[QUOTE=thisispain;28700170]every time we tell you anything you agree and then don't do shit[/QUOTE]
Fucking this. Practice what you preach or shut the fuck up.
Also, that Lifepunch place is ridiculously pathetic. The LA forum there is like a bunch of aspies that have grouped up to form a hive mind.
Eugh, you're fucking right and I know it.
Things have been a lot more positive since last night though, so I don't really know. She's promised me that all the shit she used to do is in the past, and confirmed how much she wanted to change. She already seems a lot more receptive to my advice, and decided to stop buying weed until after exams (whereas previously when I brought this up she only responded with a "thanks for caring" blah blah).
If it fucks up again then it will really be the last time, like the LAST time (trust me I'm just as sick of saying that as everyone is hearing it, but I finally know that I mean it this time).
I apologize if you're all fed up of seeing these posts from me. I know I'm not very good at following the advice I'm given, but I take all of into account and I never blindly defend what I'm doing. I really only post in here because it's become more of a chat thread than anything, and sometimes I just want somewhere to write my thoughts down.
No. Don't give her another chance, jesus fuck you're retarded.
She's not going to change. People don't change. She might change for a little while but she's going to relapse into her old ways eventually.
Just ignore her, god dammit. Stop being so damn stupid.
People only change when some really powerful force is driving them, like a major life event. They don't just get up and decide to change for their incompatible partner *POW* and they're a changed person. Why kids still fail to realize this, I have no idea. People are who they are unless something comes in and really fucks everything up. A simple breakup or whatever isn't enough.
You should know, you sound like what some people say when they are in an abusive relationship. you say they are going to change, then you say if they screw up once more that you would leave them. But as they all say that, most just pussy out and stay with them because it is the only thing they know.
[QUOTE=General Omega;28702207]You should know, you sound like what some people say when they are in an abusive relationship. you say they are going to change, then you say if they screw up once more that you would leave them. But as they all say that, most just pussy out and stay with them because it is the only thing they know.[/QUOTE]
Exactly. Every time it happens, they say they're going to call it quits the next time. And then after that they're really serious about it. And after that, they're seriously going to cut the cord when it happens. Then they just resort to stupid excuses.
It's just bullshit. Grow some nuts, cut your losses, and move the fuck on.
I know... I should have just left last night.
Honestly, I don't expect her to change either. She's more likely to change without me. She can't keep depending on me, she has to learn how to pick herself up without relying on me. I am exactly that, her emotional crutch. Eugh, how the fuck did I get so involved with someone so crazy.
I will leave her. For the good of all parties involved.
I need help. How do I subtly hint that my girlfriend needs to like, not be so attached to me? Like when we're a my house or around my family she acts like shy and not confrontal. I want her to be comfortable around my family and talk more. It's been 4 months that we've been dating and she's still like this. I have been fine around her parents every time. I need help. They said it was sickening how close we are together and how we act like one person, like can't be split apart for like 5 seconds. I can handle, the thing is that she can't. The clinginess makes everyone feel uncomfortable and I just want everyone to like her as much as I do. She's so talkative to me and to her friends. I don't want to end what we have.
Cry some more, jesus christ.
How about you just talk to her about it, you know, like functional couples do? There's bigger problems you gotta work out if you can't have mature discussions about things with each other and have to resort to hinting at shit.
Since last night. Last night. Bro, you might make her happy while you're together but I think we can all safely say by now that this girl has some deeper problems that wont be resolved unless she realizes the consequences of her dumb actions and is motivated to change them on her own. Like zzzz said, she's using you as a crutch, something familiar to fall back on when she gets stressed, can't cope, or whatever. She's gotta learn how to fucking move on herself, too. You can't stay with her forever. At least not until she gets her shit straight and you two have seen other people. You're too young to be putting up with this.
It's good that you've decided that her next fuck up will be the last straw though. It's not especially healthy and completely unecessary to go through all this drama bullshit. We hope you'll hold onto your word.
[editline]20th March 2011[/editline]
Holy shit ninja'd by six posts. Should've refreshed
We just talked about it. She took it really well and admitted that she isn't entirely comfortable around my parents yet. She said she'd work on being more personable.
I really don't want to repeat my story like for the sixth time, it used to be in the LA forum.
Anyways, dated a girl for almost two years, loved her, it ended over time issues.
