So there's one thing I've inferred from my time on the Internet, one thing that I've never quite understood.
Americans need lube to masturbate? What is all that about?
it's kind of a running joke in the media
i don't really know of anyone who actually does that
[QUOTE=DarkendSky;39196753]it's kind of a running joke in the media
i don't really know of anyone who actually does that[/QUOTE]
I assumed it was some kind of weird side effect of circumcision.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39190028]if you don't want blood on your dick use a condom
PUSSY[/QUOTE]
True men earn their red-wings. :v:
[QUOTE=Eudoxia;39196772]I assumed it was some kind of weird side effect of circumcision.[/QUOTE]
even if it were, it's like half and half around here
Well apart from the blood, in my experience there's also the fact that the vagina, quite understandably from a biological point, feels different on the period.
Not that that's bad.
Once I got over the long-instilled idea of periods as gross and realised it was just blood, something I kinda like, it was no biggie :v:
I feel proud now, after my embarrassing performance yesterday (~60 posts ago), I fingered my girlfriend for 4 orgasms during a movie we were watching. Her previous record was 2 in one sitting.
hope this isn't tmi, but this is the sex thread.
[QUOTE=Eudoxia;39196772]I assumed it was some kind of weird side effect of circumcision.[/QUOTE]
Circumcised guys are more likely to need lube to masturbate, although also its just a thing mentioned a lot for jokes and such in media
lube is awful it just messes up the entire experience for me.. it just feels completely wrong and being circumcised is awesome.
Okay so lately I've been a bit rocky with my girlfriend. She's generally very lovely, kind of quirky but fun in that respect, very pretty and a pleasure to be around. Lately though, she's just been weird and to be honest, suffocating.
Over the last few weeks she started by being pretty mean and rude, kind of insulting a lot, but I told her I didn't appreciate it and she stopped. Things kind of went okay until the last few nights - specifically last night.
We've been going out clubbing a bit over the last few days. A couple of days ago, she went away with the impression that I didn't love her (for some reason). So that's how it starts.
Yesterday was the day of my housewarming party. It began with a BBQ at 1 in the afternoon and continued on until about 3 in the morning. She arrived early, because she had to go to work halfway through this. So at about 2, I walk her to the train station. On the way, she drops the first drama bomb - that on the first time she slept at my place, we didn't touch or cuddle while being asleep, which is apparently subconsciously a pretty big problem that means I don't feel very strongly towards her or some shit. Good timing though, as I return to the BBQ in a state of some annoyance.
Anyway, the next bit is the bit where my friends and I drink rather heavily. She gets back from work at about 9:30 at night and by that time, we're fucked up. At about midnight, I've overindulged, catatonic on my bed, incredibly upset for no reason. pretty much being just really really sad, as you get when you've drunk too much.
Okay, so she comes into my room, probably intending to help but her version of helping is to try making out with me, kissing me all over, talking dirty, shit like that, so she's obviously trying to have sex with me. I didn't feel like it at all, which I told her within the first 5 minutes, I made it clear that i wasn't going to do it, and that I didn't want anything more than just her company. She stays for a bit, but then leaves to socialise.
Five minutes she comes back and tries again. The whole process is repeated. I tell her no, she leaves. This happened at LEAST 5 times, before one of my mates came into my room to fall asleep and she had to go home. So while I was walking her back to the station on her way home, she turns around and she says "sometimes it feels like you don't love me".
At the moment, i'm tired, hungover, and can barely think straight, let alone type coherently. But I must not be the only person to think that there's something wrong here. I'm incredibly confused right now - she's great, she's kind and she never judges me for anything but over the last few weeks I'm beginning to feel really smothered and questioning everything as a result.
According to her, she can either switch off completely when it comes to relationships, or go completely full on, but for some reason she can't do a balance which is really what i need right now, I need stability and normality instead of this constant on/off and to and fro, instead of having to deal with this uber relationshippy, cloying way of being. Even now, just after last night, she's texted me saying she's on a "self imposed love lockdown". What the hell. I don't want us to be 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' and I never have, I've always been looking for the kind of relationship where its two people together, as people instead of partners. I'm not looking to be the cutesy couple and it's driving me mad.
