Why do people sabotage their happiness with sexually incompatible relationships?
68 replies, posted
Jealousy.
If i had a girlfriend that didn't like me looking at porn, I would make her watch brazillian scat porn, reenact it, rinse lather, repeat.
My girlfriend doesn't like me watching it because subconsciously she thinks i like the other woman on the computer. Totally understandable, even if its false, plus watching porn so much makes me think sexually a lot, even during school, and a relationship can't be purely sexual. I mean yeah there can be sexual aspects of a relationship and i do like that, but i also think she doesn't want to feel distant from me emotional because we do too much sex, Girl are emotional, i guess they don't want guys to be too sexual.
[editline]20th October 2010[/editline]
unless your girlfriend is a hooker
or a porn star
On the other hands, Homosexuality?
[QUOTE=Mystery Penguin;25533690]What if we don't like Ferrari's?[/QUOTE]
Substitute it with whatever car you do really like.
Only people who have never had a lot of sex will actually think that porn/masturbation becomes irrelevant after you have a steady partner.
[QUOTE=Zer0;25533935]My girlfriend doesn't like me watching it because subconsciously she thinks i like the other woman on the computer. Totally understandable, even if its false, plus watching porn so much makes me think sexually a lot, even during school, and a relationship can't be purely sexual. I mean yeah there can be sexual aspects of a relationship and i do like that, but i also think she doesn't want to feel distant from me emotional because we do too much sex, Girl are emotional, i guess they don't want guys to be too sexual.
[editline]20th October 2010[/editline]
unless your girlfriend is a hooker
or a porn star[/QUOTE]
My girlfriend is neither a hooker nor a porn star. And what's wrong with girls being sexual or guys being emotional?
And sex and emotion are definitely not exclusive things. Sex without the emotion is like sex with a condom on; you're missing a lot of the awesomeness (but you should still use a condom unless you are already in a serious relationship and are using other forms of birth control).
[QUOTE=Richard Simmons;25533934]If i had a girlfriend that didn't like me looking at porn, I would make her watch brazillian scat porn, reenact it, rinse lather, repeat.[/QUOTE]
You really scare me sometimes, Richard Simmons :smug:
[QUOTE=PN_Redux;25533362]My guess is the girl feels violated at how theyre not the one being looked at but another female. Girls continuously subconsciously compete with other girls no matter what they say. So when their main man goes off and looks at other females they feel offended and degraded that theyre not god enough for them in that moment. And well it has been proven that the location of emotions and verbal communications in the brain are right next to each other so they have an easier time saying what their current emotional feelings are. And well in all honesty Guys may think with their dicks but girls...they think with their emotion.[/QUOTE]
This is entirely true, yet I see women consistently talking about how "hot" guys are.
surely that's a little hypocritical of them? if they don't want to be compared to other women then stop comparing dudes?
[QUOTE=Mane;25533994]My girlfriend is neither a hooker nor a porn star.[/QUOTE]
Good for you man.
[QUOTE=Mane;25533994]And what's wrong with girls being sexual or guys being emotional?[/QUOTE]
No one said there was a problem. Sexual girls are Fun, and chicks dig emotional men. Maybe you're not understanding.
[QUOTE=Mane;25533994]And sex and emotion are definitely not exclusive things.Sex without the emotion is like sex with a condom on; you're missing a lot of the awesomeness.[/QUOTE]
Again, you're misunderstanding. When i say emotional, i mean like intimacy. Sex everyday with emotional love is not intimacy. taking time away from sexual matters to get to know more and get closer with your partner so that you two trust each other and become a lot more connected. Intimacy can be sexual, but it cannot be purely sexual, or it's not a healthy relationship.
[QUOTE=thf;25533058]Who needs a girlfriend if they have porn?[/QUOTE]
Fixed.
[QUOTE=Zer0;25534174]Again, you're misunderstanding. When i say emotional, i mean like intimacy. Sex everyday with emotional love is not intimacy. taking time away from sexual matters to get to know more and get closer with your partner so that you two trust each other and become a lot more connected. Intimacy can be sexual, but it cannot be purely sexual, or it's not a healthy relationship.[/QUOTE]
I disagree completely; if you can't build intimacy without having to put sex on a pedestal and withhold it, then your relationship isn't going to last very long. Sex is special, but it isn't special in the sense that you need to rarefy it just to stay intimate.
What do you think the post-sex cuddle is for?
If she doesn't like me looking at other women then she should either deal with it, or become a lesbian. Because men will always look at other women.
[QUOTE=BANNED USER;25534332]If she doesn't like me looking at other women then she should either deal with it, or become a lesbian. Because men will always look at other women.[/QUOTE]
And women will always look at other men (and if you're lucky, also other women!).
Guys shouldn't get upset about it, just as girls shouldn't get upset about it.
It's part of human nature.
