• Maverick's Love/Relationship/Social Advice Megathread
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Hahahahahaha. But yeah when people say "the friendzone doesn't exist", that doesn't mean you can't go and do 1000 things which are going to work against you and make the girl see you as more and more of a friend. To me the friend zone does exist, but only as an easy way to describe the problem itself.
All Maverick is saying is that people view the friend zone as a classical finite potential well with a particle of insufficient energy to escape trapped inside whereas in reality the relationship should be treated quantum mechanically and the wavefunction of the relationship particle tunnels outside the friendzone well.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29435757]All Maverick is saying is that people view the friend zone as a classical finite potential well with a particle of insufficient energy to escape trapped inside whereas in reality the relationship should be treated quantum mechanically and the wavefunction of the relationship particle tunnels outside the friendzone well.[/QUOTE] Exactly.
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29435757]All Maverick is saying is that people view the friend zone as a classical finite potential well with a particle of insufficient energy to escape trapped inside whereas in reality the relationship should be treated quantum mechanically and the wavefunction of the relationship particle tunnels outside the friendzone well.[/QUOTE] obvious again
[QUOTE=zzzZZZZ;29435785]obvious again[/QUOTE] "Hi, I am Mr. Unoriginal." Wat?
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;29434597]Hahahahahaha. But yeah when people say "the friendzone doesn't exist", that doesn't mean you can't go and do 1000 things which are going to work against you and make the girl see you as more and more of a friend. To me the friend zone does exist, but only as an easy way to describe the problem itself.[/QUOTE] somewhere, my physics teacher stirs from his sleep. his wife asks him, "whats wrong, paul?" "nothing... just... nothing."
I've been with this girl for quite a while now, but we haven't gone out or done anything or really moved forward at all. I know that she is still nervous about the prospect of being in a relationship, even though I've been with her for almost a year now. I'm thinking now that she may be a lost cause, but whenever I see her again I can't help but continue trying to improve the relationship. Basically we're totally stagnant, and anything that I say/do hinting towards a relationship awakens some kind of sleeping beast of awkward that hides between the two of us. What do
So are you with her or not? You need to nut up and talk about it. Don't just hint about it, approach it head on. Ask her if she wants to make it an official relationship. Don't say "Well, I was thinking, um, if you'd want to, I mean it's okay with me if you don't, you know, try out the whole relationship thing with, you know, me."
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;29437254]So are you with her or not? You need to nut up and talk about it. Don't just hint about it, approach it head on. Ask her if she wants to make it an official relationship. Don't say "Well, I was thinking, um, if you'd want to, I mean it's okay with me if you don't, you know, try out the whole relationship thing with, you know, me."[/QUOTE] I don't know why but having you give it to me straight makes me want to take action. You're the fucking best
[QUOTE=salmonmarine;29437295]I don't know why but having you give it to me straight makes me want to take action. You're the fucking best[/QUOTE] now grow a dick and quit sucking one
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;29435757]All Maverick is saying is that people view the friend zone as a classical finite potential well with a particle of insufficient energy to escape trapped inside whereas in reality the relationship should be treated quantum mechanically and the wavefunction of the relationship particle tunnels outside the friendzone well.[/QUOTE] Worryingly this actually explains it rather well to me. Fuck yeah superposition.
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[QUOTE=Phsykotik;29436197]"Hi, I am Mr. Unoriginal." Wat?[/QUOTE] Twas a joke.
[QUOTE=zzzZZZZ;29442181]Twas a joke.[/QUOTE] As was my comment.
Okay, well...here's the case. The girl I like is pretty much heartbroken over some other guy for the past year and is afraid of being lied to and trusted and 'cause of this, she said she might need QUITE some time before she can think like that when I told her that I liked her, which is fine by me since I need my time too. It's been almost 2 weeks now since I met her at a party and all's going fine - like we message pretty much most of the day, flirt, and have fun. Anyway, recently (for the past 3 days), she hasn't been really herself and whenever she does reply, it's one of those curt, short, and cold messages, but then again, a day ago...she was fine. She apologized 'cause she thought she was pms'ing and today morning, it's coldness all over again. How am I supposed to tread during these times and well, any other suggestion to instill some confidence in this girl that I'm not a liar and betrayer? o.O Thanks!
I asked a girl out a few months ago and she made an extremely long excuse to say no, and I was okay with it and everything and soon after settled that it'd be better to just stay as friends anyway. However, since then I haven't really seen her much and I haven't seen her at school for like a month. I don't have any other girls in mind for taking to prom, and wanted other people's opinions on whether or not asking her to prom would be a bad move (aka stupid) or if it shouldn't make a difference. I have no intentions on going with her as anything beyond friends, it would seriously just be a friend thing, but I don't know how she'll interpret it if I ask her regardless of whether I say "just as friends." And no, there are pretty much no other girls at my school I would consider asking because the rest of the female friends I have already have dates or don't even want to go, and I wouldn't want to go with someone I don't know that well.
