• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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[QUOTE=ScoutKing;28463858]I wanna hear this story.[/QUOTE] Just the old story of mine about how I drunkenly messaged a girl on facebook, "You're the most gorgeous girl I've ever seen." That decision was (again, drunkenly) made based on advice from another girl. She said it'd be charming. My judgement-impaired ass didn't realize that it's only charming or cute if the girl in question already has feelings for you, or finds you monumentally attractive; otherwise, it's creepy, which is something I've known for a long time but apparently forgot when it counted. I came into the knowledge today that the girl who advised me has had a thing for me for months. So there are two reasons that it was a bad idea. a. She obviously doesn't want me to be with Anne, since she wants me for herself. b. More likely, she was giving me advice under the assumption that all girls feel about me the way she does. That is, if I were to send HER the same message, it'd be charming.
I just broke up with my girl of a year and one month. I don't really feel great, nor do I feel really sad about it. But I do feel kinda regretful. How can I really take my mind off of her? I just want to get through this. I broke up with her because I began to feel pretty paranoid of her after I caught her flirting mad hard with some dude around October. So then ever since then, I just stopped attaching myself to her and she noticed it pretty quickly. Eventually it became a habit for me and I didn't quite develop the same feelings of love toward her, only lust. She did her best to make up for it, and I really really appreciate her effort but I just couldn't love her again, I felt so open and vulnerable towards her. So a few days ago, I realized that she deserves some one way better than me because I can't let her keep feeling like she's always chasing me. Besides, she already made up for flirting with that guy. And yes, I know, girls are girls and they like to flirt and they don't mean anything but I guess I'm not the kind of guy to agree with that. I broke up with her yesterday. Finally. I just wanted to type this out to anyone except for people in real life. I can never tell anything to my friends in real life, they have no idea what to say except "damn man, sorry bro"
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Hm on more detail than my last question, couldn't I just say "Can you be here at (insert time here)?".
"We should do X on Y" (X being an activity, Y being a day/general time of day) if you get a yes, double check the more accurate timing (if Y were Sunday afternoon, "Great, I'll meet you there at 8:00" or something along those lines). Otherwise, just leave it as it is. You'll seem more prepared / confident if you use statements instead of questions. Asking questions puts her on the spot a bit. If she realizes that she had some other commitment on Sunday afternoon, and she replied to your question with yes, she'd have to go back and tell you that she was wrong and that it's a no. If you state Sunday afternoon and she finds that she has something else to do during that time, she'll just tell you that she can't go, she doesn't have to double back on a statement of hers. It's just one of those very minor things that won't likely change the outcome, but will make you appear just that much more confident.
I looked at a woman on the bus today. I am making progress!
So this is pretty much the LA chat thread? I kept looking at the other one, no wonder I thought LA was dead.
Well this is interesting. I've recently started talking to the girl I first came to Facepunch crying about, the one I crushed on for three years. I'm now a transformed person to the friend she once had, so it's been quite fun just chatting with her from a completely different perspective. We met up again at a party on the weekend, danced together for a bit, and have been talking/texting since. Might see where this one leads aye ;).
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28473088]Well this is interesting. I've recently started talking to the girl I first came to Facepunch crying about, the one I crushed on for three years. I'm now a transformed person to the friend she once had, so it's been quite fun just chatting with her from a completely different perspective. We met up again at a party on the weekend, danced together for a bit, and have been talking/texting since. Might see where this one leads aye ;).[/QUOTE] Stop seeing where it leads and ask her out. then maybe you can put your lead in her socket
Am I weird for not wanting a relationship at my age
[QUOTE=Nonikai;28474357]Am I weird for not wanting a relationship at my age[/QUOTE] And your age is?
If you a still a teenager then I would say that's very mature of you to say that. Most people should not have serious relationships until they are in their mid 20s.
Hell, I'm 20 and I don't really want a relationship.
