• A parent (not mine) has royally pissed me off.
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I'm imagining the woman closing her legs really really fast right before the guy enters. Ouch.
I agree that you are kind of a jerk, however she is an even worse parent. I hope her children grow up to be successful and refuse to support her in her old age and reply "You didn't want us, why should we want you."
Here is a story from the other side of the coin. From a parent. So my wife and kids and I all have a great relationship. We never hit of even raise our voices with our kids. Except for when we are playing, which we do a lot. I often tell the kids that I'm gonna give them a knuckle sandwich, to which they only know as me raising my hand in the form of a fist. They wouldn't ever even dream of me hitting them, or anyone hitting them for that matter. And as for the yelling, well, I own and run a construction company so I do a lot of yelling. With them I yell a lot but it is all in jest. They always give me the, "ah common Daddy, be serious." So anyhow, I'm at Home Depot with the wife and kids and we're going to be doing a landscaping project together. We're covering a hill in this plant called vinca minor. Well, my kids are a little young to read so I told them to get the plants off the shelf that start with the letter V and not the other ones. They had other ones mixed in that looked the same called Creeping Myrtle. So anyhow, as they are loading the cart with the Vinca I notice that one of the plants is the Creeping Myrtle. I was laughing on the inside but on the outside I looked mad as hell, I scowled at the kids and growled out "Which one of you gave me the Creep Myrtle, I told you Vinca and I meant it!!" The kids were looking at me laughing but behind them I noticed an old lady across the isle was giving me the worst look. I just know that she wanted to open her mouth about how I should raise my kids. I'm really glad that she didn't wreak our fun. I'm sure to this day that old woman still tells stories about the jerk at Home Depot whipping his kids for picking up the wrong plant. She still probably wishes that she's spoken up and told me off. I must admit that it does not sound like the woman was playing around with that kid but did your involvement help the child our just boost your own ego? I have gotten involved in other peoples parenting in the past but it was a matter of physical safety for the child. Anything other then that and I would have to know my role and shut my hole, so to speak. Oh and on a side note for anyone that read this whole mess, as it turns out....Vinca and Creeping Myrtle are just different names for the same plant.... :)
[QUOTE=wildwill;20657564]Here is a story from the other side of the coin. From a parent. So my wife and kids and I all have a great relationship. We never hit of even raise our voices with our kids. Except for when we are playing, which we do a lot. I often tell the kids that I'm gonna give them a knuckle sandwich, to which they only know as me raising my hand in the form of a fist. They wouldn't ever even dream of me hitting them, or anyone hitting them for that matter. And as for the yelling, well, I own and run a construction company so I do a lot of yelling. With them I yell a lot but it is all in jest. They always give me the, "ah common Daddy, be serious." So anyhow, I'm at Home Depot with the wife and kids and we're going to be doing a landscaping project together. We're covering a hill in this plant called vinca minor. Well, my kids are a little young to read so I told them to get the plants off the shelf that start with the letter V and not the other ones. They had other ones mixed in that looked the same called Creeping Myrtle. So anyhow, as they are loading the cart with the Vinca I notice that one of the plants is the Creeping Myrtle. I was laughing on the inside but on the outside I looked mad as hell, I scowled at the kids and growled out "Which one of you gave me the Creep Myrtle, I told you Vinca and I meant it!!" The kids were looking at me laughing but behind them I noticed an old lady across the isle was giving me the worst look. I just know that she wanted to open her mouth about how I should raise my kids. I'm really glad that she didn't wreak our fun. I'm sure to this day that old woman still tells stories about the jerk at Home Depot whipping his kids for picking up the wrong plant. She still probably wishes that she's spoken up and told me off. I must admit that it does not sound like the woman was playing around with that kid but did your involvement help the child our just boost your own ego? I have gotten involved in other peoples parenting in the past but it was a matter of physical safety for the child. Anything other then that and I would have to know my role and shut my hole, so to speak. Oh and on a side note for anyone that read this whole mess, as it turns out....Vinca and Creeping Myrtle are just different names for the same plant.... :)[/QUOTE] Boosting my ego? Not for me. I don't like egos, nor people who intentionally boost them. The comment was never to hurt, nor harm. It was merely a question of "Why do you have kids, if you don't want them?"
