[QUOTE=ravingzombie;29554401]Proposition sticking your penis in his bum.[/QUOTE]
its funny because get out.
Am I the only one who hates it when OPs don't update the OP, making you go on a scavenger hunt through all the pages to find out what happened?
[QUOTE=Matthew1;29522221]there may be nothing wrong with it in general but i am sure the kid would benefit more if he/she actually knows their biological father instead of just being raised by a single mother.[/QUOTE]
I grew up without from the day I was born and I've done fine without one. The is many situations where the farther isn't in the child's life.
In my opinion I couldn't careless if I met him or not since I've started my life without him. If he wasn't here to look after me and have an input in my life as a child I don't see the point of him starting now.
As long as you have a parent as a child or someone to look after you your be fine.
[editline]2nd May 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=ravingzombie;29554401]Proposition sticking your penis in his bum.[/QUOTE]
I lol'd not at what you said just at you.
I'd say meet him. Maybe it'd help you find out where you get some of your traits from. Like for me, I look and act like my dad, but my interests are similar to my mom's.
Also, I'm not sure if this was asked, but how do you refer to your parents? Do you call both of them mom, and if so, does it get confusing at all? Just curious is all.
I fully understand he is a guy with whom you are not affiliated, except for purely biological purposes. However, I have heard stories, not only from my parents, but from my adult acquaintances that a person who has born a child(father or mother) longs for his or her offspring. The man whom you are seeing is not just an acquaintance of your mother, but a person whose biological traits were handed down to you, and shaped who you are. The bonding of familiarity still exists between you two. As a result, I strongly encourage you to see him at least a few times, and I do not expect a father-son relationship, for you have a mother who is homosexual, and the man is not a part of your family.[QUOTE=SpartanApples;29487708]I don't really know how to structure this so I'll just start from the very beginning. I'm not promising anything hilarious like the Spicy Tornado thread, so if you're looking for laughs then go elsewhere.
So my parents are lesbians, and as you might know its impossible for two women to have children together. Because they wanted a child, they put a classifieds ad in the 'Pink Paper', which is a gay newspaper, for a sperm doner (this sort of thing was very common, and still is due to discrimination many gays who want children get). Roger (what a name :v: ), my dad, got in contact via written letters, and it was all very secret at first because both sides were really scared. My parents were afraid if Roger ever tried to get custody, and he was afraid if my parents forced him to pay maintenance. But they both met in some pub and he handed over the goods, all he requested in return was my picture after I had been born.
Cut to a couple of years ago and my Mum went into A&E after having an accident (nothing severe) and saw him there. He was a paramedic when communication first started, but apparently he's trying to work up the career ladder to consultant or surgeon or whatever. She had a chat etc and they gave him our number since they were pretty cool with each other now.
Then, today, he rung up. My Mum says he wants to meet with me, to see what I'm like and what kind of person I've become. He's apparently really scared in case I'm hostile to him, he even withdrew the number in case I picked the phone up!
So in this last hour or so, my parents have basically just told me this whole thing, since I knew very little about it all before today. He's meeting them tomorrow at some pub to catch up and see if I want to meet him, but I have no idea if I do or not. Sure I want to see where I come from and all, but this guy is a stranger to me. All I know about him is that he's a gay, bald doctor who lives with his Mum, but my parents say he's a really nice guy. I have no idea at all what to do, and I'm really shitting myself about it all, help Facepunch?
tl;dr: My sperm doner Dad wants to get in contact with me, but I'm scared shitless.[/QUOTE]
[editline]2nd May 2011[/editline]
Can't you see the guy is being serious?[QUOTE=ravingzombie;29554401]Proposition sticking your penis in his bum.[/QUOTE]
[editline]2nd May 2011[/editline]
Are you ignoring the deeds of our fathers?[QUOTE=imasillypiggy;29556195]A father is not necessarily needed. Someone being raised by a good mom would be better then 2 normal parents.
[editline]1st May 2011[/editline]
Your just a master of comedy.[/QUOTE]
[B][U]Update time![/U][/B]
Well, I met him today. All four of us went out for a meal at a restaurant, and he was... not what I expected. You can tell that his career comes first, because he doesn't have good people skills making some parts a bit awkward. Also, he's technologically handicapped and uses a phone which looks like it needs winding up. He also likes jogging and is a vegetarian!
But even with these differences, I saw a few similarities. We both walk and talk the same, so thats were I got my god awful accent.
