[QUOTE=JakeIsWin;28484315]Give me kissing tips. I've gotten this far...[/QUOTE]
wahtever you do dont bite
[QUOTE=Novangel;28484729]wahtever you do dont bite[/QUOTE]
I'll try to remember that.
Where do you take a girl out when you barely have money?
Haha my girlfriend got a call earlier today from some guy trying to ask her out, who reached the wrong person (ironically with the same first name he was trying to reach).
He texted her later and told her that he'd gotten to the girl he was trying to ask out and she had turned him down and called him a fag.
Whataabitch.
[QUOTE=gerbile5;28479707]the things is i see that leading to a dead end where it just gets silent and sort of dies off.
how could i stem off of that? i would rather it be more of a smooth flow instead of just being like
"nice jacket ect"
'i got it at X"
"what pets do you have"
see what i mean? I dont want a 90 degree on the conversation like that[/QUOTE]
Never plan out a coversation, if you plan things out it will most likely lead to a dead end.
Wellhere it goes gonna say hi
like right
Wish me luck
[editline]8th March 2011[/editline]
Well fuck that went reasonably bad
oh well some experience gained though
What happend?
You better have typed that post on a mobile device, because if you managed to fuck up even an online conversation, then we're in some serious trouble.
I never thought I would be in this situation but I am being a little crazy about my girlfriend. I have this friend who got to know her through me and now he texts her all the time and talks to her in school too. I'm okay with them texting and talking once in a while, but he texts and talks to her constantly every single day. He also doesn't have much of a life or any friends, but still - she's my girlfriend. Isn't there some kind of unwritten rule that guys don't get close to their friend's girlfriend? My girlfriend and I are both very much in love but I just can't shake this (irrational?) feeling of paranoia when I see him talking with her and making her laugh. How should I handle this? I've never wanted to be the controlling boyfriend but I feel like I am. :frown:
[QUOTE=kidwithsword;28491937]I never thought I would be in this situation but I am being a little crazy about my girlfriend. I have this friend who got to know her through me and now he texts her all the time and talks to her in school too. I'm okay with them texting and talking once in a while, but he texts and talks to her constantly every single day. He also doesn't have much of a life or any friends, but still - she's my girlfriend. Isn't there some kind of unwritten rule that guys don't get close to their friend's girlfriend? My girlfriend and I are both very much in love but I just can't shake this (irrational?) feeling of paranoia when I see him talking with her and making her laugh. How should I handle this? I've never wanted to be the controlling boyfriend but I feel like I am. :frown:[/QUOTE]
Talk to him about it. Try and remain as chilled about the situation as possible, but make it clear how you feel.
[QUOTE=kidwithsword;28491937]I never thought I would be in this situation but I am being a little crazy about my girlfriend. I have this friend who got to know her through me and now he texts her all the time and talks to her in school too. I'm okay with them texting and talking once in a while, but he texts and talks to her constantly every single day. He also doesn't have much of a life or any friends, but still - she's my girlfriend. Isn't there some kind of unwritten rule that guys don't get close to their friend's girlfriend? My girlfriend and I are both very much in love but I just can't shake this (irrational?) feeling of paranoia when I see him talking with her and making her laugh. How should I handle this? I've never wanted to be the controlling boyfriend but I feel like I am. :frown:[/QUOTE]
Interesting. I am actually in the position of "the other man" in this case. I have become very good friends with a girl at school. We are very close and share a lot of pretty intimate details about things. She has come to be the best female friend I have. Anyway, I helped her and my friend get together and life was good for a while... but now he is very jealous of our friendship.
She wants to put distance between us but I keep telling her that his demands are unreasonable and unfair. With my friend and I pulling on her from different angles, I'm afraid she's either going to break up with him or ditch me, both of which would not be very good outcomes.
I'd be very careful how you handle this kidwithsword. You might be better off just giving them their space. You could also occasionally invite your friend out with you guys. Just make sure someone else is coming so he doesn't have to play third wheel. If he is interested in her and it's not just innocent friendship, he will start to get the point quickly.
This girl I like just asked me if I had a girlfriend, I said no, she said that's strange, when I asked why and she said she couldn't see why I wouldn't have a girlfriend.
This is good, right? What do?
Ask her on a date of course.
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28494556]This girl I like just asked me if I had a girlfriend, I said no, she said that's strange, when I asked why and she said she couldn't see why I wouldn't have a girlfriend.
This is good, right? What do?[/QUOTE]
She couldn't be more obvious if she had a flashing neon sign above her that said "ASK ME OUT"
Take a chance, man. It's not like you have anything to lose. If you like her, you get a girlfriend. If not, well you didn't lose a girlfriend that you never had.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28490181]You better have typed that post on a mobile device, because if you managed to fuck up even an online conversation, then we're in some serious trouble.[/QUOTE]
i never leave the house without my droid 2 anymore. it fucking rocks
[QUOTE=ArmyChicken;28485191]Where do you take a girl out when you barely have money?[/QUOTE]
Get creative. Hang out at either of your houses, walk around town, window shop at the mall, etc.
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28494556]This girl I like just asked me if I had a girlfriend, I said no, she said that's strange, when I asked why and she said she couldn't see why I wouldn't have a girlfriend.
