• How NOT to react when your child tells you that he's gay
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[QUOTE=carcarcargo;45828729]Essentially if it isn't a choice then it makes their god look like a massive immoral dickhead, therefore they convince themselves it has to be a choice since god can't be wrong.[/QUOTE] The entire premise is retarded. When a mafia boss sends you a message "nice shop you have there, shame if something happened to it, better pay for protection" it's obvious who's a bad guy here, but when their god goes "nice soul you have there, shame if something happened to it, better praise me and do this and that and never do this or that" it's suddenly the guy's who didn't listen fault.
[QUOTE=Zillamaster55;45828772]My dad was born in Oklahoma, and raised in Texas. My mom was born in backwoods New Hampshire, and grew up in small-town Maine. My mother is Lutheran Protestant and my dad grew up in a Baptist family. They didn't care when I came out to them, they were more afraid that I'd be scared of them. They say "You will still be our child, you will still be here with us, and we will always love you" Your place of origin =/= Your personality[/QUOTE] Nobody's saying that's the case, but the fact that this sort of thing is more common in the south is undeniable.
Religious conservatives are the worst.
[QUOTE=Silly Sil;45828719]What goes through these people's heads? Do they really think that someone would [B][U]choose [/U][/B]to go out with a guy instead of a girl even if that would mean being disowned? Why would anyone choose to go through so much shit on purpose? And it's scary that people value what's written in a book more than their own children...[/QUOTE] I agree, who would choose to be treated as a second class citizen by their own parents? How can they believe this shit? But even then, these people shouldn't care EVEN IF it was a choice. being a choice shouldn't matter really.
Honestly watching this fucking disgusts me, hope he has gone to the local police to report abuse and gets out of there, and that the rest of his family isn't a total dick head. /ignoring all the southern bullshit on this thread
[QUOTE=Manibogi;45828824]Nobody's saying that's the case, but the fact that this sort of thing is more common in the south is undeniable.[/QUOTE] My extended family in Kansas acts this way. I know people who have been sent to prison for beating people with baseball bats for "fun." I fear that rural people have problems that can't be fixed quickly. Their perspective is so deeply entrenched in them that any generation after won't comprehend this was actually a problem. Once this issue passes, it'll be viewed as history. Just as slavery was an abomination to darker races solely based on prejudice of a darker skin, this is prejudice based on life values. Willie put it best: (In response to weed legalization) "A lot of the right-wing religious fanatics are the ones who are the most against it, just like they're against telling women what to do with their bodies. A bunch of old, ignorant white people that are dying off. And the big deal about weed or gays or any of that, it's going away. It's not a big deal no more to most people." [url=http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/willie-nelsons-advice-for-novice-pot-smokers-and-maureen-dowd-20140815?utm_source=vice&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=partner]Source[/url]
Welp, that was heart breaking. How awful that reactions like that are more than just a stereotype in this day and age.
[QUOTE=Siemz;45829775]Honestly watching this fucking disgusts me, hope he has gone to the local police to report abuse and gets out of there, and that the rest of his family isn't a total dick head. /ignoring all the southern bullshit on this thread[/QUOTE] From what I've read he wants absolutely no harm of any kind to come to his parents - they're his parents, he still loves them, they still love him (they just don't know any better at the moment). In a few years they'll look back at this and be enormously ashamed, as long as their son keeps in contact with them and handles it well - he's got to be the adult while they throw their tantrum - they'll still be a loving family. I've known a few guys who love their parents and care for them no more or less than most people do yet they've gone through things exactly like this. At first it didn't make sense to me, but after a little thought you start to consider a lot of other factors that can't be displayed in one video of high running emotions. Additionally, [URL="http://www.gofundme.com/dnoqgg"]they've now raised over $40,000 for him[/URL]. I dunno if I quite agree with that, an LGBTQ charity might have benefited greater from it than this guy, from what I've read he still has friends to keep him safe, he has a job and goes to school. He doesn't need forty grand.
As soon as I heard that extreme southern accent I knew this was going to be a bad video.
[QUOTE=arbio22;45831868]As soon as I heard that extreme southern accent I knew this was going to be a bad video.[/QUOTE] Please don't stereotype. And even though I disagree with gay marriage, I still think as a Christian we should treat each other with love and respect even if we disagree with each other.
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45832031]Please don't stereotype. And even though I disagree with gay marriage, I still think as a Christian we should treat each other with love and respect even if we disagree with each other.[/QUOTE] Genuinely curious here, why the disagreement with gay marriage ?
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45832031]Please don't stereotype. And even though I disagree with gay marriage, I still think as a Christian we should treat each other with love and respect even if we disagree with each other.[/QUOTE] I don't get this train of thought. You should treat each other with respect but you don't believe in giving gays and lesbians the same marriage rights as you.
