. For example, we're hanging out the other day, and after a strange encounter with a drunk idiot, she started thinking about shit that happened in middle school.
I would love to help her, but I'm not really sure how I could. I try to talk to her, which does help her sometimes, but most of the time she doesn't wanna tell me, convinced that she's just "acting like a baby" and "others needs should come before her own". I feel useless every time this happens though.
Any advice Facepunch, on getting her to open up? Or just how I can be of help to her?[/QUOTE]
Continuing on this, I've been talking to her a lot lately, and asked her why she just seems to brush off any sort of compliment. She replied with this...
[QUOTE]Well, we were always taught that we were useless and told other horrible things when I was 8 years, which is around the time my parents divorced and my dad started doing drugs. We were technically slaves for our dad; if we didn't do what he asked he beat us. Of course my younger sisters always got out of it because I took their beatings for them.... and another reason is that I have been bullied over the last 6 years. It's just how I grew up, I guess. Kind of complicated....[/QUOTE]
That by itself really gets to me. Basically got her to the point that she believes she's worthless, except for helping other people.
Is it worth trying to get her to believe otherwise? Or should I just continue being her friend, and just being supportive.
[editline]28th October 2011[/editline]
and of course, it just hurts me to see all this shit she was brought up to believe about herself... Makes me wanna help even more.
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