[QUOTE=Identity;20658267]Boosting my ego? Not for me. I don't like egos, nor people who intentionally boost them. The comment was never to hurt, nor harm. It was merely a question of "Why do you have kids, if you don't want them?"[/QUOTE] You were trying to provoke a response out of her. Get her goat, get a rise out of her. You never intended on any logical answer, that was NOT your objective. You came here to boast about your event thus inflating your ego further.
A lot of people hate kids in todays society, good job sticking up for the toddler. Something I would want to do, but wouldn't have the guts with that fatty blocking the isle.
You did the right thing it's the small little acts of good that make a difference, even though it probably won't change her mind or anything, it's good that there are some worthwhile people in the world who won't put up with stupid shit like this.
I love people like you, Identity.
[QUOTE=wildwill;20658393]You were trying to provoke a response out of her. Get her goat, get a rise out of her. You never intended on any logical answer, that was NOT your objective. You came here to boast about your event thus inflating your ego further.[/QUOTE] You are citing smart facts to boost your ego on an internet forum. There are no selfless deeds, we do everything for our own selfish desires thus you cannot say boosting his ego was his rationale as its universal.
[QUOTE=duckduckdean;20658761]You are citing smart facts to boost your ego on an internet forum. There are no selfless deeds, we do everything for our own selfish desires thus you cannot say boosting his ego was his rationale as its universal.[/QUOTE] What? Yes I can and did.
[QUOTE=wildwill;20658784]What? Yes I can and did.[/QUOTE] I'm saying everyone does everything partially for their own ego or their own benefit so calling the Op out on that is redundant.. He had good intentions behind it and thats what matters.
When the fat lady opened her mouth, before she even spoke, you should've screamed "OH GOD DON'T EAT ME!"
[QUOTE=duckduckdean;20658819]I'm saying everyone does everything partially for their own ego or their own benefit so calling the Op out on that is redundant.. He had good intentions behind it and thats what matters.[/QUOTE] And I'm saying, what were those intentions? Was he going to change her parenting behaviors? No. Was he going to make the little boy feel better? No. What good was going to come of this? Anything? No Or was it just a cheap shot at someone that had nothing to do with him and he felt that he could get away with it? Yes Maybe I'm wrong here, care to explain further?
Well, I know that was mean of her to say, but maybe the kid's a douche. Watch this clip: [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcnXpOygKGI[/media] Or this: [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4u2ZsoYWwJA&feature=related[/media]
[QUOTE=Gluth;20658905]Well, I know that was mean of her to say, but maybe the kid's a douche. Watch this clip: [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcnXpOygKGI[/media] Or this: [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4u2ZsoYWwJA&feature=related[/media][/QUOTE] That was great! Laughed my ass off.
[QUOTE=wildwill;20658887]And I'm saying, what were those intentions? Was he going to change her parenting behaviors? No. Was he going to make the little boy feel better? No. What good was going to come of this? Anything? No Or was it just a cheap shot at someone that had nothing to do with him and he felt that he could get away with it? Yes Maybe I'm wrong here, care to explain further?[/QUOTE] You know...you do have a point. By telling that lady off in front of her kid you may have made her or the child feel uncomfortable. I agree that she was a bitch if she actually meant her comment but, what can a stranger do? You telling her that did nothing but give those 2 fat bitches more to gossip about on their way home. Sometimes in situations like these though, there's nothing that CAN be done. I commend you for trying but I feel it'd have been better to avoid the whole event.
