[QUOTE=SaWAH;28317614]i once started laughing when one of my friends told me she might have cancer
most awkward moment in ages
no idea wtf happened[/QUOTE]
because you are probably like me when it comes to a bad situation, you tend to laugh at it because it's the only way for it to go
normal people cry
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;28307823]What's more likely, everyone in the entire world being retarded except you, or just you being retarded?[/QUOTE]
wut?
[QUOTE=thisispain;28317486]
[editline]27th February 2011[/editline]
actually i think i'd be better off if i was more aspie than i am right now
my physical communication is often so intense that i can't conceal being amused or sad, like trying to conceal laughter while at a funeral
and i often can't stop emphasizing with my peers, which means i'm always buying them food and doing shit for them when i shouldn't[/QUOTE]
that's actually pretty interesting
when people explain how they react to things they usually say they don't give a damn 'cause they're badass, but you say you give too much of a damn
[QUOTE=FlakAttack;28312382]There is hope for this man.
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Thanks, I'm just being very cautious with how I deal with this at the moment for a few reasons.
1)-I don't get many chances to meet girls or anything, since I go to an all boy's school, and a lot of my free time is taken up by Army Cadets and other stuff. So I'm trying my best not to fuck up the few chances I get.
2)-Linked into above, I only have 2 female friends, and this girl is one of them. With all the guys I socialise with a lot of the time they're trying to win one over you, and if you do/say something stupid it can be hard to live it down for a while. Therefore its hard to speak to them on quite serious matters, so I don't want to risk messing up a good friendship with someone I can laugh and joke with, but also talk pretty maturely with.
3)-I met this girl doing work experience at a Veterinary Surgery, and when I got back in touch with her via face book, I asked if she wanted to volunteer there every Saturday with me, and she jumped at the chance (despite deciding she want to go into teaching now) and gave me her number. Now we still do this every week, and it's pretty crucial for me getting a university place I want, as well as having a good time with her. Now if I fuck up with her, I'll most likely have to stop doing this as it would be extremely awkward.
4)-The fact she has a boyfriend, and their relationship is relatively stable, probably increases my chances of being rejected. (yeah I know the whole, "you can still score with a Goalie" thing, but they save shots as well don't they?) Friends and my parents keep saying that I'm pushing it as it is, going out just me and her, they seem to think girls with boyfriends are instant no-nos. I'm in no rush, so I'm willing to wait a few months to see if they go through another break-up patch like last year.
Once again the logic of the female mind eludes me completely.
There's this girl I know, we're friends and we've banged from time to time, sort of making us fuck-mates somehow?
Except I for the life of me can't figure her out, she slept at my flat last night, absofuckinglutely nothing happened, why? I have no clue but a far fetched theory instead. The theory goes as following: She only wants to fuck if someone else is sleeping in the room, I shit you not. Every time I've banged this girl when I go back down memory lane there has been someone sleeping in the same room, every time we have not, we've been alone.
Can anyone shed some light on this situation?
[QUOTE=David Tennant;28298696]He sounds correct, facebook is shallow.[/QUOTE]
Just because your in a paddling pool, doesn't mean you can't have fun.
[QUOTE=kaskade700;28318528]Once again the logic of the female mind eludes me completely.
There's this girl I know, we're friends and we've banged from time to time, sort of making us fuck-mates somehow?
Except I for the life of me can't figure her out, she slept at my flat last night, absofuckinglutely nothing happened, why? I have no clue but a far fetched theory instead. The theory goes as following: She only wants to fuck if someone else is sleeping in the room, I shit you not. Every time I've banged this girl when I go back down memory lane there has been someone sleeping in the same room, every time we have not, we've been alone.
Can anyone shed some light on this situation?[/QUOTE]
Maybe she's a bit of an exhibitionist, and finds it arousing when people are able to watch.
Who initiates the sexual interaction when there's someone else around? Are you just waiting for her to start it when you're alone as well?
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28318756]Maybe she's a bit of an exhibitionist, and finds it arousing when people are able to watch.
Who initiates the sexual interaction when there's someone else around? Are you just waiting for her to start it when you're alone as well?[/QUOTE]
No it's kind of a hard lined cue when she'd usually just be naked as soon as possible while on the alone night she's just lay in her panties and a top, and no not that I don't initialize anything she's just not up for it on such nights.
[QUOTE=thisispain;28317486]when it comes to aspies i'm the king :smug:
[editline]27th February 2011[/editline]
actually i think i'd be better off if i was more aspie than i am right now
my physical communication is often so intense that i can't conceal being amused or sad, like trying to conceal laughter while at a funeral
and i often can't stop emphasizing with my peers, which means i'm always buying them food and doing shit for them when i shouldn't[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I think there's two ways you can go when you have aspergers, the first is to wallow in it and become a social outcast (which has it's merits) or to try and learn social skills gradually and make mistakes.
I chose the second one and everyone thinks I'm weird, But I have a load of close friends who like me for that reason.
i think i'm just an attention whore
[editline]27th February 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=kaskade700;28318528]Once again the logic of the female mind eludes me completely.[/QUOTE]
i read this in morrisey's voice
and then i sung it in morrisey's voice
[QUOTE=kaskade700;28318528]There's this girl I know, we're friends and we've banged from time to time, sort of making us fuck-mates somehow?
