[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;28931030]If a girl outright says, "No you're ugly," she's a gigantic cunt anyway and rejection was the best possible outcome![/QUOTE]
Yeah, this girl would probably never say so :v:
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28917837]What is there to it then that someone wouldn't be able to find out on their own? Sex is an instinctual thing for humans, we pretty much know how to have sex from the day we're born. Like I said, any problems people have, ranging from not being able to get a boner because they're nervous and everything like that, can and should be worked out with their partner. If you're coming to an internet forum for answers before talking to your partner about it, there's problems.
I'm not going to go as far as saying people on FP can't get to that point so it's useless to talk about, but I do believe in taking baby steps. My focus is on getting kids to just ask girls out. I'll be honest, my understanding of the dynamics behind a developed relationship isn't too developed, I'm more knowledgeable on how to get into relationships and how to manage the first few stages from relationships. I can help people with problems regarding sex in developed relationships, but I won't go as far as putting something in the OP and claiming it's the law of the land.[/QUOTE]
Nigga you just went full analyze
Ok I got a problem. There's this girl... I think she's into me and she's dropped so huge hints during conversations however I've been a huge pussy for the past few months and haven't done anything about it so I think she's kinda moving on and I'm pretty sure I'm basically in the friendzone now.
Anywho I figure I'm gonna need to ask her out soon otherwise it'll be too late. There's a couple of problems though:
There's never a time where we're alone together, and so far we only see each other at school.
And secondly I just don't really know how to ask her out, is asking her to come to starbucks with me too little? I just don't know how to word it or how to bring the conversation round to me asking her out.
[QUOTE=PrusseluskenV2;28930964]I had a girl invite me over for just hanging out once, we had sex for five hours straight and then got married[/QUOTE]
Didn't need that level of satire to get me to realise I'm asking a stupid question, but alright.
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28931392]Ok I got a problem. There's this girl... I think she's into me and she's dropped so huge hints during conversations however I've been a huge pussy for the past few months and haven't done anything about it so I think she's kinda moving on and I'm pretty sure I'm basically in the friendzone now.
Anywho I figure I'm gonna need to ask her out soon otherwise it'll be too late. There's a couple of problems though:
There's never a time where we're alone together, and so far we only see each other at school.
And secondly I just don't really know how to ask her out, is asking her to come to starbucks with me too little? I just don't know how to word it or how to bring the conversation round to me asking her out.[/QUOTE]
I just asked her out when the lesson was over, the whole corridoor was crowded, but I still asked her out. You gotta make your moment as said. I don't know if asking her out to starbucks is too little though, if you haven't really taken her out before I think it'll be just great.
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;28931423]I just asked her out when the lesson was over, the whole corridoor was crowded, but I still asked her out. You gotta make your moment as said. I don't know if asking her out to starbucks is too little though, if you haven't really taken her out before I think it'll be just great.[/QUOTE]
At our school the classes are pretty small though (There's 6 people in my class), so I can't really take her to one side and ask or anything, everyone would still be able to hear our conversation. I'm really tempted to just ask over facebook chat... that would be easy but it just seems like the pussy thing to do.
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28931392]Ok I got a problem. There's this girl... I think she's into me and she's dropped so huge hints during conversations however I've been a huge pussy for the past few months and haven't done anything about it so I think she's kinda moving on and I'm pretty sure I'm basically in the friendzone now.
Anywho I figure I'm gonna need to ask her out soon otherwise it'll be too late. There's a couple of problems though:
There's never a time where we're alone together, and so far we only see each other at school.
And secondly I just don't really know how to ask her out, is asking her to come to starbucks with me too little? I just don't know how to word it or how to bring the conversation round to me asking her out.[/QUOTE]
What's with kids thinking they need to be alone with a girl to ask them out.
God damn, just ask her out when people are around, it's not that big of a deal. People ask each other out, big whoop. How to ask her out? "Hey, want to go out with me to ______ on _______?" Ta-da. If you're already friends, coffee isn't really a date at all. Might want to aim a little higher than that.
It's definitely a no no to ask out over facebook right?
Yes. Facebook is an extreme last resort.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28931806]Yes. Facebook is an extreme last resort.[/QUOTE]
Bruce Willis in EXTREME LAST RESORT 2 : RETURN OF THE FRIEND ZONE
I am loving all this repetition.
"I like this-"
"Ask'er out."
"But, there's people!"
"So? Ask'er out."
"Yeah! I balls'd up and it worked!"
"Duh."
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;28932085]I am loving all this repetition.
"I like this-"
"Ask'er out."
"But, there's people!"
"So? Ask'er out."
"Yeah! I balls'd up and it worked!"
"Duh."[/QUOTE]
Well it's hard the first time :v:
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;28932085]I am loving all this repetition.
"I like this-"
"Ask'er out."
"But, there's people!"
"So? Ask'er out."
"Yeah! I balls'd up and it worked!"
"Duh."[/QUOTE]
I think most of the time people just need reassurance from others. It makes it easier if someone else has told you what to do.
What I mean is: read the whole thread, the same thing is said.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28930870]If a girl gives you an excuse to not go on the date with you and doesn't suggest an exact alternative date, she's rejecting you. Even if she says "some other time," then it's a rejection.[/QUOTE]
This one recently came up and I wasn't sure what to tell the guy: he asked a girl out and she said something like "maybe, I have an exam friday" (not an exact quote, I may have lost the context). Little explanation was provided. I wanted to tell him to just forget about it but I'm not 100% if she was really just trying to drop it, considering she had asked him to go see a movie before with 2 friends, and then they spent the night at her place alone (nothing happened).
