• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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I want to ask this girl out but college is over in a day and we'll be about 5 hours away during the summer. Oh well. She's coming back next year so we'll see what happens. Also, What kind of girl opens up a facebook conversation with "I'm bored of not having a boyfriend". Some heavy-set girl said that to me a while ago.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;29707500] Also, What kind of girl opens up a facebook conversation with "I'm bored of not having a boyfriend". Some heavy-set girl said that to me a while ago.[/QUOTE] A lonely girl that wants to ride you
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;29707500]Also, What kind of girl opens up a facebook conversation with "I'm bored of not having a boyfriend". Some heavy-set girl said that to me a while ago.[/QUOTE] The kind without an iota of subtlety.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;29707500] Also, What kind of girl opens up a facebook conversation with "I'm bored of not having a boyfriend". Some heavy-set girl said that to me a while ago.[/QUOTE] Did she follow up that sly comment with something as smooth as [i]"do you want a girlfriend?"[/i]
So, I have a horrible problem with the love of my life and I decided that I'm desperate enough to ask on Facepunch. So, we are in eighth grade, and she is everything I ever wanted in a girl (she is beyond perfect!). But, I basically just flirted with her around the first 4 months of school. Then she found out from my friend how much I really like her. She's basically avoided me ever since. And to make matters worse, my teacher found a note card conversation I had with my friend in the beginning of the year. It (jokingly) said that she should suck my dick. I have no idea how she found out about it, but she told her sister, who told her parents. I'm not allowed in her house anymore. So, I have no idea what to do. I thought about writing her a letter through something (like facebook) that explained how that note card incident was a setup and I was being framed, (though I wasnt) and how rumors and other stuff basically made me sound really creepy even though I am not. Then I would explain how I'm sorry and how all that shit made me sound like a major creeper. So, have any ideas regarding what I should do if my idea sounds awful?
[QUOTE=Mxpklx;29708957] So, we are in eighth grade, and she is everything I ever wanted in a girl (she is beyond perfect!). ?[/QUOTE] THIS! is your red-flag
[QUOTE=Mxpklx;29708957]So, I have a horrible problem with the love of my life and I decided that I'm desperate enough to ask on Facepunch. So, we are in eighth grade, and she is everything I ever wanted in a girl (she is beyond perfect!). But, I basically just flirted with her around the first 4 months of school. Then she found out from my friend how much I really like her. She's basically avoided me ever since. And to make matters worse, my teacher found a note card conversation I had with my friend in the beginning of the year. It (jokingly) said that she should suck my dick. I have no idea how she found out about it, but she told her sister, who told her parents. I'm not allowed in her house anymore. So, I have no idea what to do. I thought about writing her a letter through something (like facebook) that explained how that note card incident was a setup and I was being framed, (though I wasnt) and how rumors and other stuff basically made me sound really creepy even though I am not. Then I would explain how I'm sorry and how all that shit made me sound like a major creeper. So, have any ideas regarding what I should do if my idea sounds awful?[/QUOTE] Don't write a letter oh god. The love of your life? In the eighth grade? Yeah, okay, you haven't even lived a huge majority of your life yet. Also, you think she's perfect because you're infatuated with her and you're a kid. She's not really some ultra perfect girl. You need to just let it go and learn how to fucking ask girls out the second you gain interest in them. Your whole situation is just a huge clusterfuck of terrible decisions on your part. First off, you didn't ask her out and just flirted with her for [b]4 months[/b]. Even if she did like you at the beginning of that period, there's no fucking way she still has interest in you. Then she found out about your retarded feelings for her through a second party, which only put more nails in the coffin. It just makes you look like a huge pussy that couldn't muster up the balls to ask her out. The whole thing with the note card conversation (oh my fucking god, note cards? Seriously. It's fucking 2011, learn how to secretly text) just seals the deal and makes it official. Unless you're a Casanova, which you apparently aren't because you wouldn't have made those mistakes, there's no salvaging the situation. You're a damn kid. Ask girls out, date them for like 2 weeks, then move on to someone else. Even if you did find a great, compatible person, neither of you would be mature enough to know what to do with it and the relationship would collapse regardless.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29709129]Don't write a letter oh god. The love of your life? In the eighth grade? Yeah, okay, you haven't even lived a huge majority of your life yet. Also, you think she's perfect because you're infatuated with her and you're a kid. She's not really some ultra perfect girl. You need to just let it go and learn how to fucking ask girls out the second you gain interest in them. Your whole situation is just a huge clusterfuck of terrible decisions on your part. First off, you didn't ask her out and just flirted with her for [b]4 months[/b]. Even if she did like you at the beginning of that period, there's no fucking way she still has interest in you. Then she found out about your retarded feelings for her through a second party, which only put more nails in the coffin. It just makes you look like a huge pussy that couldn't muster up the balls to ask her out. The whole thing with the note card conversation (oh my fucking god, note cards? Seriously. It's fucking 2011, learn how to secretly text) just seals the deal and makes it official. Unless you're a Casanova, which you apparently aren't because you wouldn't have made those mistakes, there's no salvaging the situation. You're a damn kid. Ask girls out, date them for like 2 weeks, then move on to someone else. Even if you did find a great, compatible person, neither of you would be mature enough to know what to do with it and the relationship would collapse regardless.[/QUOTE] I'm legitimately surprised you actually typed all of that out in response. I would have thought you'd just consider him a lost cause and forget it... Good for you, still helpin' the unsalvageables!
