Damn, 3 years. Is she really amazing, or is it simply how unreachable she is that makes her appear so desirable?
The long distance thing will not work for a long period of time, it just doesn't. I'd suggest moving on and just keeping her as a nice online friend you can chat to, but nothing more. There's girls everywhere, why settle for one 1000 miles away?
[QUOTE=super_yurtle;29108099]I met this girl online, [b]we have talked for 3 years and then we finally met this passed February. She's really an amazing girl[/b], but she's just too far away. (approx. 1000 miles) She is planning on coming to see me again in the summer time for a longer period of time.
I go to college, and I obviously also have some girl options in real life, but I feel like I [b]don't want to just settle for something less than the above girl[/b], you know what i mean? I just don't know what to do in my situation, do I attempt to make the long distance thing work, or do I just say fuck it (altogether) or waiting to get on my feet after college for making the first girl to work out.
What would you guys do? What advice can you guys give me?[/QUOTE]
I say forget about her. She is likely to be this really amazing girl that is a cut above the rest, because in your head, you are making her out to be that girl. It's your imagination, man. You can only get so close in an online/long distance relationship. You aren't getting to know all the faults and annoyances as you would in a closer one.
Plus, if you waste your time on her, you could be missing out on a ton of useful dating experience with girls who are close at hand to you.
[QUOTE=.Cheezy.;29109241]I say forget about her. She is likely to be this really amazing girl that is a cut above the rest, because in your head, you are making her out to be that girl. It's your imagination, man. You can only get so close in an online/long distance relationship. You aren't getting to know all the faults and annoyances as you would in a closer one.
Plus, if you waste your time on her, you could be missing out on a ton of useful dating experience with girls who are close at hand to you.[/QUOTE]
This. No matter who the girl is, you're going to think she's the most amazing girl out there if you're infatuated with her. It's probably like Dark said, she's unreachable so she's desirable to you. 10 bucks says if you met her at school or something like that, you wouldn't think she's anything special.
Relationships rarely work out. It's better to give it a lot of shots and have relationships that don't work out over waiting for this one girl and hoping it works. Because odds are it won't, and you will have wasted a ton of time and missed out on a ton of experience.
[QUOTE=.Cheezy.;29109241]I say forget about her. She is likely to be this really amazing girl that is a cut above the rest, because in your head, you are making her out to be that girl. It's your imagination, man. You can only get so close in an online/long distance relationship. You aren't getting to know all the faults and annoyances as you would in a closer one.
Plus, if you waste your time on her, you could be missing out on a ton of useful dating experience with girls who are close at hand to you.[/QUOTE]
Whoops, sorry for the optimistic rating on accident.
I get what you guys are saying, and that's why its a hard decision.
Thanks for the feedback you all, and this really helped get my thoughts in order!
I hate infatuation.
Maverick, no offense, but I think people should stop taking your advice on how to talk to girls. This is a MUCH better way to learn.
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bj3-n5-s_fw[/media]
Lol nobody acts as bitchy as that girl, and most of the time both options were weird.
Theres some girl pissing in my bathroom, what do I do?
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Quick
[QUOTE=Asm;29113191]Theres some girl pissing in my bathroom, what do I do?
[editline]11th April 2011[/editline]
Quick[/QUOTE]
let her piss
[editline]11th April 2011[/editline]
jesus
Blast her with piss.
Or spy on her through the keyhole
Or both.
That video is hilarious.
Hmmm need some advice.
So to begin, there is this really really really hot girl, and I grew the courage to talk to her and we got talking and then ended up going on a date. It was so awesome too. So I figured out from her friend that shes not into boyfriend/girlfriend thing but she wants to be hookup buddies with me. It doesn't really seem like her personality at all, but whatever. I kinda want more than just hooking up, ya know? I feel like if we do then my feeling will grow stronger and it will be harder to forget her, but then if we do she may want to be a couple. Of course I want to hook up with her, but is it the best option?
If she only wants a hook-up buddy, and you already want more, then you shouldn't by any means go for it - it always ends badly when one part wants more than the other.
[QUOTE=SaWAH;29115793]If she only wants a hook-up buddy, and you already want more, then you shouldn't by any means go for it - it always ends badly when one part wants more than the other.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=SaWAH;29115793]If she only wants a hook-up buddy, and you already want more, then you shouldn't by any means go for it - it always ends badly when one part wants more than the other.[/QUOTE]
God :( It's fricken like chance of a lifetime....she is gorgeous and nice and fucking awesome. fml
There'll be other girls. It isn't the chance of a lifetime.
