[QUOTE=thisispain;28679618]way 2 go you're not only a racist you are also weird[/QUOTE]
you're still mad because aspies are liars
[editline]18th March 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;28679543]i wish you would hold me hand through the process.
babe.
[editline]19th March 2011[/editline]
Pants down or pants up?[/QUOTE]
off
[QUOTE=zzzZZZZ;28679676]you're still mad because aspies are liars
[/QUOTE]
i'm mad because you are a weird racist
Im mad because ive followed all of the advice in this thread, and all it got me was a restraining order.
i'm mad because i'm MMAAAAD
I followed none of the advice in this thread.
So far my own method seems to be working.
I follow the advice in this thread (for the most part; sometimes I slip up) and it's worked well.
I need to figure out how to meet more people, though.
i followed the advice in this thread, then i got drunk and uh
what was the question again?
@Str4fe: The reason you are having such issues is because your name on an internet forum is "Strafe", only you've replaced the "a" with a "4". You may be unaware of this fact. Please make every attempt to rectify it before attempting to copulate with the fairer sex.
[QUOTE=thisispain;28679741]i'm mad because you are a weird racist[/QUOTE]
pain smash
rolls off the tongue quite well, actually.
nah i'm just kidding
only about the mad part [URL="javascript:FR_InsertTextHelper(%20'vB_Editor_QR_textarea',%20':fsmug:'%20);"][IMG]http://cdn.fpcontent.net/fp/emoot/fsmug.gif[/IMG][/URL]
-snip-
[QUOTE=archangel125;28682230]And here's my first, perhaps only post with content in this thread.
I'm 21. I'm a college student with a life beyond the PC and I like to think I'm realistic, down to earth. But I recently fell victim to the charms of someone I've met online, and who, in all likelihood, is way out of my league. She's certainly out of my locale. I'll start by saying that I know for a fact she's everything she says she is.
Let's call her Jane. I've known her for two years through Second Life, she's nearly eight years older than me. I'm always the first one to ridicule online relationships, and even strong feelings of attraction to someone known only through the net. It took someone very, very special to make a hypocrite out of me, and she's that woman.
I'm not trying to sound like a stuck-up prick here, but I have an IQ far over average. In every relationship I've been in so far, I've been the brainier one (and so the dominant element) and I'd long given up hope of meeting someone who could literally blow me away in that regard. Not that I didn't care for the women I'd been with before - I loved them. But it wasn't as fulfilling as it could have been.
Now Jane - she's phenomenal. She has an IQ higher than Einstein did, and it shows in the way she speaks, the way she thinks, her accomplishments in life and her experiences. She's a tall, athletic redhead with a great sexual imagination (and that sense of adventure so many seem to lack), a sense of humor drier than the Sahara, and an angel's voice. We share the same political views and have many of the same interests. What I like the most about her is that she's smarter than me - I can't get my head around her, can't figure her out completely, because she keeps surprising me. She, unlike every other woman I've been with - is not predictable.
She is categorically superior to me in every way, the first woman I've ever met in my 21 years whom I can say that about. To call her my equal would be to degrade her.
We flirt relentlessly on good days, but she's got more eligible males vying for her interest (One of them a very senior programmer for Apple with tons of cash), and at this time she's made it clear she's not looking to get involved with anyone, whether near or far.
Over two years I've gotten to know her, found her strengths and vulnerabilities, and I've come to understand much of her drive - and glimpsed her demons. Against my better judgment, I've come as close to "falling in love" - A term I once scorned - as it's possible to get while maintaining restraint, and I know that I'll come to sorrow over it - One day I'll be utterly crushed when she finds another. I'll recover, naturally. I'm indestructible like that - but it'll still hurt.
Why I persist in my foolish longing is because I know I'll never meet another woman with everything she has, Because there might be a chance she feels the same about me, and because there's a chance, if I work hard enough, for me to pay her a month-long visit within a year - Something she said she'd like very much if I could pull it off. She lives an eight hour drive away, but since I don't have money or a car, and I have to take care of my family, the distance separating us may as well be an ocean wide.
