• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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[QUOTE=Fedly;28305786] I can compare my character with Tyler Durden. I'm not faking his behaviour, I literally don't give a damn about everything. [/QUOTE] sigh
For all you guys wondering how to initiate conversation with a random girl, you just have to be spontaneous, which sometimes may seem really stupid and cocky, but trust me, it works. To be honest, pick up lines DO work. But not in the way intended, they are a good conversation opener, and good way to make her smile and start the conversation with a random girl, instead of just saying "hi. whats your number" say something witty "Hey, whats your number, i seem to have mis placed mine" and complement her and ask her about herself. Heres a tip. MOST, women, do not like to hear about your daily shit that much. BUT they LOVE to talk about themselves. Ask them about their life, complain about ex boyfriends, swoop in and take advantage of that. Dont be an awkward fuck basically.
[QUOTE=Fedly;28306342]That's what Mav said. Like when you're talking to a girl face2face close and getting into silence then you should risk for a kiss. It's also how my best buddy got into a relationship when a girl kissed him herself. Holding hands, hugging shows less signs of a relationship.[/QUOTE] I thought he said the exact opposite, that all the "cute" stuff in the movies makes you look like a real creep in real-life.
[QUOTE=robmaister12;28306288]Maverick, back in ye olde days of me lurking the Love Advice subforum, I remember you saying that if you ask a girl out to grab a coffee after school or something of that sort and you get a no as an answer, you go and get the coffee anyway, to show independence and putting yourself first. Just double checking that I remembered correctly. Also thought I'd bring that advice to this thread if you haven't already mentioned it.[/QUOTE] That's really a context sensitive thing. For example, if you ask a girl to go with a show to you and she says no, go to that fucking show anyways and have a good time. However, the concept isn't exactly applicable to things like movies and mini-golfing, which aren't fun at all to do by yourself, haha. Also, I suggest not taking advice from Fedly, his statements about being socially inept should raise a red flag for you. Apply his advice at your own risk. @Mort Ice skating sounds like a good idea, holding her hand while skating sounds like a good idea, but the whole jumping in for a kiss thing doesn't sound like a good idea. For a lot of girls, kissing is actually a bigger thing than having sex. Seriously. Kissing and going in for kisses is an art. It's hard to explain, but you really have to sense the right moment to go in for a kiss. Silences aren't exactly the right time to jump in for a kiss, since there's a difference between "I really want to keep talking to you but don't know what to say" silences and the ordinary awkward silences. Want to know when to go for a kiss? Watch the movie "Hitch," or at least the first few minutes of it. That move seriously hits the nail on the head. It will tell you everything you need to know when it comes down to going in for kisses after first/second dates.
Thanks, guess I've got a movie to watch. But we're not really dating, it's just since we have no mutual friends we go out on our own.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28304927]I wrote a thread about that back in the day and was about to link you to it, but I forgot that LA was completely deleted. In a nutshell, I used to be a massive loser. Always had huge balls, just never knew how to interact with girls. Evolved a lot throughout high school and fell in love with a girl during my Senior year. Unfortunately, this girl had a boyfriend. A lot of drama and strokes of bad luck later, she didn't want anything to do with me and I pretty much broke down. It was about a month into my breakdown when I stood up and realized that all I had to do to get over it was... get over it. I literally just nutted up and got over it. In a day. After that day, it became my mission to explain to everyone how easy it is to keep pushing forward even after the worst shit. That mission evolved into generally giving people advice as college rolled around and I expanded my studies. So yeah, I guess you could say getting my heart broken is what made me snap.[/QUOTE] [img]http://i.cubeupload.com/VIvLwW.jpg[/img] [img]http://i.cubeupload.com/R9Cyza.jpg[/img] You're welcome.
Can't accept the fact that I'm socially inept. I'm just depressed which will be gone after a good night sleep. I've never had romantic experience, I just try to write things what I read in LA that MaverickIB wrote. I just forgot the buzz about the wrong and right people.