Well sorry. I knew my idea was awful but I had to ask anyways. First off, for things I like in a girl, she qualifies for beyond everything. I can't text and we were just writing back and forth on a note card in class. Plus we can't have cell phones inschool. My horribleness with women runs in the family, it took my uncle two years to ask out his current wife. So sorry :P.[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29709129]Don't write a letter oh god. The love of your life? In the eighth grade? Yeah, okay, you haven't even lived a huge majority of your life yet. Also, you think she's perfect because you're infatuated with her and you're a kid. She's not really some ultra perfect girl. You need to just let it go and learn how to fucking ask girls out the second you gain interest in them. Your whole situation is just a huge clusterfuck of terrible decisions on your part. First off, you didn't ask her out and just flirted with her for [b]4 months[/b]. Even if she did like you at the beginning of that period, there's no fucking way she still has interest in you. Then she found out about your retarded feelings for her through a second party, which only put more nails in the coffin. It just makes you look like a huge pussy that couldn't muster up the balls to ask her out. The whole thing with the note card conversation (oh my fucking god, note cards? Seriously. It's fucking 2011, learn how to secretly text) just seals the deal and makes it official. Unless you're a Casanova, which you apparently aren't because you wouldn't have made those mistakes, there's no salvaging the situation. You're a damn kid. Ask girls out, date them for like 2 weeks, then move on to someone else. Even if you did find a great, compatible person, neither of you would be mature enough to know what to do with it and the relationship would collapse regardless.[/QUOTE]
Oh it just does it based on the number of times you commented? Who cares. I thought it was something to do with how often you looked at her profile or something. [editline]9th May 2011[/editline] And maverick, honestly in 8th grade just asking someone out when you first meet them might not work so well. I remember one kid who did that, and the girl said yes, but everyone called her a slut so she dumped him in 3 days. I'd say wait until high school to date like that. Before then you should take it a little slower. [editline]9th May 2011[/editline] But it's still better then what he did
[QUOTE=Mxpklx;29708957]So, I have a horrible problem with the love of my life[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Mxpklx;29708957]So, we are in eighth grade,[/QUOTE] Got a nice big laugh out of that one.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29709129]You're a damn kid. Ask girls out, date them for like 2 weeks, then move on to someone else. Even if you did find a great, compatible person, neither of you would be mature enough to know what to do with it and the relationship would collapse regardless.[/QUOTE] that's a great mentality
[QUOTE=Sublata;29710922]that's a great mentality[/QUOTE] I don't entirely disagree, but I think it's less healthy for younger kids to have relationships where they become attached to one person for years and years. I've known girls who can't hold down relationships because their entire perception of romance is based on what they had with someone after dating for two to three years. It's better experience to have a few several month relationships because you learn that they're transitory and not the biggest thing in life. [editline]9th May 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Mxpklx;29709433]Well sorry. I knew my idea was awful but I had to ask anyways. First off, for things I like in a girl, she qualifies for beyond everything. I can't text and we were just writing back and forth on a note card in class. Plus we can't have cell phones inschool. My horribleness with women runs in the family, it took my uncle two years to ask out his current wife. So sorry :P.[/QUOTE] It's not horribleness, most people are pretty awkward when it comes to this at age 14. Just get practice in acting normal around girls and not doing weird shit like passing notes about them. I'd say most guys go through a period in their life where they get obsessed with one girl for months without much action. I wish I'd learned not to earlier because it is a massive waste of time if you don't do anything about it. You should either just wait til you don't have feelings for her anymore, or you should try again with her in a less messed up way.
I just think it doesn't matter that they can't keep the relationship going strong forever. When you're young you're meant to get practice.
Exactly. Young ages are meant for practice. People change when they go through puberty and whatnot. People are rarely ever the same person they were in the 8th grade when they're in high school. Getting with someone in middle school with intentions of being with them forever is stupid, because even if you're compatible then, you probably won't be once both of you actually grow up.
