[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28895834]I'm 17 and the girl I'm gonna ask out is almost 19. It doesn't feel weird at all for some reason.[/QUOTE]
I'm 19 and the girl I like is 23. :v: No idea if she'd feel weird about it but I don't particularly. I've grown up younger than all my classmates, so every girl I've know has been at least 2 years older than me. It basically just feels like she's 2 years older.
I always pictured you as about 40.
Like a new mikfoz.
Do I look like a viking, fur cape rippling in the December winds?
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28895062]Oh my god are you retarded.
You don't ask a girl what she thinks of you, you ask her out.[/QUOTE]
That's not what I meant, I'm gonna talk to her and see if she likes talking with me. Not ask her if she likes me.
[editline]31st March 2011[/editline]
And then I'll ask her out.
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;28906315]That's not what I meant, I'm gonna talk to her and see if she likes talking with me. Not ask her if she likes me.
[editline]31st March 2011[/editline]
And then I'll ask her out.[/QUOTE]
Just ask her out when you see her. The more you think about it, the harder it gets.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;28906078]Do I look like a viking, fur cape rippling in the December winds?[/QUOTE]
Actually, it was always your old avatar. v:v:v
Must branch out socially. Must meet new people.
stop giving a fuck ur trying too hard
I love threads like these, giving people closure feels good man.
Hello. Recently, I’ve met this girl. Smart, cute, but unstable as fuck. I mean, she can’t make her mind up about me at all. I mean, she’s the otaku kind that does cosplay and reads manga. Slightly concerning, but I put that aside and decided to pursue a relationship with this girl just to see how things could go. Now, I regret that choice seeing as things have gone so fucking wrong that I don’t even know where to begin. I guess it’s a good idea to start near the beginning of the end.
Things were going okay between us. We’d talk till it was time for bed, we’d share our thoughts and opinions, joke around a little and enjoy our time together even though we were just friends, despite the fact that we did practically everything together. My thoughts are that it all started to go downhill when she started to talk to other people and shared the reality of the two of us going out and forming a close bond towards eachother. I’d always be anxious when I’d hear that she was talking to another person. I’d give her space until she was done talking and wait for her patiently. After a while, after I started taking more time out for myself and my work, she spent more and more time talking to others, people who’d share their own opinions and thoughts of me to her. She, being as easily influenced as she is, believed everything they’d say with these words coming from people who, say the least, hated me, they’d want me dead if they could have it their way.
One night, I, rather stressed and tired after a long day and an afternoon with her found out just how fucked things were about to get. We spent that afternoon near a lake and while we were there, she curled up into a ball and said, “I’m scared”. I sat there and helplessly tried to alleviate her fears, whatever they were, but unsuccessful, we both went home that night, confused and stressed. That day and that night, everything changed and over the next few weeks, she didn’t contact me at all. Anxiety took over, I didn’t know what was going on and I tried to talk to her to find out what the problem was, but everytime I tried, I fucked things up big time. Everything just got more and more awkward and this was amplified by me knowing that the people she was going to for help didn’t know me too well as a person and were just giving opinions based on pure speculation.
A few weeks later with barely any contact between us, we met in a park on a bench and she broke up with me. I at the time wasn’t able to accept what she’d said and reassured her that we’d both pull through, but clearly, this wasn’t the case. Again, after she found that out, we met in the same spot one afternoon, but this time it was for certain. She said, “I can’t do this” as opposed to “I don’t think I can do this”. We spent most of that afternoon trying to sort things out. I tried my hardest to salvage what I could because I saw no reason for it to end because she wasn’t ready for it. By this time, I’d known what I did wrong and hoped that she’d accept my apology for it and keep going as we did, but it was already too late. She’d made her mind up, but I already knew that it wasn’t the end of it. We couldn’t not see eachother. Your lives we so intertwined that we’d see eachother for hours each day and not talk because of what transpired.
Skip forward a few weeks, we were travelling with our team to Hawaii to compete at a regional event. We’d both agreed to talk in Hawaii to sort our lives out so we could follow on, but whenever we’d reach a decision, one of us, usually her would go and cry in a hallway somewhere. I felt helpless to solve the situation as I’d felt the entire time since we broke up. Neither of us could move on. We were both staying, but why would we? Didn’t we break up a few weeks ago? We’re both so lost and confused that we can’t make our minds up on something we both agree on.
