• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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I hate to see this community dying out, I was a lurker but I really appreciated all the advice posted there. If there was a way to give back to it now I would.
[QUOTE=kaskade700;28318528]Once again the logic of the female mind eludes me completely. There's this girl I know, we're friends and we've banged from time to time, sort of making us fuck-mates somehow? Except I for the life of me can't figure her out, she slept at my flat last night, absofuckinglutely nothing happened, why? I have no clue but a far fetched theory instead. The theory goes as following: She only wants to fuck if someone else is sleeping in the room, I shit you not. Every time I've banged this girl when I go back down memory lane there has been someone sleeping in the same room, every time we have not, we've been alone. Can anyone shed some light on this situation?[/QUOTE] Case closed conclusion reached. She called me and we talked for a short while, turns out blood and other tasty things was dripping out of her on every day she wasn't up for my cock, timing I guess. Also funny theory I arrived at, much like people believing in ghosts when they can't come up with a rational explanation :v:
k so um based on some shit i read in the op, im gonna approach this girl (never talked to her before) who i think is really attractive, tell her i think shes attractive and that i would like to take her on a date. any thing ii should know before i go do this? or if anyone has a better way let me know. this seems to work for MEVERIK or whatever is name is so yeah
Don't tell her she's attractive. Don't call it a date, instead say go out. Save that first shit for the actual date.
[QUOTE=gerbile5;28348415]k so um based on some shit i read in the op, im gonna approach this girl (never talked to her before) who i think is really attractive, tell her i think shes attractive and that i would like to take her on a date. any thing ii should know before i go do this? or if anyone has a better way let me know. this seems to work for MEVERIK or whatever is name is so yeah[/QUOTE] Don't tell her she's attractive. Ask her out to wherever, talk a little, get her number. [editline]28th February 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=kaskade700;28348644]Don't tell her she's attractive. Don't call it a date, instead say go out. Save that first shit for the actual date.[/QUOTE] Ninja'd by seconds.
[QUOTE=Evilan;28348651][B]Don't tell her she's attractive[/B]. Ask her out to wherever, talk a little, get her number.[/QUOTE] why? is it just assumed since someone randomly comes up to you and talks to you?
[QUOTE=gerbile5;28349821]why? is it just assumed since someone randomly comes up to you and talks to you?[/QUOTE] No. Imagine, if you weren't desperate(Not saying you are) You don't have to choose the first- the best. Random mediocre girl comes up to you. "Hello, you are a very attractive male, I almost see you as a mating prospect, would you like to go out with me? :)" Please do not say you would agree to take her out. Why? because her thinking of you as an attractive mating mechanism has jack shit to do with whether you'd want to go out with the girl in question. /Hypothetical scenario Also steer clear of her if she brings up her own appearance looking for approval, but then again, if you like the thought of someone giving your compliments the first thing in the morning and has been doing so since you first talked go for it, you just might click.
So apparently the girl who's number I got is going out with someone. I doubt those dumbass Facebook relationship statuses mean anything but still. Now I feel bad.
After having skimmed through the op and some of the posts I have to say, getting a girl in America seems so different from getting a girl in Sweden. Or maybe I'm just seeing things differently. I get the sense of everyone being really awkward and strange.
Fuck it, I'm just gonna stop being fear's bitch, stop having such low self-esteem and no self-respect, and just get a fucking girl. I'm tired of this. Wish me luck, boys.
Hey my fave peeps. So I had the "How to approach this girl" threads and I need a little more advice. We've texted a few times, but I am getting mixed signals from her. Number one (point), I am always the one to text her (Minus once or twice). We don't text that often, mostly because I don't want to bug her. Number two (Confusion), sometimes it seems like she isn't fully into the conversation, but other times she seems into it. Third (More confusion), my other friend (Girl) that is friends with her said they were sitting at lunch and the girl ive been texting seemed to be looking at me, so my friend (Being nice and trying to help me) Looked at her and me back and forth, and then the girl hid her face like she was embarrassed or whatever. And finally, on Friday, she seemed to be trying to be around me. I saw her, made eye contact, smiled and said hi in the hall early in the day. I walked back to my classroom and she was talking to this other girl outside my door. Later, she showed up again outside another one of my classes talking to her friend again and seemed to be trying to kind of get my attention. After her friend went in the room, I was still outside, my crush left. A few minutes later she walked back with these two other people toward my direction. Hmm. So I'm getting a shit ton of mixed signals and I'm really confused. What do I do? Keep texting her? Stop texting her? AHHHHHHHHHHHHH
So I've been seeing these possible signs that a girl might like me. The signs: Talking to her friends while looking at me, then when I make it obvious I can see shes looking at me she waves at me, I nod back. (while back) Today, during track practice, one hand on mouth while the other is pointing at me, talking to friends again. I'm just wondering, are these signs that she likes me or just some odd thing that girls do? I might just ask her out on the spot, but I not that attracted to her so I'll only ask her out if these signs actually mean anything.