[QUOTE=wildwill;20658887]And I'm saying, what were those intentions? Was he going to change her parenting behaviors? No. Was he going to make the little boy feel better? No. What good was going to come of this? Anything? No Or was it just a cheap shot at someone that had nothing to do with him and he felt that he could get away with it? Yes Maybe I'm wrong here, care to explain further?[/QUOTE] My intentions? There were none. Sure, I called her out on what she said. I'm not going to try and change someones parenting, nor do I care to do so. Did I make the kid feel better? I don't know. His mom basically said he wasn't wanted, so who knows what he was thinking after I made my statement. There doesn't have to be something that comes out of statements or acts. Did I plan on this happening? No. Did I do this to boost my ego? Hell no. What would I get out of this? Agreement icons and 15 minutes of "internet fame", on Facepunch of all places? Please, if I wanted that I would've become a YouTube celebrity. What your claiming is outrageous in the sense of you condeming my actions to have results. I was looking for none. I knew there would be a reply, but how would I have a way of predicting it?
[QUOTE=Identity;20654987]So I'm grocery shopping last night, browsing amognst grilling spices, when I see this lady and her friend, who, quite literally, is the size of a small sedan, come strolling down the aisle. The younger female, is a bit slimmer, and has two kids, one who is about four, and another who is maybe a few months, to a year old. The older child is trying to get his mother's attention for a question he has. No big deal, could've a been a yes or no answer. What does the mother say to her friend? "This is why you never have children." That made me pissed. I looked at her and said "Why didn't you keep your legs closed then?" She shoots me a glare and tells me to "Mind my own fucking business." Now her fat friend tries to get in on the action. I tell her simply to shut her mouth, because this is a conversation beteween her friend and I. Basically, I tell her to be an actually fucking parent and acknowledge her kid, rather than wish he was gone. Why make a thread about it? I don't really know. I guess it kind of irks me when when a parent says not to have kids in front of her four year old son. I can't imagine how he must feel after that, or if he really interpreted that at all.[/QUOTE] :golfclap:
[QUOTE=Alyx Zark;20659098]You know...you do have a point. By telling that lady off in front of her kid you may have made her or the child feel uncomfortable. I agree that she was a bitch if she actually meant her comment but, what can a stranger do? You telling her that did nothing but give those 2 fat bitches more to gossip about on their way home. Sometimes in situations like these though, there's nothing that CAN be done. I commend you for trying but I feel it'd have been better to avoid the whole event.[/QUOTE] I know what I did was wrong. I'm not here sitting saying "I'm a hero for what I said.". Like I said, it was a spur of the moment comment. I said it, because I couldn't believe what the mother said. Maybe the kid was uncomfortable, or maybe he was happy that someone actually noticed him. Sure they'll gossip about it. What will they tell their friends though? "Hey, I said I wished I didn't have kids, and this guy made a comment about it?" Either way, from my side or hers, we were both in the wrong about we said. I'm not going to take credit for everything. It's an event that happened a day ago. And why avoid it? Why should I be one of those quiet people who say nothing, rather than speak up about it? Why should I have to hold my silence over such a statement?
[QUOTE=Identity;20659112]My intentions? There were none. Sure, I called her out on what she said. I'm not going to try and change someones parenting, nor do I care to do so. Did I make the kid feel better? I don't know. His mom basically said he wasn't wanted, so who knows what he was thinking after I made my statement. There doesn't have to be something that comes out of statements or acts. Did I plan on this happening? No. Did I do this to boost my ego? Hell no. What would I get out of this? Agreement icons and 15 minutes of "internet fame", on Facepunch of all places? Please, if I wanted that I would've become a YouTube celebrity. What your claiming is outrageous in the sense of you condeming my actions to have results. I was looking for none. I knew there would be a reply, but how would I have a way of predicting it?[/QUOTE] I think what the lady did was wrong, and I feel bad for the kid. Kids shouldn't have to put up with that sort of thing. Thanks to your comment to her she most likely took out her frustrations on her kid as soon as they got out to the car. Unless you think that maybe you changed her? So, you, the defender of kids, what have you really done? Nothing much except for piss of a lady that probably beats her kids to relieve stress.
Were they black? For some reason I imagined them being black. You went way over the top, and just should have not said anything, but you are right. If it was me, I would just let them pass, and then said, "I should have told her 'Why didn't you keep your legs closed then?' would have told her, o well." but not actually do it.
