• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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So I spent all lunch hour searching for the girl I intended to give my number to... and found her right before lunch ended! She is apparently grounded from her phone and computer for the rest of the week, but I should be expecting a text this weekend. (I expected the grounding was just some bullshit, but a] I doubt she could have thought of that excuse on the spot while we are parting ways and rushing to class, and b] her friends have also been posting on her facebook asking about when she'll be back on, so... Yeah). I'll ask her out to coffee one of the next times I see her. Man, that really was not hard at all... You just have to force yourself to do it. Really. If you doubt "Just ask her out"... Don't. Just do it.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29716257]Exactly. Young ages are meant for practice. People change when they go through puberty and whatnot. People are rarely ever the same person they were in the 8th grade when they're in high school. Getting with someone in middle school with intentions of being with them forever is stupid, because even if you're compatible then, you probably won't be once both of you actually grow up.[/QUOTE] You're forgetting biological standards change for puberty for every generation, so for some it can be younger. It doesn't mean it's absolutely impossible.
[QUOTE=Sublata;29726804]You're forgetting biological standards change for puberty for every generation, so for some it can be younger. It doesn't mean it's absolutely impossible.[/QUOTE] How does that relate to the fact that you won't be with someone from middle school forever.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;29726939]How does that relate to the fact that you won't be with someone from middle school forever.[/QUOTE] It was countering his argument about people changing in puberty, which is a really unreliable argument. And who said you can't? It's unlikely you will and I wouldn't hold your breath on it but if it works out, why bother with it?
[QUOTE=Occlusion;29725147]Okay let's imagine you are a human being jotheshmo and you don't like the idea of feeling guilty for the rest of your life.[/QUOTE] Why would you feel guilty? It's not your fault she's a crazy bitch and it's not your responsibility to be with her forever just because she's unstable.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29728964]Why would you feel guilty? It's not your fault she's a crazy bitch and it's not your responsibility to be with her forever just because she's unstable.[/QUOTE] Exactly, if you feel guilty that's on you, not on her.
Well honestly most people would feel a little guilty if the girl actually did kill herself, but they would probably get over it.
Thank you, FP, you've been really helpful.
Your request was pretty fucking retarded dude.
Does anyone have one of Maverick's big posts on how to turn a friend into not-a-friend? If not, could you give general advice? [editline]10th May 2011[/editline] We're talking a fairly close friend.
[QUOTE=Faren;29735130]Does anyone have one of Maverick's big posts on how to turn a friend into not-a-friend? If not, could you give general advice? [editline]10th May 2011[/editline] We're talking a fairly close friend.[/QUOTE] fuck yeah manipulation
[QUOTE=Faren;29735130]Does anyone have one of Maverick's big posts on how to turn a friend into not-a-friend? If not, could you give general advice? [editline]10th May 2011[/editline] We're talking a fairly close friend.[/QUOTE] I don't think he has done one. But from what's been said in this thread, if it's possible, try and slow down your friendship and don't see her as often. Then after a while, meet-up again, try and be a bit more physical, and ask her out. That's what dark_light kind of said to me.
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1062850-Maverick-s-Love-Relationship-Social-Advice-Megathread?p=29423725&highlight=#post29423725[/url] That post is here, there are some other ones around it that might be relevant.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;29730525]Well honestly most people would feel a little guilty if the girl actually did kill herself, but they would probably get over it.[/QUOTE] Yeah i know a girl who actually did try and commit suicide when they broke up, which is strange because she is of the most intellectual people i know.
[QUOTE=Occlusion;29739176]Yeah i know a girl who actually did try and commit suicide when they broke up, which is strange because she is of the most intellectual people i know.[/QUOTE] Being intellectual doesn't mean you're not completely crazy. Although stupid people tend to make decisions that intellectuals would consider crazy.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;29741390]Being intellectual doesn't mean you're not completely crazy.[/QUOTE] Like Georg Cantor. Thought about math so hard he went nuts.
meh, the girl i had a crush on wasnt just my type, though she would be an awesome friend! :buddy: [editline]10th May 2011[/editline] I havent really met her in person much, but based on the things we talk about... well i dont know, i just dont feel like it. She really wants to try paintball when i told her about it, should i ask her to a paintball match against me? could be really fun. I'd like to get to know this girl. I dont have much experience on paintball either.
No really, is all I should do go and ask her? Even if I've barely said a word to her? Even if all she knows me by is "the quite weird, quite ugly, occasionally funny guy with very little friends"? Anyone? Except Occlusion, that is...