[QUOTE=neos300;28352688]So I've been seeing these possible signs that a girl might like me. The signs: Talking to her friends while looking at me, then when I make it obvious I can see shes looking at me she waves at me, I nod back. (while back) Today, during track practice, one hand on mouth while the other is pointing at me, talking to friends again. I'm just wondering, are these signs that she likes me or just some odd thing that girls do? I might just ask her out on the spot, but I not that attracted to her so I'll only ask her out if these signs actually mean anything.[/QUOTE] Maybe you have a large malignant growth on the side of your head or something and they're trying to warn you On a more serious note, does it really matter if you're not even interested in her? Whether she likes you or not has no bearing on whether you should ask her out or not. Girls are different though. She could either be flirting with you (although it's a really weird way to do so), or she could be making fun of you, haha. But again, it doesn't really matter at this point if you're not truly attracted to her.
[QUOTE=zzzZZZZ;28353128]Maybe you have a large malignant growth on the side of your head or something and they're trying to warn you On a more serious note, does it really matter if you're not even interested in her? Whether she likes you or not has no bearing on whether you should ask her out or not. Girls are different though. She could either be flirting with you (although it's a really weird way to do so), or she could be making fun of you, haha. But again, it doesn't really matter at this point if you're not truly attracted to her.[/QUOTE] I am attracted to her, I liked her a while ago, but then I stopped liking her, but I still think she's hot. And anyway, beggars can't be choosers.
[QUOTE=neos300;28353310]I am attracted to her, I liked her a while ago, but then I stopped liking her, but I still think she's hot. And anyway, beggars can't be choosers.[/QUOTE] So ask her out. I mean, in some way or another, she's clearly interested in you (not necessarily in a romantic sense), so just approach her and ask her out.
I don't feel as bad as I did before. I took Mav's saying "Even if there's a goalie you can still score." into consideration. I'll either wait for this little romp to end or just steal this girl, as that's what I'm assuming the phrase means. Of course, that'll make me look like a dick so I might as well wait. I want this girl it can wait. Mixed decisions.
Oh look, Dev's asking for advice: Been friends with a girl for a long time. Last year we went out for a few months, but I was nervous and didn't really try anything. So she broke up with me. I still like her, how can I get her to go out with me again so I can actually try?
[QUOTE=Novangel;28340256]Just do it, it's not gonna change the fact you two weren't talking, so what's to lose? Asking her out with her friends in company might actually increase your chances.[/QUOTE] Really? It seems like the chances of looking like an ass increase with there being friends. But I also see the point in that it'd be kind of weird if some random person came up and started talking to you when you were alone. Lots to think about.
[QUOTE=kaskade700;28349995]No. Imagine, if you weren't desperate(Not saying you are) You don't have to choose the first- the best. Random mediocre girl comes up to you. "Hello, you are a very attractive male, I almost see you as a mating prospect, would you like to go out with me? :)" Please do not say you would agree to take her out. Why? because her thinking of you as an attractive mating mechanism has jack shit to do with whether you'd want to go out with the girl in question. /Hypothetical scenario Also steer clear of her if she brings up her own appearance looking for approval, but then again, if you like the thought of someone giving your compliments the first thing in the morning and has been doing so since you first talked go for it, you just might click.[/QUOTE] oh. i see.
[QUOTE=MacHaddock;28351919]After having skimmed through the op and some of the posts I have to say, getting a girl in America seems so different from getting a girl in Sweden. Or maybe I'm just seeing things differently. I get the sense of everyone being really awkward and strange.[/QUOTE] one of my Swedish friends said its completely different. also one of my french friends said its different too. Difference cultures.
[QUOTE=BluFox;28352611]Hey my fave peeps. So I had the "How to approach this girl" threads and I need a little more advice. We've texted a few times, but I am getting mixed signals from her. Number one (point), I am always the one to text her (Minus once or twice). We don't text that often, mostly because I don't want to bug her. Number two (Confusion), sometimes it seems like she isn't fully into the conversation, but other times she seems into it. Third (More confusion), my other friend (Girl) that is friends with her said they were sitting at lunch and the girl ive been texting seemed to be looking at me, so my friend (Being nice and trying to help me) Looked at her and me back and forth, and then the girl hid her face like she was embarrassed or whatever. And finally, on Friday, she seemed to be trying to be around me. I saw her, made eye contact, smiled and said hi in the hall early in the day. I walked back to my classroom and she was talking to this other girl outside my door. Later, she showed up again outside another one of my classes talking to her friend again and seemed to be trying to kind of get my attention. After her friend went in the room, I was still outside, my crush left. A few minutes later she walked back with these two other people toward my direction. Hmm. So I'm getting a shit ton of mixed signals and I'm really confused. What do I do? Keep texting her? Stop texting her? AHHHHHHHHHHHHH[/QUOTE] Stop. Trying. To. Read. "Signals." Ask her out. Bottom line. Trying to "read" girl is retarded, they're eccentric creatures. Make them play your game, not the other way around.