Help me. What do I do next? We’re travelling overseas again to Missouri and we’ll probably see eachother again soon. I don’t know how to approach her or how she’d react. She started to cry on the bus to the airport when I was comforting a friend of mine. He was having a shitty time dealing with everything else that was going on and for some reason, her reaction to that was to cry. I didn’t apologise to her till we landed at Sydney and her reaction was, “Don’t be”.
Huh, what were you apologising for if you thought it was those other people who manipulated her?
Also that sucks man, if she trusts words of others more than yours.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;28906038]I'm 19 and the girl I like is 23. :v: No idea if she'd feel weird about it but I don't particularly. I've grown up younger than all my classmates, so every girl I've know has been at least 2 years older than me. It basically just feels like she's 2 years older.[/QUOTE]
Bah, the girl I'm seeing is 25 and I'm 22 (going on 23 in a few days though). Women don't normally like to date younger but it does happen.
[QUOTE=killerteacup;28887928]Fuck yeah birthday dinner tomorrow night. Fixed things up with my girlfriend and we fight hardly ever anymore, whereas before we did lots. Just a matter of communication.[/QUOTE]
Fuck yeah she spent 2 months organising a surprise dinner with all my friends and paid for my dinner and gave me a sweet letter and SEA MONKEYS.
Man, this is awesome.
Must've been one awesome dinner if it took 2 months to plan.
Almost all the girls I've been with have been a year older than me, but that's probably because I've always been rather mature for my age, both in terms of looks and behaviour.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;28908378]stop giving a fuck ur trying too hard[/QUOTE]
All I'm saying is that I'm a little tired of only hanging out with my main group of friends.
[QUOTE=Tom_Caster;28909184]Hello. Recently, I’ve met this girl. Smart, cute, but unstable as fuck. I mean, she can’t make her mind up about me at all. I mean, she’s the otaku kind that does cosplay and reads manga. Slightly concerning, but I put that aside and decided to pursue a relationship with this girl just to see how things could go. Now, I regret that choice seeing as things have gone so fucking wrong that I don’t even know where to begin. I guess it’s a good idea to start near the beginning of the end.
Things were going okay between us. We’d talk till it was time for bed, we’d share our thoughts and opinions, joke around a little and enjoy our time together even though we were just friends, despite the fact that we did practically everything together. My thoughts are that it all started to go downhill when she started to talk to other people and shared the reality of the two of us going out and forming a close bond towards eachother. I’d always be anxious when I’d hear that she was talking to another person. I’d give her space until she was done talking and wait for her patiently. After a while, after I started taking more time out for myself and my work, she spent more and more time talking to others, people who’d share their own opinions and thoughts of me to her. She, being as easily influenced as she is, believed everything they’d say with these words coming from people who, say the least, hated me, they’d want me dead if they could have it their way.
One night, I, rather stressed and tired after a long day and an afternoon with her found out just how fucked things were about to get. We spent that afternoon near a lake and while we were there, she curled up into a ball and said, “I’m scared”. I sat there and helplessly tried to alleviate her fears, whatever they were, but unsuccessful, we both went home that night, confused and stressed. That day and that night, everything changed and over the next few weeks, she didn’t contact me at all. Anxiety took over, I didn’t know what was going on and I tried to talk to her to find out what the problem was, but everytime I tried, I fucked things up big time. Everything just got more and more awkward and this was amplified by me knowing that the people she was going to for help didn’t know me too well as a person and were just giving opinions based on pure speculation.
A few weeks later with barely any contact between us, we met in a park on a bench and she broke up with me. I at the time wasn’t able to accept what she’d said and reassured her that we’d both pull through, but clearly, this wasn’t the case. Again, after she found that out, we met in the same spot one afternoon, but this time it was for certain. She said, “I can’t do this” as opposed to “I don’t think I can do this”. We spent most of that afternoon trying to sort things out. I tried my hardest to salvage what I could because I saw no reason for it to end because she wasn’t ready for it. By this time, I’d known what I did wrong and hoped that she’d accept my apology for it and keep going as we did, but it was already too late. She’d made her mind up, but I already knew that it wasn’t the end of it. We couldn’t not see eachother. Your lives we so intertwined that we’d see eachother for hours each day and not talk because of what transpired.