Tell me what a fool I am, Facepunch. Maybe it'll knock sense into me.[/QUOTE]
No snipping.
here's the thing dude, it's cute and romantic, but this ain't the movies
the fact that you don't have a normal relationship is a strong factor in how you perceive it
just because it's cute and romantic, it don't mean it's destined to work out you know what i mean
[editline]18th March 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=zzzZZZZ;28682302]No snipping.[/QUOTE]
[IMG]http://spe.fotolog.com/photo/14/13/0/elabuelo81/1234559853801_f.jpg[/IMG]
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28649102]Exactly. I wasn't referring to his odds of her saying yes, I was referring to the odds of her doing the same thing as his ex (using him).
Girls tend to make the same stupid mistake. They go through a time of being with jerks and whatnot, then apply the logic "Well, if every dude I've been with is a jerk, that means the next guy I get with will be a jerk. All guys must be jerks." When it's not like dudes get together and have meetings about treating a certain girl like shit. Just because a dude ate your dog in your previous relationship doesn't make it any more/less likely that the next guy will do the same thing.
The best comparison is the one pain used, with the coin. You can throw a (for the sake of the analogy, it's a balanced and fair coin) coin up into the air 99 times and it could land on heads every time. However, the odds of it landing on heads or tails in the next throw are still 50/50. Each toss is unique, the odds are the same for each one.[/QUOTE]
Well, I lost this time :( oh well
huh he did actually snip it
how come?
[QUOTE=thisispain;28683225]huh he did actually snip it
how come?[/QUOTE]
looks like he made a thread in GD:
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1070879-Foolishness-and-Spring-Fever-A-Kick-some-sense-into-me-thread[/url].
[QUOTE=robmaister12;28683582]looks like he made a thread in GD:
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1070879-Foolishness-and-Spring-Fever-A-Kick-some-sense-into-me-thread[/url].[/QUOTE]
No words can express the current mixture of anger and disappointment that I am feeling right now.
It's like asking for help from your professor, ditching him/her, and then going out to ask for help from students who aren't even taking that class.
[QUOTE=Psychopath12;28683601]No words can express the current mixture of anger and disappointment that I am feeling right now.
It's like asking for help from your professor, ditching him/her, and then going out to ask for help from students who aren't even taking that class.[/QUOTE]
Bachelor of Love advice-Major in Maverickness
I am happy :) Glad I went on that first date that I was gonna cancel :)
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;28680316]@Str4fe: The reason you are having such issues is because your name on an internet forum is "Strafe", only you've replaced the "a" with a "4". You may be unaware of this fact. Please make every attempt to rectify it before attempting to copulate with the fairer sex.[/QUOTE]
Meh, the nick "Strafe" is already used everywhere, and i have used it quite a lot.
That is the reason why its "Str4fe"
Well atleast it isnt '*.;XxX1337_5N1P45tR4f3_PR0XxX;.*'
[QUOTE=zzzZZZZ;28682302]No snipping.[/QUOTE]
Anyone else think that he just got bored and decided to make a post for us?
Okay foggy we get it.
Have you fucked him yet
I'm starting to think that this is never going to end.
After finding out some pretty bad shit about my ex (involving another guy, apparently whilst we were still together but it turns out it happened after we broke up), I immediately called her and asked if it was true and who it was with, and why she did it (I was under the impression that she had cheated on me). She confirmed what I had been told, and reasoned that she was feeling very lonely and upset after I cut her out and she thought it'd make her feel better. I told her to just stay away from me, that I didn't want to be close to her at all if she was going to be doing shit like that, and that it hurt too much to love her if she can't love herself. Note that at this point, we were talking again and were quite friendly, and she was putting in a lot more effort to connect with me, texting me and starting conversations online and in person etc.
Long story short, she breaks down and starts crying to me, as I tell her pretty much everything I've said in my few recent posts in this thread (that I care about her and how much I wish she'd do the same for herself, that she'll never really be happy if she continues the way she's going, etc). She was getting pretty emotional, asking me through tears not to leave her. She said that she needs me, and that I'm all that she has. She said that she loved me and that she doesn't think she'll ever love anyone as much as she loves me. Hearing her cry over the phone, telling me that she loved me and needed me; I can't say that it didn't stir some feelings up within me.
