I wrote a thread about that back in the day and was about to link you to it, but I forgot that LA was completely deleted.
In a nutshell, I used to be a massive loser. Always had huge balls, just never knew how to interact with girls. Evolved a lot throughout high school and fell in love with a girl during my Senior year. Unfortunately, this girl had a boyfriend. A lot of drama and strokes of bad luck later, she didn't want anything to do with me and I pretty much broke down.
It was about a month into my breakdown when I stood up and realized that all I had to do to get over it was... get over it. I literally just nutted up and got over it. In a day. After that day, it became my mission to explain to everyone how easy it is to keep pushing forward even after the worst shit. That mission evolved into generally giving people advice as college rolled around and I expanded my studies.
So yeah, I guess you could say getting my heart broken is what made me snap.
I don't understand people. I can't have an intelligent conversation with them, they disagree with my ideas, they don't understand my jokes or have sense of humour, basically almost every negative social aspect there is. So I either stand there and watch & listen without opening my mouth or just find an excuse to go home. Also, they find something funny in me which I still can't decypher.
I read something about brain processing in MaverickIB's Formspring: yes, I call those people I described above "retarded" because I don't understand them.
Almost every girl is giving an one-word response in IM chats so they can escape a conversation with me.
I only know a few individuals I can have fun with, but either they're living far away(not an internet relationship, but classmates) or busy with their social lives.
There are a few guys I want to beat so they can stop provocating.
I'm better when I don't hear retarded opinions, witness offensive body language, hear "What?" all the time.
Can't wait to get out of this mental hospital soon.
Help: help me cure headaches. That stress, can't visualize a relieving solution.
Maybe people don't like talking to you because you make zero sense.
Fuck knows, they even find my general proper stance(back straight) funny.
I share a few mutual interests which are rarely discussed.
Being sociable isn't about sharing interests or being the same "type" of person. It's about knowing how to communicate with others. If you can't communicate with other people, maybe you're calling the wrong person retarded.
I'm literally confused because those people change their moods often. One day they're all quite and a bit friendly, the next day they're provocative. I tried to communicate with others, turned out their response was more like a "get out of here homebody". I tried by saying something on-topic and 'senseful', all they did was imitate my breaking voice and my accent.
It seems you're talking to the wrong type of people if all they do is take the piss, I just ignore them. There must be another group you can talk to?
My only option is to counter-trashtalk and probably use physical force against those people. If they want to be treated like trash, then I'll do it, I'm a nice guy after all, right: giving people the things they want, rite? Karma and all? /butthurt
Mort and Charon: another group I can talk to is gone from my school now.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28300373]It's simple, I'm a fucking genius. I mean, I'm not a big fan of blowing my own horn, but I'm seriously a ridiculously intelligent dude. [/QUOTE]
it's got nothing to do with that what's your birthsign i should read your horoscope
One of the biggest mistakes people make is that they try to imitate other people in an effort to fit in and whatnot. If I walked up to a bunch of thugs and said "Sup nukkas," I'd probably get a violent response from them. However, if I walked up to them and just acted like myself, despite being very different from them, I'm much more likely to receive a positive response.
If you're a strange dude with a funny accent, you need to be a strange dude with a funny accent.
Also, you're probably trying to talk to the wrong people.
[quote]My only option is to counter-trashtalk and probably use physical force against those people. If they want to be treated like trash, then I'll do it, I'm a nice guy after all, right: giving people the things they want, rite? Karma and all? /butthurt
Mort and Charon: another group I can talk to is gone from my school now.[/quote]
Physical force against people just because you lack the ability to communicate with them? You have no business calling other people retarded, you need to take some classes on how to be a human being in society.
@Pain
I'm a virgo :)
I wouldn't do that, without anyone backing you up it's likely to backfire and you'll end up a complete outcast, and in a position hard to recover from. Ignore the main douches, maybe try and talk to someone in classes and work together during the work, and build conversation from there. If you are a clever guy, help someone out, but be careful they don't use you.
sounds like you have a form of autism or aspergers.
no joke.
I think you're way to over dramatic from the way you type.
loosen up, and not everyone that doesn't have the same ideals as you, for example:
I see a lot of those black guys walking around with the sagging pants, if you think "wow what a useless motherfucker on humanity" then that's a mental block, you need to chill the fuck out. I'm friends with ton of them and give them tons of shit, I usually complain to my black friends that they should hook me up on some welfare or some shit, basically you shouldn't call anyone retarded/dumb/fucking useless unless you actually get to know them.
It's also funny how friends work, three of the people I ended up fighting in middle school - high school I'm really good friends with now.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28305534]
@Pain
I'm a virgo :)[/QUOTE]
hah the virgin
[QUOTE=thisispain;28305667]hah the virgin[/QUOTE]
I always thought that was ironic myself.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28305692]I always thought that was ironic myself.[/QUOTE]
"Watch out for the green-eyed monster today, Virgo. It can rear up before you can say "jealousy." Most situations that cause these feelings are born out of insecurity. If you aren't secure in your job, relationship, or family, and feel threatened by someone, it's time to take a look at the cause. Why you don't feel as solid as you could? What's causing the insecurity? Look for the answers."
