• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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Tell your girlfriend, explain the situation, apologize, and hope it works out. You fucked up and made a mistake, you can't expect to get out of it without someone getting it hurt, either her or you. It'll be better she hears it from you than someone else. If she doesn't take it well, then hey at least there's the 20 year old.
Funny thing is - I've got NO idea what she wants from our relationship anymore. She says we'll have to ''talk'' about our future. I suspect this is about her exams and the chance that she might leave to live in England. It's messy.
Stable relationship =/= getting drunk and making out with another girl. You fucked up big time, deal with it. How? Depends on YOU. First off. If you want to stay with the girl you're with, DO NOT TELL HER. I know this might sound awful and morally wrong, but you know what? If you plan on staying with the girl, for whatever reason, she'll get hurt from the truth. Yea I know, the truth is always the best way out, however, you were drunk, and despite the fact that this is no excuse at all, I'm assuming it's a one time mistake. Everybody makes mistakes, and while you don't deserve to stay with the girl right now, she will not benefit in anyway from knowing that you cheated on her, and neither will your relationship. Keep in mind that the two of you do have some issues when you go out and cheat on her, so just because you've swiped your little slip under the carpet it does not mean that the problem goes away. If you plan on leaving her, DO NOT TELL HER. Simply because a break up ending with "I cheated on you" will probably stay with her forever, and she'll most likely hate your guts. I know, you deserve it, but she doesn't really deserve to pay for YOUR mistake. You fucked up, you deal with it, you deserve the pain of knowing that you did something wrong. It's called shame and regret, and don't you dare pouring it out on her just because you break and feel guilty. She doesn't deserve it. You're only going to confess if: You're sure she's going to find out about it from someone else. And just for the record: Cheating is awful, but it was only a bit of kissing. I'm not saying it's okay, I'm just saying that it is what is it, and it could've been way worse.
[QUOTE=Paravin;29835028]Oh this is just great. I have a huge crush on a girl (who is damn 20 years old) for about 2 years, yet now when I'm in a stable relationship I find out she ''likes'' me and so we make out in a party. Now I have no idea if anyone except my best friends know about it, and I do not know where to go from here. How do I get out of this situation without hurting anyone?[/QUOTE] Lie. Works every time and if she somehow gets a clue about what you've done deny everything. [editline]15th May 2011[/editline] Remember: Cheating is only bad if you get caught.
[QUOTE=kaskade700;29838020]Remember: Cheating is only bad if you get caught.[/QUOTE] I disagree with this.
[QUOTE=kaskade700;29838020]Remember: Cheating is only bad if you get caught.[/QUOTE] That's pretty awful. I don't see how you could ever have a meaningful relationship with beliefs like that.
If you were drunk and you only made out, it's not that bad. Hell I wouldn't feel that guilty, just don't tell her, basically Sawah's post.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;29837200]Stable relationship =/= getting drunk and making out with another girl. You fucked up big time, deal with it. How? Depends on YOU. First off. If you want to stay with the girl you're with, DO NOT TELL HER. I know this might sound awful and morally wrong, but you know what? If you plan on staying with the girl, for whatever reason, she'll get hurt from the truth. Yea I know, the truth is always the best way out, however, you were drunk, and despite the fact that this is no excuse at all, I'm assuming it's a one time mistake. Everybody makes mistakes, and while you don't deserve to stay with the girl right now, she will not benefit in anyway from knowing that you cheated on her, and neither will your relationship. Keep in mind that the two of you do have some issues when you go out and cheat on her, so just because you've swiped your little slip under the carpet it does not mean that the problem goes away. If you plan on leaving her, DO NOT TELL HER. Simply because a break up ending with "I cheated on you" will probably stay with her forever, and she'll most likely hate your guts. I know, you deserve it, but she doesn't really deserve to pay for YOUR mistake. You fucked up, you deal with it, you deserve the pain of knowing that you did something wrong. It's called shame and regret, and don't you dare pouring it out on her just because you break and feel guilty. She doesn't deserve it. You're only going to confess if: You're sure she's going to find out about it from someone else. And just for the record: Cheating is awful, but it was only a bit of kissing. I'm not saying it's okay, I'm just saying that it is what is it, and it could've been way worse.[/QUOTE] Well, that says just about everything I was going to say. You even covered the part where not telling her he cheated is actually less selfish than telling her would be (because she doesn't have to live with "HE CHEATED ON ME", which is an awfully shitty way to remember someone). Still, Paravin, what you should take from this is: you fucked up big. You're lucky your friends are so forgiving... my friends know better than to make me carry the burden of a knowledge like that, because I won't. I absolutely despise cheating and honor no excuses, so for me to second Sarah's advice, it means I'm saying this because it's what is best for your girlfriend. If you care about her at all, follow Sarah's advice.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29834314]but if you fuck up you lose points on the relationship ladder if I lose too many relationships I'll fall into bronze league![/QUOTE] its k dude just beat the elite four and you'll be back in the game
If she asks you directly about it, and you suspect that she probably knows about it or is at least suspicious about it, then tell her. Otherwise don't.
