• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28259839]I think you're taking the right steps. You'll get over your ex in time. Doesn't feel like you will, but you will, as long as you remain out of contact with him. As for going out on dates, yeah, you're probably not going to "feel it" for a while, simply because you're still recovering from the trauma your previous relationships caused you. However, going out on dates will put you on the fast track to recovery. Sure, the other guys might be more into you than you are into them, but just try to relax and have a good time. Just don't jump into any relationships for a while. Don't go out with a dude and think that you have to get with him just because you like him. Let things happen slow and just take it easy, you'll be fine.[/QUOTE] You're a babe. I think I knew it really, it's just scary to admit that things are going to start changing, ya know? And I think that's my BIGGEST problem- thinking that just cos I find someone attractive and they said I was pretty, I have to go out with them. I need to pull the reins in a bit - I tend to jump right in and that's what gets me hurt. That's why I always go back to my ex cos he's what I know, and it's comfortable. Thanks man :)
[QUOTE=geogzm;28259886]gf moved away everybody else is a chav or a mental ugly freak around here ugh[/QUOTE] This is one of the most retarded mindsets someone could have. Newsflash, you thought your girlfriend was different because you were with her. I'm willing to bet that she wasn't any better than anyone else where you live. With that in mind, go out and talk to people instead of sitting on some stupid ass high horse. Judging people before you know anything about them is stupid and unfair, 10 bucks says that there's plenty of girls way better than your girlfriend in every aspect, you're just too full of shit like "hurr everyone is stupid and ugly" to go out and find them.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;28253859]What is your "fate"? To be a lonely, miserable, depressed teenager for the rest of your life? Why does anyone want to be "the guy no one ever invites anywhere."? "Being yourself and just doing nothing" is not going to get you out of these lows. You're always going to feel miserable and pathetic if you keep hating yourself and giving up. Get out there, make friends. I don't give a shit if you think you're better or smarter than them, or that they're less mature than you. Because look, they're happy aren't they? Go socialize with them, and actually try have fun. Nothing is ever going to change if you don't do anything about it.[/QUOTE] You really have not idea on how to treat depressed people, it makes me depressed just reading what you said, Try to be nicer and explain how he could be more happy, rather than calling him a pussy.
From my personal experience, the "tough love" approach works a lot better than the "awww everything will be okay" approach. The point is to piss the person off and make them want to pull themselves out of the hole just to spite you.
Am I Rite? - If I ask a girl's number through IM chat she'll think of me as a friend/creep and if I ask a girl's number IRL she'll think of me as a boyfriend material?
Eh, not really. I ask for girl's numbers via facebook and whatnot all the time. If I'm talking to a girl via chat and have to go do something else, I'll give her my number and tell her to text me. However, if you come right out and say "What's your phone number?" it might come off as creepy.
[QUOTE=Fedly;28260590]Am I Rite? - If I ask a girl's number through IM chat she'll think of me as a friend/creep and if I ask a girl's number IRL she'll think of me as a boyfriend material?[/QUOTE] -snip- Misread question.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28260521]From my personal experience, the "tough love" approach works a lot better than the "awww everything will be okay" approach. The point is to piss the person off and make them want to pull themselves out of the hole just to spite you.[/QUOTE] Must be my weak personality, but the tough love approach pisses me the fuck off. Maybe because my father used it all the time when I was young, so now it's just something I ignore.