You simply can't make her believe something her mind is set on believing, believe me. I was kind of in the same position as her. I had a thing with this guy after my ex broke up with me. We could've been great together, I'm sure of that, however, the break up with my ex had completely stripped me of selfconfidence and my trust in others. This guy tried to assure me that he wasn't going to do anything to harm me - at least that wasn't his intentions - but the thing is: I knew this when I was thinking rationally, but I just couldn't go through with a relationship with a nagging doubt across my heart, so what kind of relationship we could've had never happened. And that's fine. It's not something I regret, but I do regret feeling that way for more than a year, but perhaps it's something she has to go through, just like me, to get over her ex, and I'm glad I waited until I was completely happy with myself and the people around me before I got into a relationship - it wouldn't have worked if I didn't even have any love for myself anyway. I'm in a happy relationship now, and it's a better relationship than I could've had with anyone at that time in life. [editline]27th April 2011[/editline] @ Ihades
[QUOTE=Ihades;29460410]I told her that I liked her.[/QUOTE] Why. [QUOTE=DSG;29460456]I asked a girl out a few months ago and she made an extremely long excuse to say no, and I was okay with it and everything and soon after settled that it'd be better to just stay as friends anyway. However, since then I haven't really seen her much and I haven't seen her at school for like a month. I don't have any other girls in mind for taking to prom, and wanted other people's opinions on whether or not asking her to prom would be a bad move (aka stupid) or if it shouldn't make a difference. I have no intentions on going with her as anything beyond friends, it would seriously just be a friend thing, but I don't know how she'll interpret it if I ask her regardless of whether I say "just as friends." And no, there are pretty much no other girls at my school I would consider asking because the rest of the female friends I have already have dates or don't even want to go, and I wouldn't want to go with someone I don't know that well.[/QUOTE] Don't go? Or go with a bunch of friends? Who gives a shit dude, it's only prom. If you don't have any other intentions with her than as friends then why does it even matter.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;29460737]Why. [/QUOTE] I get that you're trying to be like Maverick but it's really not some social taboo thing to say you like someone, it's just a less than subtle way of showing you have feelings. If it's handled carefully (as this guy seems like he did) then it shouldn't ruin his chances at all.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;29460737]Don't go? Or go with a bunch of friends? Who gives a shit dude, it's only prom. If you don't have any other intentions with her than as friends then why does it even matter.[/QUOTE] I am going with a bunch of friends, and each of them have dates. I don't want to be "that guy." Basically the gist I'm getting from your reply is that I shouldn't give a fuck and should just ask her if I want, and if she says no then she can go fuck herself and I should just go by myself.
I'm not trying to be like Maverick at all, unless you mean in the way that we both like to give good advice. It's a terrible idea to ever tell a girl you like them, and this guy didn't handle it carefully at all. He told her he had feelings for her whilst she was still caught up over her ex, and they had only been talking for two weeks prior. Now she is full aware of how he feels about her, and so it makes it easy for her to tell him to wait for her to get over her ex, and in the meantime our friend is left standing there with his dick in his hands. His chances may not be ruined completely, but it certainly didn't achieve anything either. [editline]27th April 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=DSG;29460899]I am going with a bunch of friends, and each of them have dates. I don't want to be "that guy." Basically the gist I'm getting from your reply is that I shouldn't give a fuck and should just ask her if I want, and if she says no then she can go fuck herself and I should just go by myself.[/QUOTE] Well fair enough, but yeah if you don't want to be alone and it's a completely casual affair then just tell her that. Make a joke out of it, be like "So want to help each other not be loners at the prom?" or something. If she gets all awkward about it you can just be blatant and say you really only want a friend for the night, and if she still rejects that then fuck it. You'll survive.
[QUOTE=DSG;29460456]I asked a girl out a few months ago and she made an extremely long excuse to say no, and I was okay with it and everything and soon after settled that it'd be better to just stay as friends anyway. However, since then I haven't really seen her much and I haven't seen her at school for like a month. I don't have any other girls in mind for taking to prom, and wanted other people's opinions on whether or not asking her to prom would be a bad move (aka stupid) or if it shouldn't make a difference. I have no intentions on going with her as anything beyond friends, it would seriously just be a friend thing, but I don't know how she'll interpret it if I ask her regardless of whether I say "just as friends." And no, there are pretty much no other girls at my school I would consider asking because the rest of the female friends I have already have dates or don't even want to go, and I wouldn't want to go with someone I don't know that well.[/QUOTE] Ask a pretty, dateless girl that you don't know. As long as you're not awkward about it, you'll have fun.
I met my girlfriend about 3 months ago. Though today she has gained some weight, noticeable weight. I KNOW that you're not supposed to say anything to her about it, but how can I get her to lose the weight without being rude?
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[QUOTE=collegegrad;29465938]I met my girlfriend about 3 months ago. Though today she has gained some weight, noticeable weight. I KNOW that you're not supposed to say anything to her about it, but how can I get her to lose the weight without being rude?[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=collegegrad;29284956]No shit. I don't even have a girlfriend lol Every now and then I come here and take a giant dump in this thread. [b]Edit[/b] Oh darn I can't rate myself anymore. I was trying to rate myself Winner. Would someone do that for me? Thanks. [highlight](User was banned for this post ("Shitposting." - Pascall))[/highlight][/QUOTE] Could you be any more obvious? :rolleyes:
Can you guys just give me an answer? Sheesh.
No. Because it's not a real question, you're obviously lying.
well he's either lying now or he's lying when he said he was lying [editline]28th April 2011[/editline] either way it's very sad
I actually do have a girlfriend. Been with her for over 3 months. I really do have this problem. I was thinking of asking her to start working out with me because I need motivation.
Tell her she's fat. She'll become bulimic and skinny.
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