[QUOTE=kaskade700;28349995]No. Imagine, if you weren't desperate(Not saying you are) You don't have to choose the first- the best. Random mediocre girl comes up to you.
"Hello, you are a very attractive male, I almost see you as a mating prospect, would you like to go out with me? :)"
Please do not say you would agree to take her out. Why? because her thinking of you as an attractive mating mechanism has jack shit to do with whether you'd want to go out with the girl in question.
/Hypothetical scenario
[/QUOTE]
I'd take her out, she sounds like one hell of a laugh.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28386107]I have been with this girl for 5 weeks now.
We have Skyped every single day for the past 5 weeks, for an average of 7hrs/day, and have been on many dates. We have gotten to the "I love you" part about 2 weeks after meeting, because after 2 weeks we have really spoken together and talked about deep topics for maybe 100 hours in skype voice time.
The girl is 18, and I am 21. She and I are very alike, yet different in a way, and it seems to be working out very very well. She is beautiful, smart, and a virgin. She has 3 best friends, and from what I hear they are very very close to each other.
I have spoken to her friends and I got the same feeling as well.
I met her friends a couple of days ago, and before I met them I sort of had my eye on this friend of hers'. This other girl is also smart, funny, a bit shy, a virgin, and in my opinion better looking than my girl and is noticeable shorter than I am (compared to my girl right now who is probably 1/16th of an inch shorter than I am). My girl is kinda fat, and this girl is actually very fit. My girl is white, and this girl is middle eastern like I am.
My dilemma here is that I am deeply in love with my girl, but I believe that love is just a physiological phenomena that keeps two people together so they can reproduce, and later the dopamine in your brain wears off and you're just friends with benefits that are married and sort of stick with it because of society, and because you love each other as best friends.
My dilemma is that this "after-phase" might be a bit rough with my girl because of her background (compared to mine). My girlfriend's friend is looking for a guy, and my gf and I met at this restaurant, and the friend mentioned that she is gonna start looking in that restaurant to see if she can "find a guy [like me]". I was thinking about being 100% honest with my gf and tell her how I feel. I kinda started last night, but she was on her period and very emotional, and I am kinda glad that I didn't tell her because right now I am not so sure of how everything will turn out.
Basically I love my gf, I know it'll eventually wear off, her friend is just like her and I feel like I will love her more than my gf based on her background and the way that she looks. Both of my gf and her friend are very smart and will be successful in the future, so either way financially I'm not going to be the only one bringing in the money either. I am thinking about rolling the dice and breaking up with my gf and hooking up with her close friend. I already started talking to my gf about how my mom told me that in the long run it would be better to be with a girl from my background, and that I agreed. So there is some sense of understanding.
I was also thinking about asking one of my gf's best friends (who is also best friends with the new girl that I like.. who is also best friends with my gf) about my issue, but not sure if it's such a great idea.[/QUOTE]
Love after 2 weeks? My ass.
You have zero grasp on what love actually is. Zero grasp. Every time you say the word love, you sound more retarded. It'd be like me going outside on a sunny day and saying "I'm so glad the potato is out today." Then, when other people look at me in confusion, I say "You know, the potato, the thing in the sky that gives us light and keeps us warm?"
What you're talking about is not love. It is nothing close to love. It will never be love. Might as well be calling the sun a potato.
I like this girl and I plan to ask her out, but we started talking about, say, 3 or 4 weeks ago and I was contemplating weather it would be too soon or just plain creepy to her.
Not too soon at all. I've asked several girls out only after meeting them once or twice.
Didn't see this thread until after I posted in the other.
[quote]welp, I like a girl who has a boyfriend, we always exchange looks and stuff, and she was talking about breaking up with him, but now she said she's "giving it another shot".
oh and I need to drop out of AP statistics and get into regular statistics, and my ex-girlfriend is in that class, along with my friend who told her off. [/quote]
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28386107]I have been with this girl for 5 weeks now.
We have Skyped every single day for the past 5 weeks, for an average of 7hrs/day, and have been on many dates. We have gotten to the "I love you" part about 2 weeks after meeting, because after 2 weeks we have really spoken together and talked about deep topics for maybe 100 hours in skype voice time.
The girl is 18, and I am 21. She and I are very alike, yet different in a way, and it seems to be working out very very well. She is beautiful, smart, and a virgin. She has 3 best friends, and from what I hear they are very very close to each other.
I have spoken to her friends and I got the same feeling as well.