[QUOTE=Maccabee;20659331]Were they black? For some reason I imagined them being black. You went way over the top, and just should have not said anything, but you are right. If it was me, I would just let them pass, and then said, "I should have told her 'Why didn't you keep your legs closed then?' would have told her, o well." but not actually do it.[/QUOTE] I kinda have them pegged as white trash, this will be interesting to find out.
[QUOTE=wildwill;20659280]I think what the lady did was wrong, and I feel bad for the kid. Kids shouldn't have to put up with that sort of thing. Thanks to your comment to her she most likely took out her frustrations on her kid as soon as they got out to the car. Unless you think that maybe you changed her? So, you, the defender of kids, what have you really done? Nothing much except for piss of a lady that probably beats her kids to relieve stress.[/QUOTE] You're looking for actions again. And you're jumping to conclusions. What was said, was said. You're a parent, I'm not. Let it be. And yes, they were caucasian females, probably in their low to mid twenties.
[QUOTE=Identity;20659426]You're looking for actions again. And you're jumping to conclusions. What was said, was said. You're a parent, I'm not. Let it be.[/QUOTE] I hope you gained something out of this. I am not trying to give you a hard time but I am trying to make a point that you can understand. Sometime doing nothing is better then kicking the hive. I agree, I don't like people that are mean to their kids. I will do what I can to stop that. But insulting one of them in public only stirs the pot and does nothing to help.
[QUOTE=wildwill;20659501]I hope you gained something out of this. I am not trying to give you a hard time but I am trying to make a point that you can understand. Sometime doing nothing is better then kicking the hive. I agree, I don't like people that are mean to their kids. I will do what I can to stop that. But insulting one of them in public only stirs the pot and does nothing to help.[/QUOTE] Why do I need to gain something out of this? If I said I did, you'd reply that I boosted my ego. And I understand your point, but people who voice their opinions are the ones that make or encourage change. I rather doing something, than do nothing at all. Maybe an insult is what they need to make a change. It could be a wake up call. But for every positive there's a negative. It's a double-edged sword.
[QUOTE=Identity;20659537]Why do I need to gain something out of this? If I said I did, you'd reply that I boosted my ego. And I understand your point, but people who voice their opinions are the ones that make or encourage change. I rather doing something, than do nothing at all. Maybe an insult is what they need to make a change. It could be a wake up call. But for every positive there's a negative. It's a double-edged sword.[/QUOTE] Nope, all you did was kick the hive and and piss off the bee's. There are lots that you can to do to help stop child abuse and mis-treatment. What you did was not one of them. You can make a positive difference in a child's life, maybe consider the Big Brother association?
[QUOTE=wildwill;20659574]Nope, all you did was kick the hive and and piss off the bee's. There are lots that you can to do to help stop child abuse and mis-treatment. What you did was not one of them. You can make a positive difference in a child's life, maybe consider the Big Brother association?[/QUOTE] See, you're claiming I pissed off the parent, and that the child would suffer. How do you know this? You are making assumptions that the child is being abused, and if they were buying food, I doubt the child is being mis-treated. As a parent, you're thinking of the child, and I get that. But you are jumping to very high conclusions. You did not observe what I did, and you cannot make such statements as you did in your previous post.
A lot of people here have no common sense. OP, I side with you on this issue. If I heard something like that though I would probably slap the skank across the face!
[QUOTE=Identity;20659634]See, you're claiming I pissed off the parent, and that the child would suffer. How do you know this? You are making assumptions that the child is being abused, and if they were buying food, I doubt the child is being mis-treated. As a parent, you're thinking of the child, and I get that. But you are jumping to very high conclusions. You did not observe what I did, and you cannot make such statements as you did in your previous post.[/QUOTE] I really am thinking of the child in this. That is and has been my concern from the beginning. I feel like your actions did nothing for the child and only helped boost your ego. We are back at the beginning of the thread.
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