[QUOTE=Identity;20655048]I know right? Sticking up for a kid who's four and wasn't wished for. How horrible for me to say something.[/QUOTE]
It's the way you went about it.
[QUOTE=Laserbeams;20663528]All kids are annoying, you know, but most parents still love them. If you dont, then something is really wrong with you[/QUOTE]
Who said I didn't love my kid?
God I wish I didn't love my kid. That would be amazing. It'd be like "Why the hell am I putting up with shit from you? I don't have to stick around for this bullshit!" Then I could just up and leave and take the child support. But I can't so I don't.
[QUOTE=Lankist;20663552]Who said I didn't love my kid?[/QUOTE]
You called him an asshole
I said my kid is an asshole, not that I am incapable of loving an asshole. I love him but seriously he acts like a douche all of the time.
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[QUOTE=Laserbeams;20663562]You called him an asshole[/QUOTE]
That assumption is the attitude of someone who does not understand parenthood.
Yea, of course it's hard to understand what having a kid is like when you're a teenager, but still, going on forums, ranting about how much of an asshole your kid is is wrong, in my opinion
So you would rather someone bottles up everything so they go murder someone in 20 years?
[QUOTE=Adventbishop;20655082]Identity I'm on your side of this story man I'm rating you agree[/QUOTE]
Advent I'm not on your side because your post consists of a rating I'm rating you dumb
You got some guts OP, I could never do that to some stranger, even if they said some shit like that.
[QUOTE=Lankist;20663620]So you would rather someone bottles up everything so they go murder someone in 20 years?[/QUOTE]
Talk shit about your kids but not when they're around. I highly doubt you'd berate your kid in front of them.
It's a cycle, her kid is gonna end up being like her.
I'm bumping this from the second page because it matters. More people should stand up for kids like the OP did.
[QUOTE=Identity;20654987] get i[b]t[/b] on
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[QUOTE=Identity;20655421]It may be rude, but that kid doesn't have much of a voice. Sorry that I actually care about a child who isn't wanted by his own mother. Maybe if he's lucky he'll end up in foster care, along with the six million others in the U.S., because that's what she should've done, right? Thrown the responsibilty and the kid away to someone else? [/QUOTE]
Actually, the kid would probably be better off with his mother. Do you know how many fucked up things happen in foster care? There are some sick bastards out there.
Then a voice appears and says [B][I]ZA-ZING![/I][/B]
[QUOTE=Laserbeams;20663562]You called him an asshole[/QUOTE]
When it comes to children, You don't have to like them to love them. You could think they were the biggest douchebag on the planet, but still love them because they're your fucking kid. I can say this because the same thing applies to siblings. I hate my sister because she's an annoying bitch, but I still love her and I'd be torn up if anything ever happened to her.
Way to go TC
I mean I'll admit what you said was kind of harsh
But if she had the child through her own means (a.k.a not raped) she has to stop being a faggot and take responsibility for her own damn kid
There are so many incompetent parents these days it's terrifying, I hear shit every day and most of my friends have divorced parents. This is pathetic, actually. What is the divorce rate now like 50%?
[QUOTE=Lankist;20663208]Not only does he fuckin cry for no reason whatsoever every fuckin night, but he imposes HIS bullshit on to me, and then I start panicking thinkin something is actually fuckin wrong, get up at 3AM in the fuckin morning to go to the doctor just to find out he's just bullshitting everyone.
Someone who fuckin makes noise EVERY NIGHT and outright DENIES YOU the ability to sleep. That person is a fuckin ASSHOLE.[/QUOTE]
how old is he
[QUOTE=POLOPOZOZO;20674266]There are so many incompetent parents these days it's terrifying, I hear shit every day and most of my friends have divorced parents. This is pathetic, actually. What is the divorce rate now like 50%?[/QUOTE]
I think it's like 56% now. What's the point of getting married if the odds are against you about staying together?
All that "through sickness and in health" is bullshit. I had a friend who was dumped because she was diagnosed with breast cancer. A few months later, she meets someone, and they're married. One of the few couples who love each other. Karma applies here somewhere.
What are do you live in?
[QUOTE=claythepro;20676816]What are do you live in?[/QUOTE]
I'm assuming you're asking the area of Florida I live in?
good work showing her that she should stfu and take life as it comes :dance:
I hate children, but you did the right thing.
[QUOTE=Ibutsu;20706055]I hate children, but you did the right thing.[/QUOTE]
Why do you think that? Because some here believe I didn't do the right thing.
Identity,I think what you said was a completely logical emotive response that anyone with any sense of empathy and compassion would've have been tempted to make. In my eyes, you were reacting out of anger and empathy both for your own past and for this child standing in front of you. You were being completely honest in your reaction, and I think that is a great quality.