Hmm, what's the point of texting when you're IM chatting with her. I'm feeling like there's something wrong: I just asked a girl's MSN over Facebook, she added me there and the first thing she said was "chatting" and I can't come up with a response and just ignored it. Now my head is saying "Write something to her!" but I can't come up with something that'll make her type more. I guess I'm in a conclusion that she's not interested for a chat but that's the reason she gave me her MSN. Also I can't believe I'm guessing people's moods when chatting with them. When it's an instant and one-word response then I'll accept it as a "negative" response.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28260120]This is one of the most retarded mindsets someone could have. Newsflash, you thought your girlfriend was different because you were with her. I'm willing to bet that she wasn't any better than anyone else where you live. With that in mind, go out and talk to people instead of sitting on some stupid ass high horse. Judging people before you know anything about them is stupid and unfair, 10 bucks says that there's plenty of girls way better than your girlfriend in every aspect, you're just too full of shit like "hurr everyone is stupid and ugly" to go out and find them.[/QUOTE] i'm not on a high horse my school has most of the area's little gangster shitheads and a large portion of the girls are either extremely ugly or have some mental shit wrong with them (one of them, for example, sat under a chair and screamed for mummy and she's 14) and the small portion of decent girls are all taken outside of school isn't much different either, but none of my friends know anybody
I mean I though of something like this: Chill mood: "Hey, what you're doing? :)" in an instant "TALKING" except it wasn't all capitalised.
[QUOTE=Fedly;28261259]I mean I though of something like this: Chill mood: "Hey, what you're doing? :)" in an instant "TALKING" except it wasn't all capitalised.[/QUOTE] So... change the subject or something. If she continues to be weird and untalkative shes not worth the trouble.
An X of mine left a letter on my pillow the other day. This letter contained a lot of female thoughts I could not relate to but I think I got the general gist of it: Sup, Still love you, I know we broke up like six months ago [I]blablablablablablablablabla [/I]if you take the initiative I'd love to give us another try. Obviously I thrashed the letter since I have nil interest in the girl but this has nothing to do with why I'm asking for advice. The door to my flat was locked, I confronted my flatmate about it and he said that he didn't have anything to do with it which leaves only two options: [B]a)[/B] I still see a lot of the friends me and my X has in common and she might have gotten one them to drop it off. [B]b)[/B] The last 4 months of her stalking me on Facebook has taken a turn for the worse. Obviously option [B]b[/B] is unlikely as fuck, though I have taken a single precautionary measure by deleting her on Facebook, [B]a[/B] however is very likely and wouldn't do much harm if it wasn't for the fact that p.t I'm sort of in a relationship. So how do I in a friendly way tell our common associates that she should just let it go? Or do I just let it be and make no response? And most importantly, how can I turn this in the favour of my current relationship?
How do i know when she is no longer, "just dating" and she is now my girlfriend?
[QUOTE=gol4z03;28262300]How do i know when she is no longer, "just dating" and she is now my girlfriend?[/QUOTE] When the relationship naturally progresses towards that direction. Are you spending a lot of time with each other that doesn't count as dates? If so, then you're making the progression towards girlfriend. You shouldn't concern yourself with officially announcing it or anything. "Will you be my girlfriend?" and whatnot is such elementary bullshit. [editline]24th February 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=kaskade700;28262030]An X of mine left a letter on my pillow the other day. This letter contained a lot of female thoughts I could not relate to but I think I got the general gist of it: Sup, Still love you, I know we broke up like six months ago [I]blablablablablablablablabla [/I]if you take the initiative I'd love to give us another try. Obviously I thrashed the letter since I have nil interest in the girl but this has nothing to do with why I'm asking for advice. The door to my flat was locked, I confronted my flatmate about it and he said that he didn't have anything to do with it which leaves only two options: [B]a)[/B] I still see a lot of the friends me and my X has in common and she might have gotten one them to drop it off. [B]b)[/B] The last 4 months of her stalking me on Facebook has taken a turn for the worse. Obviously option [B]b[/B] is unlikely as fuck, though I have taken a single precautionary measure by deleting her on Facebook, [B]a[/B] however is very likely and wouldn't do much harm if it wasn't for the fact that p.t I'm sort of in a relationship. So how do I in a friendly way tell our common associates that she should just let it go? Or do I just let it be and make no response? And most importantly, how can I turn this in the favour of my current relationship?[/QUOTE] Just ignore it completely.