I met her friends a couple of days ago, and before I met them I sort of had my eye on this friend of hers'. This other girl is also smart, funny, a bit shy, a virgin, and in my opinion better looking than my girl and is noticeable shorter than I am (compared to my girl right now who is probably 1/16th of an inch shorter than I am). My girl is kinda fat, and this girl is actually very fit. My girl is white, and this girl is middle eastern like I am.
My dilemma here is that I am deeply in love with my girl, but I believe that love is just a physiological phenomena that keeps two people together so they can reproduce, and later the dopamine in your brain wears off and you're just friends with benefits that are married and sort of stick with it because of society, and because you love each other as best friends.
My dilemma is that this "after-phase" might be a bit rough with my girl because of her background (compared to mine). My girlfriend's friend is looking for a guy, and my gf and I met at this restaurant, and the friend mentioned that she is gonna start looking in that restaurant to see if she can "find a guy [like me]". I was thinking about being 100% honest with my gf and tell her how I feel. I kinda started last night, but she was on her period and very emotional, and I am kinda glad that I didn't tell her because right now I am not so sure of how everything will turn out.
Basically I love my gf, I know it'll eventually wear off, her friend is just like her and I feel like I will love her more than my gf based on her background and the way that she looks. Both of my gf and her friend are very smart and will be successful in the future, so either way financially I'm not going to be the only one bringing in the money either. I am thinking about rolling the dice and breaking up with my gf and hooking up with her close friend. I already started talking to my gf about how my mom told me that in the long run it would be better to be with a girl from my background, and that I agreed. So there is some sense of understanding.
I was also thinking about asking one of my gf's best friends (who is also best friends with the new girl that I like.. who is also best friends with my gf) about my issue, but not sure if it's such a great idea.[/QUOTE]
Though not the worst post I've ever read (there have definitely been some aspie threads in LA) this one is among the top. You are a Grade A dipshit. You couldn't have got this whole situation more wrong if you tried.
A. You "love" a girl after two weeks
B. You're already hitting the "grass is greener on the other side" stage
C. You're gunning for one of her friends
D. You're going for virgins
E. You are letting "background" (read: race) get in the way
F. You're letting your mom choose girls for you
G. You actually brought their financial situations into the question?
I'm not even done with this list and I'm already sick of this shit. You're a fucking racist, greedy scumbag. Please go drown yourself in lava.
On a totally unrelated note to the quoted post... I asked a girl out last night and she jumped on the chance to go out today. Everything sounded good. Then I got to the place right on time, and just as I got comfortable she texts me saying "I hope you're not on your way...". Basically, she had a hair appointment she was supposed to go to with her mom before our date, but she told me she didn't watch the time and was really late for everything. She would have taken too long so I just went home. Thing is, she actually is kind of bad for not watching the time... not sure what to think. She could have been telling the truth :/ Well, I sent her a text saying if she wants to go out another time, let me know. She said it sounds like a plan... All I can do now is check out some other girls and see if she gets back to me with something in the meantime I guess.
Any suggestions on what to do now or what I should have done differently? I don't really know how to deal with getting stood up.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28386107]I have been with this girl for 5 weeks now.
We have Skyped every single day for the past 5 weeks, for an average of 7hrs/day, and have been on many dates. We have gotten to the "I love you" part about 2 weeks after meeting, because after 2 weeks we have really spoken together and talked about deep topics for maybe 100 hours in skype voice time.
The girl is 18, and I am 21. She and I are very alike, yet different in a way, and it seems to be working out very very well. She is beautiful, smart, and a virgin. She has 3 best friends, and from what I hear they are very very close to each other.
I have spoken to her friends and I got the same feeling as well.
I met her friends a couple of days ago, and before I met them I sort of had my eye on this friend of hers'. This other girl is also smart, funny, a bit shy, a virgin, and in my opinion better looking than my girl and is noticeable shorter than I am (compared to my girl right now who is probably 1/16th of an inch shorter than I am). My girl is kinda fat, and this girl is actually very fit. My girl is white, and this girl is middle eastern like I am.
My dilemma here is that I am deeply in love with my girl, but I believe that love is just a physiological phenomena that keeps two people together so they can reproduce, and later the dopamine in your brain wears off and you're just friends with benefits that are married and sort of stick with it because of society, and because you love each other as best friends.