I really like this girl, and I want to be in a relationship with her. We've been going steady for about 8-9 months and I have never been happier in a relationship than when I'm with her. But lately, I don't know what the hell is going on. How do I deal with this?
you guys might just have to face the reality that you aren't really compatible. dating doesn't really have much commitment, you can always mutually pull out of it
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39198892]Okay so lately I've been a bit rocky with my girlfriend. She's generally very lovely, kind of quirky but fun in that respect, very pretty and a pleasure to be around. Lately though, she's just been weird and to be honest, suffocating.
Over the last few weeks she started by being pretty mean and rude, kind of insulting a lot, but I told her I didn't appreciate it and she stopped. Things kind of went okay until the last few nights - specifically last night.
We've been going out clubbing a bit over the last few days. A couple of days ago, she went away with the impression that I didn't love her (for some reason). So that's how it starts.
Yesterday was the day of my housewarming party. It began with a BBQ at 1 in the afternoon and continued on until about 3 in the morning. She arrived early, because she had to go to work halfway through this. So at about 2, I walk her to the train station. On the way, she drops the first drama bomb - that on the first time she slept at my place, we didn't touch or cuddle while being asleep, which is apparently subconsciously a pretty big problem that means I don't feel very strongly towards her or some shit. Good timing though, as I return to the BBQ in a state of some annoyance.
Anyway, the next bit is the bit where my friends and I drink rather heavily. She gets back from work at about 9:30 at night and by that time, we're fucked up. At about midnight, I've overindulged, catatonic on my bed, incredibly upset for no reason. pretty much being just really really sad, as you get when you've drunk too much.
Okay, so she comes into my room, probably intending to help but her version of helping is to try making out with me, kissing me all over, talking dirty, shit like that, so she's obviously trying to have sex with me. I didn't feel like it at all, which I told her within the first 5 minutes, I made it clear that i wasn't going to do it, and that I didn't want anything more than just her company. She stays for a bit, but then leaves to socialise.
Five minutes she comes back and tries again. The whole process is repeated. I tell her no, she leaves. This happened at LEAST 5 times, before one of my mates came into my room to fall asleep and she had to go home. So while I was walking her back to the station on her way home, she turns around and she says "sometimes it feels like you don't love me".
At the moment, i'm tired, hungover, and can barely think straight, let alone type coherently. But I must not be the only person to think that there's something wrong here. I'm incredibly confused right now - she's great, she's kind and she never judges me for anything but over the last few weeks I'm beginning to feel really smothered and questioning everything as a result.
According to her, she can either switch off completely when it comes to relationships, or go completely full on, but for some reason she can't do a balance which is really what i need right now, I need stability and normality instead of this constant on/off and to and fro, instead of having to deal with this uber relationshippy, cloying way of being. Even now, just after last night, she's texted me saying she's on a "self imposed love lockdown". What the hell. I don't want us to be 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' and I never have, I've always been looking for the kind of relationship where its two people together, as people instead of partners. I'm not looking to be the cutesy couple and it's driving me mad.
I really like this girl, and I want to be in a relationship with her. We've been going steady for about 8-9 months and I have never been happier in a relationship than when I'm with her. But lately, I don't know what the hell is going on. How do I deal with this?[/QUOTE]
I think you need to fully explain the situation to her. That do you love her (if you do?) and the things she is picking at arn't representatives of the whole. things like touching while you sleep together the first time doesnt matter and she is nitpicking far too much. And explain to her why you didnt want sex at that time.
A big thing also is when she says "you dont love me" it's a kinda important thing to say you DO, if you do. Otherwise it seems like you really dont because you cant say it when you pretty much are asked to.
If talking it out really doesn't work out then .. yeah you might have to consider it as a real problem.
I did say it that time, but I don't know. Sometimes it does feel like I really don't - because there's always these problems going on. It'd be easier to say I do if there was nothing going on like that.
We're going to see a concert together in four days time, then she's going to a festival the day after. I've been told to wait until university resumes and we have a regular routine going, because at the moment, everything is all over the place. I'm not sure how I feel about that because university goes back in the beginning of March.