The third statement seems making sense. I don't come to a group, crossing my arms, posing like a girl which hurts my spine and probably curves it.
Also I'd go nuts if some wigger would come to a group of black men and say "wha's cookin' homies'" and I'd probably recognize him as a boxing bag.
I can compare my character with Tyler Durden. I'm not faking his behaviour, I literally don't give a damn about everything.
[editline]27th February 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;28305565]sounds like you have a form of autism or aspergers.
no joke.[/QUOTE]
Going straight from being to a computer nerd to a social addict is a mentally painful process.
[QUOTE=thisispain;28305517]it's got nothing to do with that what's your birthsign i should read your horoscope[/QUOTE]
The letter that preceded you mentioned you were born under a certain sign. And what would that be?
[QUOTE=Fedly;28305786]
Going straight from being to a computer nerd to a social addict is a mentally painful process.[/QUOTE]
No, it's not. I went straight from being a computer nerd to a social addict and I never felt like resorting to physical violence or believing I was better than everyone.
Well, I've always believed I was better than everyone else, but in a different way. Instead of thinking everyone is retarded, I simply believe I am a genius.
[QUOTE=Fedly;28305786]The third statement seems making sense. I don't come to a group, crossing my arms, posing like a girl which hurts my spine and probably curves it.
Also I'd go nuts if some wigger would come to a group of black men and say "wha's cookin' homies'" and I'd probably recognize him as a boxing bag.
I can compare my character with Tyler Durden. I'm not faking his behaviour, I literally don't give a damn about everything.
[editline]27th February 2011[/editline]
Going straight from being to a computer nerd to a social addict is a mentally painful process.[/QUOTE]
Just relax, learn to laugh at yourself, and poke a bit of fun at people without it being agressive.
I don't wanna see a psychologist. Last thing I need is a creepy stare at me and hearing that "most calmed voice in the world". I've had my experience when I was tired all the time and I had an urge to say "fuck you" to my school psychologist.
I believe it's the childhood which I screwed big time. During that time almost the whole town loved me until kleptomania kicked in. Luckily when school began I stopped stealing and just stared at shiny things. Now I just don't care anymore.
Ok, looking for a bit of advice now, I asked in LA last week about a friend of mine, who already has a boyfriend. Well I went out with her to the cinemas on Wednesday, and I tried to do what you suggested Maverik, to subtly hold her hand. But this seemed impossible, as she spent the whole movie curled up in the corner of her seat with hands in her lap. So I kind of lost that chance, but had a good time, and she'd like to meet up again, and she suggested ice skating. I was wondering what you would do from here, and if I could somehow find out if she would ever be interested in a relationship with me, I don't want to waste my energy pursuing something that's never going to happen.
Hold hands when skating, just like in TV. Then try to have a conversation with her and when it comes the awkward silence, risk for a kiss.
[editline]27th February 2011[/editline]
No experience here, herp.
I stopped listening when you said in TV. God you've watched too many movies.
I haven't watched too many movies. I just quickly came into a conclusion that date + ice skating = hold hands when skating. This situation was also showed in some kiddie cartoon a really long time ago. Seems legit to me.
It helps if she's not a good skater cause shell be hugging you to stay up whilst skating.
Sorry if I sounded a bit harsh, and yeah, It think it will be very easy to hold hands ice skating, but that whole kiss thing is straight out of romance movie. It's not realistic, she's more likely to scream if I try and randomly kiss her.
Maverick, back in ye olde days of me lurking the Love Advice subforum, I remember you saying that if you ask a girl out to grab a coffee after school or something of that sort and you get a no as an answer, you go and get the coffee anyway, to show independence and putting yourself first. Just double checking that I remembered correctly.
Also thought I'd bring that advice to this thread if you haven't already mentioned it.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;28306232]Sorry if I sounded a bit harsh, and yeah, It think it will be very easy to hold hands ice skating, but that whole kiss thing is straight out of romance movie. It's not realistic, she's more likely to scream if I try and randomly kiss her.[/QUOTE]
watch hitch
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;28306232]Sorry if I sounded a bit harsh, and yeah, It think it will be very easy to hold hands ice skating, but that whole kiss thing is straight out of romance movie. It's not realistic, she's more likely to scream if I try and randomly kiss her.[/QUOTE]
That's what Mav said. Like when you're talking to a girl face2face close and getting into silence then you should risk for a kiss. It's also how my best buddy got into a relationship when a girl kissed him herself. Holding hands, hugging shows less signs of a relationship.
Sorry, you need to Log In to post a reply to this thread.