She acknowledged a lot of what I was saying, and promised that things would be different this time (I've heard that one before). She even suggested we get back together, to which I said it would be a disservice to her as it will just perpetuate her deeper unhappiness. She said she had been thinking about it for a while (and to be honest, I had entertained the thought every now and then as well but always disregarded it), and figured that if she had been unhappy since we broke up and that it was only getting worse, which was indirectly making me feel upset as well, maybe the other option of being with me would be better. I wasn't expecting it at all, and now that she's mentioned it, I honestly don't know. It's quite clear that we still mean a lot to each other, and we both miss each other. I loved being her boyfriend, but perhaps I'm only remembering the good times. I want her to be happy with herself before anything, but she hasn't been such her entire life, and she confessed that the time we did spend together were helpful for her and I could see that as well, and I know that I could help her figure herself out a lot more easily if I were her boyfriend rather than just a concerned friend. For now though, I gave her no real indication that I was for that idea, and for the time being I'll keep it that way.
I asked why this always happened, that we'd be close for a while, and then she'd just stop giving me attention as soon as I was somewhere comfortable with her, at which point I'd leave her or stop giving her attention, and then she'd come back to me and draw me back in, and it'd repeat again and again. I told her that all it did was make me feel like an idiot and that she was only using me. She explained that ever since we first broke up, she's been too scared to get close to me. When we broke up, it was primarily due to me saying I was unsure of my feelings for her. She said that ever since then, as soon as we start getting close again, she just freezes up in remembrance of our break up, and starts blocking me out preemptively, before I hurt her, even though she is well aware that I regret saying that and that I really do care about her.
I don't know what the fuck to do anymore. I called her tonight with only one intention, to tell her that I was done with her shit and that I was walking away for good. It took that to make her realize how much I meant to her and how lost she'd be without me, and had her literally begging me not to leave. Could I possibly have not been moved by that? If not, then is it really so wrong of me to want to stay and help her? This is a girl that I still love and care for, the real her that only I've ever been close enough to know, under all the shit she puts up to everyone else.
We ended up chatting for a long time after all the dramatic shit was resolved, on phone/cam. The conversation was fresh again, we had each other laughing and smiling, it was nice to say the least. The conversation flowed to us even recalling fond memories of being with each other, of the times we had spent together and showing each other the mementos we had put away from our relationship. I don't even know what we were thinking at that point, or what the fuck I was thinking. I just know that we were both happy to be talking like that again, and how much we missed making/seeing each other smile.
This is ridiculous. I fucking wrote a mega thread on how to deal with a break up and how to get over your ex, but I've gone against every piece of my own fucking advice. Sometimes I think that me writing that entire thread, and everything else I've ever fucking said or done is just my own attempt at trying to move on from her, but I don't, and I can't. I find a way to rationalize it every time. My main argument against myself is that this isn't simply just a girl I can't get over, because she still has deep feelings for me as I do for her. This is a girl that is desperately unhappy, and if unguided will probably continue her self-destructive habits in an attempt to fill the void within her. She wants to be happy more than anything, and she wants to change, but just can't find it within her to push herself to. That's all I want as well, and I can't deny that I could help her do this as a boyfriend better than I can as just a friend that cares too much. Sure, it's just a different label, but the difference is still there to both of us.
For the moment, obviously I've chosen not to walk away from her. So right now I'm just going to stay friendly like this and let things flow. If she is serious about changing and making things different, then I'll notice it of course, and I honestly wouldn't mind being with her again if she had sufficiently matured by the end of it.
However, and unfortunately due to past experiences, I believe this to be the more likely of circumstances, she could have just said all of that shit in the heat of the moment, just to pull me in again and as soon as she gets comfortable, it'll all just happen again. If this is the case, and I get hurt again, then that's her last chance because then I'll really be fucking done.