I like not being in a relationship. Helps me have fun and be an ass with no regard for the consequences
[QUOTE=kaskade700;28475019]I like not being in a relationship. Helps me have fun and be an ass with no regard for the consequences[/QUOTE] yeah i'm kind of in the mindset of, if i get into one i'll go with it, if i don't i'll party like fuck and go to gigs either way win win
I go away for a few weeks and now LA is gone? WTF? [editline]7th March 2011[/editline] And I only have 75 posts?? WTF is going on here?
Welcome to Facepunch post Hezzy de-modded.
[QUOTE=Occlusion;28475999]yeah i'm kind of in the mindset of, if i get into one i'll go with it, if i don't i'll party like fuck and go to gigs either way win win[/QUOTE] I do that whether I'm in a relationship or not, which probably ties strongly to the fact that I can never hold on to a girl for more than a couple of months.
what are some good conversation topics when starting a conversation? i need some good ones beside the dead end ones ive come up with
[QUOTE=gerbile5;28477548]what are some good conversation topics when starting a conversation? i need some good ones beside the dead end ones ive come up with[/QUOTE] Doesn't matter what you say, as long as it's something you can continue to converse about. Like, "hey just got some new shoes. Do you think they look nice?" Then just branch off from there.
so would saying "hey thats a nice jacket where did you get that?" work keeping in mind ive never talked to this person before
[QUOTE=gerbile5;28479553]so would saying "hey thats a nice jacket where did you get that?" work keeping in mind ive never talked to this person before[/QUOTE] Sure. After she says where she got it, comment on the store, something that happened with a jacket, etc. Anything to get yourself comfortable with the conversation.
the things is i see that leading to a dead end where it just gets silent and sort of dies off. how could i stem off of that? i would rather it be more of a smooth flow instead of just being like "nice jacket ect" 'i got it at X" "what pets do you have" see what i mean? I dont want a 90 degree on the conversation like that
[QUOTE=gerbile5;28479707]the things is i see that leading to a dead end where it just gets silent and sort of dies off. how could i stem off of that? i would rather it be more of a smooth flow instead of just being like "nice jacket ect" 'i got it at X" "what pets do you have" see what i mean? I dont want a 90 degree on the conversation like that[/QUOTE] Usually you'd let a conversation flow naturally than planning it, but whatever. Comment on the teacher/workload etc and take it off from there.
[QUOTE=gerbile5;28479707]the things is i see that leading to a dead end where it just gets silent and sort of dies off. how could i stem off of that? i would rather it be more of a smooth flow instead of just being like "nice jacket ect" 'i got it at X" "what pets do you have" see what i mean? I dont want a 90 degree on the conversation like that[/QUOTE] Slow down, you're being way too literal and your over thinking what I'm trying to say. You don't have to continually ask open ended questions. Just pop one out to get a conversation started and comment on what she says back and forth until the topic dies or something else you want to talk about/or she wants to talk about comes to mind. [editline]7th March 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Novangel;28479770]Usually you'd let a conversation flow naturally than planning it, but whatever. Comment on the teacher/workload etc and take it off from there.[/QUOTE] Exactly, never plan what you want to say. Just say whatever comes to mind when you want to talk to that person. I'm just giving you an idea about what would be easy to open up with and break down some barriers.
[QUOTE=Novangel;28479770]Usually you'd let a conversation flow naturally than planning it, but whatever. Comment on the teacher/workload etc and take it off from there.[/QUOTE] i do better when i plan a starting point and we dont share classes because of the grade diff [editline]7th March 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Evilan;28479825] Exactly, never plan what you want to say. Just say whatever comes to mind when you want to talk to that person. I'm just giving you an idea about what would be easy to open up with and break down some barriers.[/QUOTE] aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa i just had a few ideas come into mind thank you!
Tell her you want to hit all the walls
no, ill just say "nice pants they would look better on my floor" and thne i will get girlfriend ye?!!Q
Give me kissing tips. I've gotten this far...
oh god
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