I'll see if things get better over the next week and then if they don't I'll figure some sort of course of action out.
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39199194]I did say it that time, but I don't know. Sometimes it does feel like I really don't - because there's always these problems going on. It'd be easier to say I do if there was nothing going on like that.
We're going to see a concert together in four days time, then she's going to a festival the day after. I've been told to wait until university resumes and we have a regular routine going, because at the moment, everything is all over the place. I'm not sure how I feel about that because university goes back in the beginning of March.
I'll see if things get better over the next week and then if they don't I'll figure some sort of course of action out.[/QUOTE]
I would deal with is at soon as possible. The longer you let feelings like this fester they become a much larger problem, very quickly.
She's going to talk to me about something to do with her parents tonight so I might bring something up about it then. It's getting way out of hand.
my friend i dont like all that much that i slept with once is apparantly completely serious about me being her roommate and getting an apartment together. not just some one-off idea like i thought it was, she is 100% serious about doing it
and that makes me kind of concerned because i really dont know where i draw the line in our friendship. after we slept together and she said she didnt want a relationship, i was cool with it and we decided to be friends. but she's gotten more and more best-friendy when i expected just a casual friendship. she wants to hang out all the time and calls me her best friend, and she's really comfortable around me and isnt around most people. we've talked about things to each other that we dont talk about to other people. it sounds its like that dumb idealized 'friendzone' where the girl is super comfortable and forward around the guy but its innocently platonic - except we've already banged and i've moved on. some of the time i really can't tell if it's platonic though, there's little things here and there that i wonder if i'm just being a big idiot and interpreting them weird or if she does them on purpose.
the super best friend stuff should make me feel great but if anything it just makes me annoyed. i'm not uncomfortable around her at all, it's just that i feel like there's something... amiss? i even say i don't like her all that much, but you don't do all of this shit with someone you can't stand. there's lots of superficial things about her and her friends i can't stand but i get along with her and like hanging out with her but us being apparant bffs doesnt feel natural at all even though its not uncomfortable
i really don't know i'm residually high and its like 3am and i needed to type something out. i definitely wont move in with her even though on the surface it doesnt seem too bad
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39197335]it's actually not just blood, there's slime and shit in there too[/QUOTE]
Well yeah, it's mildly decomposing uterine/endometrial lining, vaginal secretions, blood etc. But, I don't mind blood, and vaginal secretions aren't a problem, the only somewhat troublesome bit is the lining but it's not exactly like I'm going for a rainbow kiss, and it's just cells anyway, I'm just getting some gunky shit on a condom, if she wants it I'm not going to deny it :v:
[QUOTE=killerteacup;39198892]Okay so lately I've been a bit rocky with my girlfriend. She's generally very lovely, kind of quirky but fun in that respect, very pretty and a pleasure to be around. Lately though, she's just been weird and to be honest, suffocating.
Over the last few weeks she started by being pretty mean and rude, kind of insulting a lot, but I told her I didn't appreciate it and she stopped. Things kind of went okay until the last few nights - specifically last night.
We've been going out clubbing a bit over the last few days. A couple of days ago, she went away with the impression that I didn't love her (for some reason). So that's how it starts.
Yesterday was the day of my housewarming party. It began with a BBQ at 1 in the afternoon and continued on until about 3 in the morning. She arrived early, because she had to go to work halfway through this. So at about 2, I walk her to the train station. On the way, she drops the first drama bomb - that on the first time she slept at my place, we didn't touch or cuddle while being asleep, which is apparently subconsciously a pretty big problem that means I don't feel very strongly towards her or some shit. Good timing though, as I return to the BBQ in a state of some annoyance.
Anyway, the next bit is the bit where my friends and I drink rather heavily. She gets back from work at about 9:30 at night and by that time, we're fucked up. At about midnight, I've overindulged, catatonic on my bed, incredibly upset for no reason. pretty much being just really really sad, as you get when you've drunk too much.
