• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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Fatigued from all the licking I'm sure? :smug:
So this party last night, me and the girl were throwing a ball to each other in the conservatory for some reason and talking. She randomly said that I remind her of somebody. Then a friend butts in and says "what, did you suck him off too?" in a joking way (he's her ex and they aren't the best of friends) and she just got angry at my buddy and said "no, he's not my type". Now I'm wondering if that has some kind of hidden meaning and now I'm not her type. Since the party we've spoke on Facebook, and the second she got home she posted on my wall "utter legend <3". mixed [b]fucking[/b] messages man
Here's the hidden meaning: She's not your type. It's more of an excuse because she's embarrassed to imagine you two together. Meaning she doesn't want to be together. It's so simple.
And then she realized you were going to be a butthurt faggot about it so she posted some bullshit on your Facebook to reel you back in.
[QUOTE=Psychopath12;29810768]Something happened. I'll go into further detail in the morning, I'm too fatigued to type out what happened.[/QUOTE] Ok, I'm awake again. She wanted me to go with her to a party, it being a Friday after semester ended, someone was sure to have a party for the hell of it. It wasn't too far from where I lived so I walked and she was there before I did, she either got dropped off or rode with friends, I never really found out. I don't really go to very many parties, so this was actually the first party I've been to in a long while. Anyway, in the party, eventually I bumped into her and she said "You wanna dance?" I obliged and we danced. After a little dancing, we drifted away from the dance area. We were sorta alone but we were close together, I acted on impulse and licked her on the cheek. She said "Stop it, you're embarrassing me" punched me lightly on the shoulder, then started giggling hysterically. While she was laughing, I could smell alcohol on her breath and asked her if she was drunk, she nodded her head and kept giggling. I was sober so I didn't feel right to take advantage of her drunkenness. Eventually she passes out from fatigue. I looked around for whoever got her to the party to escort her home, I could not find them. I panicked and decided to carry her to my house (a mere 1/3 mile away), I put her to sleep in the guest bedroom, posted here via mobile, then collapsed on the floor from exhaustion: the party sapped a lot of my energy before I even carried her home. When I came to, she was no longer in the guest bedroom and a blanket was covering me. I walked downstairs in a haze and found a note on the kitchen table from my parents saying "We drove your friend to her house for you, we didn't want to wake you up." Now I'm here, on Facepunch :v:
That's nice of you.
yeah that is actually pretty cool of you to do that.
-snip- I am dumb and ashamed of this post. [editline]14th May 2011[/editline] Why am i so dumb? :saddowns:
[QUOTE=Psychopath12;29819392]Ok, I'm awake again. She wanted me to go with her to a party, it being a Friday after semester ended, someone was sure to have a party for the hell of it. It wasn't too far from where I lived so I walked and she was there before I did, she either got dropped off or rode with friends, I never really found out. I don't really go to very many parties, so this was actually the first party I've been to in a long while. Anyway, in the party, eventually I bumped into her and she said "You wanna dance?" I obliged and we danced. After a little dancing, we drifted away from the dance area. We were sorta alone but we were close together, I acted on impulse and licked her on the cheek. She said "Stop it, you're embarrassing me" punched me lightly on the shoulder, then started giggling hysterically. While she was laughing, I could smell alcohol on her breath and asked her if she was drunk, she nodded her head and kept giggling. I was sober so I didn't feel right to take advantage of her drunkenness. Eventually she passes out from fatigue. I looked around for whoever got her to the party to escort her home, I could not find them. I panicked and decided to carry her to my house (a mere 1/3 mile away), I put her to sleep in the guest bedroom, posted here via mobile, then collapsed on the floor from exhaustion: the party sapped a lot of my energy before I even carried her home. When I came to, she was no longer in the guest bedroom and a blanket was covering me. I walked downstairs in a haze and found a note on the kitchen table from my parents saying "We drove your friend to her house for you, we didn't want to wake you up." Now I'm here, on Facepunch :v:[/QUOTE] shoulda fukked her butt wile she was sleeping lol
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29821481]shoulda fukked her butt wile she was sleeping lol[/QUOTE] [img]http://www.facepunch.com/image.php?u=50926&dateline=1280093254[/img] [editline]14th May 2011[/editline] your avatar made it so much funnier
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;29818008]And then she realized you were going to be a butthurt faggot about it so she posted some bullshit on your Facebook to reel you back in.[/QUOTE] What? Anyway, we've been talking on Facebook all day and she even told her friend that she couldn't go to the cinema so she could stay and talk to me, for some reason. I don't know, I guess I'll just sit back and see what happens.
Drug and bang her.
[QUOTE=zerosix;29824224]What? Anyway, we've been talking on Facebook all day and she even told her friend that she couldn't go to the cinema so she could stay and talk to me, for some reason. I don't know, I guess I'll just sit back and see what happens.[/QUOTE] ask her out and you'll see how the fuck are we supposed to know
[QUOTE=zerosix;29824224]What? Anyway, we've been talking on Facebook all day and she even told her friend that she couldn't go to the cinema so she could stay and talk to me, for some reason. I don't know, I guess I'll just sit back and see what happens.[/QUOTE] Ask her to go to the cinema her and her friend were going to, but with you instead.
hey buddy hey why don't you talk to that girl and THEN give advice here huh?
[QUOTE=.Cheezy.;29825912]hey buddy hey why don't you talk to that girl and THEN give advice here huh?[/QUOTE] Well, it was meant as a joke... :saddowns: [editline]14th May 2011[/editline] And I will talk to her...