Except I for the life of me can't figure her out, she slept at my flat last night, absofuckinglutely nothing happened, why? I have no clue but a far fetched theory instead. The theory goes as following: She only wants to fuck if someone else is sleeping in the room, I shit you not. Every time I've banged this girl when I go back down memory lane there has been someone sleeping in the same room, every time we have not, we've been alone.
Can anyone shed some light on this situation?[/QUOTE]
sounds kinky
[QUOTE=kaskade700;28318824]No it's kind of a hard lined cue when she's usually just be naked as soon as possible while on the alone night she's just lay in her panties and a top, and no not that I don't initialize anything she's just not up for it on such nights.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I get that, just some nights you don't feel the vibe from her at all.
Sounds like a really odd situation. Why don't you talk to her about it? It sounds like a FWB relationship, so you should be able to at least discuss the terms of what you two are doing. Don't have much to lose by bringing it up with her.
This thread is really interesting, when you think about it. Makes me wonder if guys have always been like this, or if culture's screwed man up to be super insecure and careful about girls. There MUST be a study on this...
[QUOTE=thisispain;28318954]i read this in morrisey's voice
and then i sung it in morrisey's voice
sounds kinky[/QUOTE]
It's kinky alright, no complaints to be heard from me about that.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28319079]Yeah I get that, just some nights you don't feel the vibe from her at all.
Sounds like a really odd situation. Why don't you talk to her about it? It sounds like a FWB relationship, so you should be able to at least discuss the terms of what you two are doing. Don't have much to lose by bringing it up with her.[/QUOTE]
She lives in another city. it's just that I live in the capital resulting in me replying with "I'm at X bar with Y company" whenever she calls and the she just comes along, I never see her sober.
I see. Meh, who cares dude. As long as you don't mind, just keep things the way they are, and in the meantime go out and actively try and find another partner with perhaps more usual sexual habits.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28319252]I see. Meh, who cares dude. As long as you don't mind, just keep things the way they are, and in the meantime go out and actively try and find another partner with perhaps more usual sexual habits.[/QUOTE]
I have one of those, I'm not really asking for advice but more for someone with womanly tendencies to enlighten me about her thoughts.
How long is too long to not see a girl for?
I've been away for a week and I need to prepare exams on Wednesday.
[QUOTE=Kingy_who;28318909]Yeah, I think there's two ways you can go when you have aspergers, the first is to wallow in it and become a social outcast (which has it's merits) or to try and learn social skills gradually and make mistakes.
I chose the second one and everyone thinks I'm weird, But I have a load of close friends who like me for that reason.[/QUOTE]
Brother, you did the right thing. Sorta the same boat, but I'm graduating this year so a clean slate with no weird opinions about me is on the horizon. Time to avert mistakes and start with a clean slate somewhere else :buddy:
[QUOTE=DarkWolf2;28319645]Brother, you did the right thing. Sorta the same boat, but I'm graduating this year so a clean slate with no weird opinions about me is on the horizon. Time to avert mistakes and start with a clean slate somewhere else :buddy:[/QUOTE]
Everyone says that the right thing is to try to become more sociable, but it's hard work if you have aspergers, and I need to take regular breaks from it. I can see the merits of not even trying but I enjoy being sociable too much.
I had asked a girl out when i was in pre-school (7th-8th grade). she said no.
She told about it to her friends.
[B]
Everybody laughed at me.[/B]
Im arfraid to ask anyone out anymore...
Fuck it, so what if one went badly. There's 1000 more chances for it to go better.
7th-8th grade chicks are immature bitches, don't think they accurately reflect what other girls are like.
Don't be afraid of rejection, ever. There's nothing to lose.
[QUOTE=Str4fe;28319776]I had asked a girl out in pre-school (7th-8th grade). she said no.
She told about it to her friends.
Everybody laughed at me.
Im arfraid to ask anyone out anymore...[/QUOTE]
Relax. That shit doesn't happen later (Unless you're a creepy fucker and ask the same girl out 5 times after she said no or something)
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28319804]Fuck it, so what if one went badly. There's 1000 more chances for it to go better.
7th-8th grade chicks are immature bitches, don't think they accurately reflect what other girls are like.
Don't be afraid of rejection, ever. There's nothing to lose.[/QUOTE]
I lost my reputation in that school.
Isnt that something?
It fucking made me feel like everybody hates me. like im some sort of freak.
You chose to let that shit get to you. You could have instead said fuck it, taken it in your stride, and carried on as if it didn't even happen. Nobody is going to hate you because some girl turned you down.
Pretty much the dumbest shit I've heard... Seriously, by the sound of it, she's pretty much nothing to go about.
BTW, if your self-esteem is low, people will notice (by people, I mean dumbass douche bags that have to pick on others in order to feel good about themselves), and therefore keep on doing whatever they can to keep on harassing you.
If your self-esteem is low, get yourself a set of goals, and gradually complete them. They don't have to be huge or anything, just basic tiny goals..
You might not notice the gradual improvement yourself, but others will ;)
I wish i could see myself from third person, to realize if am i an awkward idiot or not.
Well you can't, therefor you shouldn't try.
Work with what you got, and get your self-esteem back on the horse ;)
What! Why is this in chat threads!
Was this really a chat thread?
The best thing about it being in GD was that more people saw it and could offer help than when it was in LA. Now its going to get lost in all the chat thread crap.
Have we had an explanation about why the LA wasn't replaced?
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