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28931501]At our school the classes are pretty small though (There's 6 people in my class), so I can't really take her to one side and ask or anything, everyone would still be able to hear our conversation. I'm really tempted to just ask over facebook chat... that would be easy but it just seems like the pussy thing to do.[/QUOTE]
I've asked girls out right in front of my friends, her friends, whatever. You just ask her if she wants to do something on a certain day. If she gives you an excuse, don't push it, just continue your conversation.
One day last year, I was sitting down with a bunch of my friends and texting the girl at the other end of the table to see if she wanted to go to a movie. She sent back a yes and we just got up and left, much to everyone's surprise. Though I wouldn't usually advise a course of action like that, it can work.
The Grapes of Wrath is literally one of the worst works of cinema ever.
Finally came up with a way to ask this girl out without relatives being present. (I can't drive yet because I haven't gotten off my lazy ass and gotten a license) :v:
What the fuck do I do when some annoying bitch keeps messaging me on Facebook about her and her dumbass super-religious boyfriend? Her and I are good friends but I'm sick and tired of being the "go-to" guy for "we broke up for the 87th time :("
[QUOTE=Protocol7;28942244]What the fuck do I do when some annoying bitch keeps messaging me on Facebook about her and her dumbass super-religious boyfriend? Her and I are good friends but I'm sick and tired of being the "go-to" guy for "we broke up for the 87th time :("[/QUOTE]
There's an ignore button.
Unless you didn't mean it when you called her an annoying bitch, then you could just pretend to be semi-nice but really don't listen to a word she says.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;28942397]There's an ignore button.
Unless you didn't mean it when you called her an annoying bitch, then you could just pretend to be semi-nice but really don't listen to a word she says.[/QUOTE]
Well I'm annoyed by her constant Facebook complaining, if that makes it any clearer.
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28932130]I think most of the time people just need reassurance from others. It makes it easier if someone else has told you what to do.[/QUOTE]
We like to make up excuses that we can't ask someone out. I'd figure more than half of the "problems" people have are just them being a pussy and not wanting to sack up and do it. Not trying to imply I'm any better.
Hey is it bad paying for a movie tick for your girlfriend even tho they don't want you to pay for them?
Depends on the kind of "don't want". If they're like, "oh, hehe, don't pay for me, it's too much.", then they're jerking your chain, and paying for them will be flattering. If they actually don't want you to pay, and are stern in that assertion, then don't. No harm, no foul.
If you're just catching a film together, then don't pay for her, and don't let her get into the habit of relying on you to pay either. If you are taking her out, then sometimes it's nice to cover some of her expenses, but I'd probably keep that to special occasions or when you're 'treating' her etc (like on her birthday for example). If you're just casually seeing a movie with your girlfriend, don't even mention who is paying for what, just buy your own ticket and move on and let her figure it out.
Because see when you're all like "Oh I'll pay for you blah blah blah", you have this awkward situation which you're in now in which you don't really know if she actually doesn't want you to pay, or is just being nice (as ^ said). Either buy two tickets before even mentioning it to her and hand her hers, or just buy your own.
Alright cheers for the help guys.
A close friend broke up with me a month ago saying "I can't do this" or "I don't think I'm ready for this". We've been on and off contact for the last month and generally things have been awkward.
The thing is though, I still love her. I tried moving on last night, asking another girl out to lunch, but I couldn't bring myself to it. It just doesn't feel the same.
Would it be a good idea to wait it out for her or should I just learn to accept it and move on with life because I'm finding it hard to focus on anything. I've been eating a lot more than I usually do and the lack of focus is a problem because I've got exams coming on soon.
I keep thinking about her and when she's going to come back. So far, everyone says it would be a good idea to wait it out and that she will come back to me, but the time is killing me. I know a month isn't long, but it feels like a decade to me.
It seems like every time we talk to try and work things out, she starts to cry about it. I agree to go our separate ways, she'll cry. I agree to stay friends with her, she'll cry. I apologise and she says, "Don't be".
Any advice?
I don't think she is man, I wouldn't get my hopes out to wait for a girl who probably isn't coming back :frown:
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;28943009]We like to make up excuses that we can't ask someone out. I'd figure more than half of the "problems" people have are just them being a pussy and not wanting to sack up and do it. Not trying to imply I'm any better.[/QUOTE]
I'd definitely agree with that haha. I'm such a pussy.
friend zone is a funny thing
it's the lowest treatment a male can get, when a woman puts you in the friend zone it means she's classified you as a low-rank male that should be fed on, lead on, and never given any in return. She's not interested sexually in a low-rank male because it doesn't appear as promising genetic material to her. "Friends" should be manipulated and used as a source of free gifts and as an emotional dump. This is really an instinctive principle that's supposed to work in a tribal society where there's a free sexual market and the alpha male is dominating it, up until the 20th century, friend zone wasn't really that much of a problem. Now when women are free though and there's nothing to shut up the tribal instincts which we still have because the society and civilization developed too fast for us to evolve along, some western civilizations are pretty much fucked.
Should I elaborate on this point of view?
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;28931779]It's definitely a no no to ask out over facebook right?[/QUOTE]
Yes, be a man.
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