Apologies for being hard to read, it got resized at some point.
I've really calmed down a lot since those days, haha.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28307072]I've really calmed down a lot since those days, haha.[/QUOTE] I like it better this way
Me too bby, me too.
Wow, that was a good read.
I can't stand homewreckers or guys who hit on girls who have boyfriends. I never try to come off that way to girls who I know are taken, to me if they're taken it's like an unspoken/universal rule that boundaries have been set and you need to know them. [editline]26th February 2011[/editline] probably an unpopular opinion but oh well.
The way I see it, I'm doing the boyfriend a favor. I mean, if I can pull a girl that has a boyfriend, it's pretty damn obvious that the girl is willing to cheat on him. Better for him to find that out now over finding out 3 years down the road. Be a good boyfriend and you don't have to worry about homewreckers. That's the golden rule.
I need help. I'm in 7th grade, and I have been dating my GF for 1 year and 5 months. Recently, it's started to trickle down to that "Just Friends" Is there anyway I can stop this? The last physical reaction we had was I hugged her for 10 minutes.
I don't know, because I don't understand the dynamics of little kid relationships. Seriously though, you're in the 7th grade, relax. If the relationship is going downhill, end it, it's that simple.
[QUOTE=b0b0;28307345]I need help. I'm in 7th grade, and I have been dating my GF for 1 year and 5 months. Recently, it's started to trickle down to that "Just Friends" Is there anyway I can stop this? The last physical reaction we had was I hugged her for 10 minutes.[/QUOTE] The solution is to be older
Thanks Johnny, really. I wish to learn more from your untold wisdom. But seriously, I think my age is fine. Not all 12 year old's are complete retards.
Have you even kissed (french)?
No, I'm to scared to, but I might this summer.
[QUOTE=b0b0;28307664]Thanks Johnny, really. I wish to learn more from your untold wisdom. But seriously, I think my age is fine. Not all 12 year old's are complete retards.[/QUOTE] No that is really fucking early to be dating and way to fucking early to be taking dating any sort of seriously.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;28307755]No that is really fucking early to be dating and way to fucking early to be taking dating any sort of seriously.[/QUOTE] 12 is too early for anything serious, but for dating overall, it's a fine age to start. If you start dating at 12, don't expect it to last forever.
[QUOTE=Fedly;28305332]I'm literally confused because those people change their moods often. One day they're all quite and a bit friendly, the next day they're provocative. I tried to communicate with others, turned out their response was more like a "get out of here homebody". I tried by saying something on-topic and 'senseful', all they did was imitate my breaking voice and my accent.[/QUOTE] What's more likely, everyone in the entire world being retarded except you, or just you being retarded?
Always rely on your instinct, you'll get better at it as you get more experience like everything else. Comment on her fragrance "You must smell so good" and smell her neck, does she flinch? She's not ready at all if she does. If you're still in doubt just allow the conversation to pause and smile at her. If she holds your gaze and smiles back she's most likely ready. Then subtly tilt your head towards hers and then subtly to the side. I usually tilt right but that's because I'm right handed I think. Once your lips touch you're kissing and now you should move away first, savour the moment for a second and then go in again and hold for a little bit longer. The reason why you move away first is because you leave her wanting more. On the longer kiss bring your left hand up and gently touch/stroke her left cheek.
Yeah, I'm not gonna kiss her yet. I just got an aching stomach because of the above poster. Why do I have to be so afraid!
if you've dated a girl for a year and a half and all you've done was kissed, there was no relationship buddy lol
I said I haven't kissed her yet. We've been to the movies a few times and went out to eat.
...and that took over a year?