Okay, so she comes into my room, probably intending to help but her version of helping is to try making out with me, kissing me all over, talking dirty, shit like that, so she's obviously trying to have sex with me. I didn't feel like it at all, which I told her within the first 5 minutes, I made it clear that i wasn't going to do it, and that I didn't want anything more than just her company. She stays for a bit, but then leaves to socialise.
Five minutes she comes back and tries again. The whole process is repeated. I tell her no, she leaves. This happened at LEAST 5 times, before one of my mates came into my room to fall asleep and she had to go home. So while I was walking her back to the station on her way home, she turns around and she says "sometimes it feels like you don't love me".
At the moment, i'm tired, hungover, and can barely think straight, let alone type coherently. But I must not be the only person to think that there's something wrong here. I'm incredibly confused right now - she's great, she's kind and she never judges me for anything but over the last few weeks I'm beginning to feel really smothered and questioning everything as a result.
According to her, she can either switch off completely when it comes to relationships, or go completely full on, but for some reason she can't do a balance which is really what i need right now, I need stability and normality instead of this constant on/off and to and fro, instead of having to deal with this uber relationshippy, cloying way of being. Even now, just after last night, she's texted me saying she's on a "self imposed love lockdown". What the hell. I don't want us to be 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' and I never have, I've always been looking for the kind of relationship where its two people together, as people instead of partners. I'm not looking to be the cutesy couple and it's driving me mad.
I really like this girl, and I want to be in a relationship with her. We've been going steady for about 8-9 months and I have never been happier in a relationship than when I'm with her. But lately, I don't know what the hell is going on. How do I deal with this?[/QUOTE]
That kinda sounded like the relationship I just got out of. It was really annoying, she could easily piss me off but i still loved her and being around her. and she also had this annoying of questioning everything i do. Like, I could go to the local skate hall and have a fun time with mates and som female friends, and when i got home it was always "Where have you been, who was there, were there any girls there?" and if i say yes there were girls there that i know she would go even more apeshit about it and ask even more questions and when the questioning was done, drama happened. " I feel that you don't love me, I feel that you're embarrased of me, i feel this i feel that". 8 months of that bullshit. After 8 months i said fuck it and broke up with her, couldn't take it anymore. So you better talk to her about stuff like that or else it is going to be hell
Oh and btw. I have had a crush on this girl for a little while now. And yesterday I asked her if we should hang out and she said yes. So I asked her if we should meet at the skate hall since it's in the middle for both of us and then i don't have to travel an hour by buss. Since she was coming down much later than I was i thought i should bring my bmx bike and have a good time since it had been some weeks since i last did it. Anyways I wait for so fucking long and my phone died so i couldn't call her. hours pass and she hasn't shown up yet. I meet some other girls that are hanging around in there. We cuddle(friendly) on the bigass matress or airbag or whatever it's called. Hours after that she still hasn't fucking shown up yet.
Around 9 i went home and plugged my phone into my charger and guess what. NO missed calls or texts, check my facebook; no messages. Should i just say fuck it and forget about her or should i keep trying. It's fucking har because i really do like her
[QUOTE=lolerot95;39204451]Oh and btw. I have had a crush on this girl for a little while now. And yesterday I asked her if we should hang out and she said yes. So I asked her if we should meet at the skate hall since it's in the middle for both of us and then i don't have to travel an hour by buss. Since she was coming down much later than I was i thought i should bring my bmx bike and have a good time since it had been some weeks since i last did it. Anyways I wait for so fucking long and my phone died so i couldn't call her. hours pass and she hasn't shown up yet. I meet some other girls that are hanging around in there. We cuddle(friendly) on the bigass matress or airbag or whatever it's called. Hours after that she still hasn't fucking shown up yet.
Around 9 i went home and plugged my phone into my charger and guess what. NO missed calls or texts, check my facebook; no messages. Should i just say fuck it and forget about her or should i keep trying. It's fucking har because i really do like her[/QUOTE]
Well give her a chance to explain why or apologise, maybe set up another arrangement, but if she's not even making the effort from the start then don't bother chasing her up, I've known some people to just be like that, to setup arrangements and then not show up without a call or message.
So I would give it a chance, but if they're really interested in you they will make the effort.