My dilemma is that this "after-phase" might be a bit rough with my girl because of her background (compared to mine). My girlfriend's friend is looking for a guy, and my gf and I met at this restaurant, and the friend mentioned that she is gonna start looking in that restaurant to see if she can "find a guy [like me]". I was thinking about being 100% honest with my gf and tell her how I feel. I kinda started last night, but she was on her period and very emotional, and I am kinda glad that I didn't tell her because right now I am not so sure of how everything will turn out.
Basically I love my gf, I know it'll eventually wear off, her friend is just like her and I feel like I will love her more than my gf based on her background and the way that she looks. Both of my gf and her friend are very smart and will be successful in the future, so either way financially I'm not going to be the only one bringing in the money either. I am thinking about rolling the dice and breaking up with my gf and hooking up with her close friend. I already started talking to my gf about how my mom told me that in the long run it would be better to be with a girl from my background, and that I agreed. So there is some sense of understanding.
I was also thinking about asking one of my gf's best friends (who is also best friends with the new girl that I like.. who is also best friends with my gf) about my issue, but not sure if it's such a great idea.[/QUOTE]
You can't be "deeply in love" with someone when you also say you've burnt out all the initial attraction you had over two weeks through 7 hour friggin' Skype conversations while you also think that she and her best friend are interchangeable and that you are considering leaving your girl for her. And you have some third girl just thrown into the mixture for giggles. Two weeks into the relationship and you're balancing your girlfriend and some other girl based on their ethnic backgrounds and financial futures?
You don't love your girlfriend and you don't even really like the other girl. If you want to choose a future wife for love, leave all these girls and go searching somewhere else.
I am in love with her. She's having her period and I was having my monthly cycle, so it's all weird for me right now.
What is wrong with you
He's "in love"
hahah what a dumbass
I bet half of you have never been in love anyway. I am in love.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28394643]I bet half of you have never been in love anyway. I am in love.[/QUOTE]
I never post here or read this thread, but I guarantee that you aren't in love. What you have is call infatuation and you are retarded for confusing that with love. Love does not appear after knowing somebody for 2 weeks
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28394643]I bet half of you have never been in love anyway. I am in love.[/QUOTE]
You're a great argument in favor of misanthropy.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28394643]I bet half of you have never been in love anyway. I am in love.[/QUOTE]
Ahaha, oh wow.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28394643]I bet half of you have never been in love anyway. I am in love.[/QUOTE]
No. You're not.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28394643]I bet half of you have never been in love anyway. I am in love.[/QUOTE]
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=loWXMtjUZWM[/media]
Pretty sure love is just a burst of dopamine in your brain.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395351]Pretty sure love is just a burst of dopamine in your brain.[/QUOTE]
no not really
[QUOTE=thisispain;28395361]no not really[/QUOTE]
Yes, yes really.
[editline]3rd March 2011[/editline]
[url]http://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html[/url]
and
[url]http://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html[/url]
Then come back and tell me that it isn't.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395351]Pretty sure love is just a burst of dopamine in your brain.[/QUOTE]
exactly why you don't understand what it really is
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395372]Yes, yes really.
[editline]3rd March 2011[/editline]
[url]http://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html[/url]
and
[url]http://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html[/url]
Then come back and tell me that it isn't.[/QUOTE]
ok
it isn't
(implying emotion concepts aren't real is not a good path you wanna go down with me buster)
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395372]Yes, yes really.
[editline]3rd March 2011[/editline]
[url]http://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html[/url]
and
[url]http://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html[/url]
Then come back and tell me that it isn't.[/QUOTE]
being the physiological reason doesn't mean that's what love [I]is[/I]
Love is much more than that.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395351]Pretty sure love is just a burst of dopamine in your brain.[/QUOTE]Real love is an emotional thing, not a "burst of dopamine in your brain"
So Facepunch doesn't believe in god, but Facepunch believes in love?
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395468]So Facepunch doesn't believe in god, but Facepunch believes in love?[/QUOTE]
facepunch is a company in the uk it doesn't believe anything
Emotions are just chemical reactions in your brain.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395468]So Facepunch doesn't believe in god, but Facepunch believes in love?[/QUOTE]
Facepunch isn't one person. And why shouldn't people who don't believe in god believe in love?
[editline]2nd March 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395476]Emotions are just chemical reactions in your brain.[/QUOTE]
have fun with your empty life
[QUOTE=collegegrad;28395476]Emotions are just chemical reactions in your brain.[/QUOTE]
well yeah but what does that have to do with anything
is musical enjoyment non-existent as well?
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