Top 10 in our school. As rated by a big group of my friends. Not even brought up by me.
I'm in band. and boyscouts. Trust me.
chance of a lifetime
High school isn't your entire life. There will be other chances in college and whatnot.
It's your life, do whatever the fuck you want. However, I'm calling that you hook up with her, then get all butthurt because she doesn't want to be a couple. Then she avoids you altogether because you start acting like a clingy little girl.
Alright, that makes sense. Kills me though, man.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29116066]you hook up with her, then get all butthurt because she doesn't want to be a couple. Then she avoids you altogether because you start acting like a clingy little girl.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Barnhouse;29110185]I hate infatuation.[/QUOTE]
I am currently a victim of this terrible affliction.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29116246]I am currently a victim of this terrible affliction.[/QUOTE]
I have a cure, shoot it down and bury it far as possible from your mental state of perfected logic
seriously it is annoying
I asked a really cool and cute girl out, but she said she couldn't come that day, she didn't suggest any alternative day, and she obviously didn't want to go out with me. But the rejection didn't feel that bad, I actually feel good because I had the guts to ask her out. Atleast now I no longer feel that I might be missing a chance because I was a pussy.
Now that I think about it, It makes me a bit sad, because she isn't the first girl that turns me down.
[QUOTE=Destroyertf;29116541]I asked a really cool and cute girl out, but she said she couldn't come that day, she didn't suggest any alternative day, and she obviously didn't want to go out with me. But the rejection didn't feel that bad, I actually feel good because I had the guts to ask her out. Atleast now I no longer feel that I might be missing a chance because I was a pussy.
Now that I think about it, It makes me a bit sad, because she isn't the first girl that turns me down.[/QUOTE]
At least you asked them instead of just debating over what to do in your head.
[QUOTE=Destroyertf;29116541]I asked a really cool and cute girl out, but she said she couldn't come that day, she didn't suggest any alternative day, and she obviously didn't want to go out with me. But the rejection didn't feel that bad, I actually feel good because I had the guts to ask her out. Atleast now I no longer feel that I might be missing a chance because I was a pussy.
Now that I think about it, It makes me a bit sad, because she isn't the first girl that turns me down.[/QUOTE]
Thats a better outcome than being chicken and never asking her out in the first place. Seriously, I can't tell you how many times I have majorly regretted not asking a girl out. Im pretty sure that if that chick says no that im going to ask tomorrow, I will still feel ok in the fact that I finally maned up and asked.
Last September I met this girl and wanted to ask her out. 2 or 3 days before I was going to actually ask, she changed her relationship status on Facebook so I was like "Dammit" and didn't ask her out. We did become pretty good friends after that though. She broke up with her boyfriend a month or two ago.
I was talking to her on faceb0ok a few minutes ago, and yesterday she was telling me about some crazy dream she had (I'll spare you the details but at one point she went to some restaurant), so I just threw out the idea of going to that restaurant today, not as a date but just a thing friends do. She said "that's not how you ask a girl out," and I'm thinking "well shit, she think's I'm asking her out," so I just say "ok" then ask her out in a more serious way. She has French tutoring tonight, but she's cool with tomorrow.
[b]tl;dr[/b] Ask friend of mine to do something, she thinks I'm asking her out, so I ask her out, it's a yes.
No more forever alone :unsmith:
I can't decided if i should forget this bitch or not.
I mean they are my friend, but at the same time, im tired of liking them and watching them go out with complete losers.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29116246]I am currently a victim of this terrible affliction.[/QUOTE]
Nothing wrong with infatuation, it feels good. It's only a terrible thing when you let it convince you that you're in love.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29116884]Nothing wrong with infatuation, it feels good. It's only a terrible thing when you let it convince you that you're in love.[/QUOTE]
Luckily I'm not that dense.
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Well, it doesn't always feel good.
[QUOTE=Raptor;29115888]Top 10 in our school. As rated by a big group of my friends. Not even brought up by me.
I'm in band. and boyscouts. Trust me.
chance of a lifetime[/QUOTE]
hahaha
band or boyscouts shouldn't be excuses for you not getting pussy
best girls are found outside of school anyways, they have no pre-thoughts about you before meeting you therefore bitchy friends can't sabotage shit
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