What is the general number of dates you go on before it's acceptable to go for a kiss? I've been on 2 dates and we've done everything precluding kissing (well actually, we danced and she grinded her ass up on me which i'd say is a step further than kissing, but i guess a kiss to her is more sacred).
I guess there will just be a moment where she makes it clear she wants me to close in for a kiss.
Depends on the person and situation. Usually I get a certain feeling which makes me go for a move. For me, it's usually when I am really close to the girl and when we already broke the touch barrier. It just comes naturally for me.
I went on like 4 to 5 dates with my current girlfriend and then we got together, we just understood eachother so well. Although it took numerous dates to get together with my ex-girlfriend, it took several months until I made a move. Although we both were only friends.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39205302]date 1 actually if you both like each other[/QUOTE]
we met online and she's had bad experiences with it before so i totally understand that she's taking it slower. she really likes me (it's pretty obvious that we're both into eachother) but she's just taking her time. there's plenty of physical contact between us and she liked me enough after date 1 to invite me out on the following day so things are certainly in motion.
maybe i'll try something on the 3rd date but i gotta do it in a non threatening way.
To my current girlfriend, I met her and got to know her in a month, started dating. On the 2nd day, I randomly asked "Hehe, lets kiss for fun?"
Well fun was that! It was both our first kisses and she laughed the entire time because she was so nervous. She's adorable!
[QUOTE=Yahnich;39205302]date 1 actually if you both like each other[/QUOTE]
before date 1 if you are a player
hollaaaaa
[editline]13th January 2013[/editline]
but anyway putting milestones like that in your relationship is silly, they happen when they happen and you enjoy it when it does
a relationship isnt really a definite thing
[QUOTE=twoski;39205559]we met online and she's had bad experiences with it before so i totally understand that she's taking it slower. she really likes me (it's pretty obvious that we're both into eachother) but she's just taking her time. there's plenty of physical contact between us and she liked me enough after date 1 to invite me out on the following day so things are certainly in motion.
maybe i'll try something on the 3rd date but i gotta do it in a non threatening way.[/QUOTE]
don't force it and it'll be fine. go for it when you feel right, not at a time where you're thinking "oh god this when i'm supposed to kiss her right?!"
Well I'm going to say fuck it and get the fuck over the girl of my dreams. Just tried talking to her on facebook. Asked her why she didn't come yesterday, says she didn't have a ride home since the bus scedchules( if thats how you write it) are fucked up. Valid reason but you can still answer me when i ask you about the next time you're coming to town. She saw the message but she is ignoring me so fuck that i'm done with girls for a while
Maybe I'm being a bit dramatic but I'm just mad that people are like this you know. Instead of ignoring you they could mildly say that they don't like you in that way.
[QUOTE=lolerot95;39208596]Maybe I'm being a bit dramatic but I'm just mad that people are like this you know. Instead of ignoring you they could mildly say that they don't like you in that way.[/QUOTE]
If this girl you didn't want to be with, but you didn't want to insult was all over you; would you tell her you don't like her that way (knowing she would take it badly) when you could just give subtle hints?
[QUOTE=-Flapadar;39208991]If this girl you didn't want to be with, but you didn't want to insult was all over you; would you tell her you don't like her that way (knowing she would take it badly) when you could just give subtle hints?[/QUOTE] I actually would, i'm quite a direct and open person
There was this girl in my math class who I thought liked me a while back, but she said she doesn't give out her phone # so it kinda got awkward, fast forward to now when the semester's done, and this other girl whose # I've never seen before calls me and talks about how horny she is and how much she likes my hair. I assumed this was a joke, so I told her I had to make a phone call, and called my sister, thinking she might be playing the joke. Fast forward, I tell her and after talking for a little while she is legitimately baffled (and she also detests these kinds of jokes or trying to do them), so then I get a call from a new number, and it's the girl who I didn't get the number from last semester, and she tells me she gave the other girl her number because she liked me, and then continues to say she and her friend want to have a threesome with me.
This has got to be a joke (I'm still playing along though), but I don't get how that girl got my number when I don't recall actually giving it to her in the first place.
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