I just really hope that this time is different. She's never been that close to losing me for good, so maybe this time she's serious. Maybe I'm just being hopeful, so all I can do is wait and see. I'm willing to risk being hurt one last time if there's a chance that I'm wrong.
Tell me Lovepunch, am I really being a fucking idiot for falling for her shit again? Is this really a case of simply nutting up and ditching her? I can't bring myself to do that, at least not yet. I want to believe that she's serious about changing, and if so I want to help her do that.
Any advice, comments, whatever. As always, just wanted to get it all out onto some medium.
<3
Go for it again :v:, I know people who have broken up, gotten back together, and now they have been going out for like 2 years(?). Not to mention, you guys resolved it in a responsible way, and even had a chance to laugh afterwards, of course, I am just a teenager, so no need to listen to me
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28690060]I'm starting to think that this is never going to end.
After finding out some pretty bad shit about my ex (involving another guy, apparently whilst we were still together but it turns out it happened after we broke up), I immediately called her and asked if it was true and who it was with, and why she did it (I was under the impression that she had cheated on me). She confirmed what I had been told, and reasoned that she was feeling very lonely and upset after I cut her out and she thought it'd make her feel better. I told her to just stay away from me, that I didn't want to be close to her at all if she was going to be doing shit like that, and that it hurt too much to love her if she can't love herself. Note that at this point, we were talking again and were quite friendly, and she was putting in a lot more effort to connect with me, texting me and starting conversations online and in person etc.
Long story short, she breaks down and starts crying to me, as I tell her pretty much everything I've said in my few recent posts in this thread (that I care about her and how much I wish she'd do the same for herself, that she'll never really be happy if she continues the way she's going, etc). She was getting pretty emotional, asking me through tears not to leave her. She said that she needs me, and that I'm all that she has. She said that she loved me and that she doesn't think she'll ever love anyone as much as she loves me. Hearing her cry over the phone, telling me that she loved me and needed me; I can't say that it didn't stir some feelings up within me.
She acknowledged a lot of what I was saying, and promised that things would be different this time (I've heard that one before). She even suggested we get back together, to which I said it would be a disservice to her as it will just perpetuate her deeper unhappiness. She said she had been thinking about it for a while (and to be honest, I had entertained the thought every now and then as well but always disregarded it), and figured that if she had been unhappy since we broke up and that it was only getting worse, which was indirectly making me feel upset as well, maybe the other option of being with me would be better. I wasn't expecting it at all, and now that she's mentioned it, I honestly don't know. It's quite clear that we still mean a lot to each other, and we both miss each other. I loved being her boyfriend, but perhaps I'm only remembering the good times. I want her to be happy with herself before anything, but she hasn't been such her entire life, and she confessed that the time we did spend together were helpful for her and I could see that as well, and I know that I could help her figure herself out a lot more easily if I were her boyfriend rather than just a concerned friend. For now though, I gave her no real indication that I was for that idea, and for the time being I'll keep it that way.
I asked why this always happened, that we'd be close for a while, and then she'd just stop giving me attention as soon as I was somewhere comfortable with her, at which point I'd leave her or stop giving her attention, and then she'd come back to me and draw me back in, and it'd repeat again and again. I told her that all it did was make me feel like an idiot and that she was only using me. She explained that ever since we first broke up, she's been too scared to get close to me. When we broke up, it was primarily due to me saying I was unsure of my feelings for her. She said that ever since then, as soon as we start getting close again, she just freezes up in remembrance of our break up, and starts blocking me out preemptively, before I hurt her, even though she is well aware that I regret saying that and that I really do care about her.
I don't know what the fuck to do anymore. I called her tonight with only one intention, to tell her that I was done with her shit and that I was walking away for good. It took that to make her realize how much I meant to her and how lost she'd be without me, and had her literally begging me not to leave. Could I possibly have not been moved by that? If not, then is it really so wrong of me to want to stay and help her? This is a girl that I still love and care for, the real her that only I've ever been close enough to know, under all the shit she puts up to everyone else.