With your comment, I think you rightfully redirected her negativity and hypocrisy back at her, which hopefully provoked some kind of inner monologue within her at some point. So I don't think that your comment was pointless at all.
I certainly do not believe that you were out of line at all, nor do I think it was rude of you to express your anger/frustration because in my view, you did it for completely valid reasons. It is simply very wrong for a parent to imply that she wishes she didn't have a child when that child is standing right next to her -it is an incredibly irresponsible and abusive statement to make.
Just think about what she'll end up saying to her child when they are old enough to fully understand what she says. And with this woman displaying her lack of care for a parenting role, she already shows a higher probability that she will be in some way, abusive to that child when he/she is older.
[QUOTE=Identity;20655421]Really? It's rude of me to comment on a parents remark about a child not being wanted, not to mention the fact she has two children?
It may be rude, but that kid doesn't have much of a voice. Sorry that I actually care about a child who isn't wanted by his own mother. Maybe if he's lucky he'll end up in foster care, along with the six million others in the U.S., because that's what she should've done, right? Thrown the responsibilty and the kid away to someone else?
Who cares if it's rude. If you were that child, you'd wish the same that someone was there to say something. To actually be wanted by someone, because the person who gave you life, and that you love, doesn't even want you to exist.
Yeah, I'm an asshole for speaking up. Why should I care about a child I may never meet? It was an "in the moment" comment, but you know what? I would never take it back. It's not a matter of being right or wrong. Question my actions all you want, but if you would've seen that childs face after that comment, you would've done the same exact thing.[/QUOTE]
I agree to a 100%
People saying you are rude are fucking morons.
i know how you feel. sometimes people do / say something so wrong that i sponaneously over-react in an emotional way that i probably wouldn't if i could manage to stop blurting out the first thing that came into my head. maybe you could have chosen your words better, like ask why she had a second child after the first one if she thought that, but although less crude, it probably wouldn't have gotten a better response.
yeah kids are annoying assholes. yeah sleep deprivation is prone to make you do things you otherwise wouldn't. yeah if the kid was being a brat (which by OP's account he wasn't), even non-parents would understand. and yeah most parents say things like this but not usually in front of the kid. if the kid was 4 he'd understand "this is why you don't have kids". if much younger he wouldn't understand any of it. i think some of you missed the fact that the woman had another, younger child. if "this is why you don't have kids", then why have a second one?
to those saying the kid would have been abused later because of you, this is nonsense. if a parent is abusive, they are abusive and no-one else can be blamed for that.
to those saying it wouldn't change anything: you think that if someone confronted you like that you wouldn't analyse it internally and decide maybe you shouldn't say things like that either in public or in front of your kid any more? she would definitely have felt guilty as well as angry. no matter how much she said you were rude and wrong to her friends, she knows she was wrong too. and guilt is part of parenthood. hopefully it may make her think more before she says stuff like that in future.
[QUOTE=gdarks;20853233]i know how you feel. sometimes people do / say something so wrong that i sponaneously over-react in an emotional way that i probably wouldn't if i could manage to stop blurting out the first thing that came into my head. maybe you could have chosen your words better, like ask why she had a second child after the first one if she thought that, but although less crude, it probably wouldn't have gotten a better response.
yeah kids are annoying assholes. yeah sleep deprivation is prone to make you do things you otherwise wouldn't. yeah if the kid was being a brat (which by OP's account he wasn't), even non-parents would understand. and yeah most parents say things like this but not usually in front of the kid. if the kid was 4 he'd understand "this is why you don't have kids". if much younger he wouldn't understand any of it. i think some of you missed the fact that the woman had another, younger child. if "this is why you don't have kids", then why have a second one?
to those saying the kid would have been abused later because of you, this is nonsense. if a parent is abusive, they are abusive and no-one else can be blamed for that.
to those saying it wouldn't change anything: you think that if someone confronted you like that you wouldn't analyse it internally and decide maybe you shouldn't say things like that either in public or in front of your kid any more? she would definitely have felt guilty as well as angry. no matter how much she said you were rude and wrong to her friends, she knows she was wrong too. and guilt is part of parenthood. hopefully it may make her think more before she says stuff like that in future.[/QUOTE]
So two wrongs DO make a right after all eh?
[QUOTE=wildwill;20853622]So two wrongs DO make a right after all eh?[/QUOTE]
imho: yes, sometimes
don't forget OP didn't say what he did was right. and nor did i. just that i could understand the reaction and it wouldn't have done any harm and just maybe did some good. unlikely that it did any good, but still.
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