This is good, right? What do?[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Psychopath12;28494664]She couldn't be more obvious if she had a flashing neon sign above her that said "ASK ME OUT"[/QUOTE]
Never mind the kissing tips; everything went better than expected.
Obsession sucks.
[QUOTE=JakeIsWin;28499043]Never mind the kissing tips; everything went better than expected.[/QUOTE]
Wow thought you were joking, but whatever nice I guess v:v:v
[QUOTE=Novangel;28499089]Wow thought you were joking, but whatever nice I guess v:v:v[/QUOTE]
I'm prone to fucking up things as unserious as this. Ofc we did little pecks on the cheek but this was our first REAL kiss.
how do i tell someone no without saying no?
Say no, you puss.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;28502667]how do i tell someone no without saying no?[/QUOTE]
if you say no in any other way then saying no, then chances are you're just going to bring some shit down upon yourself.
don't be a puss.
I hate how dudes try to make up excuses instead of being straight up, then turn around and hate how girls never answer you outright and make up excuses instead.
That's why you have to keep it real.
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I suppose the editing reason is pretty discreet.
Who's in the mood for a rant? Because I sure am.
Why the fuck is my ex still in my head, I NEVER want to be with her again, she isn't at all the type of person I'd want as a girlfriend. Why can't I just not fucking care anymore.
I wouldn't mind if she was happy with herself, but she isn't. I know that I still love her more than she loves herself, and that I care for and respect her more than she does for herself. That's the only reason this still hurts, because she isn't happy with herself and she doesn't know how to be, and that's all I want to see. I just don't know what the fuck to do anymore, I know I won't ever be able to make her happy, nor will I even be able to make her realize how empty she is inside. I feel like I just have to tie myself down and watch her continue to wonder around completely lost, trying to find happiness but never addressing the issues which exist within her.
The other day we were talking about us, and she was saying she doesn't want to keep having sex as often as we used to because she is worried about her own feelings for me being stirred up again. Personally, I'm fine with continuing with a FWB relationship, because really the sex doesn't change anything. I can say confidently that to me, it's just casual sex with a friend.
But then at other times, she'd start saying shit like I'm the only person she wants to talk to etc, and act like we're a lot more than friends. Previously, this would have confused me and made me think it was real, but now I just ignore all of that and continue acting the way I want to instead, which is just friendly.
But then after all of that, sometimes she wouldn't even bother speaking to me, or say we were chatting online, she'd just go off without saying goodbye. Whenever shit like that happens, I just remind myself that she's only a friend, and that I don't overthink shit like that with other friends. That only makes me realize how fucking stupid this whole thing is because clearly I'm still very emotionally involved with her, if the fact that she's signing off without saying anything is actually bothering me.
Sometimes I really worry if all of this is just me trying to cover up how I really feel, just so we can stay friendly and have sex.
In a way, I guess that is true, I do have to cover up how I feel because constantly telling her how much I care about her and telling her what to do or what would help her obviously isn't going to change anything.
Like here's an example, she smokes so often now, and I hate seeing it. I smoke as well, but perhaps a few a week, mostly as a social thing or to relax every now and then. She's having 4-5 cigarettes a day for no fucking reason except to have one, and she's still only 17. I can already see her teeth yellowing, it fucking hurts to see. She goes off during school to smoke with these losers who she thinks are her friends, but really she knows the only real friend she has is me. I try telling her how I feel about it, and she just agrees but doesn't really do anything about it, and says shit like "thank you for caring". She promised her previous closest friend that she wouldn't smoke ever again (this was a while back), and I recently asked her why she even made that promise if she knew she wouldn't be keeping it. She said it was only to appease him, and to keep him quiet. So of course, I'm not going to bother try and make her promise me the same thing, or to promise me anything at all for that matter.
To summarize my venting, I still love my ex, and I don't have a problem with that. I don't expect that to change for a long time, because my understanding of 'love' is that it doesn't really end, it just fades or gets pushed aside as time goes by. When I say I love her, all I mean is that I care about her and that I want her to be happy. The issue is that she isn't happy, and I feel completely powerless in making that happen. I tried being her boyfriend, which was fine for a while but eventually her infatuation faded away and we started clashing. I tried being her fuck buddy whilst still wanting to be her boyfriend, which just tore me up inside. I tried going no contact and staying completely outside of her life, which just drove me insane, making me think about her all the fucking time, as well as making her hate me (temporary, like all of her emotions), but fortunately made me realize how unsuited we are, thus removing any desires of wanting to be with her. And now I'm trying to just be here for her as a friend, and for the most part I'm fine with it. Most of the time, I continue my day thinking about only myself, only concerned with my own affairs. But every now and then I fall into one of these lows, usually brought on by a small, seemingly insignificant incident between her and I, which just makes me think.
Eugh, fuck unstable girls. After this is through, I'm staying right the fuck away from the crazy ones, despite how intriguing and interesting they seem.
If anyone read that, then thanks, and if anyone actually replies, thanks again. I just had to vent.
It is a shame I cannot offer any consolation; so I will offer this: tough shit, man; you seem to have it difficult, so I will wish you the best of luck.
Good rant Dark_Light. It's like you said, you can try to help someone all you want, but in the end it's up to them to make the changes that are necessary. "You can bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."
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