• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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[QUOTE=SaWAH;28913151]hi guys came here to vent about the guys in the lady chat i called my boyfriend an ass and several people comment "why are you with him" people are idiots - because i call my boyfriend an ass one time it's like he's the meanest person ever and i don't have the balls to leave him sigh just because i don't talk about my boyfriend as if he's the most perfect creature to ever set his foot on the ground[/QUOTE] Well when you start complaining over the internet about your bf being an ass (to you?), people get the idea that he's an ass in general and in general no one likes assholes so that's where you get the "why are you with him then?" comments. Maybe you should've pointed out that he acted like an ass or phrased it to point out that it was a singular occurence. I don't know what you said in the other thread but I can see myself saying the same thing if a girl were to mope about her asshole boyfriend
It seemed blatantly obvious to me that she meant in one case alone. Y'all just a bunch a daft kids.
There really isn't much about sex in the op. [editline]31st March 2011[/editline] That would be interesting subject
[QUOTE=LiquiD;28915233]There really isn't much about sex in the op. [editline]31st March 2011[/editline] That would be interesting subject[/QUOTE] most of the kids on fp can barely talk to a girl let alone have intercourse
[QUOTE=Dysentery;28915257]most of the kids on fp can barely talk to a girl let alone have intercourse[/QUOTE] I just find it funny that the is no talk about it. This is thread is about relationships after all.
Well let's try and walk first before we run huh skippy
[QUOTE=LiquiD;28915233]There really isn't much about sex in the op. [editline]31st March 2011[/editline] That would be interesting subject[/QUOTE] What is there to write about sex? Pee-pee goes in the vagoo. There you go, that sums up sex. In reality, any and all sex related problems are simple to solve, you just talk to your partner about them. If she's too tight, talk to her about trying to fit another finger in there and whatnot when she's fiddling with herself and stuff like that. If you can't have a mature conversation about sex with your partner, not only should you not be having sex as a couple, but you shouldn't be having sex as an individual either.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28916793]If she's too tight, talk to her about trying to fit another finger in there and whatnot when she's fiddling with herself and stuff like that. If you can't have a mature conversation about sex with your partner, not only should you not be having sex as a couple, but you shouldn't be having sex as an individual either.[/QUOTE] What the hell? I think you missed my point. :v: I'm not having any problems. But you know there is more to it than just "pee-pee goes in the vagoo". [editline]31st March 2011[/editline] Dysentery might have a point after all.
[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;28911270]Depends on the situation, outside of school it's the norm, inside of school it really depends on the public attitude towards you. People will probably already have thoughts and judgment before meeting you in school. You're over analyzing the situation and giving your self excuses. Walk up and talk to her, even if she's talking to a friend etc. Show some balls and talk to her.[/QUOTE] I'll take university as outside
[QUOTE=LiquiD;28917013]What the hell? I think you missed my point. :v: I'm not having any problems. But you know there is more to it than just "pee-pee goes in the vagoo". [editline]31st March 2011[/editline] Dysentery might have a point after all.[/QUOTE] What is there to it then that someone wouldn't be able to find out on their own? Sex is an instinctual thing for humans, we pretty much know how to have sex from the day we're born. Like I said, any problems people have, ranging from not being able to get a boner because they're nervous and everything like that, can and should be worked out with their partner. If you're coming to an internet forum for answers before talking to your partner about it, there's problems. I'm not going to go as far as saying people on FP can't get to that point so it's useless to talk about, but I do believe in taking baby steps. My focus is on getting kids to just ask girls out. I'll be honest, my understanding of the dynamics behind a developed relationship isn't too developed, I'm more knowledgeable on how to get into relationships and how to manage the first few stages from relationships. I can help people with problems regarding sex in developed relationships, but I won't go as far as putting something in the OP and claiming it's the law of the land.
How do I get my girlfriend to try new things?