We have contacted every other week for a month, mostly arguments try and do "fuck buddies" fails miserably, she doesn't feel attracted to other guys feels guilty and emotionally attached to me, I don't have the drive to date someone else right now. I remove her number, pictures, don't speak for about a week. Converse three days ago, she admits that she broke up with me too see if she could go on without me, and just do volley-ball (she'll play for college for sure, already being asked to play junior year in high-school) she said she couldn't and wants to try the fuck buddy thing without fucking anyone else, essentially like a "thing". I say I want to date or get the fuck out of my life, she begins crying saying she can't and the last two months have been bad without me. We agree to talk the next night to decide if we should or not (sleep on it type of thing),
We text the next day, night comes by I ask if she's going to call she says "hopefully :)" never calls. I text her, she never calls. I text her the next day, she doesn't answer.
This stuff has happened in the past and it's usually because she got grounded and her mom took her phone, however she'd always find a way to communicate with me, and she hasn't yet. It's been about three days.
Did I get blown off? What should I do?
I say fuck her. If that's all she wants and you don't want to date, I don't see what the downside is
[QUOTE=.Cheezy.;28702938]I say fuck her. If that's all she wants and you don't want to date, I don't see what the downside is[/QUOTE]
I don't though, I don't want just a fuck buddy. She lives around an hour away so we stay over at each others houses on the weekends and such.
This would be weird to my parents
"yeah we're just fucking buddies nothing much"
"yeah grandma this is just some girl I have sex with"
Well fuck you don't have to announce it to your family haha
If it's too much trouble to keep on visiting eachother for you, I could underst
...oh you still have feelings for her? Sorry I read your post as if you haven't seen her in a while after you broke up. As in you were over her but she wasn't. Nevermind
[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;28702739]We just talked about it.[/QUOTE]
welcome 2 being a bloody adult
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28702499]Cry some more, jesus christ.
How about you just talk to her about it, you know, like functional couples do? There's bigger problems you gotta work out if you can't have mature discussions about things with each other and have to resort to hinting at shit.[/QUOTE]
I used your advice and i got shot, Maverick is the best 2k11
So my boyfriend inadvertently met my entire family bar my dad yesterday! Came by to drop something off before we went out, and my grandparents were here (in fact he met my grandad in my front garden!) and my brother was giving his girlfriend a piggy back around the house, while my mum burnt stuff in the kitchen - I haven't met his mum yet! Haha he did well though and they all seemed to like him - even my grandad said "he seems like a nice boy" and that's nice to hear, my grandad doesn't talk about stuff like that much :)
everybodys parents like me i dont think id ever have a problem with meeting anybodys parents
i havent met a parent that didnt like me
i'm pretty sure my best friend's mum fancies me
the feeling is mutual :smug:
[QUOTE=Foghorn;28708674]i'm pretty sure my best friend's mum fancies me
the feeling is mutual :smug:[/QUOTE]
ew grody
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edit : hey guys i like this girl so i confessed my love to her and she slapped me am i doin it right plz help asap thx
[QUOTE=Occlusion;28710064]q_q
edit : hey guys i like this girl so i confessed my love to her and she slapped me am i doin it right plz help asap thx[/QUOTE]
Lol. Sounds like a copy / paste from yahoo answers
You know what I find kinda strange, I was talking to my friend (who just so happens to be a girl) and she pretty much the exact opposite of this thread (except for asking people out in person, and "breaks")
[QUOTE=Monovfox;28723874]You know what I find kinda strange, I was talking to my friend (who just so happens to be a girl) and she pretty much the exact opposite of this thread (except for asking people out in person, and "breaks")[/QUOTE]
your friend sucks
[QUOTE=Monovfox;28723874]You know what I find kinda strange, I was talking to my friend (who just so happens to be a girl) and she pretty much the exact opposite of this thread (except for asking people out in person, and "breaks")[/QUOTE]
So she thinks that having random people who she doesn't know come up to her to confess their undying love of her is a good idea then?
I don't see how thats creepy at all :v:
Also Monovfox you just reminded me I gotta read that again.
Girls give horrible advice because they tend to live in movie fantasy land. When a guy gives a different girl a note/confesses his love or whatever, it's the cutest thing in the world. When it happens to them, it's creepy as fuck.
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