[QUOTE=Ganerumo;45833437]Genuinely curious here, why the disagreement with gay marriage ?[/QUOTE] Well, the Bible doesn't mention it that much, but basically we were created to be one man and one woman. (If you want the spiritual reason) And so you don't assume anything, I honestly don't care if guys live together, its if they try to have sexual intercourse with one another through rather unclean interaction that I have an issue with. Not only does it help spread certain types of diseases (which is bad for them), It also has a zero chance of producing kids, which is rather bad for society as a whole. (If everyone was gay, human race would die out pretty quickly) Those are my only real issues with it. As I said before, you're welcome to live with your roomie and say hi.
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45834828]And so you don't assume anything, I honestly don't care if guys live together, its if they try to have sexual intercourse with one another through rather unclean interaction that I have an issue with. Not only does it help spread certain types of diseases (which is bad for them), It also has a zero chance of producing kids, which is rather bad for society as a whole. (If everyone was gay, human race would die out pretty quickly)[/QUOTE] Wow, didn't know vaginal intercourse prevented diseases from spreading :downs:
[QUOTE=Limed00d;45834842]Wow, didn't know vaginal intercourse prevented diseases from spreading :downs:[/QUOTE] It's cleaner than sticking stuff up your rear end.
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45834859]It's cleaner than sticking stuff up your rear end.[/QUOTE] What makes you think gay people who actually do perform anal sex doesn't clean their uh rumps before sex, in the same way both men and women clean their genitals before sex?
All these horrible parents are reminding me of my family. :v: [QUOTE=TheTalon;45822011]As soon as you hear the southern accent you just know the direction it's going to go[/QUOTE] Wow way to be a cock dude.
I came out to my parents about being bi yesterday and they reacted better than I anticipated. I'm glad I have parents who are accepting of who I am.
[QUOTE=Limed00d;45834881]What makes you think gay people who actually do perform anal sex doesn't clean their uh rumps before sex, in the same way both men and women clean their genitals before sex?[/QUOTE] They can clean it, but it doesn't change the fact that a rump is simply not designed for sexual intercourse, it's designed for waste disposal. (no real protection from diseases at all) And you know, it's kind of pointless since you aren't going to get any kids that way.
The video was pretty sad, but holy shit I giggled when she called him a "son of a bitch". He's better off not being around these people.
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45834937]They can clean it, but it doesn't change the fact that a rump is simply not designed for sexual intercourse, it's designed for waste disposal. (no real protection from diseases at all) And you know, it's kind of pointless since you aren't going to get any kids that way.[/QUOTE] So sex should be reserved for the purpose of procreation and not enjoyment? Does this mean we should stop using condoms because they prevent pregnancy? Really dude, if your argument against gay sex is that "it's filthy and doesn't produce offspring" you should try harder.
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45834937] And you know, it's kind of pointless since you aren't going to get any kids that way.[/QUOTE] Hey so's bowling but people still do that for fun :v:
Really depressing video. The mother's opening statement is so poor. So she knew he had been gay since he was a kid and done nothing but now that he comes out it's the worst thing ever. Then she says she has gay friends. So she's more tolerant of friends than her own blood? Fuck. You.
[QUOTE=Limed00d;45834948]So sex should be reserved for the purpose of procreation and not enjoyment? Does this mean we should stop using condoms because they prevent pregnancy? Really dude, if your argument against gay sex is that "it's filthy and doesn't produce offspring" you should try harder.[/QUOTE] Well, considering that in nature the whole point of sex is reproduction... We enjoy it so it encourages us to have offspring.
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45834972]Well, considering that in nature the whole point of sex is reproduction...[/QUOTE] Well, considering that there are a few animal species who have sex for pleasure...
[QUOTE=Sir Whoopsalot;45834998]Well, considering that there are a few animal species who have sex for pleasure...[/QUOTE] And they die out in natural selection :v (assuming they don't reproduce)
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45835004]And they die out in natural selection :v[/QUOTE] I still see dolphins and humans kicking?
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45835004]And they die out in natural selection :v (assuming they don't reproduce)[/QUOTE] Oh right, that's why dolphins and pigs went extinct years ago!
[QUOTE=Limed00d;45835007]I still see dolphins and humans kicking?[/QUOTE] For one generation if they don't reproduce. Which is why in nature males fight over the females in order to reproduce.
[QUOTE=Stiffy360;45835019]For one generation if they don't reproduce. Which is why in nature males fight over the females in order to reproduce.[/QUOTE] Look, I understand your whole "sex is for babbies tho D:" argument, but its bullshit. In primitive times, when 7/10 neanderthals were eaten by predators, reproduction WAS important to being a dominant species. But in the now-times, we've already won that battle. There's more of us then ever before. The human race isn't going anywhere, so even if a percent of the population likes it in the pooper, it's not gonna affect birthrates in a way where we're in danger of becoming extinct. Besides, gay people weren't going to reproduce anyway, even if they didn't have intercourse between themselves :v: Besides, sperm donor-ship is a thing. Gay people can still have families and contribute to the human pool even without "natural" intercourse. Sorry to say, but your argument does not hold a drop of water.
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