Kinda wish I had dated during high school... didn't even ask a girl out or anything until I was 17. Learning how to date that late in the game is challenging. Thankfully I had a good teacher (my dad lol) and I am naturally observant, or that would have been a lot worse than it was... but shit, I wouldn't wish that on any of you guys. Get the bullshit out of the way now; learn what is involved in getting with girls and being with them. If you start now, when you get older and women are looking for something long term, you'll be ready.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;29707490]If she thought you were creepy for posting that many times on her statuses, she wouldn't need statistics to back up her assumptions of you. She either already thought of you as a stalker or she doesn't now.[/QUOTE] We're good friends, she doesn't think of me as a stalker. These things just piss me off cause it makes everyone else think i am :/
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;29678116]14 and 16 is kind of regarded a big gap where I am. When someone my age (16) started dating someone in the year's younger sister (14), they had to break up after two months. He was getting heckled every minute of his school life, constant shouts of Pedo and stuff. A 4chan kid even stuck a Pedo bear on his locker.[/QUOTE] I'm in year 10 and my girlfriend's in year 8, which is a gap of two years, but it's hardly made a difference. Personally I think a two year age gap is nothing, and it'd only be messed up if I went out with a year 7. I'm not sure how that changes into grades though. Also thank you Maverick for making it possible to actually post this :buddy:
2 year age gap is pretty much the not-creepy limit for that age. Any further is definitely pushing it imo.
So there's this girl I used to be with some time ago. One day I decided to put an end to our relationship (because of some reasons I don't want to discuss here), and she pulled that "if you leave me, I'll kill myself" borderline personality disorder bullshit on me. I didn't take it seriously, but then she successfully tricked me into believing she actually tried to commit suicide (I was naive, OK?). She managed to make me worried sick for her for a while, but I still dumped her in the end, adding emotional blackmail to the list of reasons. Two years on I meet this girl again via Facebook and realize I would actually like to bang her again (sex with her used to be good). Except that we're engaged in a silly cold war of sorts, and "fight" each other in famous quotes posted on Facebook. She acknowledged her suicide attempt was fake using some combination of Shakespeare and Mark Twain, while I acknowledged my renewed interest in her using some Oscar Wilde and funny webcomics. And then she posts this: [i]‎Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned / Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned[/i]. Now I'm stuck. I need a clever reply, letting her know that emotionally blackmailing me was LOW and EVIL. I can't find anything good. Maybe you guys can help me? I'll drop this bullshit soon and ask her out, but I'd love to reply with a funny, smart quote / webcomic / video before doing that.
Or you could not do that because it's stupid. [editline]9th May 2011[/editline] Why would you want to get back together with a manipulative emotional trainwreck?
[QUOTE=zugu;29721802] Two years on I meet this girl again via Facebook and realize I would actually like to bang her again[/QUOTE] that desperate oh wow
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29716257]Exactly. Young ages are meant for practice. People change when they go through puberty and whatnot. People are rarely ever the same person they were in the 8th grade when they're in high school. Getting with someone in middle school with intentions of being with them forever is stupid, because even if you're compatible then, you probably won't be once both of you actually grow up.[/QUOTE] I know a couple that is pretty much the exception to this idea. They've been going out since 8th grade, are sophomores in college now and still together. Still, I agree that experimenting is the better choice. [editline]9th May 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29721935]Or you could not do that because it's stupid. [editline]9th May 2011[/editline] Why would you want to get back together with a manipulative emotional trainwreck?[/QUOTE] He wants to get his dick wet and then go through the whole process over again.
I've never been in the situation of "leave me and i'll kill myself" the hell would you do?
Leave her as an idiot cull.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;29724635]Leave her as an idiot cull.[/QUOTE] Okay let's imagine you are a human being jotheshmo and you don't like the idea of feeling guilty for the rest of your life.
Half the people that threaten that sort of shit are low. They never follow up their threats and only do it to get their own way or for attention.[b] Do not fall for it. It is bullshit. [/b] Even if they 'attempt suicide' I guarantee you it is either a half hearted attempt or a lie. Its human nature to have the will to live.
[QUOTE=orcywoo6;29725248]Half the people that threaten that sort of shit are low. They never follow up their threats and only do it to get their own way or for attention.[b] Do not fall for it. It is bullshit. [/b] Even if they 'attempt suicide' I guarantee you it is either a half hearted attempt or a lie. Its human nature to have the will to live.[/QUOTE] I was sort of joking. If someone is threatening to kill themselves they should always be taken seriously because of the possibility they are committed. This doesn't mean you have to stay with them. It [i]does[/i] mean that you should tell their guidance counselors and parents if they are in school, or call the police or their doctor if they are out of school. Suicide is a serious problem, and it should never be taken for bullshit, or used as bullshit. If they are not prepared to deal with the consequences of threatening to kill themselves, then they should not have used that tactic in the first place. They will now have to deal with counseling, more restraint in their lives, etc. Or if they were actually serious, you might have done something to help them get their lives back on track.
All I'm saying is, a majority of it is just teen drama. Not that suicide should be overlooked or anything.
Half the time a suicide scare is for attention. I don't think it should be ignored, but do NOT handle it the way they want you to. They want you to tell them they're not a fuckup and that kind of shit, just go get the proper authorities and after not receiving the attention they desired hopefully they'll learn that suicide is not something to fuck around with.
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