Talk to her? :v:
[QUOTE=LiquiD;28917013]But you know there is more to it than just "pee-pee goes in the vagoo".[/QUOTE] no there isn't whoever told you there was more was lying to you
I feel stupid for not being able to find any other kind of thread where you can get general advice on stuff, but since the thread title does include "social" advice I guess this could fit here... If I'm seriously blind as fuck and missed some giant thread for general advice/help giving, please point me in the direction and I'll thank you kindly. Anyway, onto the issue. About a week and a half ago I went out to lunch with my (only) two friends as we tend to do every Tuesday. It had been the first time in a while that we've had a broday (that's what we call it, not my idea) and it was two days before I was going to find out from my primary college choice whether I was admitted or not. On top of anxiety/stress from that, my mind had been worrying on several other things, and I figured that this would be a good way to just have a nice few hours to not think about any of it and have a good time. Unfortunately, my two "friends" decided to be dicks this day. From the moment we got into the car I knew that I wasn't going to settle well with their dicking-on moods, but I didn't say anything to start off with like "I'm not in a good mood today, let's try to cut down on the dicking" so I guess that's partly my fault. The thing is, when they're in this kind of mood, the dicking-on tends to only fly my way, and it ends up being two against one. Most of the time I put up with it, and up to a point I did that day, but it wasn't long before they were reaching my boiling point. Once they started approaching "piss me off" mode, I started threatening to leave them at the place we went to eat and made an effort to try to tell them to cut it out, but they pursued. I wanted to eat at a different place, so we drove there and I got my food. The taunting/picking on grew more and more, to the point where they began violating my possessions, e.g. sticking my iPod down their pants and defiling my drink that I paid for. I couldn't take it anymore at that point, and I just stormed out of the place and drove off, leaving them there without a ride home and therefore forcing them to take a 1 mile walk back home. Later that day one of them texted me because he wanted the shit that he left in my car back, and tried calling me multiple times. Instead of responding, other than a "fuck off" text, I threw his stuff on his front porch and texted him to let him know it was there. Then I realized he had my iPod so I went back and demanded my iPod back, spewing fuck and shit and bitch everywhere and acting hostile. The next time I had class with him he said good morning to me but I just ignored him, and since then I've been ignoring them and having talked to either of them. Since then I changed seats in my classes with them and have been ignoring them completely, and it seems like they're returning the favor. I even started noticing that other people are glancing in the other direction when I pass by them in school, which leads me to believe that they've decided to spread to as many people as they can that I'm a complete asshole. The thing is, they were/are my only friends, and if I thought I was off before this whole thing with stress/depression/anxiety/whatever, shit's been a ton of a fuck worse since then. I want to know how I can get this resolved, or would like some advice on what to do to make things better.
This seems a bit backwards, seeing as how normally the questions here are "How do I ask out a girl", but here goes nothing. So my ex is dating some other dude now, and we've both agreed that we should get back together soon (as in tomorrow) . She wants to dump him, but doesn't want to lie to him or make him mad at her. Think you can come up with some ideas?
"I don't like you. This is not working out. I want to go with an even worse relationship (oh, you know, getting back with an ex). Peace."
In our defence, the only reason we broke up is because of one of her friends. She said something about how me & her should break up, & I had 5 things going on at the time, so I was like "Yeah whatever blah" not paying attention. I guess somewhere along the lines she said "Want me to tell her you wanna break up?"
I have no idea why but today has been crappy and I have been a bitch to everyone, and anyone talking to me is irritating the hell out of me, but I don't want to tell them to just leave me alone.
[QUOTE=No Party Hats;28921406]In our defence, the only reason we broke up is because of one of her friends. She said something about how me & her should break up, & I had 5 things going on at the time, so I was like "Yeah whatever blah" not paying attention. I guess somewhere along the lines she said "Want me to tell her you wanna break up?"[/QUOTE] I feel like the counter-logic would be along the lines of this: if it was that easy to separate the first time... why the hell are you making a second time?
No, you're not. Because if you are then I am too and that would make me feel awful.
This mainly was caused by my lack of attention towards that one person :v:
[QUOTE=DSG;28921049]I feel stupid for not being able to find any other kind of thread where you can get general advice on stuff, but since the thread title does include "social" advice I guess this could fit here... If I'm seriously blind as fuck and missed some giant thread for general advice/help giving, please point me in the direction and I'll thank you kindly. Anyway, onto the issue. About a week and a half ago I went out to lunch with my (only) two friends as we tend to do every Tuesday. It had been the first time in a while that we've had a broday (that's what we call it, not my idea) and it was two days before I was going to find out from my primary college choice whether I was admitted or not. On top of anxiety/stress from that, my mind had been worrying on several other things, and I figured that this would be a good way to just have a nice few hours to not think about any of it and have a good time. Unfortunately, my two "friends" decided to be dicks this day. From the moment we got into the car I knew that I wasn't going to settle well with their dicking-on moods, but I didn't say anything to start off with like "I'm not in a good mood today, let's try to cut down on the dicking" so I guess that's partly my fault. The thing is, when they're in this kind of mood, the