[QUOTE=b0b0;28307664]Thanks Johnny, really. I wish to learn more from your untold wisdom. But seriously, I think my age is fine. [B]Not all 12 year old's are complete retards.[/B][/QUOTE] lol wat Yes, they are. You have much to learn, young grasshopper.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28306738]That's really a context sensitive thing. For example, if you ask a girl to go with a show to you and she says no, go to that fucking show anyways and have a good time. However, the concept isn't exactly applicable to things like movies and mini-golfing, which aren't fun at all to do by yourself, haha. Also, I suggest not taking advice from Fedly, his statements about being socially inept should raise a red flag for you. Apply his advice at your own risk. @Mort Ice skating sounds like a good idea, holding her hand while skating sounds like a good idea, but the whole jumping in for a kiss thing doesn't sound like a good idea. For a lot of girls, kissing is actually a bigger thing than having sex. Seriously. Kissing and going in for kisses is an art. It's hard to explain, but you really have to sense the right moment to go in for a kiss. Silences aren't exactly the right time to jump in for a kiss, since there's a difference between "I really want to keep talking to you but don't know what to say" silences and the ordinary awkward silences. Want to know when to go for a kiss? Watch the movie "Hitch," or at least the first few minutes of it. That move seriously hits the nail on the head. It will tell you everything you need to know when it comes down to going in for kisses after first/second dates.[/QUOTE] thanks for clearing that up. I definitely wouldn't go mini-golfing alone though, just seemed too obvious for me to write out... but I guess nothing is too obvious when it comes to LA. Also, I thought I'd write out a bit of my past... Just over a year ago I was getting to know a girl pretty well. Most of our communication was via facebook or texting, as we only shared a single class and rarely passed by each other in the hallways. [b][problem #1][/b] We would talk about anything and everything, and all that jazz. Anyways, I may as well just cut to the chase, the night before one of my finals we were chatting on facebook, it was about 1AM. (Note that this was just before I started lurking LA) The subject turned to love, and being an idiot, I professed to her my love [b][problem #2][/b]. Just a bit earlier than that she said that she was simple, and was willing to try something out and if it didn't work out she'd move on. So right after that I asked her out. Not like to a movie or something, just to be my girlfriend. [b][problem #3][/b] At that point she said yes, and that we'd try it out to see if it worked out. so at that point my emotions were elevated, I was basically like "fuck yeah!" I finish studying, wake up in the morning. I checked my facebook, and saw a new private message from this girl. It was a fairly lengthy paragraph full of excuses of why she didn't want to go out. It wasn't even 5 hours since I asked that she shut me down. It caught me off guard, and my parents were in the middle of a 1 1/2 hear long divorce, so I was essentially destabilized emotionally. In other words I felt like complete shit for about a week. My grades on my finals were probably a bit lower than they should have been, but they were generally unaffected. So yeah, I made a lot of mistakes, and I've learned from those mistakes, but damn it would have been so much better if she just straight up said no. I figured I had nothing to lose when I asked, so I did. Then she gave me something to lose and took it away from me. I got myself back together within a week, got over it within a month. The only time we've ever spoken after that message was her asking me for some study guides like she did earlier. Where she'd take them and distribute them to absolutely everyone. Needless to say I told her no and left. Lessons learned: 1) talking to someone in person is significantly better than facebook or texting. Don't think you'll have a shot if you hardly see each other 2) never profess your love. EVER 3) ask girls out to somewhere, it doesn't put them on the spot and gives them a way to say no without being upfront about it. 4) always ask a girl out in person if possible. 5) not necessarily related to the story, but something I picked up sometime between then and now, be yourself - a girl won't think you're creepy just by looking at you, unless you're staring her down from 100ft away or something creepy like that. 6) another thing I've picked up is that girls are easy to talk to if you make it easy. Any human being can get some idea of another person's emotional state by looking at them. If your eyes are darting everywhere and your voice is shaky, it's pretty fucking obvious. Talk to a girl like you would any guy friend. Just minus the immature jokes. 7) rejection is better than never asking. Don't be afraid of rejection. You can't learn to walk without falling. etc, etc. of course I still don't have a girlfriend so I can't say I've tested all of my advice to be true, but at least now I'm not nearly as socially awkward with the ladies. And remember, your rejection probably won't be nearly as bad as mine, if that makes you guys feel any better.
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