I watch porn [b]WITH[/b] my girlfriend. No, really. :smug:
[QUOTE=trent_roolz;25534631]I watch porn [b]WITH[/b] my girlfriend. No, really. :smug:[/QUOTE]
We're both really picky when it comes to porn, especially since we've both had experience with the adult film industry (not like that!) and can't find professional pornography very palatable these days.
The best porn we've both found is the stuff we make with each other :)
I highly recommend it for anyone in a relationship!
I've been honest to every girlfriend I've had, it doesn't always work. A lot of them wanted me to change for them I did...then i realized I was unhappy and said "Fuck you girl! I'm goin' Home!"
And now I'm in an awesome relationship!
kinda hard to get a girlfriend that's athiest now-a-days, they're all the ugly socially awkward weaboo girls
[QUOTE=Killerjc;25535456]kinda hard to get a girlfriend that's athiest now-a-days, they're all the ugly socially awkward weaboo girls[/QUOTE]
Not really. Stop being a shut-in and go meet different people, not girls from your high school.
I was with a guy for well over a year that was totally incompatible with me. Hell, I look back and I realize I never really thought he was that attractive, and I'm pretty sure he thought the same of me. I can tell you exactly why we stayed together though; immaturity. Infatuation is completely different than attraction. When you are infatuated with someone, you don't know them, but you still want to know them and you want to explore the relationship. Most of the time, immature people mistake this for solid attraction, or even real love. It's not; once you find out more about the person, you realize how very incompatible you really are. Usually though, people move way too fast and end up locked in a relationship before they know what's really happened. It sucks, but it goes to show you taking it slow has it's benefits.
[editline]20th October 2010[/editline]
[QUOTE=Killerjc;25535456]kinda hard to get a girlfriend that's athiest now-a-days, they're all the ugly socially awkward weaboo girls[/QUOTE]I had no idea Weeaboo was a religion.
Ironically, I know a lot of girls that are neo-druids and anime fans.
Hahahaha What the fuck is a Neo-Druid?
[QUOTE=Aw_Hell;25535877]Hahahaha What the fuck is a Neo-Druid?[/QUOTE]It's a sect of paganism like Wicca. It's actually pretty cool.
[QUOTE=trent_roolz;25534631]I watch porn [b]WITH[/b] my girlfriend. No, really. :smug:[/QUOTE]
Thats fucking awesome
I can see how a girl wouldn't like her boyfriend fapping though.
Would you want your girlfriend to fap to other guys?
I think porn comes into it.
You say that as if dating exists everywhere in the world.
We've got arranged marriages, and there is no such thing as having a girlfriend/boyfriend in some parts of the world. Is your OP directed only to Americans or what?
[QUOTE=Cadwallader;25535662]Not really. Stop being a shut-in and go meet different people, not girls from your high school.[/QUOTE]
okay sir because you obviously know me, and you know where i live and everything
[editline]20th October 2010[/editline]
[QUOTE=AnemoneS2;25536522]You say that as if dating exists everywhere in the world.
We've got arranged marriages, and there is no such thing as having a girlfriend/boyfriend in some parts of the world. Is your OP directed only to Americans or what?[/QUOTE]
dating exists in civilized countries
this is where the OP is directed to
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;25536357]I can see how a girl wouldn't like her boyfriend fapping though.
Would you want your girlfriend to fap to other guys?[/QUOTE]
Unlike yours, my girlfriend doesn't have a penis.
[QUOTE=TailsPrower;25535933]It's a sect of paganism like Wicca. It's actually pretty cool.[/QUOTE]
At least Christians have the excuse of being indoctrinated since birth.
[editline]20th October 2010[/editline]
[QUOTE=Mane;25534661]
The best porn we've both found is the stuff we make with each other :)
I highly recommend it for anyone in a relationship![/QUOTE]
Holy shit, I can't even watch regular videos of myself. Also, I think saying "I recommend this to everyone" kind contradicts your thread.
[QUOTE=AnemoneS2;25536522]You say that as if dating exists everywhere in the world.
We've got arranged marriages, and there is no such thing as having a girlfriend/boyfriend in some parts of the world. Is your OP directed only to Americans or what?[/QUOTE]
Jesus christ you're an arrogant bastard.
to OP : I agree completely, I like it when girls play hard to get. So you can see their pissy side before you see what could turn out to be there really nice side.
Straight up want those Bengali woman right?
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;25536357]I can see how a girl wouldn't like her boyfriend fapping though.
Would you want your girlfriend to fap to other guys?[/QUOTE]
I'd want her to watch whatever she wants.
Otherwise, it's hypocritical.
[quote]Holy shit, I can't even watch regular videos of myself. Also, I think saying "I recommend this to everyone" kind contradicts your thread. [/quote]
Except me recommending something is completely different from forcing oneself to stay in a shitty relationship.
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