dicking-on tends to only fly my way, and it ends up being two against one. Most of the time I put up with it, and up to a point I did that day, but it wasn't long before they were reaching my boiling point. Once they started approaching "piss me off" mode, I started threatening to leave them at the place we went to eat and made an effort to try to tell them to cut it out, but they pursued. I wanted to eat at a different place, so we drove there and I got my food. The taunting/picking on grew more and more, to the point where they began violating my possessions, e.g. sticking my iPod down their pants and defiling my drink that I paid for. I couldn't take it anymore at that point, and I just stormed out of the place and drove off, leaving them there without a ride home and therefore forcing them to take a 1 mile walk back home. Later that day one of them texted me because he wanted the shit that he left in my car back, and tried calling me multiple times. Instead of responding, other than a "fuck off" text, I threw his stuff on his front porch and texted him to let him know it was there. Then I realized he had my iPod so I went back and demanded my iPod back, spewing fuck and shit and bitch everywhere and acting hostile. The next time I had class with him he said good morning to me but I just ignored him, and since then I've been ignoring them and having talked to either of them. Since then I changed seats in my classes with them and have been ignoring them completely, and it seems like they're returning the favor. I even started noticing that other people are glancing in the other direction when I pass by them in school, which leads me to believe that they've decided to spread to as many people as they can that I'm a complete asshole. The thing is, they were/are my only friends, and if I thought I was off before this whole thing with stress/depression/anxiety/whatever, shit's been a ton of a fuck worse since then. I want to know how I can get this resolved, or would like some advice on what to do to make things better.[/QUOTE] 1. You apparently are terrible at picking friends. 2. Learn to chill the fuck out, jesus christ. 3. Stop being so damn butthurt. So they pissed you off that day, okay fine, be mad at them that day. However, if you're really their friend, you'd fucking let it go after that. Going the extra mile to avoid them and whatnot is outright retarded. Take a chill pill. Getting worked up over being admitted into a college is stupid. The letter won't change what it says while in transit to your house based off of how much you care about it. You totally overreacted to the whole situation, so what you need to do is go up to them and talk it out. Tell them that they were being dicks, but at the same time you overreacted. Mutual apologies, move the fuck on.
I am tired of being single. I am not single cause im some weirdo or ill-confident kid. but mainly cause i don't have any classes with anyone i would want to really go out with. +the people in m area are not the most desirable. solutions?
Learn the bible, and love Joel Osteen.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;28922517]Learn the bible, and love Joel Osteen.[/QUOTE] What the fuck does that have to do with anything?
He [del]constantly[/del] has complained about how everyone is incredibly religious around his living quarters. It was a joke. 'Cause I know you don't want to.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28922193]1. You apparently are terrible at picking friends. 2. Learn to chill the fuck out, jesus christ. 3. Stop being so damn butthurt. So they pissed you off that day, okay fine, be mad at them that day. However, if you're really their friend, you'd fucking let it go after that. Going the extra mile to avoid them and whatnot is outright retarded. Take a chill pill. Getting worked up over being admitted into a college is stupid. The letter won't change what it says while in transit to your house based off of how much you care about it. You totally overreacted to the whole situation, so what you need to do is go up to them and talk it out. Tell them that they were being dicks, but at the same time you overreacted. Mutual apologies, move the fuck on.[/QUOTE] 1) I don't come by friends very often, so yeah. 2) I'm always and have always been paranoid and I'm kind of used to it by now. Key term: kind of 3) I get butthurt easily and I'm socially inept to the point where I don't cope with situations like this well, especially when I'm at fault. And yeah, I realize that but because of how my brain works I get overworked about things like that regardless. Over-analytical of everything, and prone to overreacting to the simplest of things. Thank you for the concrete feedback.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;28922387]I am tired of being single. I am not single cause im some weirdo or ill-confident kid. but mainly cause i don't have any classes with anyone i would want to really go out with. +the people in m area are not the most desirable. solutions?[/QUOTE] do some extra-curriculars. great way of meeting chicks, and you might find that you actually like doing that activity, too.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;28922627]He [del]constantly[/del] has complained about how everyone is incredibly religious around his living quarters. It was a joke. 'Cause I know you don't want to.[/QUOTE] oh okay bro. thats a LITTLE creepy you know that much about me. seeing ive not posted about my religious living quarters in a long, long, long time.
My girlfriend of 2+ years hasn't made ANY time for me these past 2 weeks(I was driving home from dinner and called her and asked if I could stop by her dorm and say hi, but she simply said "no"). My dad keeps telling me I should find a new girlfriend and I'm starting to believe him. Tommorow my girlfriend and I are going to her parent's house to hang out and if she acts like the jerk she's been then I'm gonna dump her ass and find someone who will actually spend time with me. Hopefully it'll humble her and she'll realise that a relationship goes both ways. She gets bitchy like this whenever she's stressed(she's had a lot of tests that week) but that shouldnt give her an excuse to be moody all the damn time and never want to see me. She used to be such a nice girl, especially when we were in highschool. Frickin' women, can't figure em out. Edit: and no she isn't cheating on me.
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