Skip forward a few weeks, we were travelling with our team to Hawaii to compete at a regional event. We’d both agreed to talk in Hawaii to sort our lives out so we could follow on, but whenever we’d reach a decision, one of us, usually her would go and cry in a hallway somewhere. I felt helpless to solve the situation as I’d felt the entire time since we broke up. Neither of us could move on. We were both staying, but why would we? Didn’t we break up a few weeks ago? We’re both so lost and confused that we can’t make our minds up on something we both agree on.
Help me. What do I do next? We’re travelling overseas again to Missouri and we’ll probably see eachother again soon. I don’t know how to approach her or how she’d react. She started to cry on the bus to the airport when I was comforting a friend of mine. He was having a shitty time dealing with everything else that was going on and for some reason, her reaction to that was to cry. I didn’t apologise to her till we landed at Sydney and her reaction was, “Don’t be”.[/QUOTE]
Yeah why are you apologizing to her? Give her space/time instead of smothering her with apologies and explanations, but to be honest she sounds all too sensitive and immature. How long has this whole debacle lasted? Is it worth it?
[QUOTE=Faren;28909934]All I'm saying is that I'm a little tired of only hanging out with my main group of friends.[/QUOTE]
Same situation, well not tired, but I wanna meet new people, but friends having same pracs/lectures is making that harder.
Anyway, is asking someone out before even having talked to them (Strangers) weird/ gonna come off as creepy?
[QUOTE=Evilan;28906970]Just ask her out when you see her. The more you think about it, the harder it gets.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, nothing happened today, just like the other days this week. Damnit so hard to speak to someone I've gone in the same class with for 3 years and never really talked to before. There are no good timing oppurtunities :v:
[QUOTE=Novangel;28910037]Same situation, well not tired, but I wanna meet new people, but friends having same pracs/lectures is making that harder.
Anyway, is asking someone out before even having talked to them (Strangers) weird/ gonna come off as creepy?[/QUOTE]
Depends on the situation, outside of school it's the norm, inside of school it really depends on the public attitude towards you.
People will probably already have thoughts and judgment before meeting you in school.
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;28910454]Yeah, nothing happened today, just like the other days this week. Damnit so hard to speak to someone I've gone in the same class with for 3 years and never really talked to before. There are no good timing oppurtunities :v:[/QUOTE]
You're over analyzing the situation and giving your self excuses.
Walk up and talk to her, even if she's talking to a friend etc.
Show some balls and talk to her.
[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;28911270]You're over analyzing the situation and giving your self excuses.
Walk up and talk to her, even if she's talking to a friend etc.
Show some balls and talk to her.[/QUOTE]
I know but I'm just so afraid, not of being rejected, but being rejected because I picked a bad moment.
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;28911315]I know but I'm just so afraid, not of being rejected, but being rejected because I picked a bad moment.[/QUOTE]
No girl is going to think "Normally I'd say yes to this guy, but he picked a bad moment so I'm gonna say no."
If you pick a "bad" moment and she likes you, she'll say yes anyways. Stop making excuses for yourself and just do it. Opportunities to ask her out won't land in your lap, you have to make them.
So hey. I've been gone for an eternity how are you beautiful people?
Alright but tell me something
is it true that there is picture of your ass floating around here somewhere
hi guys
came here to vent about the guys in the lady chat
i called my boyfriend an ass and several people comment "why are you with him"
people are idiots - because i call my boyfriend an ass one time it's like he's the meanest person ever and i don't have the balls to leave him
sigh
just because i don't talk about my boyfriend as if he's the most perfect creature to ever set his foot on the ground
i'm not butt hurt over what ever you're talking about
i'm simply just a bit frustrated with the fact that two guys commented on my post with "why are you with him?"
they probably did that to try to make you break up with him so they can have a chance at hitting on you
lol
sure
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28911617]No girl is going to think "Normally I'd say yes to this guy, but he picked a bad moment so I'm gonna say no."
If you pick a "bad" moment and she likes you, she'll say yes anyways. Stop making excuses for yourself and just do it. Opportunities to ask her out won't land in your lap, you have to make them.[/QUOTE]
Alright, I'll go for it.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;28913361]sure[/QUOTE]
no it's actually true lol
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