[QUOTE=Str4fe;29742097]She really wants to try paintball when i told her about it, should i ask her to a paintball with me? could be really fun. I'd like to get to know this girl.[/QUOTE] you talked to a girl, congrats [QUOTE=Fhux;29742422]No really, is all I should do go and ask her? Even if I've barely said a word to her? Even if all she knows me by is "the quite weird, quite ugly, occasionally funny guy with very little friends"?[/QUOTE] yes, she doesnt give a fuck, talk to her
[QUOTE=Occlusion;29742434]you talked to a girl, congrats[/QUOTE] Okay, i did talk to a girl, now im asking whether its a good idea to ask her to a paintball match against me. [editline]10th May 2011[/editline] or is this some sort of "brag of your social achievements" thread now?
[QUOTE=Str4fe;29742528]Okay, i did talk to a girl, now im asking whether its a good idea to ask her to a paintball match against me. [editline]10th May 2011[/editline] or is this some sort of "brag of your social achievements" thread now?[/QUOTE] You said you also don't know how to paintball. Even though you're both interested in trying it, that seems like an odd thing to do at first. Normally you take a girl somewhere where you are really comfortable and experienced to sort of show her a little about you and see how she likes it.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;29742908]You said you also don't know how to paintball. Even though you're both interested in trying it, that seems like an odd thing to do at first. Normally you take a girl somewhere where you are really comfortable and experienced to sort of show her a little about you and see how she likes it.[/QUOTE] Well i was paintballing 2 days ago with my class and it was the most awesome thing i did this year. I did say to her that i'd love to have a 1-on-1 paintball match against her and she said it'd be awesome. Ofcourse we could go somewhere else after the paintball. There isnt really a place im specially "comfortable or experienced in".
Well I guess it'd be fine, but I doubt you'll be able to do a 1 on 1 match. Plus that would be a pretty weird first date. It'd be better to just do it with some strangers and stay on her team.
Well, I'm going to bed now, but would really love a reply to my post here above before waking up, as I could use it. Thanks, guys. :3:
[QUOTE=Octyl;29726641]So I spent all lunch hour searching for the girl I intended to give my number to... and found her right before lunch ended! She is apparently grounded from her phone and computer for the rest of the week, but I should be expecting a text this weekend. (I expected the grounding was just some bullshit, but a] I doubt she could have thought of that excuse on the spot while we are parting ways and rushing to class, and b] her friends have also been posting on her facebook asking about when she'll be back on, so... Yeah). I'll ask her out to coffee one of the next times I see her. Man, that really was not hard at all... You just have to force yourself to do it. Really. If you doubt "Just ask her out"... Don't. Just do it.[/QUOTE] I've been thinking about asking someone out like this, but I'm kinda iffy. Did you know her name or anything like that before this? Or did you approach her randomly and ask for her number or what did you do?
Wow, there's two threads. I'll post here too then. [QUOTE=zerosix;29739310]Having a party at the end of the week to celebrate the end of exams (for now) and a friends Birthday. There's a girl that's pretty cool that I'd like to get to know better. What's the best way to start a conversation? I'm terrible at that kind of stuff, and a party probably isn't the best place to have a chat but it's the only place right now.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=zerosix;29744771]Fairly sure it'll be a cake and cans of coke party rather than a get drunk, shag the nextdoor neighbours dog and wake up in a hedge party. I'm 15, too (might have guessed from the end of exams part if you're English).[/QUOTE]
small talk small talk small talk a conversation isn't hard to strike up. she wearing a funny shirt? comment about it. hang out with your guy friends and talk about something and get a female opinion from her. it's not really easy to describe perfect ways to open a conversation, because good ways are different every time. just improvise. push comes to shove pull the old Maverick and say "i didn't know what excuse to use to come talk to you so I'm just winging it, what's up?" but don't plan it. these things need to be spontaneous and natural.
[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;29744752]I've been thinking about asking someone out like this, but I'm kinda iffy. Did you know her name or anything like that before this? Or did you approach her randomly and ask for her number or what did you do?[/QUOTE] She was in two of my classes last semester, so we had talked a bit as of.. 4 months ago. I knew her name, she knew mine, I also talked to her on FB while she was off in France for a 3 month trip. So we aren't total strangers, we just don't know eachother very well. And I didn't ask for her number, I had my number (and name to be safe) on a slip of paper, which I gave to her. Honestly it was kinda a blur what I said, but I remember that I didn't stutter and I kept my cool.. So just go with your gut. The slip of paper thing is awesome because, first of all, I wouldn't have had time to put her number in my phone right before class, and secondly, it is fairly mysterious, thus building curiousity/intrigue. So go do it! :dance:
This one girl who I decided to ask out called me before I got a chance. I don't know how or where she got my number, it was weird. But this was a while ago.
And did she ask you out, or did she call you and then you asked her out after that?
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