So, about not getting to be good friends with the girl first... Should I at least START with "Hang out" as the first time going out, so we get to know each-other a little better, or just start with "You wanna go out some time"?
You're better off just starting off with going out. The entire point of asking someone out is to get to know them. Why this concept is so abstract to people, I have no idea.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28262603]You're better off just starting off with going out. The entire point of asking someone out is to get to know them. Why this concept is so abstract to people, I have no idea.[/QUOTE] It's abstract to me because I barely have a concept of how relationships start, since I've been homeschooled all my life and don't get out much. I mean, I know how they work once you start dating and such just from common sense.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28262603]You're better off just starting off with going out. The entire point of asking someone out is to get to know them. Why this concept is so abstract to people, I have no idea.[/QUOTE] Lot of people think of it like they're getting married to the person.
maverick is just a fat neckbeard loser sitting behind a computer giving false advice. all hail maverick because he is a woman master! [img]http://i.imgur.com/FnLjn.jpg[/img]
My love advice is to: graduate from high school go to college get a house Get baked Cry sleep get a beard Do what you want to and GO TO CLASS!!! YOU NEED TO LEARN SHIT -Edit- Neckbeards are nice people............
Oh yeah, fat neckbeard city over here. [img]http://c3.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/95/l_ce66f36f3aef40a4a1162bb7b98e218a.jpg[/img] My face whenever people get jelly.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28263359]Oh yeah, fat neckbeard city over here. [img_thumb]http://c3.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/95/l_ce66f36f3aef40a4a1162bb7b98e218a.jpg[/img_thumb] My face whenever people get jelly.[/QUOTE] Is that your mum.
Classic start: So there is this girl in my school... No really, she's one of those girls that pops up in your mind all the time, breaks your concentration and sets it off at the thought of her. As soon as she gets in my view it's hard to take my eyes off her face, and as soon as I see her open her mouth I concentrate at hearing what she says. My problem is we don't talk, we don't know eachother, and so on. That fact plus the one that I'm not... The most handsome man in this world (even though I, without bragging, believe I have a good personality) I find it very hard to follow Maverick's tips, and I'm unsure about what to do. Any advice? :frown:
Haha, what? That's a 19-20 year old girl, haha.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28260521]From my personal experience, the "tough love" approach works a lot better than the "awww everything will be okay" approach. The point is to piss the person off and make them want to pull themselves out of the hole just to spite you.[/QUOTE] It's true If someone told me "Fuck you you're never going to <something I would like to do> you're too <character flaw>" my first response is "Fuck that guy! I'll show him who's really <character flaw>"!
[QUOTE=Fhux;28263410]Classic start: So there is this girl in my school... No really, she's one of those girls that pops up in your mind all the time, breaks your concentration and sets it off at the thought of her. As soon as she gets in my view it's hard to take my eyes off her face, and as soon as I see her open her mouth I concentrate at hearing what she says. My problem is we don't talk, we don't know eachother, and so on. That fact plus the one that I'm not... The most handsome man in this world (even though I, without bragging, believe I have a good personality) I find it very hard to follow Maverick's tips, and I'm unsure about what to do. Any advice? :frown:[/QUOTE] Sweet fucking jesus just ask her out. Like I've said 20 million times, the whole point of asking someone out is to get to know them.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28263456]Sweet fucking jesus just ask her out. Like I've said 20 million times, the whole point of asking someone out is to get to know them.[/QUOTE] nuh uh asking someone out is like being married to them!
Fuck it, next time I see her I'm just gonna go for it, no point beating around the bush about it. If she says yes, fantastic, my confidence will skyrocket, if she says no... well, I guess I'll stay sad and lonely until someone else comes along.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;28263476]nuh uh asking someone out is like being married to them![/QUOTE] Depends on the person, for some people asking them out is relationship others asking them out is just going to get a drink or something to get to know each other. I much prefer the later, it really annoys me that girls can't get than concept.
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