We ended up chatting for a long time after all the dramatic shit was resolved, on phone/cam. The conversation was fresh again, we had each other laughing and smiling, it was nice to say the least. The conversation flowed to us even recalling fond memories of being with each other, of the times we had spent together and showing each other the mementos we had put away from our relationship. I don't even know what we were thinking at that point, or what the fuck I was thinking. I just know that we were both happy to be talking like that again, and how much we missed making/seeing each other smile.
This is ridiculous. I fucking wrote a mega thread on how to deal with a break up and how to get over your ex, but I've gone against every piece of my own fucking advice. Sometimes I think that me writing that entire thread, and everything else I've ever fucking said or done is just my own attempt at trying to move on from her, but I don't, and I can't. I find a way to rationalize it every time. My main argument against myself is that this isn't simply just a girl I can't get over, because she still has deep feelings for me as I do for her. This is a girl that is desperately unhappy, and if unguided will probably continue her self-destructive habits in an attempt to fill the void within her. She wants to be happy more than anything, and she wants to change, but just can't find it within her to push herself to. That's all I want as well, and I can't deny that I could help her do this as a boyfriend better than I can as just a friend that cares too much. Sure, it's just a different label, but the difference is still there to both of us.
For the moment, obviously I've chosen not to walk away from her. So right now I'm just going to stay friendly like this and let things flow. If she is serious about changing and making things different, then I'll notice it of course, and I honestly wouldn't mind being with her again if she had sufficiently matured by the end of it.
However, and unfortunately due to past experiences, I believe this to be the more likely of circumstances, she could have just said all of that shit in the heat of the moment, just to pull me in again and as soon as she gets comfortable, it'll all just happen again. If this is the case, and I get hurt again, then that's her last chance because then I'll really be fucking done.
I just really hope that this time is different. She's never been that close to losing me for good, so maybe this time she's serious. Maybe I'm just being hopeful, so all I can do is wait and see. I'm willing to risk being hurt one last time if there's a chance that I'm wrong.
Tell me Lovepunch, am I really being a fucking idiot for falling for her shit again? Is this really a case of simply nutting up and ditching her? I can't bring myself to do that, at least not yet. I want to believe that she's serious about changing, and if so I want to help her do that.
Any advice, comments, whatever. As always, just wanted to get it all out onto some medium.
<3[/QUOTE]
^o lol she's using you so bad for her own emotional crutch
If there's anything my many experiences with people has taught me, it's that people who believe they are superior in intelligence tend to be quite the opposite.
IQ doesn't mean shit. People with low IQ's can be ridiculously smart and people with high IQ's can be ridiculously stupid. Archangel, riddle me this. You're supposedly ridiculously smart, but yet you fell for some girl you met in Second Life. Real fucking smart. Then, you believe all of these retarded lies "Hurr head honcho apple programmer wants me lol durr."
You're no more intelligent than anyone else, no matter how hard to try to prove otherwise with your textbook attempts at wooing people with an extensive vocabulary.
So, with that being said...
lol internet relationships
@Dark
[b]Stop. Fucking. Communicating. With. Her.[/b]
Don't talk to her for [b]any[/b] reason. You don't have to call someone to tell them that you're never talking to them again, just fucking stop talking to them. The whole reason why she's suckering you back in is because you refuse to break all contact with her. Just stop. Fucking stop.
[img]http://gyazo.com/47c7a1e1ee9590b701dd3f39899f2612.png[/img]
Maybe a 60-year old woman in a child-line call center can relieve the advice pressure off Maverick :v:
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28693199]
@Dark
[b]Stop. Fucking. Communicating. With. Her.[/b]
Don't talk to her for [b]any[/b] reason. You don't have to call someone to tell them that you're never talking to them again, just fucking stop talking to them. The whole reason why she's suckering you back in is because you refuse to break all contact with her. Just stop. Fucking stop.[/QUOTE]
But he [i]loves[/i] her! No force in the universe can keep them apart for long!
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28690060]
Tell me Lovepunch[/QUOTE]
every time we tell you anything you agree and then don't do shit
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