Monday tomorrow, good night.
I have a date this wednesday, can't wait man!! It's going to be awesome. Oh and the girl I'm dating is being stalked, what should I do about the stalker guy?
[QUOTE=Cl0cK;29848532]Oh and the girl I'm dating is being stalked, what should I do about the stalker guy?[/QUOTE] Nothing [QUOTE=Fhux;29848458]Monday tomorrow, good night.[/QUOTE] You won't do it now you've hyped it so much.
[QUOTE=Fhux;29848458]Monday tomorrow, good night.[/QUOTE] keep it to yourself, we don't care. [editline]16th May 2011[/editline] Also we've told you not to plan ahead like that and you know it, it's like constantly posting telling us that you didn't take our advice.
omg gais i foun th grl of mai dreemz!!11!!1! wat do?!?! o, ask her out? k... mebbe nekst week... maek tat monf... or year... Nah, who needs girls anyways? They're just complicated flesh sacks... Truly... -- I think I was mocking someone. I am a chronic-shitposter. Sometimes.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;29853219] I am a chronic-shitposter. Sometimes.[/QUOTE] I laughed. A lot.
Caused by the contradiction or that you agree with it?
I shitpost when I see a good opportunity.
Successful shitposting relies entirely on timing and context. I do it all the time anyways.
Wonder when this girl will get her phone back... Hopefully soon. Else I'll just say screw it and track her down again at lunch.
[QUOTE=Octyl;29854889]Wonder when this girl will get her phone back... Hopefully soon. Else I'll just say screw it and track her down again at lunch.[/QUOTE] She's already got it back and doesn't want to text you, killer.
[QUOTE=Cl0cK;29848532]I have a date this wednesday, can't wait man!! It's going to be awesome. Oh and the girl I'm dating is being stalked, what should I do about the stalker guy?[/QUOTE] tell him to back off yo bitch
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;29855698]She's already got it back and doesn't want to text you, killer.[/QUOTE] dont he'll take this seriously lol
Welp, apparently I cannot even do an act of kindness without something backfiring on me. I just got back from the hospital because I got dragged into a fight that was completely unwarranted. Apparently, after I carried Sophia from the party, people starting making up speculations and a false rumor was born. The rumor being that "Austin drugged Sophia and raped her," which I think is utter bullshit to even have that idea cross one's mind. The rumor spread like wildfire before I was even awake the following day. She got word of it and told me and both of us were trying to clarify what had really happened so people would stop that ludicrous rumor. Unfortunately, it had reached the ears of her boyfriend and he was blinded with rage. I was not aware that he had heard of it or not so I was completely caught off guard when he got me with a cheapshot when we met up to go out to dinner among a group of friends. My obvious first response (aside from reeling in pain) was, "Paul, what the fuck?!" He stated that he had heard the rumor, I tried to explain what had really happened but his mind was made up, he was going to attack me. The fight mostly consisted of me blocking punches. I grabbed one of his wrists and held on firmly, in desperation, he threw his other arm and it too was grabbed and restrained by the wrist. He's struggling to wriggle free of my grip. I said to him in a low tone, "I don't want to fight you. That rumor you heard was fake. Don't make me humiliate you here, there are people gathering. Let's not make this encounter any worse than it already is." He's comparatively small when juxtaposed with me, both in height and in strength. He responds to my request by headbutting me in the nose, I hear a snapping sound and feel blood dripping out my nose. I passed out shortly after, I don't exactly recall what happened between the initial contact and me waking up in the hospital. Now, he's likely got a criminal record for assault, I've got to deal with my nose being in this thing for 6 weeks or so, and she is feeling as if she's to blame because she got drunk at the party in the first place. Ugh...
Wow, what a dick. Feel better man.
Just getting this out of the way right here: I'm not all "Oh god a girl likes me" when I say what I say next. I'm just providing content for the thread. Some random girl I've never met sent me a message on FaceBook saying [i]"So I keep hearing really good things about you, and I've been attempting to meet you for a while now. Mind if I just send a facebook request first and meet you in real life later?"[/i] I just replied with [i]"Sounds dandy to me"[/i]. I don't actually think much of this. I was more interested in who was telling this random lady "really good things" about me. Wonder what they said. Recently most people just tell me to keep my opinions to myself, so positive comments are always nice.
She sounds like a weirdo. [editline]16th May 2011[/editline] It's like she reviews people like she reviews movies: "I heard that one was really good, I want to meet it!"
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;29855698]She's already got it back and doesn't want to text you, killer.[/QUOTE] Funny that all of her friends are bugging her on her wall on Facebook to steal her phone from her parents... :rolleyes:
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;29856989]She sounds like a weirdo. [editline]16th May 2011[/editline] It's like she reviews people like she reviews movies: "I heard that one was really good, I want to meet it!"[/QUOTE] "I heard the acting was pretty good on that guy, probably a good 8/10.. a must meet."
That's bullshit. Should have defended yourself.
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