[QUOTE=Fhux;29825928]Well, it was meant as a joke... :saddowns: [/QUOTE] Why, that's good advice. Which in turn means you're shitty at giving advice because your [i]joke[/i] advice is good advice.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;29826079]Why, that's good advice. Which in turn means you're shitty at giving advice because your [i]joke[/i] advice is good advice.[/QUOTE] Seeing as I'm not allowed to give advice until I talk to that girl, that can't be counted as advice, can it?
Alright so i've gotten myself into a situation it comes down to: 1) We work together. That's a difficult enough situation in itself. 2) Both of us are leaving work to go to different universities that are hours and hours away from each other come September. so, do i pursue this relationship? i don't particularly want to date her for 2 months and then have to dump her/get dumped and end up hurting her,that's not fair on either of us, but on the flip side I'd love to have a relationship with her but it seems destined not to be at this point in time. also friends with benefits is not an option
Don't take it too seriously and have a bit of fun before you depart. You also seem to be worrying further ahead than you should be, you haven't even established a relationship with her yet.
[QUOTE=FlapadarV2;29805487]Really does get annoying sometimes how women are generally vague about things. Can never tell if they're trying to give a hint or if I'm subconsciously making a hint out of nothing. [editline].[/editline] How obvious should it be if a girl (17yr) is keen for you?[/QUOTE] Body language is one of the big factors. If she's acting like something out of a porn movie, she's probably teasing and testing you. If she has a somewhat nervous demeanor, she's overwhelmed by you. In this case, stay cool, and tease her about how nervous she is. In a friendly way, not an assholish way. This will give her a signal that you're cool about things, and she'll be less tense too. Good room for conversation, numbers, hookups. Now, this works both ways. Act cool, she will. Act nervous, she will too. So the best thing is to act like you HAVE known her forever. I'm not going to TELL you what to do, because that defeats the whole "be yourself" thing. Use your intelligence to create ways to hook up. Though, here's some good practice. Sit with some friends at lunch, and dare each other to approach attractive girls that you see. This factors well into the confidence part, because there's 0% risk. It's a dare, nobody cares, you and your friends get a laugh out of how he/she (no judgement) reacts. I recommend googling David DeAngelo on the internet. He's got some good shit on female psychology.
[QUOTE=joes33431;29830251]I recommend googling David DeAngelo on the internet. He's got some good shit on female psychology.[/QUOTE] I would also like to further this point. I've listened to many of his audiotapes and after that I now have a new outlook on even the most casual social interaction, it's very interesting. Above and beyond that, it gives an incredible boost to your confidence and ability if you take his suggestions to heart and I speak from personal experience.
David DeAngelo is alright for some of the more basic pointers but really he's just got his own agenda to sell his book, which is nothing special anyway. Saying that, personally I was introduced into the whole world of 'game' and all that by David D and it was definitely very beneficial at the start, but there is a lot of better material out there that is more worth your time. The Real Social Dynamics DVD/s for example, with Tyler Durden, covers a lot of useful information, and not just in the form of cheesy techniques or tricks to get girls. It's more of a look into yourself and how you treat yourself, and consequently how you treat women around you, especially the Transformations series. Really worth checking out no matter your 'level'.
Books and DVD's on how to be socially successful. Doesn't get much more lame than that. Just go out and give it a shot. Fuck up. Learn from your mistakes. That way, you develop more of a unique "voice" instead of just doing what works for other guys. I'm pretty damn unorthodox in how I talk to girls and it works for me because they find it fresh and interesting. Sure, when I swing and miss, it's a huge miss, but that's life for you.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29833178]Books and DVD's on how to be socially successful. Doesn't get much more lame than that. Just go out and give it a shot. Fuck up. Learn from your mistakes. That way, you develop more of a unique "voice" instead of just doing what works for other guys. I'm pretty damn unorthodox in how I talk to girls and it works for me because they find it fresh and interesting. Sure, when I swing and miss, it's a huge miss, but that's life for you.[/QUOTE] please take note that the books are designed for people who have serious problems with the opposite sex i read the material as it is useful, supplemental, and overall interesting.
I had serious problems with the opposite sex. Instead of buying books, I did things the way normal people do. I went out and fucked up a lot, learning from my mistakes as I went along.
but if you fuck up you lose points on the relationship ladder if I lose too many relationships I'll fall into bronze league!
I definitely agree with that, if you sat at home and watched and read every book and DVD you could, it wouldn't be equivalent to an hour outside, talking to and interacting with real people and gaining real experience. But that's not to say that there isn't some merit in all of it. I started off as an anti-social, miserable loser who couldn't even look girls in the eye without stuttering. My own period of 'transformation' if you will, came about firstly from discovering marijuana, as it of course made me a lot more relaxed, and completely changed many of the perceptions that I had about myself and the world around me. Of course I couldn't just rely on getting high to interact with other people, and I had to become comfortable with myself so as to show real confidence. A lot of the shit I found online during that period helped me do just that, as it demonstrated what was actually possible when it came to interacting with women. Basically it opened my eyes to what I was capable of doing, and on top of that it made clear many of the mistakes I had previously been guilty of, allowing me to become more and more comfortable with going out there and gaining real experience and learning from my own mistakes. I mean, if you were to say that all books/DVDs are useless, then isn't this entire thread useless? Of course not, there's a lot of beneficial content, either in the form of practical information and advice, to inspirational stories and anecdotes. For the same reason, a lot of the shit published by 'pick-up artists' and the like is beneficial, and I'll vouch for all of it as long as it is being accompanied with the person actually getting out and putting themselves out there.
Oh this is just great. I have a huge crush on a girl (who is damn 20 years old) for about 2 years, yet now when I'm in a stable relationship I find out she ''likes'' me and so we make out in a party. Now I have no idea if anyone except my best friends know about it, and I do not know where to go from here. How do I get out of this situation without hurting anyone?
Don't make out with people who aren't your girlfriend?
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