[QUOTE=Blanketspace;28337017]There's this girl I like, and I'm pretty sure she likes me as well. We don't go to the same school though, and I live over half an hour away by car, so we rarely ever see each other. However, I do want to ask her out. Is it better to communicate by text, phonecall, Facebook, or to attempt to set up some situation where we'd see each other in person, even though her best friend and my best friend would undoubtedly be there?[/QUOTE] Reposting because I don't think that hijacking my parent's car before I complete my driving lessons is the best plan.
Do it by phone. Meeting up in person just to ask her out is strange.
Fucking fuck. Fuck. Okay so here in Australia we have the Year 12 Ball, which is basically a less-romantically-oriented Prom (as far as I'm aware). That said, asking people to "go" with you to the ball isn't uncommon, though people also organise things such as limos etc. with large groups of friends. So I like this girl. I've posted in LA about it a few times before but never went anywhere with it. Well I saw the ball as a good oppurtunity to ask her (a few pages back I was told explicitly to do so) and today I finally went over the edge and just did it. Her response was basically "Um, I think I'm just going with friends and stuff, you know," (it should be noted that she's really not the type to do love-related stuff for the sake of doing love-related stuff, if you know what I mean) At this point I was so overwhelmed by the fact that I had actually done it that I sort of went "Fair enough, that's okay" and awkwardly backed off into the crowd of people. Looking back upon it I really could have handled the situation better. My question is this: Have I completely fucked up my chances of ever being with this girl, and if not, how would I remedy the situation?
Nah, you probably haven't. Takes a lot more to fuck up your chances than asking her to go to the ball with you. However, keep in mind that she said no, so you probably didn't have much of a chance to begin with. "Going with friends and stuff, you know" isn't really a legit reason. If she really wanted to go to the ball with you, she would've said yes, despite already made plans. It's really that simple.
When's the formal again? Isn't that not for like another 8 months? Well you got plenty of time to work it up if you really wanted to.
Nope, it's in 6 weeks.
[QUOTE=Nibwoddle;28359588]Nope, it's in 6 weeks.[/QUOTE] My mind has been blown
today was somewhere between bad and meh... figured I'd ask a girl I like out to get a coffee after school right before the first class of the day (we're both in the class, and both usually 10-5 minutes early. She arrived 10 minutes late to class. No big deal, I'll just ask her in that 10 minute break we get in the middle of class. We were walking (by "we" I mean me, her, and one of her friends), and they were talking about how her friend drove an hour to see a guy she likes, so it was a no-go. In the second class of the day, she was talking to someone else, something mentioned about dreams, something about me being in her dream as her brother, she said it was probably because she liked me more than her brother. At that point I figured that if she's dreaming of me as her brother, it would mean that she wouldn't have any sort of romantic interest, so I dropped the whole idea of asking her out. No big deal really, I wasn't going in expecting anything anyway. Lunch, we have our regular conversations, I strangely don't feel hungry, so I didn't get any lunch. No problem until the last class of the day, PE. We have this thing called physical fitness testing, to see how we progress over the period of a year. That was today. I already have a lack of sleep + caffeine to keep myself awake, I didn't eat lunch, I'm relatively stressed, and now we're doing something more intense than we do in regular PE classes. Somehow I got through it, stayed after school 2 hours to program with friends on a project due March 30th (programming forum lurkers would probably know what I'm talking about), I go home, eat something, tell my dad to wake me up at 8:30 since I'm going to take a nap. Somehow I don't get any real rest. I just end up tossing and turning. My dad "wakes" me up on time. And by that I mean he opened the door and I was still awake, somewhat frustrated. Fired up my computer, tried to get some homework done. Since we just got back from ski week, there isn't much to do, except for a Spanish presentation this Wednesday. I've pretty much been spending my time equally working on Spanish and procrastinating. Finally clamp down towards the end of the night, get some serious work done. Spend the next while between programming and facepunch. And that's where I am now, 1:30 AM, stressed out and tired. But I really don't mind keeping things as friends between us, it almost seems better that way since we're already good friends, I'm probably just mixing up my feelings of friendship with romantic feelings, which I've noticed that I have done quite a bit in the past. [editline]1st March 2011[/editline] hmm, looks like I got a bit off topic there towards the end. And as I explained, I'm tired and stressed, and it's late, so excuse the grammar and structure.
That blows, man! [editline]1st March 2011[/editline] And suddenly it was a chat thread.
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