I'm really surprised at who he is, but I guess I'm happy that I went meet him. He did say we should do this again, but I'm just going to take it as it comes.
Are you going to meet again?
[QUOTE=SpartanApples;29573863][B][U]Update time![/U][/B]
Well, I met him today. All four of us went out for a meal at a restaurant, and he was... not what I expected. You can tell that his career comes first, because he doesn't have good people skills making some parts a bit awkward. Also, he's technologically handicapped and uses a phone which looks like it needs winding up. He also likes jogging and is a vegetarian!
But even with these differences, I saw a few similarities. We both walk and talk the same, so thats were I got my god awful accent.
I'm really surprised at who he is, but I guess I'm happy that I went meet him. He did say we should do this again, but I'm just going to take it as it comes.[/QUOTE]
Does he have balding hair or something off putting, or is he a typical guy?
a lot of bald people I know don't have cell phones :smith:
[QUOTE=SpartanApples;29573863][B][U]Update time![/U][/B]
Well, I met him today. All four of us went out for a meal at a restaurant, and he was... not what I expected. You can tell that his career comes first, because he doesn't have good people skills making some parts a bit awkward. Also, he's technologically handicapped and uses a phone which looks like it needs winding up. He also likes jogging and is a vegetarian!
But even with these differences, I saw a few similarities. We both walk and talk the same, so thats were I got my god awful accent.
I'm really surprised at who he is, but I guess I'm happy that I went meet him. He did say we should do this again, but I'm just going to take it as it comes.[/QUOTE]
You should hangout with him for often, do some father/son stuff.. I know, I would.
[QUOTE=SpartanApples;29573863][B][U]Update time![/U][/B]
Well, I met him today. All four of us went out for a meal at a restaurant, and he was... not what I expected. You can tell that his career comes first, because he doesn't have good people skills making some parts a bit awkward. Also, he's technologically handicapped and uses a phone which looks like it needs winding up. He also likes jogging and is a vegetarian!
But even with these differences, I saw a few similarities. We both walk and talk the same, so thats were I got my god awful accent.
I'm really surprised at who he is, but I guess I'm happy that I went meet him. He did say we should do this again, but I'm just going to take it as it comes.[/QUOTE]
Can you go into a bit higher detail on the awkwardness/people making skills?
[QUOTE=SpartanApples;29573863][B][U]Update time![/U][/B]
Well, I met him today. All four of us went out for a meal at a restaurant, and he was... not what I expected. You can tell that his career comes first, because he doesn't have good people skills making some parts a bit awkward. Also, he's technologically handicapped and uses a phone which looks like it needs winding up. He also likes jogging and is a vegetarian!
But even with these differences, I saw a few similarities. We both walk and talk the same, so thats were I got my god awful accent.
I'm really surprised at who he is, but I guess I'm happy that I went meet him. He did say we should do this again, but I'm just going to take it as it comes.[/QUOTE]
All first meets with someone is a bit weird, its expected.
3rd or 4th time it'll be like you've known each other for a while.
Should take him up on his offer, its always nice to get to know people, especially your biological father.
[QUOTE=Leaf Runner;29575747]Can you go into a bit higher detail on the awkwardness/people making skills?[/QUOTE]
There was a lot of awkward silence, and he said 'hmm' a lot.
Glad it went ok op.
Wow Spartan, I feel it takes a lot of strength to meet your real dad. I mean it would have been horrid to find out he was a low life or something so it's nice to see he's not that bad. I think you should keep in touch with him and such, it seems like he does want to connect with you and, well, be your father!
I hope everything goes well with him bro!
[QUOTE=SpartanApples;29573863][B][U]Update time![/U][/B]
Well, I met him today. All four of us went out for a meal at a restaurant, and he was... not what I expected. You can tell that his career comes first, because he doesn't have good people skills making some parts a bit awkward. Also, he's technologically handicapped and uses a phone which looks like it needs winding up. He also likes jogging and is a vegetarian!
But even with these differences, I saw a few similarities. We both walk and talk the same, so thats were I got my god awful accent.
I'm really surprised at who he is, but I guess I'm happy that I went meet him. He did say we should do this again, but I'm just going to take it as it comes.[/QUOTE]
It would be awkward since he hasn't really seen you and met you properly. But give it a chance.
I'm not sure if your parents would want you to see him as a farther though. But it's worth making him a part of your life at least.
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